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[introvert-moments]

Introvert Moment #124

The euphoria of seeing there are no plans on your calendar for an entire day. You get to spend time as a hermit and nothing can get in your way

[introvertunites]

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[natuart]

Introvert be like -Chibi Doodle-

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[chibidraws]

Sigh... my plan to dress like a dying houseplant didn’t exactly make me invisible in the party..

[introvertdear]

Being in a salon means being the center of attention and enforced small talk — two things introverts hate.

[itsglor]

"You're quiet.” Yeah, I’m just trying to gauge how weird I can be in this new social situation.

[justaplacetofeelathome]

I lost count of how many people I've seen online who are lonely and want community and third spaces and connection but in the same breath will say "I hate people and never want to leave the house".

I know that the internet hates extroverts and always paints them as annoying energy leeches who always talk and never think but you kind of have to talk to people you don't know to build community. Third spaces are great but they won't survive if you never leave the house.

It's like we all collectively forgot as a society that friendship and just connection in general takes effort. Even if you meet someone you immediately click with, it takes hanging out about 20 times (!) to become friends. And guess what, some of those 20 meetings might be awkward or unimpressive.

We all want to reap the benefits (having a friend circle, having a partner, getting married) without doing the work (going to events, interacting with people, learning to handle conflict maturely, dating). Myself included. If I could, I'd never leave the house or go on another mediocre date again... except, that's part of the process.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, the cure to the loneliness epidemic is touching some grass and building tolerance for tedious in-person interactions.

[introvert-moments]

Introvert Moment #119

The main reason I am so nice is because people leave me alone faster when the socializing is smooth

[whispers-in-silence]

Dating Detachment and Emotional Exhaustion

I talked to a friend today. She was crying — the kind of crying that comes from feeling used. She had been seeing this guy for a few days. They met on a dating app. He told her he could imagine being in a relationship with her… but only after they had slept together.

What makes it worse is that he already knew he didn’t want anything serious. He just didn’t say it.

I’ve heard so many stories like this lately. Stories where people are careless with each other. Where one person walks away unharmed, and the other is left to pick up the pieces. Every time I hear them, I feel myself shutting down a little more.

I’ve grown lazy with dating — not because I don’t want connection, but because I don’t want to be heartbroken over something that never had the chance to be real. I don’t want to be asked about my favorite movies or how I spend my Sundays. I don’t want to explain myself to another stranger who might not even stay.

Dating apps aren’t an option for me anyway. Meeting someone through a screen — a few pictures, a short bio, some chats and maybe a video call — just doesn’t sit right with me. I want the old-fashioned way. To meet someone in real life, naturally. To feel a spark from the beginning, a sense that this person gets me — before anything else is said.

But I do understand why some people use the apps. Not everyone has the chance to meet people in everyday life — especially if you're more introverted, like me. Still, so many people on those platforms aren’t looking for anything real. Just someone to sleep with. And that makes it even harder to trust.

Right now, I just want to be left alone. And honestly? That feels safer.

[ladylokianna]

Oh god this is a huge problem for me. I also have to rehearse before calling someone who's not a friend and I really prefer emails and messages to a phone call. People often don't understand what a huge limit this is for me. It's not just shyness.

So, we all know I hate talking on the phone. And because I process before I speak, I often rehearse how things should go.

[beautifulsouls5]

It’s always going to be so strange to me, that I was the girl who never spoke up at school, have severe social anxiety to the point that answering questions in class would make me feel sick. But now I’m working in retail it’s like I’m a completely different person. I can approach strangers, (lovingly) yell at my coworkers to get back to work and make stupid jokes. That I’ve been screamed at and managed to keep smiling and giving customer service.

It makes no sense to me that this is one person, that going to farmers markets still make me anxious but put me in work and you would think I’m an extrovert the way I will yell across the store to get a coworkers attention

[introvertdear]

Some people can’t stop themselves from making ignorant, annoying, and downright rude comments to introverts.

[inevitablysomber-dark]

Dear Diary 📖

Today, my sister called me emotionally detached. At first, I wanted to disagree, but then she brought up the time a friend came over after a breakup, and I hid out in my room all day.

In my defense, I don’t get why she thought bringing that kind of energy into my house was okay.

Just kidding, I actually ordered ice cream and cupcakes for her to cheer her up. I just stayed in my room while she enjoyed them.

[adiyo]

Balancing My Stage Persona with My Private Self: Anyone Else Struggle with This?

As someone who loves being on stage, I’ve often found myself battling with a strange paradox. When I’m performing, it feels like I’m stepping into my most authentic self—confident, expressive, and free. There's something electrifying about the connection with an audience, the thrill of captivating a room, and the joy of sharing my art. But when the curtain falls and the spotlight fades, I find myself retreating, wanting nothing more than to disappear into the background.

Offstage, I’m much more incognito, preferring a life where attention isn’t constantly drawn to me. It’s like the energy I put out while9 performing needs to be recharged by quiet, private time where I can just be. It’s made it tough for me to reconcile these two parts of myself: the performer who craves the spotlight and the private person who thrives on solitude and minimal attention.

This inner conflict has become especially challenging as I’ve tried to put myself out there through other outlets, like social media or YouTube. On one hand, I want to share more of my journey, connect with others, and explore new ways to express myself. But on the other hand, I hesitate. I fear that I wouldn’t be a good fit for platforms like YouTube because, honestly, I feel like I don’t have much to offer beyond my performances.

More than that, I’m such a private person. The idea of sharing intimate details of my life, daily routines, or personal struggles—things that a lot of content creators do so naturally—feels daunting and unnatural to me. I look at other creators and think, "What could I possibly offer that would be of value to others?" I see people opening up their lives in ways that build connection and community, but when I think about doing the same, I feel a bit lost.

How do I show up authentically in a world that often asks for so much personal transparency? Where is the line between being vulnerable and oversharing? I’m still figuring it out.

I know I’m not alone in this struggle. Maybe some of you out there also have this split between your public and private selves, where one thrives in the spotlight and the other craves solitude. How do you bridge the gap? How do you show up in the world—whether online or offline—without feeling like you’re betraying one part of yourself?

If anyone else is going through something similar, I’d love to hear how you navigate it. Let’s figure this out together.

[digitaldreams04]

Introverts: recharge alone. Extroverts: drain others.