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wait ren emotes? there's a 14dwy discord or sumthn? 👉👈 idk how I missed this but help a homie out and drop the link? pwetty pwease 🤗

✦゜ANSWERED: Yuhh here's a link bestie dw i gotchu

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Keep in mind that it is an 18+ server though! Minors shouldn't be interacting with this blog anyways but I just wanted to clarify ^^

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Initiate Sex: How To Make The First Move - xoNecole: Women's Interest, Love, Wellness, Beauty

Portia BrownFeb. 11, 2022 05:25PM EST

My life revolves around sex. Every day, I speak and write about intimacy online, but I can also say that I loathe initiating sex! It can be awkward, my partner and I aren’t always on the same page, and when I try to sound sexy, we both start cracking up! Honestly, I’d rather eat a jean jacket than bat my eyelashes and ask my partner, “Are you in the mood?” And yet, time and time again, I find myself sliding into something lacy and queuing up my "sexy time" playlist. Why? 

Because nothing is better than feeling desiredby your partner, and I love seeing the look on my man’s face when I step out in next-to-nothing. Don’t get me wrong, at least once a month, I have to hype myself up in the mirror, like Issa Rae, before heading to the bedroom. 

If you want a thriving sex life, initiating sex is part of the work that has to happen to get to the action. But in my work as a sex educator, I often see that one partner tends to initiate more often than the other. And if you’re on this road, take the next exit, because you’re headed straight toward trouble! This creates a huge imbalance, putting the burden on one partner to be the person who makes sex happen and never gets to experience being deeply desired by their partner.

You may have also fallen into the cycle of feeling guilty or pressured to initiate sex (we’ve all been there at one point or another.) You certainly want your partner to feel desired by you, but the uncertainty of how to initiate sex stops you dead in your tracks.

When should I ask? What do I even say or do? Are they even interested in sex right now? 

You must figure out what it is that sparks the hesitation in the first place.

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Fear of Rejection in Initiating Sex & How to Stop It

The truth is, we don’t like to hear “no.” Psychologist and intimacy coach Dr. Jacqueline Sherman says, “Many of my clients, particularly women, have a fear of vulnerability. They fear that when they ask their partner for sex, they may reject them.” Rejection is not fun, so you may find yourself sitting on the sidelines rather than taking the bull by the horns.

In heterosexual relationships, the problems go a layer or two deeper. “Some women say that because of how they’ve been raised, they feel like they shouldn’t have to initiate and they want their man to do it for them. They believe women are to be submissive and initiating sex would be them taking on a more dominant role,” Sherman explains.

But having one partner be responsible for initiating can be a disaster. “We know that when one partner is holding down the responsibility of initiating, they may become tired of it and eventually stop altogether. This is a perfect recipe for a dry spell.” When that partner gets tired of carrying that burden and taking on that responsibility alone, they may stop making sex happen.

The fear of rejection and desire to appear submissive is not limited to heterosexual relationships. Queer women experience some of the same fears and hesitations. Regardless of your partner’s gender, the hard pill to swallow is that we may need to get comfortable with rejection. There are going to be times that your partner is not interested in sex when you are. So how do we handle being told “not tonight” by our lover?

Re-frame rejection for what it really is: your partner feeling comfortable enough to be honest with you about their desires, which is never a bad thing.

Propose a different intimate activity. Sex may be off the table, but perhaps cuddling or a back rub are options.

Find a different time to have sex. Their “no” may not be a “no” for good. They may be interested in doing the deed a bit later.

Lack of Body Confidence & Its Impact on the Desire to Initiate Sex

Personally, not feeling like I know how to be “sexy” enough is my biggest block to initiating sex. I can blame the media and mainstream porn for that. All my life, I’ve been pummeled with messages of what “sexy” is, what it isn’t, how it looks, and what it sounds like. Truth be told, traditional ideas of sex appeal don’t fit me. “Sexy is whatever the hell you make it!” Sherman hollers to me over Zoom. “We have a narrow idea of what it means to be confident and sexy, it's time to create our own standards.”

Discovering what is authentically “sexy” to you and shedding society's expectations takes time and effort. If you are strategic and patient with yourself, you can see a shift in your perception of yourself. Clear your social media of all influencers, celebrities, or even friends who make you feel inferior or spark negative thoughts about your own body. It’s OK to mute, block and unfollow them. 

Some small changes you can make to build your sexual confidence are:

Spend some time doing “mirror work”and saying affirmations to yourself out loud.

Invest in lingerie or at least undergarments that fit your body well and make you feel your best.

Music can greatly influence our mood. Create a playlist that brings out your inner sex goddess and play it whenever you need a boost!

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A Better Way to Initiate Sex with Your Partner

Sherman says we can always course correct, and no relationship has to suffer permanent damage. “We have to communicate. Make [talking about sex] an ongoing conversation.”

She shares that when talking about sex, consider three things: tone, turf, and timing. Be sure that your tone is loving and curious, never defensive or accusing. In terms of turf, location is also important, and selecting a neutral environment like the car or kitchen is preferred to the bedroom. As far as timing, she adds that you shouldn’t have these talks before or after sex, as this can be a vulnerable time for you and your partner. Aim to begin the chat at a time when stress is low. 

A key question to ask your bae is, “How do you like sex to be initiated?” Find out if they prefer verbal cues, physical touch, or something more creative.

If you and your partner decide on verbal cues, consider being direct:

"Do you have time for sex right now?"

"How do you feel about heading into the bedroom with me?"

"Are you trying to get it in? Because I am."

For physical cues, try out:

Sitting on your partner’s lap and looking into their eyes

Offering them a sexy massage

Giving them a passionate kiss

And if you are a bit shyer, you can always go digital by:

Shooting them a flirty text

Sending out a calendar invite for some “quality time”

Sharing a voice memo detailing all the fun things you want to get into 

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[mogai-headcanons]

Ouka from Vazzrock Is a trans man alicoa violaen dating with Takaaki. Takaaki Is a veldian. Issa is a kenoboy trans man oriented aroace. Futaba is an unlabeled. Yuma is a princian cenrell uranic. Naosuke is a pangender demifluix panamoric. Shou is a transmasculine atrinary oriented aroace QRP with Haruto. Haruto is a multisexual. Reiji is a trans man demian torensexual dating with Ayumu. Ayumu is an androgynous neoboy vincian. Ruka is an accipiogender genderfluid omnipan Gaku is a spectrasexual

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ELEKTRA “OVERDOSE” RELAY DANCE

COMMENTS...

Yuaremyfire I am very attracted to Yua. She is so effortlessly charismatic and cool. like major girl crush vibes to the max this era.

KenzieKpopReacts can we acknowledge the fact that Kay has a lot of bamf energy this time ‘round? Like she is so cute and stylish yet pulls off this dark concept so well and is very alluring. i knew i picked her as my bias for a reason!!

stankfacetae21314 i am in love with these girls srsly.

Linasanchezlolcheesy hyesoo is too pretty it hurts me

myhopeishobi i like lilah a lot. starpunch are dum af 4 not debuting her when they had her.

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wait shakespeare fans i’m curious who’s your emotional support shakespearean man who’s just some guy?

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the photograph (2020). dir. stella meghie

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@dreadxreckoning ( Issa ) continued from [ x ]

Migs’ eyes were wide and almost frantically searching around as Issa grabbed his shoulders and continued to speak with him. Her words barely reaching his ears and almost sounded close to whispers overtaken by the memories of all the sounds he had heard all that time ago.

All the fear, pain and anguish he was feeling felt as fresh as the day everything had happened.

Hands clutching tightly at her arms as his heart beat frantically, Mayfelds breath was coming in quick, panicked pants as his mind struggled to comprehend what was real and what was just a nightmare.

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♣ NAME 10 COMFORT FILMS.

1.  Death Becomes Her  2.  Gone Girl  3.  Shrek 4.  Mamma Mia 5.  I, Tonya  6.  Nightcrawler  7.  Corpus Christi  ( org. Boże Ciało ) 8.  Knives Out 9.  The Firemen’s Ball  ( org. Hoří, má panenko ) 10.  The Silence of the Lambs

TAGGED BY: @abyssurvived​ ( thank you luv xx ) TAGGING: you ;o)

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Britt!!!! Happy Blogaversary to you! You are so talented but also just one of the absolute sweetest people on here. I love your writing with all my heart and always associate you with Charlie in my mind 💚 I am so lucky to have found your beautiful work and beautiful self on this site. Fun fact: you were the first person to ever follow me on here, as well as one of the first people to encourage me to write. Thank you so much for opening that door for me and being so kind and welcoming. I look forward to continuing to enjoy everything you are so kind to gift us with <3

What?! Well that fun fact has shaken me to my core. I can’t believe that I was the first person to follow you! You are so incredibly talented and sweet and loving and kind, along with every other positive adjective I can possibly think of. Thank you for this lovely message and thank you for sharing all of your creative brilliance with all of us. I’m so glad you decided to write for the fandom, we’re certainly all better for it. ♡

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[Translation] VAZZROCK bi-color Series 2nd Season Vol. 5 - Ruby x Emerald

Here’s the Ruby x Emerald drama tracks~! Thanks again to the wonderful soul who shared with me before mine arrived~!

Y’all, despite the titles of the tracks, this drama CD is pretty pure! Every day I grow more and more in love with Issa and Reiji orz Their chemistry is really actually off the charts and I feel like they’d do well working together more~! Issa seems to like the guys in ROCK DOWN more than he likes the guys in his own unit LMAO Reiji is, well, he’s his usual self~

Once again, songs will be updated another time because I don’t have the kanji lyrics with me yet ^^; More TsukiPro dramas to come and then a little bit of StarMyu here and there~! 

Tracklist:

M01: “GAN GAN TRAVEL” 

M02: “No Instruction” 

Track 01: “He is sexy.”

Track 02: “Would you like to eat dinner together?”

※ Please don’t re-post these under any circumstances.

※ If you enjoyed this, please consider buying me a coffee here. It’ll really help me out a lot.(o^▽^o) Thank you!!

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anyway tyler posey’s big curly hair is all i care about rn

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5:30pm 🎵

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Black 🍫 Girl 🙋🏾‍♀️ Magic ☄💫

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SORA SOLO VLIVE HIGHLIGHTS

SORA SOLO VLIVE HIGHLIGHTS

Sora runs a hand through her newly dyed-blonde hair as she reads the comments. “You like my hair? I was nervous about it. I don’t think I look good with colored hair but it is pretty, isn’t it?” She smiles as she reads the flurry of positive responses.

Why do you girls always do vlive so late? You should get some rest!

Sora grins as she reads that comment. “Are you going to scold me now?” She jokes with the fan. “I actually took a very long nap earlier today so I am not tired as of right now.” 

Can we know more about XXCIT3? Please Unnie!

“Our sub-unit! I am very excited about it! We really hope our infinity will support us and the trainees who have worked very hard to be good for all of you! We will be in the recording studio for the next few days finishing up some amazing songs for you all!” Sora is animated as she speaks and strikes a cute little pose (that -cough- is actually a little choreography teaser for one of XXCIT3s upcoming songs).

Fat and ugly!!!!

Sora glances at that comment, a brief frown passing on her face before she sighs loudly.

What have you been up to lately?

“A lot of recording! We’ve been working with the trainees a lot as well and getting to know them better. I’ve also been writing a lot in my notebook,” Sora reaches out of frame and grabs her songbook (with a big old Ariana Grande dangerous woman bunny sticker on the cover), waving it in front of the camera with a big grin. “I...I really wish I could show you some right now.”

What did you eat today Unnie? ~~~

"Jjamppong! It was really good. Jieun-sunbaenim treated us to a meal this afternoon. She is the best!”

(Comment in Japanese) When are you coming home? Do you miss your family?

Sora responds (in Japanese): “I’m not sure when but I miss home and my family especially. It’s been a long time since I’ve seen them in person. I love Korea and I’m thankful though to have friends that take good care of me here.”

Sora sits for a few minutes reading comments. At some point, there is a weird groaning sound right outside the door and a minute later, Jenna walks in, hands  out in front of her as she walks like a zombie.

“This girl is so strange! What is wrong with her?” Sora asks, panning the camera to her other member, who just continues making weird noises as she stares droopy eyed at the camera. Jenna doesn’t respond, just stares a little longer before smiling wide and running out of the room.

Sora shakes her head and laughs, “I think she’s been gaming for far too long! She’s lost it completely!”

Album please!!!!!

“I know! I know! I really hope we can give our infinity an album soon. The company is...” Sora bites her lip and shakes her head. “Don’t worry!”

She chats for another twenty minutes before finally saying goodbye and turning off the stream.

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Tessa Thompson, Issa Rae & Tiffany Haddish behind the scenes of Jay-Z's Moonlight