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hurricaneself · 6 years ago

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Jane the Virgin Ch 85 Rant SPOILERS for S5

Okay so a lot of people are saying they are proud of Raf for "standing up to Jane" when he kicked her out of their apartment. I heavily disagree, despite the fact that I want Raf and Jane together now. I don't disagree that Raf ALWAYS needed to take more steps in the "standing up to Jane" department, merely cause he never learned how to properly express his feelings to her and reacted out of insecurity by being silent until he explodes. However, this current predicament and Raf's actions just aren't kosher for me, let me explain why though...

I feel like viewers- and Raf- aren't giving Jane enough time to process what's going on. I feel that Raf demanding Jane to make a decision within 48 hours of discovering Michael got his memories back, is 100% unfair. Further, kicking her out with a tone of finality, the night her mother is in the hospital, in front of their son... Is just a horrible route to take. I don't think the show has done a fully accurate portrayal of the type of grief and damage Jane went through in the first place this season. And since losing a husband while being a newly wed isn't something most people have experienced and thus can not fully grasp, I feel the show is setting up viewers to hate on Jane and root for Raf, due to inaccurately portraying her experience...

I, unfortunately, have experienced losing my husband in the newly wed stage. Let me tell you, it's NOT as easy as the show makes it seem. I get that it's a telenovella with comedy, and they needed Jane to move on inorder to continue the show. I was fine with it, they were portraying it pretty well, until the day of the dead flashback this season...

You see, when you're a newly wed and your partner dies. You don't just lose a piece of your heart/soul. You also lose an entire future you had planned and dreamed for yourself. Plus, you also lost your best friend, the person who you normally would turn to. THEN, when you enter the "acceptance phase" of grief- which the show has written Jane to have gone through- you experience that loss all over again but in a different way that's hard to put into words.

That's what Jane experienced and lived with for 4 years. Then all of the sudden, like the recent episodes have shown, Michael's back and those 4 years are expected to just erase. That wouldn't go over well AT ALL, which the show did do an alright job of portraying, but there's no way to fully and accurately portray that imho.

But Michael wasn't TRULY back at first, because he wasn't Michael anymore with the amnesia and had become Jason. Michael didn't fully come back from the dead to Jane, until he got his memories back. To her, Michael-Jason wasn't her husband, and that made it easier to leave him in her past and move on. So she does. But when he got his memories back, THAT is the moment Michael was back from the dead to Jane. And viewers and Raf expects Jane to make this instant decision? NO. That's not how it works. And honestly the way Raf acted when he FIRST brought back Michael-Jason, by giving Jane time and space to sort out how she felt, that is the way the situation should be treated when Michael got his memories back, cause like I said that's the moment Michael truly came back from Jane's POV.

So Raf expecting her to make that instant decision, NEVER taking the time to sit down and talk with her about all she is feeling- AND what he is feeling- then turning around and within 48 hours kicks her out of their home, forcing her away from their son, the same night her mother collapsed and was taken to the hospital, and doing that in front of their son- as if trying to make Mateo view Jane as the bad guy- was JUST PLAIN WRONG.

I mean Michael reacted to it properly imho, by telling her that he knew she needed time to process her feelings "while sitting on her porch swing with every member of her family." Michael GETS how hard it is for Jane, how Jane processes things, AND respected her by giving her the space and time she clearly needs WHILE having a REAL conversation about it with her... And Michael wasn't even there for the horrid grief train Jane rode like Raf was. So Raf looks like the one making the wrong decision here with his actions in contrast to that. I mean, Raf didn't even give her the chance to talk to him about it, he chose to walk away and be silent and he is supposed to be her best friend now... That's not how it works. ESPECIALLY since HE is the reason Jane is going through this in the first place. I mean it was HIS stepmother that kidnapped Michael, faked his death, and wiped his memories. It was Raf who brought Michael back to Jane. He had it right when he first brought Michael-Jason back, he acted just as he should, but I feel that he only acted properly then BECAUSE it wasn't REALLY Michael, so he knew deep down that Michael-Jason wasn't a threat... But the moment Michael TRULY returns -by getting his memories back- and therefore becomes an actual threat, Raf reacts irrationally.

Imho if Raf felt that he couldn't live with Jane while she makes this decision, I can respect that, but he went about it the wrong way. He should have left, not kicked her out in front of their kid as if she is the "bad guy" all because she needs time to process that her dead husband is now TRULY back from the dead to her, when he couldn't even sit down with her and have an actual conversation about it all with her, he just demanded she make the decision to choose him right there and then, while being all pissy about it. The moment he realizes that Michael is an actual threat, he acts like HE is the victim... Um no. His twisted family put Jane in this position AND caused her 4 years of intense pain AND stole an entire future from her AND put her through a grief process that forced her to change who she was to a certain degree (because that's what happens when you go through that type of grief).

Besides, anyone can see that Jane isn't the Jane who married Michael anymore, and really it is highly unlikely she would choose Michael over Raf now. I know that if my dead husband came back today, while I am living with my new fiance... I can't say I would choose my dead husband over my new fiance (and we don't even have a kid). It may sound horrible to people who don't get it, but the grief of losing him changed ME, and I am NOT the same person I was when I was happily married to him. Jane isn't either. And Michael even saw that and said himself that he understands that it's been 4 years and Michael is now Jane's past.

I feel as if Raf's actions only show his insecurity and how he never got over the fact that in the past Jane chose Michael. And it's been 4 years. And Michael "died." And Jane is in love with Raf now... But the moment Michael gets his memories back and becomes an actual threat to Raf... Raf reacts based on his fears and issues from the past all the while really not being a good friend, let alone life partner, to Jane by refusing to show even a smidge of understanding as to what she is now experiencing. Raf only thinks about HIS feelings once Michael comes back and HIS fears and doesn't even offer Jane a chance to have a real conversation with him about it... That's messed up. I honestly (for the first time ever) said aloud "you asshole" at Raf through this episode watching his reactions to the situation. He doesn't take any positive action- like sitting down and talking to Jane- but only reacts based on his unresolved issues from 4 yrs ago.

So no. I can not be happy that "Raf stood up for himself," because he didn't. He reacted to his own issues and took drastic action in the wrong way... He is acting like the Raf that belongs with the old Petra, NOT the honest Raf he has become... And I am honestly shocked that people are encouraging that behavior. It only pushes Jane away, and I know if my fiance acted that way if my dead husband returned from the grave, I wouldnt be inclined to marry him cause it tells me that he is incapable of handling the hard bumps of married life properly in the future. ESPECIALLY if my back from the dead husband was handling it properly like Michael is.

I don't want Jane to get back together with Michael. I want to see Jane enjoy her family life with Raf, while being able to have a positive friendship with Michael or at least be able to spend some time hanging out with the best friend Michael was to her in order for them both to heal the wounds from what happened. But instead they're writing Raf as immature, reacting to issues never resolved, which is a bloody shame as he and Jane had come SO far....

Okay. Rant ending. I have gone on long enough and even deleted a lot cuz I know this is looooong, oops? haha

Edit: SO I read other comments on reddit and decided to do a rewatch to check my biases and take another look at it all.... And I stand by my above statements. Yes, Raf has changed and done so much for Jane and continued to do so... But (adding to my above statement) asking a woman if she still loves her dead husband, regardless of whether he came back to life or not, and being upset that she does ISN'T OKAY. Raf expecting Jane to NOT love Michael, is way too high a bar to set. Even if she does choose Raf over Michael this time around, she still will love Michael cause he was her husband that she was robbed of, and she considered herself his widow for 4 yrs. When a woman is robbed of a husband so young, she will always love him, in fact it would be wrong if she didn't. Raf should have asked "are you still in love with him" NOT "do you still love him," because there is a HUGE difference.

Further, it's not like Raf gave Jane a chance to respond after Raf's confession of "waiting for you to choose Michael almost killed me," It's like Raf already decided that if Jane didn't automatically say "no I do not love my dead and returned from the grave husband" he was going to kick her out... And forcing her to play "bad guy" with her son, the son I can GAURUNTEE YOU was HER LIFELINE and HER REASON TO KEEP LIVING when Michael died... Is CRUEL...

Raf needs some serious therapy before he can handle marriage. Especially since he is being so beyond selfish as if we suddenly have S2 Raf on our hands and all his advancements are entirely regressed... To the point now that I want Villacordero just as bad as Jafael. Michael shows he is the better man for Jane time and time again... However, if the show ends on Villacordero, it ends up -from a literary standpoint- rendering S4 null and all that Jane and Raf went through null... Which would be kinda a crappy way to end a series. At this point, with Raf's actions post rewatch, I want Villacordero cuz Michael was SO PERFECT in all of this all the while Raf is throwing a hissy fit... But I feel like that wouldn't necessarily make for the best ending to the series... Though it would be beyond beautiful to see Villacordero reunited and proven that their love can conquer ALL...

Plus there would be a whole new level of issues for Villacordero to work through. Due to the trauma Michael received and the resulting trauma Jane received due to his trauma. Then there's the fact that Michael may never feel safe due to the fact that despite Rose being in prison, she still presents a major threat to him, Jane, and Mateo. Then there is how Mateo would react and butt heads with Jane and Michael as he wants his parents together...

Ack! Okay I admit it... Apart of me wants Raf to just pull his head out of his rear and begin groveling and coming back to his senses... Just as much as I want Villacordero... So, like Jane... My heart and loyalties are divided between the two! I admit it. I know it's technically a betrayal of both Teams on my part as I am torn between them... But, considering my history that I shared here... Can you really blame me? I more than anyone understand where Jane is coming from...

Other random things from this weeks ep that I loved:

-It took Jane 1 LOOK at Michael and she KNEW and chased him across town. Omg is that true love or what?!

-Michael telling Jane "I am so proud of you." Holy shit you have no idea how badly Jane secretly needed to hear that. I can not begin to tell you how many times I have wondered whether my dead husband would approve of the woman I have become. I would give ANYTHING to hear him tell me that... So I KNOW Jane NEEDED to hear that and am so beyond happy for her that she got that.

-Alba saying she "felt it" with Jorge anf the family automatically taking it dirty lmao 😂

-Xo's confession of her fear that she won't make it and Mateo will remember her as frail and weak. Omg the feels!

Okay. I really will stop now... Thoughts? Rebuttals? Anyone wanna tell me I am wayyy too invested in JTV? 😝

#jtv #team michael #team rafael #this show is amazing #the feels

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mavwrekmarketing · 8 years ago

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Key takeaways for employers

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