it's actually terrifying how quickly the concept of self care (originally a radical concept rooted in the black panther party's efforts to support other black ppl living through racism) became another tool of self-management which is viewed as both a moral obligation + an individual responsibility. businesses + employers + other institutions now easily wield it as a progressive way to say "if you're upset about xyz, make yourself get over it". "we are going to treat you like shit + you need to learn how to cope with that or else you're doing something wrong"
i have seen job listings where "ability to practice self care" was listed as a requirement for employment. as a case worker, we were repeatedly drilled on "self-care" as a response to unconscionably high case loads, traumatizing experiences, dead end job obligations, + poor living conditions due to subpar pay/high stress. my clients would go to appointments regarding their evictions, food insecurity, active domestic violence situations, etc + receive tips on "self care" without any tangible community, legal, or structural support to follow.
everyone absolutely deserves to care for themselves + it is useful to circulate affirmations + advice on how to do this. this should happen within communities, through a sincere concern/love for one another, as a way of helping everyone live the best life possible while we work towards total liberation. it should not be a replacement for caring for one another!!! it should be one of many ways of caring for one another!!!
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literally all you have to know about dan and phil's relationship is that they are soulmates/life companions. people can discuss all they want like are they queerplatonic? a monogamous couple? in an open relationship? but like... none of that changes what they mean to each other. they've been together for 14 years and designed a house and share living and working space. Dan waxes poetic in interviews about how their relationship is deeper than any typical human relationship... they literally posted a joint nude for April Fools and Dan gave Phil an "Official DILF" cake for his birthday, and that's just a couple highlights of what's happened THIS YEAR. like they are so comfortable and committed to each other, that's all that matters. it actually makes me go a little insane just thinking about it...
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in another life, I would've really liked just standing around and talking in a box canyon with you
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I've been utterly fascinated by Good (better? nicer?) Chase design by @lizard-color4 from this post and desperately wanted to know more. Who's this man? What's his story? Why is his hand bandaged? Why is his fashion taste is so much better than Original Chase? And why the hell does his hug looks so nice??
so i um, decided to explore his design a little ;D
also bonus+ sorta?? continuation / my take on the after hug because i really craved more of that
bonus++ a silly doodle of my first attempt on his design because why not
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