#no rbs on this one

[elytrafemme]

actually let me elaborate (albeit not eloquently i’m a bit out of it atm and kind of in a rambly mood) bc i think this is interesting okay so. i’m just going to focus on me and one other alter for a sec. so i am an arospec ace lesbian as we all are pretty familiar with, i’m also genderfluid so i feel gender envy towards men sometimes. i think men are incredibly beautiful but not necessarily attractive; sapphic, yeah, you get it. 

now klavier is a genderqueer man who experiences attraction in a distinctly queer way as well. he has a heavier preference towards men but has been interested and with women in the past and really anyone under the sun he is down for he just is generally more attracted to masculine people. he’s alloromantic and allosexual from my understanding.

what happens here is that me and klavier in a lot of ways are the closest bonded alters, not in that we are the actual closest (klavier and dahlia have a much tighter relationship especially because i front so often it’s hard for me to form relationships unless we’re co con right) but what me and klavier share is memories. klavier holds my relationship memories and i hold klavier’s relationship memories. so in other words klavier holds memories from me a nonbinary person when i was dating another nonbinary person, and i hold memories from klavier who was with another man. it’s worth saying i don’t really FULLY hold the memories from klavier’s situation but i do feel a lot of it and it’s like, as someone with low empathy me and klavier have pretty high empathy as a bond. these situations pretty much run parallel for us

this complicates my own life though because on one hand. i am not interested in men. however i happen to have the experience, albeit in a weird second hand yet first person kind of way, of being IN a relationship with a man as a genderqueer man. i also feel klavier’s presence strongly in day to day life.

so it’s not really that i’m attracted to men, but that i can feel a part of me is seeking a love alike to a nonbinary guy being with another guy. and that part is klavier but we are very close to one another. does that make sense? i think similarly though not as strongly klavier probably feels at times like he is a lesbian even though he is not.

so yeah. sexuality and systemhood is... confusing.

[butchfalin]

the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again

[enchantingruinscandy]

[puirell]

feels like a good time to bring this back

[dykes4jamescorden]

I wanna do something nice.. say something you appreciate about the person you reblogged this from!! even if it's smth as small as their profile photo :)

[lightbluetown]

i hate that hbo max is only available in a small number of western countries but it is kinda amusing that the only way i can consume ofmd is through piracy

[spiderversegf]

GOALS FOR 2024

1. HOLD HANDS MORE

2. KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN

3. DON’T BE AFRAID TO CRY WHEN YOU NEED TO

4. DON’T BE AFRAID TO LAUGH WHEN YOU NEED TO

5. LET PEOPLE BE THERE FOR YOU

6. WATCH A SCARY MOVIE FROM 1987

7. KEEP BEING BRAVE

8. ALLOW HOPE YOU FIND YOU AGAIN AND AGAIN

9. BE KIND TO YOUR INNER CHILD

10. FORGIVE YOURSELF AS MANY TIMES AS IT TAKES

11. EAT FOOD THAT NOURISHES YOU BODY & SOUL

12. JOURNAL BEFORE BED

13. DO THINGS SCARED IF YOU MUST. BUT DO THEM.

[chroniccoolness]

genuinely a lot of you need to sit the fuck down and think about whether you actually support transfeminine people or you're just chasers. cause a lot of this site's support seems to be "uwu fuck me big strong dommy mommy" "I want a sexy trans goth gf so bad" etc etc and it's so gross. like i dont think attraction the inherent problem here or anything but when every single post asking "do you actually support trans women/transfeminine ppl?" has some chucklefuck in the notes going "haha yeah, I support her ON TOP OF ME!" it gets really obvious that you do not actually know how to support them without sexualizing them. and that's. really incredibly not okay.

[druidgroves]

the baldur's gate 3 experience when you accidentally trigger an unintentional romance because you thought you were just being a really supportive friend

[apollos-boyfriend]

i keep seeing people talk about dan and phil who are they???

[owlpellet]

wishing people would understand (and advertisers would stop giving the impression) that herbal remedies don't actually work like fantasy potions where you have a Symptom and they magically target that Symptom specifically-- they work exactly like pharmaceutical medicines but at a less concentrated scale, and it can interact poorly with them if you are already using them.

ashwagandha doesn't "lower your anxiety", it reduces your cortisol levels, which can in turn lower your blood pressure and interact with other adrenal and BP meds. ginkgo doesn't "help you think", it dilates your blood vessels and is an anti-platelet, which increases cerebral bloodflow but can interact with other circulatory meds. grapefruit seed extract is an incredible antifungal but it will inhibit enzymes that break down many types of medication and lead to blood toxicity of those meds.

i've worked in this industry since before insta/tiktok was a major force in advertising for it and i've watched the swing from people generally being educated about this niche thing they have come in to buy to "i saw on tiktok that this will give me energy"

.... will it? have you had bloodwork done? are you adequately absorbing your nutrition? are you getting sunlight? stop being scammed by symptom-centric buzzwords. anything that promises it will give you energy or help you focus or whatever else hinges entirely on your body chemistry fitting very certain criteria and a lot of people end up disappointed when that cordyceps did nothing for them when it turns out they're low on stomach acid and not synthesizing their B vitamins correctly or something else that is way above my paygrade to determine.

the american healthcare system is a shitshow and people often have no choice but to take their treatments into their own hand, but "natural remedies" want your money just as bad as "big pharma" and it's up to the individual to do their epistemological due diligence when treating themselves. godbless.

[storm-of-feathers]

[dongfangxunfeng]

im so curious abt what ppl carry around on the daily.....rb & tag what's in ur pockets/bag?

[necrytalkie1]

hu ming paintings

shooting practice (2004)

enemy coming and... (2005)

enemy invassion alarm (2006)

big ant (2006)

today, I took a rest (2007)

[licca-archive]

put what you gave them in the tags !

[situpontheground]

butches in their natural habitat (bookstore)