#not black-identifying women

[kouhaiofcolor]

"....When did we get to the point where natural hair is no longer associated with ...Black People? Black Women?"

Non blacks pls dni.

Have to amplify this woman's valid and articulate short on the relevance of this topic bc, whew smh, I have discussed the same thing here — and am both just as disturbed (and honestly? a little let down?) by Black Women letting go the equity we had in natural hair. Esp just to pick harmful maintenance/norms right back up. I do understand that we, as a race of women all by ourselves, have sooooooo many odds stacked against us regarding what we do with our hair and how we take care of it, but I cannot for the life of me understand what the purpose or benefit is supposed to be in returning to things that actually harm us disproportionately.

For good measure, she also spoke more directly and at length about this issue, it's toxically influential spaces and platforms — as well as the colorism, texturism and misogynoir in general at it's core. So glad I'm not the only Black Woman being transparent about how backwards the nhc/nhm is going.

[lesbianonsteroids]

I forgot to post this. But also appreciation to the studs. I've seen appreciation for the butches and that's valid and good, but what about the studs? I adore you guys and we love you for all you've done in fighting for the community since the beginning. For constantly fighting societal representation of black queer women. We see you and appreciate you.

[chaiaurchaandni]

behind every hot girl is a deep history with the horror genre

[spaceshipkat]

it's very frustrating to talk to someone who claims to know a lot about economics yet still argues that women are paid equally to men. for example, in talking about how much rebecca ferguson got paid ($500,000) vs dave bautista ($2million) in dune part 1, this person--who has only seen the first dune once--argued that it made sense dave bautista got paid more because he has a more unique physical appearance than rebecca ferguson, as if his screentime isn't minuscule compared to hers. when i pointed out that physical appearances shouldn't be how you judge how much someone gets paid (especially when that someone is one of the fucking mains of the entire movie--lady jessica is a main character, especially compared to rabban), this person said "well there must be more to it then" and i said "YES? obviously? women get paid less for more work! this is not a new phenomenon" and this person just replied "well that's bad economics" as if it's the fault of the person reporting this

[optiwashere]

I think the hair change only happens if you ask Shadowheart to undress first. (If you need to take screenshot or smth) That said I hope that bug gets fixed in the next patch.

Actually there is just so many Shadowheart stuff that is bugged or otherwise unavailable in the game that if Larian suddenly decided to care about that it would make the rest of the fandom complain about her getting so much content.

Oh, that's interesting, thanks for the heads-up! 💜 I just happened to be playing through that bit on my lunch break. But that's good to know in case I make any characters that wouldn't make her undress first (likelihood: deeply low, I am who I am)

I've heard there's a couple bugs with Shadowheart—complete hearsay that if you play a Selûnite, one unique kiss doesn't trigger?—and the supposedly recently added "Act 2 banter" when romancing her has literally never triggered for me either. Dunno what else is bugged, but it's unfortunate either way. I hope it all eventually gets fixed, though.

Tbh, I think there's other companions that need more/fleshed out stuff (especially Wyll, give the man a fuller sex scene and let him address the PC differently during a romance...) but I take most of the people getting really worked up about other characters getting "more" than their faves with a grain of salt. There's far too often some level of misunderstanding going on, like when people thought that the Valentine's Update was only about kisses.

[the-everqueen]

my major problem with fanon Hob is that he's treated as universal. which a) is impossible, nothing is actually universal, there is no singular Human Experience, and b) the text (show and comix) doesn't consider him a universal. he's an anomaly in his irrepressible desire to live. he's a foil for Dream. he's one of an unspecified number of immortals who occasionally cross paths with the Endless. he's not an Everyman, he's very much the product of the world around him (which changes with time but also doesn't - a white man in an established British empire holds a certain degree of power/liberty across centuries). why does whiteness = universality? why does whiteness = Human?

[papirouge]

there's nothing more embarrassing than latin Christian weirdos being so extra abt black people

mind you, they are the same people getting mad abd calling us "stupid gringo" whenever thelr home country gets called a shithole lol

[spikybanana]

@wolfstarmicrofic - prompts: popsicle + curl - post first war

It comes too sudden and unexpected. And out of nowhere Remus finds himself almost chocked with emotions he could barely explain.

It’s a small thing. A young man with a child on his hips at the ice cream stand, that Remus glimpsed from across the cobble street. The man laughs delightedly as the toddler in his arms shrieks and makes grabby hands at a popsicle. 

And for some reason it utterly overwhelms him, steals all the air from his lungs and sets his head ringing. 

The man doesn’t even look that much like— him. A mere trick of the light gleaming off those black curls. But there is something in the line of his broad shoulders, in the note of his laugh, that reminds him too sharply of— Sirius. Before. Before the war took them away from themselves, marred them forever. 

He presses the heel of his palms against the sudden stinging in his eyes, but he still can’t look away. His feet are rooted to the spot, and he watches the way the kid giggles and sticks out a blue-coloured tongue, the man dabbing futilely at the ice lolly furiously melting away, smiling while he let sticky hands make a mess of his hair. 

Remus is utterly transfixed. He stares and stares at them and he imagines and he aches.

Though for once, he doesn’t weep for what they’d lost. 

Because the war is over, and here they are, safe, together. And with every new dawn they wake a little less terrified, a little more healed. Absently, Remus moves his hand over the barely-there bump on his stomach, and thinks of the little life curled up within. He looks back again at the man and the child and their bright happiness. Some day, this would be theirs.

[nerevarbignaturals]

very controversial trans take; detransitioners are not our enemy. they're people who took the time to question their gender, to explore their identity inside and out, and came to the conclusion that their identity best aligns with what they were assigned at birth. i wish everybody could take the time to sit and think deeply about the identities they hold, particularly things like gender that are inherent, but also deeply socialized. the detransitioners who are spouting anti-trans rhetoric have been taught by the system we live in that even questioning your gender is wrong, so for many of them, that rhetoric is a survival tool for assimilating back into cis society. doesn't make it okay to hold anti-trans views, for certain, but it does expose the fact that the enforcement of a restrictive gender binary hurts everyone, even cis people.

[not-so-superheroine]

listen.

i am 100% being shady here.

pretty sure only people who aren't Black women like Katrina Crane.

there are probably a few exceptions.

but they weren't raised right 😭

i was not suprised to see Katrina fans on here, but they do not seem to be Black (the microagressions when talking about Abbie slay me)

we do use different tags for the show. i forgot ours was "shady hollow" and i ran into them for the first time on here.

y'all would have been eaten alive in 2015.

liking her is like, personal taste. she was designed to attract a different audience. this was to spite Nicole and the Black female fans to appease white conservative Fox watchers and the white Sleepy Hollow actors, but it's not like people know that going in.

they just see a character they relate to more because they are in the audience the show writers decided to cater to.

but tptb got their show canceled with Katrina the Struggle Witch and damn Betsy Ross.

also just killing off the characters of color and replacing them with white people and acting like it was the same show.

i never wanted a show to fail so bad.

and fail it did!

[caracoloco]

it's really frustrating to see gay/trans people on this site completely fail to understand the concept of transmisogyny

[colorism-project]

“She thinks she’s all that": Intra-group Colorism, Stereotypes and the Experiences of Light- Skinned Women that Identify as Black.

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[genderfreakxx]

It really makes me so sad that Ronnie Radke is transphobic in that very Twitter specific way

[aromantic-pantyanarchy]

It's me. I'm the cis, heterosexual, aromantic man. I will never marry, I will never be married, I will grow into middle age and elder age and I will die unmarried. I will be forced to support a household of myself on only my wages alone for the rest of my life. I will be asked about women and marriage and children by my family for the rest of my life (or men, the progressive ones might say). I may not ever come out to them. I feel like I burned my coming out on something stupid. I don't want to explain it. I don't want to run them through the definitions and intricacies. I don't want the acceptance without understanding, placating me with ceased questions and poor explanations to other, drunk adults.

I like my hair to be long, I spent a year with it dyed a golden blonde with dark roots because I like the trashy party girl aesthetic. I want to dye it again with pink tips. I like painting my nails, black and blue are my favorite colors. I like wearing chokers. I also like wearing baggy jeans and ratty hoodies. I like having stubble. I like having chest hair. I like having a square jaw and broad shoulders. I wish I had a flatter stomach and a thinner profile frame. I don't know what this makes me, perhaps this is something no more GNC than Machine Gun Kelly. I think about this a lot, how queer my appearance truly is. I should think about it less. I have thought long and hard about if I could be trans or if I could be non-binary or if I could be genderqueer and the conclusion I ultimately came to is that I most enjoy being a man open to whatever self-expression I want.

I don't date, but I've thought about it. I would like to meet people, and I would like to have sex with them. But I don't want to hurt them. I fear if I explain what I am beforehand it'll scare them away. I fear if I explain after they'll feel manipulated or abused. I don't know how many people in the dating scene want what I want. I fear my own lack of experience will make me a bad lay, an embarrassing story to tell to confidants in hindsight. I fear my own virginity, a boundary to those I wish to be like. All of these fears are baseless, as I've not been able to even begin a single relationship in my life. Despite this I still heavily identify with terms like "slut" and "manwhore" and "thot" because my interests lay so deeply within casual sex, sex without great intimacy or emotion. This may be some form of stolen valor. I hope the true sluts are not too mad at me.

I made this blog several years ago because a mutual of mine reblogged memes making fun of aro and ace people, making fun of the concept of aphobia, and in addition well known aphobes. I didn't feel comfortable talking about aro stuff on my main blog, for as little as I talk about it. Living through the ace discourse of the 2016 era has largely caused me to cringe in embarrassment any time I am forced to discuss my orientation with people who aren't aro or ace themselves. I no longer follow this person. I unfollowed many people I was mutuals with from that time, most of them because they posted too often about how much they hated men and I didn't want to see that, some because our interests simply drifted too far apart, only one for explicit aphobia reasons. (Also one because they became a "both sides are bad, any vote is wasted" libertarian, but that's unrelated.)

I guess at this point I don't care deeply about what strangers on the internet think of me. If a trusted friend told me that they don't think I'm truly queer that may hurt. But I am going to continue to use the word for myself. I take up no resources. I go to events that are open to me. If an event was not open to me, I think I'd not want to go anyways. I am not a hypothetical, I am not a strawman, I am a person with lived experiences both within and exterior to the queer community. If you hate me, I will permit you to continue to do so. But ultimately, I am who I am, I cannot change these facts, and I would not choose to do so even if I could.

[papirouge]

whitefem: it's important to listen to the voice of our Black and Brown sister uwu #intersectionality

Black & Brown women: meh, I don't really relate to the struggle of a rich blonde female celebrity 🥴

whitefem: HOW DARE YOU??!!! yOu nEeD t0 uNpaCk yOur IntErnaLizEd mIsOgYny!!! è_é

[thornybushybrambles]

Smth that I think even radfems ignore about women identifying with male characters and preferring male narratives is in stories with all men/mostly men, there's very rarely any sexual violence shown on screen. Take a classic movie like The Shawshank Redemption for instance, where the male protagonist is a victim of assault (rare as is). When Andy's experience of sexual violence is mentioned or implied, it's portrayed as horrific. It fades to black. It's shadows. There's no gratuitous scenes of groping, no voyeuristic shots of his face looking pouty and hands running along his hips. When was the last time you saw a story where the female protagonist was given that kind of dignity?