#overanalyzing and overthinking is their doom

[bellringermal]

"I wanted to take him apart, as a child dismembers a clockwork toy, to comprehend the inner workings of his heart, to see with my own eyes if he had one. For I thought I had caught a glimpse of it one night, as the hunters sat around the fire sharing stories. We are so much alike he and I, so I hoped that if he still had a heart, then I must have one too."

[luna-azzurra]

Character flaws for an anxious character

Constant worrying: Obsessively fretting over even the smallest details.

Overplanning: Creating elaborate contingency plans for every possible scenario.

Indecisiveness: Struggling to make decisions due to fear of making the wrong choice.

Social anxiety: Feeling extremely nervous or uncomfortable in social situations.

Perfectionism: Setting impossibly high standards for themselves and others.

Avoidance behavior: Dodging situations or responsibilities that trigger anxiety.

Overapologizing: Saying sorry for everything, even when it's not their fault.

Hyperawareness of physical sensations: Being overly sensitive to bodily sensations and interpreting them as signs of impending doom.

Catastrophizing: Jumping to the worst-case scenario in any given situation.

Need for reassurance: Constantly seeking validation or reassurance from others.

Rumination: Getting stuck in a loop of negative thoughts and overanalyzing past events.

Difficulty relaxing: Finding it hard to unwind and let go of stress.

Overthinking: Overanalyzing every word or action, leading to anxiety about social interactions.

Physical symptoms of anxiety: Experiencing symptoms like sweating, trembling, or rapid heartbeat in stressful situations.

Avoidance of confrontation: Going to great lengths to avoid conflict or uncomfortable conversations.

People-pleasing: Putting others' needs and desires above their own to avoid conflict.

Overpreparation: Spending excessive time and energy preparing for events or tasks.

Self-doubt: Second-guessing their abilities and decisions due to fear of failure.

Fear of the unknown: Feeling anxious about uncertain or unfamiliar situations.

Imposter syndrome: Believing they are not worthy of their achievements and fearing they will be exposed as a fraud.

[zeroseuniverse]

WayV One Bed Trope with Their Best Friend

Kun – Gentleman Mode Activated

Kun immediately offers to sleep on the couch or even the floor. But if you insist on sharing, he makes sure to set a clear “imaginary barrier” in the middle of the bed. Still, at some point in the night, you wake up to find him unconsciously pulling you closer in his sleep.

Ten – Teases You Relentlessly

"Oh no, whatever will we do?" He smirks, clearly enjoying your flustered reaction. He suggests a “pillow fort” but ends up rolling over it in his sleep anyway. You wake up with his arm slung over you, and when you point it out, he just says, "Might as well make it comfortable, right?"

WinWin – Awkward but Lowkey Adorable

He’s so shy about it at first, keeping his back turned and staying on the absolute edge of the bed. But sometime during the night, he ends up holding onto your sleeve like a comfort object. If you bring it up in the morning, he pretends he doesn’t remember anything.

Xiaojun – Overthinking Every Move

"Is this weird? This is weird, right?" He keeps overanalyzing the situation and panicking every time your arm accidentally brushes his. He tries to sleep perfectly still, but you catch him sneaking glances at you, clearly debating whether he should just give up and relax.

Hendery – Dramatic About It

"We’re doomed." He jokes about it like you’re both in a sitcom, acting like it’s the most scandalous thing ever. He dramatically flops onto the bed, but the second you actually fall asleep, he gets weirdly soft, tucking the blanket around you before dozing off himself.

YangYang – Acts Chill, but It’s a Lie

He acts like he doesn’t care, saying, "It’s just a bed, no big deal," but he is 100% freaking out internally. He tries to sleep far away but ends up shifting closer in the middle of the night. If you wake up cuddled together, he just laughs nervously and says, "Guess we’re best friends and sleep buddies now."

[justanotherrpmeme]

Anxiety sentences

"I can't shake off this feeling of impending doom. Something bad is going to happen." "I can't catch my breath. My heart is racing, and I don't know why." "What if everything goes wrong? What if I mess it all up?" "I can't help but overthink every little detail. It's exhausting." "I feel like everyone is judging me, scrutinizing my every move." "I wish I could just relax and enjoy the moment, but my anxiety won't let me." "My mind is constantly filled with 'what ifs' and worst-case scenarios." "I'm so afraid of making a mistake that I'm paralyzed by fear." "I can't trust my own judgment. It's like there's a voice inside my head constantly questioning everything." "I wish I could switch off this constant worry, but it's always there, lingering in the background." "I can't handle uncertainty. It feels like a constant threat hanging over me." "I'm sorry if I seem distant. Sometimes my anxiety makes it hard for me to connect with others." "I'm constantly second-guessing myself. It's like I'm never good enough." "I worry about things that haven't even happened yet. It's exhausting and irrational, I know." "I'm always on edge, waiting for something bad to happen. It's a never-ending cycle." "I overanalyze every conversation, wondering if I said the right thing or if I came across as awkward." "My anxiety makes me doubt my abilities. It's hard to believe in myself sometimes." "I wish I could switch off my brain for a moment and experience some peace." "I'm constantly seeking reassurance because I can't trust my own instincts." "I'm sorry if I seem overly cautious. It's just my anxiety trying to protect me."

[angy-grrr]

Ngl It's kinda Horikoshi and SJ's fault that the fans don't trust them. SJ blatantly made a false advertisement for 431 so the fans would buy the volume. They purposefully used the trio cards to attract the readers and hid the fact that the chapter was mainly Ochako focused (with implied IzuOcha). Horikoshi also doesn't give trust to the fans as he's been silent af after the last chapter's release. I know he's been working on his new story so most likely he's been busy, but many fans were critical and disappointed with the new chapter and he hasn't even said anything. People don't trust the new content because they don't want to get tricked, used or be disappointed now.

im not telling ppl they shouldn't be upset, its more about getting upset over the right things: one of his assistants made two fan arts including bkdk, one of which has an adult katsuki with a dark haired kid, and many are claiming he is Deku's and Ochako's child Tenko Midoriya. That crash out isnt justified by 431, which ended with them starting to talk more -so in the most romantic interpretation, they would START going on dates now-, even with all the disappointment this is so much worse than what happened in December. At least back then something actually happened.

When the extra content for the art book was announced ppl already expressed how they dont trust it and made jokes, the problem now is that ppl are acting like we got some sort of confirmation and making many doom posts, making others feel bad and expecting it just bc someone close to the author decided to make fanart like other times.

Im not saying "trust the content" or the process or be hopeful, but to not jump into conclusions, doom posting and random ideas over nothing; the book wont be published until may, and ppl are making the wait an even worse process with all the overthinking. Yes the author publishing company and the rest have responsibility, but this is ridiculous and 431 does not justify this behavior. It would make more sense to worry about the way the story treats its world, with the villains and heroes, more than "we are going to see their marriage and their two kids Tenko and Himiko!!!! We are so done!!!"

If ppl cant handle the wait and feel the need to overanalyze any "update" (aka anything related to BNHA the team does), it would be the best to disconnect a little bit at least from it. Disappointment doesnt mean you have to go around claiming stuff will happen when we have no idea.

You dont have to trust the author to not doom post every time they do something literally -if the assistant makes bkdk art, means izuku and ochako are married bc he made many fanarts before 431 (he also made it before 430, and many other times; he likes them the most, especially katsuki I believe), if he made izuku and ochako fanart, means they have tons of kids, etc. There's no way to enjoy anything in fandom with that mindset -we arent even allowed to find x art cute, bc we see all the comments claiming the other ship have kids.

Also are you expecting him to address the hate literally? Idk I dont think thats common for mangakas, is it? He doesnt use his social media account that much in the first place, so why would he make some form of statement on a random Tuesday after the release? He is not an influencer getting cancelled, hes a mangaka being criticized for his work, what is he supposed to say?/gen

I also dont want to be tricked or disappointed, however this is the personal art account of one of the assistants, not an official art in any way. We can criticize Bones' uses of bkdk for example, or SJ's, but this is basically fanart, doodles of the characters. This guy is a creep and a weirdo, but this isnt him baiting us into buying the art book nor promoting it lol

[little-miss-deviant-s-diaries]

Crushes

I hate crushes, I really do... I know the moment I start crushing on someone I am doomed. When I get interested in someone or even something, it becomes so consuming, I don't know how to take things at a slow pace. I don't know how to act or react, I no longer know how to talk or behave. I just lose all sense of self, and I hate it so much. It starts to become a game. A show and tell. I hate crushes, I hate them so much... I start doubting myself, wondering if they like me back, am I overreacting, am I bothering them? Did I do that right or did I not? And then the escalation down the rabbit hole of Google, Reddit, Quora, and astrology, a thing that I don't believe in, you just see it as a rope to grasp that would give you some hope. You start to overanalyze and overthink, and when it ends, was it worth it? Was that time you spent well-deserved? I don't know... I think it is silly, but it is just a rite of passage; every girl goes through this. It is fun and exhilarating. It is the experience of the living.

[raechimshi]

An Illusion

I think I am in love, though I also think I am not. I look at him and see a glimpse of a future where he exists: with me; right beside me. I listen to him and I hear the loveliest voice on this damned world. I touched him and I knew I was doomed. My soul is his for the taking.

But love is an illusion. Love is a surge of chemicals in our brain. Love is not an illusion: it is only misdefined. Love is a series of chemical reactions. Though poets would disagree and so would romantics.

I am a romantic; too romantic for my own good to be exact.

I am also a pessimist.

I overthink, overanalyze. I downgrade. I choose to deny; to overlook; to ignore; to misinterpret; you. I also choose you. I am doubtful but I am choosing you.

The world refuses to speak with me in a language I recognize. Maybe I am not supposed to comprehend correctly this time. Maybe I am supposed to take a leap without truly understanding why.

I hate the fuckers who made a mess of me. I hate them for tainting my once lovely ‘heart’ and turned it into this thick calloused piece of meat everyone thinks is in one’s chest but is in fact a striped portion of the stupid human brain.

Brain. Mind. I love his brain.

I do not wish to eat it. It ate me instead.

I fell in love with his mind way before I fell for his face, or his voice, or his eyes. I fell in love with his mind: the one that makes up who he is as a human being. It is sorrowfully beautiful how our whole life is governed, recorded and would someday be stuck in a decaying one and a half kilogram of pith.

I was once asked: what if he stops being curious of the world? Would you still love him?

That is an unfair question. It makes me think that love has a certain limit to it; that it is governed by standards we believe exists but are actually non-existent. No one has ever loved someone based on the standards set by idealism.

I think that is about to be broken though. A little more intimacy and I will find out.

Then again, nothing about you is clear.

I have always accepted the fact that life ends suddenly: sometimes when we accept its soft knock on the door; most of the time when we are most unprepared. Darling, I have always kept sudden death on my mind that I try to make sure I won’t regret leaving this place.

Then, you came. You found me.

I felt you before I saw you.

You came like the rumble of the sea before colossal waves started swallowing mountains. I never anticipated your arrival. You spoke several sentences and suddenly, I found myself slowly being eaten by the Earth. You grounded me; revived my dead depth; made sure I breathed life. You suddenly became a soul to look back to in my death. You were the lifeline I held on to when I managed to gain consciousness as the Devil tied itself to me.

You were also my death.

Your unresponsiveness, your mask and that damn persona: I hate them. I hate that I cannot see right through you like everyone else. You have mastered all there is to do to protect your damned ego. You are one great riddle I cannot seem to decipher. I am supposed to be logical and analytical. All went straight to the cliff when I met you.

You are the universe who spoke to me in a language I could not understand yet.

I am also confused. You did let me in. You let me through the door. You even led me. You spilled some of your precious self on my head; woke me up from a dream I thought was a reality. The butterflies went away. I found balance and peace in your presence.

It is as if you want to transform me.

And here I am: spilling the beans for you; my walls beaten to the ground; my soul naked. How did you do that? You are mapping my being like how you watch the stars for new constellations. You read the pages of my individuality in the shortest moment possible; way faster than anyone in my life.

And you accepted it. You accepted my demons like how I accepted yours.

Demons. Am I being punished? Do I love you? Infatuated? Or maybe, none of those at all.

What a sweet torture.

Maybe you are a friend I take for a lover. Damn. If only you could make it a little clearer. I am slowly getting swollen by swimming in this limbo.

Perhaps there is nothing to clarify at all; that it is just me who is making things complicated.

You are a friend. A friend I can’t believe I truly cherish. You once accused me of failing to understand you. You were wrong. You were right. I see you but I don’t. I see you but I do not know if I am seeing right. Our worlds just happened to be wide and vast. We intersect only where we can. We can only share the stage when planned, and forced, and when I pretend to force it.

I want to map new constellations with you. I want to make new stars with you. I want to be eternalized in your heart and in your mind.

I want to worship you.

I am about to worship you. A little more convincing and I am yours: body, mind, and soul.

Perhaps I am only overwhelmed. Anxiety and depression are fuckers. They fuck with the mind; fucked me real good.

They fucked me as I said no.

I’d rather be fucked by you.

They are more than rope you tie around your neck or the pitch black feeling inside. They are what whispers in your head when you want to live. They tell you to stop. Stop eating. Stop living. Stop breathing. What’s worse is how long they stay. What’s worst is how they corrupt an innocent soul for the rest of his short miserable life.

To come out of that mud is to seek an amusement.

You were an amusement to a darkened soul. You were the holy in the water I poured onto myself. You are the one thing I will regret leaving as I walk towards the light or the fire at the end of this life.

And you won’t even know that.

You are what kept me going as I suffer the consequences of my selfishness. You are the soul I looked after as I enjoyed the peace along the clouds.

Clouds. Sunsets. Ocean. You.

I want to see them again with you. I want to trace the sun as it sinks in the sea with you by my side: whispering lullabies in my ears and flooding me with peace.

I am at peace.

The way you fucked with my mind is more than comical: it is grand.

You defied the norms and the standards of idealism with a six-word sentence.

You are the universe’s unknown language I demand to learn and understand; to exploit and to love.

You are the sunset I wish to chase; the whipping I desire to take.

And if this fails to define what love is for me, then I do not love you enough.

After all, love is an illusion.

An illusion I’d have myself believe in.

[petergrantkavinsky]

It's weird because I really don't want Marecal to end up together (it'll make the last chapter and the epilogue utterly pointless and it's also too big a moment with hints scattered throughout the series to just throw away), I want Mare to be single and happy, but from what Aveyard has been saying...Marecal could happen? Or maybe she's purposely trying to make us confused. Damnit.

On the contrary, I want Marecal to end up together. I don’t think a Marecal happy ending is pointless. It all depends on how well it is written. Of course, I’m not against a single and happy Mare too. As long as she’s happy, I’m good. 

I totally get what you mean. Whenever I think Marecal could still happen because of something Victoria said, it’s always followed by something else that would change my mind and accept that they’re doomed. So yeah, she could just be playing us.

Examples below: (Maybe don’t mind this. I could just be overthinking. Lol.)

At the Tucson Festival of Books, she was asked who among her characters she would marry, kiss, and kill. She said she wouldn’t give the answers that we were expecting to hear (i.e. Cal or Maven) because she wanted to avoid spoilers. So she used her supporting characters to answer the question. That made me think that maybe there’s still a chance? 

During her Date A Book Instagram Live in Sydney, Australia, the final question was “happy endings or dramatic twists.” She said both. “I think you can have both.” This was followed by talking about her RQ twist. “It’s like I made that promise to you that you guys can’t trust me.” I don’t know anything anymore. Ugh.

During an interview in Sydney, she was asked to pick between war and romance, and she said, “If I have to pick one, war. But I like romance in war.” IT’S CONFUSING, I KNOW.

Maybe the best thing to do is to not overanalyze the meaning behind her words. 

[yourgeminiprince]

Graduation... Now What?

Before we begin, quick background:

I've been in post-secondary education for almost 8 years now. In the time I've completed 3 programs and about to complete my degree as my fourth. Now what? 

Let the thoughts begin:

In a short couple months, I will be graduating and not be going back to school, anymore. While formal education has been fun I want to begin the new chapter of my life. So I decided I've learned enough about the world through college and university. 

To be honest with you all I was super excited, over the top to be finally done with school! But now... It's almost here and I'm kind of freaking out! Okay line up a job, get the job, work, go on vacations with your vacay days, find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, get married, have a couple kids, make sure you take care of them, get promotions, reach the top of the ladder and then... you know, do the life thing? I guess... 

See it seems so simple but my brain never likes to just shut up so instead of making it simple... Let's make it more complicated Dhan!

Questions my brain started making me ponder... 

Won't you want to make a decent income after going to school for so long? You have to maximize income. 

What if no one hires you?

What if you take a job and you hate it every single second of your being? 

Don't you have to make a new resume for every job you apply?

Cover letters? 

How many people are you competing with for that job?

Couldn't you have just been a doctor if you were going to be in school this long anyway?

Aren't you going to pick a job that you're passionate about?

I think you guys get the jiff of it... 

I love my brain, really do! Got me through a lot of educational programs but holy does it ever make me overthink every single aspect of my life. I'll be honest with you, I am a little scared of the future. I don't know what it holds, or where it leads. 

But...

Yes, I'm freaking the f*** out... but as much as my brain puts me into these situations of overanalyzing and thinking it also keeps making me think until I figure some of it out. At least I have to or I'm never going to sleep on time/properly. 

So since I've been freaking over this stuff for months, it's also been on my mind for months. Every day I come closer to a conclusion that'll solve my self-induced anxiety. So here are some of my solutions: 

Solutions: 

I have been in school for a long time, yes, but I have learned not just what my programs taught me... But I have also learned a lot about myself. Let's make it simple:

I have been part of teams and always try to lead. I got leadership skills! Hahaha! But no for real, I'm the type of person that'll take on a whole project myself if no one else wants to but I'll also delegate responsibility (Even knowing I'll probably be doing most of it myself... I remember my 40-page marketing research paper that only 1 person in our 5 man group submitted anything more than a copy paste from Wikipedia the night before it was due.) I wrote 39 pages of that 40-page report in a night... We got 70% which was like 40% of our grade... I'll never forget that night since then I've just always assumed I'm doing everything. As great of a leader as I am, I've also learned there are others that can lead to, and as much as you may want to be the one running things, sometimes it's okay to let them lead as well. There are responsible people out there and I have had a great group I could rely on. Everyone in this union study group was on top of their s*** to put it frankly. I wasn't leading it but did it feel good to be putting our entire project together with a group that wanted that end goal as bad as I did.

How is that a solution Dhan? wtf are you talking about? Let me explain...

Whatever a job may want they also what certain skills that would fit their company. I'm great with working with a team, I'm not saying that to toot my own horn... much... but when you're looking through jobs and they say 'needs to have leadership skills as you will be managing your own team and projects'. I got that. I would be a great addition to that company. 

Now yes, there's always more but this is how I calmed my brain down. I focused on what I've done and how I can apply that to the real world in these jobs.

Another quick example:

The first day of school, I'm talking to everyone. I have no issues with approaching random strangers and becoming friends by the end of our conversation. There are people that can never do that... I have undying confidence. I have social skills of a public speaker and the friendliness of a puppy. 

Now let me link these 2 examples together: Teamwork.

Huh? Dhan... what the frack are you talking about? 

You know how people say you should find a job you're passionate about? (The first question my brain brought up) I always had a hard time figuring what I was passionate about... I like a lot of stuff but not always one more than the other. I've worked real estate on the side and I love it because I get to meet new people every day and interact and learn about them. There was always a hint of something I felt like that was missing from it.

When I went to university I ended up being elected to a cabinet. I didn't know anyone and I was a little older than everyone around me so "OMG Brittney we're going to get so smashed tonight" wasn't really what kind of vibe I wanted to be around...  

Side note: When I say vibe I mean the kind of people I wanted to be surrounded with. I didn't feel like carrying Brittney and her friend home as they throw up everywhere. I was way over that phase. Back to the post:

When I joined this team of passionate individuals that were running around getting events done, filling in shifts for one another, solving issues. I got to be part of all of that and I loved it. I got to also be part of Senate and discuss and learn such important things. At the end of it all, we all came together to discuss what was happening and what everyone needed to know. We'd discuss important topics about what was happening in the school and voted on what to do next. Also made a lot of good friends in that way too, which I wouldn't have met if I never was on the committee with them. 

What I realized is, I want to be part of a team more than anything. My passion is tackling a project, or a committee and come out on top (I'm competitive as f*** xD). That rush of getting everything done before the deadline, coordinating parties to have everything supplied, reading 80 pages before heading into a committee in a few days and discussing/debating on one side. That was something I enjoyed and loved and didn't mind spending all day trying to figure things out. 

Now passion about a certain subject may not be foretold to my brain yet, but I know which direction to head. For me, that was enough to let me get sleep. I'm great at figuring s*** out after stressing about it for a bit. Problem-solving skills ;) haha!

For you:

You all have a lot of skills that you don't even realize or take for granted. When you're going to work for someone those are going to come more in handy than that essay you wrote for that history elective you took. If you know how to figure shit out on your own and not be a s***ty person you'll be miles ahead of a lot of people. You have to know you have walked into classes not knowing a single thing about it and passing well at the end of it. You can tackle anything loves! :) 

Now What?

Now, I'm applying for jobs, looking up resumé references for that certain field and adapting them to my own taste. I'm calling up places trying to figure out who to make the cover letter to instead of 'To whom it may concern'. But sometimes... no luck and end up using it cause I gotta move onto the next application. 

Starting to go to interviews and making it more of an 80/20 interview. I let them ask whatever questions they like and ask my own if it relates to their previous question or bombarding them with all of mine at the end. 

Now, I'm searching for a job that'll let me get that team aspect even if it's once in a while. That's what I want and just like through school, I hope I find that certain subject I'm passionate about. Until then, I'll be happy to go find a company and give 120% of Dhan-ness! I want to go in and work hard to open more doors for myself and also... start paying off those pesky student loans hahaha. But like I always say, to figure out who you are you have to experience as much as you can that peaks your interest. Even if it's volunteering or having to work for free from 6-10pm. 

Also instead of focusing on a million things that your mind keeps pondering, just make goals that you want to reach. It's hard for it to ponder when you're feeling good about reaching a goal :D!

Such as:

Pay off student loans

Get your bench press over 135 already (My chest has always been my weakest :$)

Try to move up a position in the company you work for every year or 2. 

Find love (She's out there right? :p) 

 Spend more time with the family 

Learn more tutting and more cheoro, in general, to add to your dance arsenal 

Train to run a half marathon

Write more (Hence this blog)

Read more

Finish up school (duh, but I just wanted to reach 10 already) 

So when I finish school, that's one goal reached. Makes me feel good! Next would be finding that job with the aspect of teamwork then having that to pay off the student loans. Getting the bench up is my personal goal and running cause I'm reading Born to Run: A Hidden Tribe, Superathletes and the greatest race the world has never seen By Christopher Mcdougall (NOT A SPONSOR OR AD! Just reading it!) and it's got me wanting to run and helping me reach that goal of training to run half a marathon. 

IN CONCLUSION:

My mind wonders... and ponders... More than I'd like but instead of letting it make me feel overwhelmed I'm just taking it one step at a time, reminding myself I know what I want and I have the skills all ready to take on any task that may come at me. The goals help tremendously with keeping my brain from pondering dooming questions cause it's like B**** WE WORKING TOWARD IT SO SHUT UP :)!  And I'm starting to get my sleep again on time... kinda... if I'm not binging Netflix at night... (Don't start a new show before bedtime... remember this advice!)

BYE :) 

[analytical-woy-blog]

The Egg

whoops I took way too long to post. again

Honestly, this episode doesn’t have too much in terms of things that can be overanalyzed. This doesn’t necessarily make it a bad episode, but I just couldn’t find many details that I could overthink. I did find something interesting, though.

The first thing I noticed when watching this was near the beginning, when Wander tells Sylvia about his plan to reunite the egg with its mother so that the dragon-thingy would become a loving mother instead of a harbinger of destruction. This strategy of pairing two evil things up to make one/both of them realize that being good is better than being bad comes up again in season 2, where Wander tries to set up Dominator and Hater, and probably some other moments I don’t remember. 

What I find interesting about this is that this was either setting up Wander’s shipping of Dom and Hater, foreshadowing it, or simply showing one of Wander’s methods of turning bad guys into good guys. I’m personally leaning towards foreshadowing since the Doom Dragon has several parallels with Dominator, such as having heat and ice powers, getting super close to defeating the good guys, and getting defeated and moving off in defeat and humiliation. Whatever the option is it only makes me respect the detail the writers go into when making this show. They could also be unrelated to each other but shh