#plato repulsed antagonism

[plato-repulsed-culture-is]

This blog means a lot to me since I didn't even know I could call it platonic repulsion or an actual boundary to not like fluffy friendy stuff. Up until now I thought the right term for me was "flaming asshole"

I'm glad you found a term that fits !! And tbh thats kind of how I felt until I realised that plato repulsed and aplatonic are terms that ppl can id with and realised they fit me!! I feel like ppl think you must be misanthropic, or hate people, or are in some way immoral or broken if you don't like or relate to something people see as so innocent and essential to peoples lives, like they view friendship.

I feel like in media centered around 'the power of friendship' the villains who aren't 'redeemable' almost always just are characterised as evil assholes for being disgusted by and/or disliking friendship. (Some notable examples are Queen Chrysalis from MLP:FIM, and Eggman/Ivo Robotnik from Sonic The Hedgehog). And this isn't far from how people irl tend to view ppl who don't like and/or feel repulsed by friendship.

Plato repulsion is not really about directing hatred towards people who have or want friends, or even all people as a whole, and people need to understand that. It just means we feel repulsion towards friendship and/or platonicism, which is a morally neutral emotion.

Part of the reason I made this sideblog was to talk about being plato repulsed more and also allow other people to talk about their experiences with plato repulsion, because its not often discussed or even understood, especially outside of aplatonic spaces.

I think some ppl also assume that plato repulsion is just 'jealousy' of people who have lots of friends (I genuinely thought my plato repulsion was this before because ppl act like everyone has friends and if they don't they assume they want friends, or are friendless because people don't like them and not because they want to not have friends and/or have difficulty making friends, etc.). Or they assume we have to just find "the right people" to like friendship, when its not necessarily the case.

Sure, a plato repulsed person could realise theyre not plato repulsed later on, just like could happen w sex repulsed or romance repulsed, etc. But that doesn't mean this is the case for everyone, and that doesn't invalidate the experiences of those of us who remain plato repulsed. Plato repulsion is not something that needs to be 'fixed'.

Anyways, congratulations on finding a term that fits your experiences, and I'm sorry that society is not very respectful of boundaries surrounding friendship and/or people feeling negative emotions or repulsion towards it.