#-Rift

[entropy-sea-system]

Demiro lgballt comic

(This comic is not about asexuality or demisexuality -I'm allosexual demiromantic)

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This was before I realised Im demiromantic, when I was in high school, before the Romeo and Juliet unit in english class, my teacher asked us some discussion questions related to the story, including this one.

I thought 'love at first sight' sounded made-up and like something that only happens in fiction but I remembered I had known some people who got romantic crushes on ppl 'at first sight' so I went with 'yes', while thinking that I hadn't experienced that and probably won't.

I realised Im demiromantic last year, after thinking I was alloromantic then aromantic then greyromantic. In the past I thought I was demirose briefly then stopped using the label bc it didn't feel like me.

(-Rift)

[do not tag with ace / acespec / demisexual tags. This post is about demiromanticism. ]

do not repost, (can share this post link though), reblogs encouraged though

[plato-repulsed-culture-is]

plato repulsed aro culture is struggling to maintain your identity as an aromantic because ooooooooh romance 👀 oh platonicism 😐.

im close to someone who is also aro and i hate talking to them about my media interests because its feels like theyre judging me for thinking the boys are pretty. they are.

Yeah I feel that.. its a reason I often feel less aro, and Im sorry you're in that situation, you shouldn't be judged for your interests.

[atertiary-culture-is]

Sorry to bother you, but could I ask what it's like to be afam? I'm realizing some of my behaviours seem kind of afam (openly not loving most* of my family, confusion and almost repulsion to my friend's "online mother", being uncomfortable with being compared to/jokingly called my pet's and my friend's family) but I don't actually know much about afam people and I'm not sure if this is caused by just having a weird (derogatory) family

*I like my aunt and my younger family and I guess my dad but even that feels different to how others seem to feel, aside from younger family. I'm not sure anymore, I guess it's better to ask and be wrong than to not and be right

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Thanks for sending in this ask !

It is possible that you may find the afamilial label useful in describing your experiences, but you may also not find it a useful label.

Some of what you describe sounds like familial repulsion (which I also experience, but allofamilials may also experience and not all afamilials experience), and not feeling familial love. Afamilial includes disconnect from familial attraction / no familial attraction etc.

Both afamilial and allofamilial people may have familial trauma, or other bad experiences with family. Some may have perfectly normal or even good experiences with family. And some people may be afamilial due to trauma (labels like caedfamilial if one lost familial attraction due to trauma and have ptsd/cptsd, or erasfamilial for the same if they dont have ptsd/cptsd, are for that).

People describe familial attraction as wanting to be family with people, I don't know how it works myself though as Ive never felt it and I personally actively don't want to have any interaction w the bodys biological family or find found family, even if Im around them for financial dependence reasons rn.

Different afamilial people have different experiences, but I will talk about some things I experience related to my afamilial orientation:

-I don't wish to form familial bonds. I don't even want to consider my partners (Im allosexual and demiromantic, and atertiary) family even if I marry any of them at some point. I also don't want found family, and dislike that I live with the bodys biological family right now.

-I have never thought 'I want this person to be my family' or seen anyone 'as a parent/sibling/etc. figure', in fact even people who were that to me biologically I never actually wanted them to be that to me

-My orientation may be influenced by familial abuse - Im sick of how people get away with abusing me just bc theyre legally considered family

-It makes me very upset that, if I don't get married to another body, the bodys family will be given things like visitation rights or the right to make medical decisions for me if I am unable to, by law

-I never felt love towards the bodys family. When I was younger I felt really guilty for it, especially bc I didn't realise the bodys parenrs were abusive and I was constantly blaming myself for them abusing me

-For a while I thought that I only disliked the bodys family due to the abuse, but I realised I didn't want found family either

-The only way the 'found family' trope popular in queer media appealed to me was the idea of knowing other queer people, not being abused (though I am aware found family can be abusive too), and potentially having partners (back when I didn't have partners) - basically the family part itself did not appeal to me in the slightest

-I'm uncomfortable with being referred to as a sibling/sister/brother/parent/child etc. even jokingly - I also don't want to be a parent

-I genuinely don't understand how a spouse is automatically seen as family legally and socially. I view marriage as sexual and romantic, not familial, and if I were to marry someone I certainly don't want to 'start a family' with them

-I don't want to have pets either - both due to the way people assume pets become family, and due to being unable to take care of one (I know I can't handle that much responsibility for another life - like how I don't want to raise kids)

-I don't like being compared to people in the body's biological family - or made to feel like I cannot be anything more than who they are

My experiences are mainly of the no familial attraction, familial repulsed afamilial type so would not be reflective of all afamilial people

[objectcrushsuggestions]

Vexillum flag maker culture is *makes a flag you're attracted to* *fans self*

[machine-eroticism]

recently followed another blog that had a lot of. .. idk what to call it, but it's got us looking at our old wii u in a new light you know 👉️👈️

That's really cool!! Tbh I didnt really expect to get any asks on this blog, but its really cool to hear abt other people feeling things about objects!!!

[fuckyeahaplatonics]

I often forget this sideblog exists like... I made it mainly for saving the blog url bc it was available !! But I post apl stuff on main and a few other specific sideblogs way more. I also kind of was in a Sonic kinshift when I made the apl positivity ish post thats pinned on this blog lol so I don't often . express that much enthusiasm lol

[space-blue]

Arcane animators self referencing!

This animator got to use his son for young Ekko's reference and it's so damn sweet!!

Imagine acting up this incredibly heart-wrenching scene in your lounge to a rolled up sock on a bag... They gave it their all too!

This scene's acting fidelity is incredible! Especially the shakiness of Ekko's movement to punch Jinx...

[arcanegifs]

ARCANE: BRIDGING THE RIFT Part 2 - "Persistence (Or When Your Best Still Sucks)" ↳ "You're, like, always trying to get into the heads of the characters in any way you can. "

[plato-repulsed-culture-is]

romance favorable plato-repulsed nonfriending culture is never comprehending someone saying "we used to date but we're better as friends" about someone else, because you don't want to be friends with anyone, let alone former partners

[thedemonlady]

Heartsteel Kayn - Wild Rift

[atertiary-culture-is]

Ateritrary culture is not know if you are afamilial or if you just have a bad family

Yeah I get that, I feel like the bodys family having ppl who are abusive/were abusive to me, and none of them ever really understand me or cared about me in ways that mattered to me, which probably influences my afamilial (and familial repulsed) orientation, except the idea of having found family also makes me want to throw up too and so do media portrayals or mentions of non-abusive/not toxic/non-harmful family. Its okay if having non-ideal family influences your orientation, or find that your familial orientation changes, etc.

[hoofpeet]

Rift food...

[objectcrushsuggestions]

Crush on Wiki Websites (ie: Miraheze, FANDOM, etc.)

(Same Anon as the last website ask)

Oh yeah so true!!!!

[burndrawsss]

Hear. Feel. Frog. 🐸

[goryhorroor]

horror sub-genres: aquatic

[poke-lov]

Mantyke PAR 189 Illustration Rare by rika from Scarlet & Violet—Paradox Rift