#routines in general are useful for this

[hexjulia]

thinking about how many people hate doing chores like laundry ironing etc (for themselves! unfairly being expected to take care of everyone else's things is something completely different) and how in attempts to fix the resulting issues (piles of gross stuff etc) it's just framed as another thing to feel bad about not doing, which is not very encouraging under any circumstances -- but if the reason why things keep piling up is something like depression or adhd will make it about 10x as hard, because you likely already feel bad about yourself. And now looking at the piles comes with a lecture about getting your shit together and being an adult at the back of your head.

It's just not effective. It's the wrong reason. You shouldn't be cleaning because you're afraid of being shamed or because you feel guilty. That might work once every few months in a burst of manic chore energy but that's no way to live. The reason why I don't find these things exhausting to do is because it's just things I do to make myself comfortable, and it feels that way. When I'm ironing my clothes I look forward to wearing clean cozy warm clothes. I'm also daydreaming about 20 other things because I do have adhd and I'm maybe listening to an audiobook, but the emotion associated with doing my own laundry is something like ...contentment because I get to decide how exactly I want my clothes to smell and feel. It's largely just a positive emotion. I think the trick is getting yourself to be happy you get to make future you happy. That's a sustainable motivation you don't need shame or guilt for.

Also sometimes it's easy to underestimate how much a "small" sensory issue is making things hard. I hate touching dirty laundry, especially things like wet dishrags. I realised this was what made me want to avoid doing that specific bag of laundry and got some gloves. Now it's fine because I don't have to touch any wet and questionable textures. A lot of these accomodations might feel like overkill + you might not notice how much they bother you/contribute to putting things off until you pay attention and do something about it. If you think the scent bothers you a lot wearing a mask to empty the bin might help remove revulsion re: emptying the bin and so make that easier to motivate yourself into doing just wear one. Yeah it is overkill and not needed. But you don't want to accumulate trash inside because the smell would make you uncomfortable. If the goal is to avoid discomfort you should also eliminate the discomfort of the chore itself insofar possible! If your hands hurt easily from scrubbing things clean see if you can find a more effective cleaning agent or a cheap electric brush. If the sound of the vacuum bothers you even just a little put on headphones. There is no need to make this into some kind of guiltstriken spartan ordeal or only prevent discomfort if it's absolutely necessary for the task.

Chores are going to be a part of your days probably your entire life. It can be a comfortable experience associated with feeling cared for by yourself, feeling in control of how you live, a moment of quiet simple tasks and no deadlines. It doesn't have to feel bad. And if you fail at keeping up you aren't lazy or bad. You're just probably making yourself uncomfortable, but that's not a sin. And you can always change what you do to accomodate your needs.

[johnnyshrine]

★ 113 // “Dissociation”

[truethes]

thank you to everyone who interacts with me despite my writing always getting so much longer than the thread was originally supposed to be. ❤️

[hipsofsteel]

I'm so freaking tired of my job...

[kazeofthemagun]

Me:

Real life events:

[remxedmoon]

My family is still staying in half of the church that wasn’t affected by the bombing because there is nowhere else to stay other than tents. They are limited to one small meal a day and one shower a week. They are sleeping on the floors, but no one can sleep since there is bombing everywhere around them. Even when there is no bombing, they can still hear the loud buzzing sound of the military planes above them, which would keep anyone who hears it awake. Along with everything, My grandma has diabetes and osteoporosis, so she can’t walk. She has to take her insulin medication along with many others; however, she has run out of many of her medications.” Am on my knees requesting for donation. Target $450

oh wow, you are a persistent scammer. for anyone wondering, insulin pens aren’t permitted to enter gaza, and in the cases of this person’s other scams, insulin does not cost 300+ dollars. there’s a great post by 12percentspider that goes into depth about this specific scam, and another post by kyra45 with links to information about other common scams. stay safe and stuff

[wherevenusholdssomeofficespace]

When you think about it, the fact that Reginald is a daredevil who isn't easily fazed by anything kind of explains a lot about Ferb and Lawrence. He skateboards, tried to jump a gorge, and can fly a plane. He's really got a lot of tricks up his sleeves, so Ferb having a lot of random skills makes sense too.

Lawrence isn't really phased by anything including his sons making all sorts of implausible things. He spent his childhood letting his younger brother beat him in all sorts of absurd contests, so him having weird skills makes sense too. Especially if he was raised by his father who participated in these hobbies. While I don't think he's "capable" in the same way as Reginald and Ferb, coming across as more of an airhead, he's not unskilled per se. Lawrence may not be as technically savvy as Phineas and Ferb, but he isn't completely hopeless there either, as seen in the things he DOES build or show a capacity to built.

So of while Ferb is of course quite and doesn't emote as clearly as them, he still has the same nonchalant nature. The Fletchers are just fearless, a penchant for learning and mastering various obscure skills, and fun loving. Of course Lawrence wouldn't be fazed by Phineas and Ferb, maybe he didn't do anything quite as wild as a kid, but her probably got into some pretty wild situations.

Of course Phineas is also really hard to faze too, which is part of why he and Ferb are joined at the hip. Though this isn't JUST a Fletcher thing.

Clyde is also a bit eccentric, though he has Phineas's more cheerful, eccentric, obliviousness if that makes sense, and Candace has her grandmother's violent obsessiveness. Both Flynn grandparents are fun loving and passionate who are always up for shenanigans.

Tiana is an adventurer herself, doing all sorts of exciting things. Which makes sense if she grew up with her nature loving parents who enjoy shenanigans. There's thrill seekers on the Flynn and Fletcher sides of the family.

All this said, while Linda is supernaturally oblivious to her sons shenanigans she has her own wild past with being a pop star and a background in astrophysics.

I feel it's also worth mentioning that as an adult, Linda is still expanding her skill set by taking a cooking class and participating in a Jazz group. The parents once went spelunking just because. Lawrence gives lectures in addition to selling antiques. The parents don't do just one thing. So their children's diverse passionate interests match that.

The real question is why Linda would be fazed by her sons inventions but that's a whole other issue.

[cynicalmusings]

actually, because of that secret secret i just read, i’m going to post this thought before i forget about it, actually — for the last few days i’ve been turning over the idea of dan heng x reader where the reader, a chef or at least competent cook, joins the express and works as chef to save everybody from himeko’s… creative dinner plans (inspired by the recent event)… and there’s something about the effortless, easy confidence with which you navigate the kitchen which dan heng admires. it’s an art form of its own, really.

(plus, as i mentioned, everyone loves you because you’re there to step in and lend some guidance when himeko decides it’s her turn to cook…..)

[glitterrosesnzz]

today has been. a rough day.

[izayoichan]

The look she got from her twin had them hold out the picture for him to take, letting him stuff it into the packet and then put it away without her commenting on it. There was a smirk on her face though, one he knew all too well what meant. They had not had the final talk about all this.  

With summer coming to an end, all the “kids�� had their final meetup and River and Lucas’s newly finished shelter. They had chosen to rebuild when they started getting more horses, as they simply needed the space. Sitting outside with horses grazing close by, under one of the big trees, the talk between them was mostly on where they were now all heading.

Who was going to what university, what classes, what they expected, and so on. Libby told them about them finally starting high school, while Izzy stayed quiet as usual. In all honesty, they were surprised he chose to come still. 

Liam: You guys will come over less often now then I assume? Libby: Yeah, sorry, but on the weekend hopefully we can come say hi.

There was a nod from Izzy as well who had 5 kittens in his lap. It was a rare smile on his face that they all assumed he simply did not know he had. 

Liam: Good, I need my coffee tasters to drop by after all. 

There was a smile between them all, before the talk shifted to the cafe, how it was doing, pets who had new homes, new pets that were coming in to try their luck, and in general they just chatted about what the next year might have in store for them all.

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[purple-petrichor]

WHAT DID THE MARRIAGETOXIN ARTIST MEAN BY THIS…

[wow-thisismylifeiguess]

Soap sees Ghost come into his shop often. He never buys anything. Looks over the boards Soap has on display, some of them featuring designs he made himself, wheels, other supplies. He walks around and then walks over to Soap.

“You coming tonight?” It’s the same question every time, and just like always, Soap has the same response.

“No thanks.”

Even beneath the mask, Soap knows Ghost has a sour expression. “They keep asking about you.”

Soap rolls his eyes. “Yeah? I doubt that. Bet they’re still making jokes about the accident. Sorry, Si. I don’t wanna hear that shit.”

Ghost lays a hand flat on the counter separating them and leans forward. “I want you there.”

“For what?” Soap bites out. “Moral support? To be your cute little cheerleader on the sidelines, waiting for you to win and welcoming you back at the finish line with a kiss? Fuck off.”

Soap had gone back once. About a week into when this routine between them started, and then he’d left early. There was too much laughter and whispering behind his back, comments about how low Soap had fallen that he’d been reduced to nothing more cheerleader. Ghost was in the middle of a race and Soap had turned on his heel and walked the entire way home. He’d ignored the calls and texts until he couldn’t anymore and Ghost showed up at his doorstep.

That had been the second major fight in their relationship. Far from their last.

“So what? You’re content to just run your little shop for the rest of your life? I never saw you as the type to give up, Johnny.” He’s trying to be insulting, rile Soap up so he bites back, and unfortunately, Soap can feel it working.

“What else do I do?! Tell me, Simon! You think I haven’t tried to get back on my feet? I can’t skate the way I did before!” He slams his fist on the counter, ever so close to where Ghost’s fingers lay flat. “It’s not worth it.”

Ghost is quiet and Soap hopes that’s the end. That he’ll finally fucking stop and /leave him alone/, even if that thought also sends a sharp spike of pain through his chest.

“I’ll call you tonight.” Ghost says instead. Soap doesn’t answer. He just watches as Ghost leaves the store, listening to the door bell ring lightly as it opens and shuts behind him.

[bicayaya]

i’m sorry if you tagged me in a post or a fic and i haven’t interacted with it yet

ever since my classes started i’ve been almost too sleepy to properly function

[usertoxicyaoi]

god i have neverrrr everrrr everrrr been a morning workout kinda person i usually always workout after work around 5pm-ish, but since its october now and the days will start to get shorter and SAD will no doubt set in this year i wanna try switching things up for the first time and see what it does for my mood and body and brain if i workout in the mornings before work at 6am before or after i pray fajr salah instead.

[torgawl]

everyone here was soooo excited because a national channel was going to bring back this iconic tv series, directed specifically to the youth, from our childhood and adolescence that we are so nostalgic about after 11 years for them to disappoint us all with the trailer because it looks like elite 2.0

[oh-no-bummer]

Why must schedule change could it not always remain the same while also continue to stimulate me intellectually