#so I needed some chatty time I guess 🤭

[femme-et-traditionnelle]

When and why did you become a tradfem?

I don't remember of a particular moment or reason. The personality that is associated with tradfems was who I was since I was a child. I always loved caring of the home, cooking, cleaning, minding children, I was your typical girly girl that loved dresses and hairstyling and skincare, and I was always very much more inclined to a simple lifestyle, living in the countryside, doing things from scratch, not caring the famous and popular. When "Mori Kei" was popular, I identified as a Mori girl and started a Tumblr back then 🤭 All the way through high school and college, I was the ultimate girly girl, I would say I would marry and become a SAHM. Back then, I don't know if tradfems circles were already a thing online (Certainly not as visible as today at least) so I was very much alone in my vision of things but I had very understanding friends who would say how, considering my personality, that was the most fitting, I was made for this lifestyle, though back then both them and myself thought it was an unreachable dream. But dreaming is good for the mind 🤗

I did force myself to change this behavior/personality in early adult years as it was not fitting with my work at the moment and I thought I was the one who had to change. Eventually, I decided I would change my job and reverted back to my values and liking, and decided I was ready to focus on my search for my husband.

My dream came true in the end 🥰

My daily life right now is a blessing. My husband is an amazing person, our personalities fit together so well, both in our similarities and differences, and I found even more joy in homemaking than I thought I would.

A fun fact is that my husband has never used words like tradfem, traditional husband, provider, etc... He doesn't actually know much about this whole terminology. Yet he fits exactly what a tradfem would want for a husband, he provides for the family and has a strong sense of work ethic, he's ready to work countless hours for the sake of his family, he's very responsible and caring. He is also very much into living a simple life doing most by ourselves, creating a big family with good moral values.

I don't think becoming a homemaker is for every woman, I don't look down on women that aren't traditional. I am so blessed to be able to live the life I was yearning for and I pray that all can get their own dream life come true 🤍

[chaseyou-dream-ina-dream]

multiples of three would just be cruel 🙂 multiples of four though 😬 have fun!!

Yeah, what kind of person would say multiples of three for a 100 question post… 🤭😬

4. Do you place any value in gender roles?

Not at all. I don’t think that there’s anything that can be gained from segregating people into boxes and saying that only certain characteristics belong to one set or another. The entire idea is harmful.

8. Do you think you can put love into categories (family, platonic, romantic, etc.) or is it just one general sensation?

In my experience, yeah. I think familial love can sometimes be something given begrudgingly - while I love my mother and father, I don’t always like them as people. And platonic and romantic love are different from each other. I wouldn’t say that any is better or higher than another... 

12. Do you have the feeling you’ve lost something you might have had in another life - whether it be a person, a place, a world, a language, etc.?

I’m not really one to believe in past lives, so I guess not in that sense. In the sense of.. My life should have been different. Choices my parents made 20+ years ago changed things immensely and there’s so many things I feel like I lost that I should’ve had. In another universe, maybe I have them.

16. Do theoretical ethical debates have any value? Is it important people discuss ethical dilemmas, e.g. the trolley problem?

I think discussing ethical dilemmas is important, but I think the trolley problem is trash. I think if it comes down to having to kill one person or multiple, then the path of less damage is obviously better. but idk. I think theoretical debates are inherently pointless.

20. Do you want a grand adventure?

I don’t think so? I just want... I don’t even know. But grand adventures are kind of overrated and incredibly stressful.

24. Do you think you really understand your gender and sexuality?

Hahahahaha. Not at all. Not even a little bit.

28. Would you want to live forever? How about for a billion years, a million, a millennium, a century?

Up until like 2 years ago the thought of turning 40 absolutely terrified me, so... No. Not forever, not for a billion years, or a century. Unless I’ve also got eternal youth idk. I’m curious to see what life would be like in the far off future but maybe not enough to wanna see it.

32. Do you believe in star signs?

Look, I know that logically speaking there is no way they can be real... But goddamn if some of that stuff just isn’t so damn accurate. Hell yeah I do.

36. Have you ever met someone who had a very similar personality to your own? Did you get along?

Honestly, no one I know really has a similar personality to mine. I feel like if someone did, we wouldn’t get along. I can be a bit too chatty and annoying at times.

40. What makes a person ‘good’? Are you a ‘good person’?

The way they treat others. Understanding, empathy, compassion, loyalty. I try to be a good person, but I think sometimes I may be too selfish and caught up in myself.

44. How often do you lie? Is all lying inherently bad? Are you generally truthful?

I try to tell the truth as often as possible. I don’t think all lying is inherently bad and sometimes a lie is better than the truth, but... Generally speaking, it’s best to just tell the truth about things.

48. Are you free? Will you ever be? Can anyone be truly free?

Freedom is a bit of a myth. There’s always responsibilities that need to be taken care of, and for someone to be truly free many people have to not be. So. No?

52. Do you justify all your beliefs or have you just inherited/absorbed some?

I’ve probably just absorbed one or two, but I always try to justify them when I realise, or change them if I find that they can’t be.

56. What do you think about artificial intelligence?

Honestly, I don’t really think about it much. Though I’m sure if they can teach technology to learn, they could also program in failsafe procedures so none of the ~doomsday~ stuff happens, right?? Idk, I’m really disinterested in tech so

60. What do you think the next era of fashion will be like?

It’ll be like the last era where you look back like 5 years later at what you were wearing and cringe with embarrassment. Well... That’s what I do anyway so idk, but I doubt it’ll be anything super important or special. 

64. How consistent is your perception of time?

HAHAHAH, what perception? I can’t remember the passage of time at all, I don’t know if things happened days, weeks or years ago. It’s great.

68. How do you feel about monogamy?

I’m a v monogamous person. Idk, it just feels right to me. I know not everyone feels that way, but... It’s what feels best for me.

72. Should people be prosecuted for crimes that weren’t considered crimes at the time?

It depends on what the thing is. It’s hard to make a blanket statement and just say yes.

76. Do you crave approval and/or praise?

I’m a Leo sun... I mean that’s the answer right there right? My biggest weakness is also my massive praise kink TMI lmaoooo

80. Is your music organised by mood or sensation or do you just listen to everything at any time?

Everything is on shuffle all the time. Even my playlists start off meaning to be organised and just get mixed up and watered down

84. Are you who people think you are?

I don’t think anyone ever is. Who people think you are is affected by when they knew you, the attitudes and beliefs you had, how your mental health was, a whole fucking load of factors. There’s a ton of people who would think I’m one person based on when they knew me circa 2016 and that is totally different to how people may see me now, which could be totally different to who people think I am in 5 years.

88. Are you a jealous person?

I try not to be. I can be, and it makes me feel hideous and twisted inside, so it’s something I’ve tried to work on.

92. Do you speak multiple languages? Which do you dream in? What language would you want to learn?

No but I wish I could, and just English, obviously. I want to learn Italian though. I wish I’d paid more attention in school when we had it for a year and kept learning it myself.

96. Is your perception of yourself similar or the same to how others perceive you?

I think I’ll always perceive myself worse than other people may, it’s the ~anxiety and depression~ cocktail that makes me reflect on every interaction I have and convince myself that people hate me. When that probably isn’t the case but who am I to argue with me?

100. What belief do you have that isn’t logically grounded, but you still firmly believe in?

Uuuuuuh. I don’t really have a whole lot of beliefs honestly. I suppose maybe that I believe things will get better. It’s not based in logic but... It’s a belief.