#sofboi

[cielospeaks]

ngl i kinda wish ganglot had a friend/friends who would have a dynamic w her like bill and ted + the grim reaper

[autolenaphilia]

God I think I actually prefer explicit fascist transmisogyny in comparison to the disguised dogwhistly liberal transmisogyny.

Like the people who openly call me an autogynephile and other various slurs and tell me to kill myself are at least being honest. They don't bullshit me about hating my very existence and wanting me to die.

It's all the faux-loving forms of transmisogyny that really make me angry. Like it makes my skin crawl in its dishonesty and hypocrisy. And it takes so many forms. Like the transmisogynist christian "hate the sin, not the sinner" approach where they claim to love me and just want me to accept Jesus in my heart. The necessary condition for accepting their version of Jesus however is me detransitioning, and that would kill me.

There is the terfy "people with gender dysphoria are suffering and they need help but we can't endanger women's sex-based rights for them." i've even seen in arguments about legal gender changes the following: "of course trans women deserve to use women's spaces, but if we allow legal gender self-id evil cis men will take advantage of that. So trans women will have to have their rights restricted." Even J.K. Rowling used it in her terf manifesto.

It makes one yearn for the days of the ur-terf book "The Transsexual Empire" which had the "shemale" slur in its subtitle and in which the author Janice Raymond argued trans women rape real women by the fact of their very existence. That kind of brazen transmisogyny at least had some kind of honesty about it.

There is also the transmisogynist callout culture fandom, or as the japanese fittingly call them: the american feelings yakuza. They callout transfems for problematic kinks like at least once a week but deny transmisogyny. "oh we don't believe all transfems are evil predatory sex perverts, it's just that this particular transfem is."

Their evidence for her being sexual predatory is that she ships two fictional siblings. Or in meatspace meetings, things like her having "bad vibes" ("bad vibes" or "gut instinct" are polite words for what more sensible people call "ingrained bias") .

And they suspiciously keep on making callouts for transfem after transfem in a neverending series, trying to ruin her reputation and socially exile her, but of course they are not transmsiogynists.

There is also the sofboi transandrobro type of transmisogyny. They spread the vilest transmisogyny but always falls back on a terfy bioessentialism to claim ontological innocence and perpetual victimhood in all situations. I've literally seen someone say "how can i be a misogynist, i'm literally afab." These people will not say directly "shut up about your oppression, stupid tranny", but say it in coded form. I had one guy traumadump to me about his rape in vivid detail to make the point that (trans)men suffer more and imply that transfems don't suffer from sexual violence.

And that's the crux of the issue. Open hate barely fazes me anymore, unless there is an immediate threat of physical violence. But being condescended to, being emotionally manipulated, being faced with people veiling their hatred of transfems behind a veil of superficially loving rhetoric, that does make me angry. And these people always use my anger against me. "Why are you so angry when these people are being so polite and nice to you?" And that's because the point of these rhetorical approaches is to have plausible deniability for your bigotry and make transfems look crazy when they point it out.

Yet it's the same bigotry as the explicit version, it's just more dishonest about it. Like if had the They Live glasses and looked at the rhetoric, it would just read "exterminate all transfems." All those polite liberals believe the same thing about transfems as the neo-nazis openly calling for us to be hanged, they just lack the virtue of being honest about it.

[lizardsmcguire]

i thought i was a big time hater but then i met @sofboi

[mtdiabnope]

@sofboi if you don’t play Roam, we are fighting.

[chaotic-feral]

Imagine your f/o brutally stabbing you to death in your sleep and selling off the bits as black market parts because YOU PEOPLE ARE JUST AS FUCKING DERANGED.

Get off of here and go find a fucking support group instead of blowing your time getting all pissy because oh my GOD someone else ships your uguu babby sofboi with some other character.

What a fucking tragedy.

[norcani]

book ask! 4, 5, 6, 11, 21, 24 please

Did you discover any new authors that you love this year?

Most of the new authors I discovered have only one book out, or I have no interest in their other stuff. Or I have already read everything they wrote like Ted Chiang. Naomi Kritzer is one of the few authors that does have a decent backlist that I discovered this year. And Amy Thomson! these were both older specfic so maybe I should be reading moreolder fantasy and sci fi...

What genre did you read the most of?

I'm using my storygraph stats for this, which are wildly inaccurate because that site is frankly, trash. I imported my library and it got 85 books out of 100? And just didnt import some of the most popular books like tipping the velvet while creating new entries for the fucking arknigths manga. It's still easier than counting one by one though so...

lgbt isnt a genre despite what storygraph says so fantasy I guess!

Was there anything you meant to read, but never got to?

I set out 20 books I want to read (or dnf) at the start of the year so I got to all of them at least. There is more I want to read always but nothing that specific I regret not getting to.

What was your favorite book that has been out for a while, but you just now read?

Most of the books I read were not released in 2022, but for this specifically I'm going to mention eliana's song duology again because they came out in the early 2000s which is on the older end of the books I read. tbh I feel like these books would have done better if they came out today .

Did you participate in or watch any booklr, booktube, or book twitter drama?

participate no but I've seen it happen. there is always some bullshit in book communities. I guess the worst was the whole ana mardoll situation, uwu sofboy asking for donations while working for a weapon manufacturer...cool

there are a million different extremely bad tiktok books but people dunking on them just stopped being fun for me like these are just all the same book. idc anymore.

Did you DNF anything? Why?

According to my list I DNF'd 92 books lol. because there is too many books I want to read to not drop those that aren't working. I don't actually bother noting down every book I dnf so it realistically is more than 92 actually...

[morgsticklee]

Yoo @markiplier what you think to darkiplier wearing a flower crown?? :P 

I think he’s a bid pussy cat and a sof boi. ! you can’t change my mind. 

[violetjeno]

From 𝕿𝖍𝖎𝖘 to 𝒯𝒽𝒾𝓈

[syarris]

Smooth talk and tie: Shouto Todoroki

[clichecroptop]

sofboi replied to your post: i was at least expecting lucy liu in charlie’s...

lucy liu from ally mcbeal

not shocked here

[iguinn]

maybe if more transmascs made hyperpop or rock/metal they wouldnt make Cross feel patronized each time he listens to music by transmascs.

[catsinvalhalla]

wwdits rant in the tags :3c

[modaozushitposting]

He walked into my heart like he always belonged there, took down my walls and lit my soul on fire. – T.М.

I got the Sofboy!XXC x Punk/Rock!SL burried deep inside my mind lately, and it seems I can’t stop making aesthetics for this AU @touchmycoat I totally blame you

[photoxmoda]

All Saints 2020

[mixanji]

Don’t ask Astarin manipulative questions. He can’t answer and you might get beaten up XD

feat. @stelera’s good boi goodest big bro Denavir =w=

[inktheblot]

🐑

o… a soft creacher…

thank u anon for this good litel friend