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[thecpdiary]

Managing anxiety

I deal with anxiety because I deal with autism. It is made worse because my emotions are also impaired through extensive damage to the cerebral cortex, brought about through cerebral palsy, which is the primary cause of my autism. Anxiety is something I manage.

If anyone has a history of mental illness, then anxiety is not something they can completely control either. If you’re a worrier, then there is every possibility you will take control of your anxiety, but that will depend on how you deal with your worries. Everyone manages anxiety differently.

Looking back on my experiences, I am struggling to get my head around the fact that my issues with anxiety as a child were known, and nothing was ever done about it.

For those of us who manage anxiety, it’s not something we will take control of. There is a big difference between overcoming anxiety and managing it. Managing anxiety is something we control through things like exercise and meditation, deep breathing, or through medication to bring symptoms under better control.

Since anxiety is a chronic illness and there is no cure, it’s how we are able to manage it. The best way to manage anxiety is to learn to address our worries, our feelings and our lifestyles better.

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[angrygaybeans]

Don't you just love it when people want you to respect their triggers and anxiety sources, but won't see anyone else's as valid once they've done something to trigger them or make them uncomfortable. Just a tip: If you want people to be careful around you and your anxiety disorder, you need to at least try and do the same for others. Note: This is not a current event, it happened weeks ago but it's still bubbling away under my skin.

[cruddyborderlandstheories]

brain please let me write out the Troy fight scene in m mindn for weeks instead of more Driver scenes please stop with all the Driver centric ideas please I am beginyibt 6pu I need to writethe things that will go into the fic and not more Eridian bullshittery I am beghing I love Tannis as much as the next guy but I can't write her well and you're not HELPING I want to write the psychic man doing fun murder things with a big rock sword and Vault stuff and NOT Guardian fuckery for once in my own goddamn document talkaboutthe WINGS HEYYYY the architects my boys not moonstone hey that's a concept for a short while only a bit for its good to take a break

But. BUT. the puppeteer calls to me hhhhhgggg

[nalasha-blog]

You really never know.... #loveoneanother #talkaboutthings #forgive #andmovefoward

[thecpdiary]

Relationship Dynamics

Relationships can be very confusing primarily because we fail to understand the relationship dynamics and just how our relationships need to work and ignore the very things that can make our relationships better.

We make our relationships complex and complicated. If we learned to open up and talk about things and communicate more; we wouldn’t get caught up in petty and hurtful dialogue that may often follow.

Our failure to sometimes understand the dynamics of our relationships, makes it more difficult for us to resolve conflict, therefore helping us move beyond current problems.

Unconsciously people may influence their partner’s behaviour without wanting to be controlled or influenced themselves. Most disagreements stem from control, rather than conflict having much to do with the initial issue. Not all relationships are evenly matched.

The real issues are the dynamics. Relationships can sometimes be a battle of the wills, unless you’re someone who is happy to go with the flow. But problems in relationships usually stem from unconscious experiences, which can sometimes interfere with how couples feel about each other and not the problems they’re fighting over.

Most disagreements usually mean, ‘I am upset with you’ and nothing to do with what started the initial disagreement. Not everyone will know why they’re struggling, and those who do know, don’t always know how to correct it, or if they will.

Sometimes it’s easier to go with familiarity than try to forge a new life on their own. Apprehension usually has something to do with it, familiarity although it’s not the answer, is often easier.

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Men and mental health

Mental health is something that concerns us all. It’s not just something women deal with, it’s something men have to cope with too.

But statistics show that 40% of men don’t talk to anyone about their mental health and that must change. Mental health continues to be a taboo subject for men, with men dealing with feelings of sadness, anxiety and loneliness on their own and in silence. It doesn’t have to be that way.

Mental health statistics and facts:

12.5% of men suffer from one of the common mental health disorders;

76% of suicides are committed by men, suicide is the biggest cause of death in men under the age of 35;

36% of psychologist referrals are for men.

I’m not sure why in 2019 it’s still taboo. With more people coming forward to talk about mental health and mental health being encouraged, both men and women should be comfortable with talking about how they feel. Although societal gender norms still stigmatise men, I feel it is up to the individual to choose to get past that.

Where society struggles to accept certain norms, individually we must break down the barriers. It is important to recognise and encourage each other to speak about how they feel. For someone who grew up with a disability, I am well aware of the stigma, but to accept there is one and change nothing, doesn’t help us mentally.

It is important we encourage each other to talk about how we feel. There is no shame in saying ‘I feel sad’ or ‘I’m feeling vulnerable. Yes, there is a stigma but a lot of this goes back to childhood. If parents encourage, their children will participate.

When it comes to marriage and children, parents’ roles, around culture can change the status quo. Equal partnerships can work, but where partnerships are centred around the children, and not around each other, it can make communication difficult.

Where men don’t talk about mental health, others must continue to encourage. Moving forward, we must all encourage and be encouraged to talk about mental health.

My Conclusion

Although it’s not easy talking about the things we struggle with mentally, it’s better than having to deal with illness the other end. We don’t grow up in a world where we will all voluntarily choose to come forward.

If we’ve seen our parents talk, we will learn to talk and even if we haven’t, we can choose for ourselves. I didn’t come from that kind of background. Gender is immaterial. If men want to talk, they’ll talk. They have to want to.

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[angrygaybeans]

I love fresh babies that are only like a few weeks old, like, they cry, nd it's just...a scrunchy lil potato face on a wriggly lil squish body it's so cute.