#their gayness is obvious

[adelarsims]

Hello! I just wanted to say that I'm absolutely in love with your sims, especially male sims! How do you make them look so gorgeous? Do you have any tips/presets that you like? Thank you!

i try to stay away from cc presets as much as possible. unlike maxis presets, cc ones are made for only one frame, BUT they still can be inherited by anyone - and if the sim who inherits a cc preset has opposite frame, their face will be broken. if you make sims for stories, modeling, visualizing your OCs, basically for displaying, then it doesn't matter, but if they're gonna have kids, it's better to choose maxis presets instead.

as for how i make my guys look gorgeous, here's a comprehensive pie chart explaining it:

[kyuriman]

Bruh I don't care what anyone else says: Eric Cartman is the gayest of the main 4

[ssaalexblake]

Me reading a post by a person who ships a big fandom m/m ship complaining that the fandom does Every single crappy thing that the thasmin one does is oddly soothing at the same time as it’s sad. I mean, I Relate buddy, people are fucking weird about gay relationships and don’t even realise they’re being at Best questionable in their behaviour, or at worst actively homophobic in their shipping. But I wish I didn’t relate bc this shit needs to stop.

[teamsieben]

me when i see someone expressing dissent about a popular ship that i like: Oh no i am terrible for thinking these two fictional characters would be cute together It is such a terrible crime and i must be put to death for liking the popular ship that is popular

like. can people disagree with me without me contriving it to mean that im actually bad. for ONE second. is there a mental illness that this is a symptom of i need to pathologize my behavior stat

[ace-beef]

once again thinking about how much Mac would absolutely love Hot Fuzz

[mysticartist]

Hear me out.

Imagine a typical book with a female lead and two love interests, the childhood best friend and the tall dark and handsome guy. And she can typically not choose between them etc.

But.

It turns out the boys been in love with each other for years in a relationship happily, and didn't want to say they knew each other bc, she was under a lot of stress or something.

They didn't even try to hide it she was just oblivious af.

[theguiltinessisyours]

gotta appreciate how My Chemical Romance and Rammstein, two great bands that I really love are both gay and utterly insane but. somehow in two different directions. like opposite ends of the spectrum

[bunnyburr0w]

Sometimes I forget I'll have to come out to people.

Like, wdym people don't know I'm gay already? I thought it was obvious

[inkisadream]

What teenage behavior of yours should've clued you in that you were queer but didn't at the time; mine was reading ("reading") Maxim and looking at Victoria's Secret ads because I was too scared to search for porn.

[lucyghoul]

watching all these hays code movies amidst this media sanitization effort is so strange because like. you can Tell when these movies want to be about sex and violence in a more explicit way and are therefore using film techniques and literary devices to suggest sexual desire and gayness and whatever else when they couldn’t make it obvious. and like. they did a good job! i felt more sexual tension in gilda or all about eve than i have in like any recent movies. and it’s because they know what their story is about and it’s the structural rules and system that prevents them from being able to tell it. but that also mean they’re actively trying to tell it, despite the restriction, and making something that will still give you the same feelings

but this is almost worse because it’s not explicitly limiting storytellers but rather training us on what stories to accept. the hollywood execs aren’t saying “no you can’t make this story.” instead they say but wouldn’t you rather have this one? and the culture is just accepting it because their brains are broken and if you have thousands of people screaming no sex in movies and hollywood says great we’ll stop then. there’s no working around because you just hire a director that won’t do sex. instead of a director telling their story despite their limitations you have the stories being selected and tested and researched and THEN a director. and you can’t find the little corners to fight back in a system that picked you to precisely fit its purposes. especially when the audience seems perfectly willing to go along with it as if any of this is a natural process of art

[thechekhov]

Dungeon Meshi Quick Reacts: CH40

Laios is apparently only good at drawing monsters.

You guys have no faith in him! Come onnnn

To that point, if the shapeshifters that are left are the most similar to the real selves, doesn't that prove that Laios actually knows them best? The other, easily-discounted shapeshifters were easily singled out as fakes because they were so caricature like.

The remaining fakes are just minutely different from the real selves. Chilchuk has slightly larger eyes, Marcille's hair is thinner, and Senshi has sharper features. What that says to me is that Laios is actually the BEST at reconstructing them in his mind.

Unfortunately, that. Kinda makes it harder.

Welll.......yeah. No, that makes sense.

This is a problem you all created 😂

This is legitimately making me question everything. Because like... Marcille A is acting pretty sus. But they've been through a lot, so maybe she's just depressed?

Oooooooh someone minmaxed into gayness. That's certainly a dependable strategy.

FAKE!!!!! He's the fake! Senshi would never deplete an ecosystem completely like that!!!!

ah yes, all sorts of nutrition. White rice is known for its nutrition like...... (looks at smeared writing on hand) carbohydrates and scant amounts of folates. Yep.

HE IS HANDSOME, BUT NOT "B"!! "A" IS ALSO HANDSOME!! THEY'RE BOTH HANDSOME!

.......guys. GUYYS.

Laios, you're such an absolute loser and I love you but please. Please turn on the autism. Just this once, please turn on the autism beam and point it at your friends. Please

"all of them! Everyone is fake! Including me!"

Wouldn't that be a plot twist.

why are both the chillchucks upset at this suggestion? shouldn't the real ones be relieved?

Illusions with physical traits, though? Is that not obvious once you start roughing it up with it? If something can be physical enough to fight, why not just use that thing to overpower the adventurer, then?

....so it's a vampire created illusion?

Okay, so because I saw someone else post this page to my dash about a week ago I'm actually fully aware of what comes next, and I can say with certainty that it does not ruin it. At all.

I gotta say, as a weird little kid that practiced barking like a dog and mimicking dog howls, this is making me feel SO SEEN. He's just like me fr.

And the fact that they're all supporting his talent........friendship is magic.

I'm so intrigued by this man and how his mind works.

Love is not letting your dumbass furry friend climb into the wolf enclosure at the zoo and try to fight the alpha of the pack.

This is. So real. I've never seen a manga commit SO MUCH to the weird little man trope, and I love Kui-san so much for this. This is true representation.

Dumbass recognizes dumbass. This is why they're friends.

I WAS WONDERING ABOUT THAT. I also didn't remember it!

Oh, hmm.....

I'm relatively certain the hand that Marcille grasped in the last chapter WAS the cat's hand. That means the cat followed them - but because no one knew she was there, the shapeshifter didn't create any illusions of her. That means she was just hiding out, observing everything.

Is she just sleeping in there curled up on the rice?

Ahhh, so it was a distraction.

[palin-tropos]

za/um weirdly baiting kimharry sucks because through reverse psychology it makes people think kimharry is this noncanon shallow fanservice element of the game and it’s really not

it’s not “shipping” it’s the main relationship of the game through which you explore the world of elysium. they are a duet, a dialectic. they’re explicitly queer and obviously are into each other

there is nothing wrong with admitting the story (which is about much more than “gay shipping”. it’s also sometimes about other queer people and queer-coded people, ta-dah! and sometimes it’s about the trauma of failed heterosexual masculinity) is told through the interactions between two men who have obvious crushes on each other. that’s not some kind of indulgence, I played the fucking game, it’s about queer people

you know that little spiel the smoker gives about the homo-sexual underground, he upfront discusses the politicization of queerness. disco elysium is political and queerness is political and queerness is in the game

so yeah “forbidden fruity kisses” fucking sucks because it’s trivializing themes that actually do matter and framing queer content as a silly fandom thing

EDIT: well this got a lot of notes so basically I wanna remind people that the scandal primarily isn't about the gayness or not gayness of any update content or how it's handled it's about people's art being stolen from them!

this vent post happened because I was mad that fans were overcorrecting and almost acting like the art theft is somehow gay shipping fandom's fault or that rejecting the queer romantic analysis of the story is returning it to its purer, unsullied form

but you should probably actually be focusing your mad on the fact that the art, the entire game, was stolen

[undying-love]

Paul being very secure about his sexuality: A compilation

"The reason why we didn’t do Up Against It wasn’t because it was too far out or anything. We didn’t do it because it was gay. We weren’t gay and really that was all there was to it. It was quite simple, really. Brian was gay…and so he and the gay crowd could appreciate it. Now, it wasn’t that we were anti-gay – just that we, The Beatles, weren’t gay."

“It was always obvious Brian was gay and we could talk to him about gay things, but he would never come out with, ‘Hello, Paul, you’re looking nice today.’ I was quite obviously un-gay, due to my hunting of the female hordes. I think we all gave that impression."

Q:  You must be very secure with yourself.

Paul: I think it is that. I'm OK with gay people, too, because I'm essentially comfortable with my sexuality. I can goof around with gay people. I sort of know who I am by now.  And it's about time.

"I imagine he heard it [Dear Friend]. I think he listened to my records, but he never responded directly. That wasn't his way. We were guys; it wasn't like a boy and a girl. In those days you didn't release much emotion with each other."

"One thing he told us was that one in every four men is homosexual. So we looked at the group! One in every four! It literally meant one of us is gay. Oh, fucking hell, it’s not me, is it? We had a lot of soul-searching to do over that little one."

"There's a song I do called Here Today which is specifically written for John. That sometimes catches me out. I realise I'm telling this man that I love him and it's like I'm publicly declaring this in front of all these people I don't know. I sometimes wonder what I'm doing.

Q: In “Here Today”, you talk about your love for John. Did you ever say that to him, in those days?" Paul: No. I'm sure we both felt it. But that is not something two boys use to say to each other. If they were gay, maybe. Otherwise it is rare that that happens."

"My view is that these things are there whether you want them or not, in your interior. You don't call up dreams, they happen, often the exact opposite of what you want. You can be heterosexual and be having a homosexual dream and wake up, and think, 'Shit, am I gay?' I like that you don't have control over it. But there is some control -- it is you dreaming, it is your mind it's all happening in."

"We were in New York before he [George] went to Los Angeles to die, and they were silly but important to me. And, I think, important to him. We were sitting there, and I was holding his hand, and it occurred to me — I’ve never told this — I don’t want to hold George’s hand. You don’t hold your mate’s hands. I mean, we didn’t anyway. "

"Yeah, I think he [John] did [love me], yeah. It wasn’t actually a spiky relationship at all. It was, uh, very warm, very close and very loving, I think. All The Beatles. We used to say, I think we were amongst the first sort of men to come out openly – and you remember, it was quite sort of strange in those days, we’re talking about a long time ago now when homosexuality was still sort of largely illegal."

"Because he [Robert Faser] was gay, it raised a few small-minded eyebrows, and funnily enough, one or two of them were from within the Beatles: ‘Hey, man, he’s gay, what you going off to Paris with him for? They’re gonna talk, you know. Tongues are going to wag.’ I said, ‘I know tongues are going to wag, but tough shit.’ I was secure about my sexuality. I always felt this is is fine. I can hang with whoever I want and it didn’t worry me. I mean, we didn’t share a room or anything."

"With Robert’s thing of course there would be gayness. But there was no open gayness. If there was to be gayness it would be a quiet phone call that Robert would go and take in the bedroom or something. That was one of the good things, actually, because I knew he was gay and he knew I wasn’t gay so we were quite safe in our own | sexuality. We could talk to each other. "

Lastly, there is this odd anecdote that may or may not mean anything, but here it is:

One of the strangest of these incidents came at the end of 1992 when Mark Featherstone-Witty attended the MPL Christmas lunch. Mark took an accountant friend to the meal, a McCartney fan he'd known for years, which led to a strange and unpleasant row. By Mark's recollection, Paul's manager Richard Ogden summoned him into the MPL office the next day where he read him the riot act for bringing an unwelcome guest to Paul's party. 'What do you mean by bringing someone who was so obviously gay to Paul's Christmas party? Have you any idea about the responsibility you carry in this project?' he allegedly asked. 'What are you talking about?' replied Featherstone-Witty, explaining who his friend was. 'But he was gay, you stupid fucker!' 'No, he isn't.' 'You've got to be careful. You can't do anything that would embarrass Paul...'"

Fab : An intimate Life of Paul McCartney by Howard Sounes

[nebulazenithstorm]

literally how is it possible that all six individual pairings that make up zolusanuso (zolu, sanuso, sanlu, usolu, zosan, zosopp) all got at least one moment of beautiful gayness in one piece live action??? how was i that blessed??? like how can you get to the last eps and not feel like its four boyfriends and their lesbian best friend???

zolu: obvious but all the stuff between luffy and zoro at the baratie is the highlight for me “i need you zoro”

sanuso: a small moment, but they share a look while zoro is recovering that feels very loving and intimate, also usopp is defending sanji joining the crew right off the bat (gay)

sanlu: all the gay looks while luffy is recruiting another boyfriend, also sanji takes his shirt off to save luffy what?? also when sanji shows up to join luffy screams with joy

usolu: when usopp is like, immediately attached to luffy and luffy is like “i like you!” its so gay

zosan: all the bitchy gay “old married couple” flirting of course

zosopp: when zoro wakes up and usopp is like “i took all those fishmen down!” and zoro is like “the great capt usopp!” its so cute!!

and thats just from memory! there are so many other little moments between the four of them like HOW CAN YOU SEE THEM AND NOT THINK THEY ARE DATING AM I JUST INSANE?? THESE PIRATES ARE ALL GAY RIGHT??

[wakeupthemembersofbylernation]

One of the reasons I believe a lot of people are so aggressively threatened, freaked out, and even offended by the concept of a gay or bi Mike is because then they’d have to face the fact that queer people are just people. Which, duh. Of course, they are! But Mike Wheeler, at least in the first season (and sorta the second season), is THE main character. He’s THE guy.

It’s what turned Finn Wolfhard into a heartthrob and fast-tracked him to starring roles in movies like It and Ghostbusters: Afterlife. For people who grew up loving 80s childhood adventure movies, on which the Duffers based their show, Mike Wheeler is Elliot from E.T. He’s Mikey from The Goonies. He’s Marty from Back to the Future. He’s Luke from A New Hope. In other words, he’s the kind of young sci-fi hero every boy dreamed of becoming. I mean, who wouldn’t want to find out that magic/the supernatural is real, go on an insane, life-changing adventure with their friends, stand up to bad guys, and fall in love with a girl with superpowers in the span of a week?!

Other than being nerdy/into D&D (which is honestly not that far from being a theatre kid, tbh)/hj, kinda melodramatic, and somewhat unathletic (affectionate), there’s nothing about Mike Wheeler that radiates gayness on the surface. Plus, he’s the protagonist! In Season 1 we experience most new things through his eyes. That makes him the audience surrogate character, so how can the audience surrogate character be (gasps) GAY?! That’s OBviously impossible. He’s just a guy. He’s just a dude. He’s just a person. He’s just the boy next door.

And if queer people are just people, then that means ANYONE could potentially be queer. Even your younger sister. Even your best friend, who has no stereotypically gay traits, plays football, and has a girlfriend. Even your children (gasps). Even you (am I gay quizzes? were born from fears like this). That’s terrifying for people who expect the world, and the media they consume, to be black-and-white.

People like boxes. They like things that are safe. Every time general audiences are introduced to a new character they fully assume the character is straight, even if they aren’t shown to have any interest in girls (like Will) unless they are an obvious stereotype, say the words, “I’m gay,” or explicitly make out with a boy (even then, some people will still try to claim they’re confused or simply “struggling with their sexuality”).

Kevin Keller from Riverdale. Kurt Hummel from Glee. Patrick in The Perks of Being a Wallflower (as much as I love that movie). Carlos in HSMTMTS. These are all characters that are Gay™️. They are almost always the comic relief sidekick, or the gay bestie for the main female character, or some variation of common tropes. Audiences (even homophobic ones) are increasingly used to seeing these types of characters on their screen, but a gay Mike Wheeler would be a different type of character entirely. 

“Mike being gay or bi would just be OUT OF NOWHERE and would be bad writing done just for woke points.” Okay. Aside from the fact that it would simply NOT be out of nowhere (gestures wildly at the Byler Proof Slides), let’s unpack the phrase “out of nowhere” for a second. Why is something only considered “out of nowhere” when it’s gay and never when it’s straight? Was it out of nowhere for Dustin to find a girlfriend while at camp? Is the resurrection of Stancy out of nowhere? And to the people who are still somehow convinced that Will Byers isn’t gay, just “maturing slower than his friends,” I guarantee you they wouldn’t call it “out of nowhere” for Will to suddenly have a female love interest, even though it clearly would be. They would encourage it, even if it was someone especially ridiculous like El, who is literally his sister, or Max, with whom he’s had almost no on-screen conversations. This is why you see people on TikTok and YouTube who genuinely believe Will’s painting is for the random girl he danced with at Snowball. Talk about out of nowhere!

“But Mike just isn’t gay. Don’t be delusional. Don’t be unrealistic. He is straight. He has only been shown to like El and has one of the most extreme cases of romantic tunnel vision in fiction I’ve ever seen.” Okay, let’s push aside the constant lip stares, the romantically charged conversations with his best friend, the fact that he can’t say or even write, “I love you” to his girlfriend, the ways the Duffers have consistently framed the Will/Mike/El dynamic with love triangle imagery and drawn our attention to this for the entire show, and more (gestures wildly at the Byler proof slides once more!!) for one second. 

The emphasis on “just isn’t” betrays them and their underlying perspectives. Let’s be clear. You can say Robin just isn’t straight because she’s been explicitly confirmed in show and out of show to be lesbian and into girls. You can say Will just isn’t straight because his sexuality has been all but confirmed as well. But you can’t say Mike “just isn’t” gay if the only concrete “proof” you have for this is his (turbulent) relationship with Eleven. Keep in mind. Without Vecna, we don’t have access to the innermost thoughts of any of the characters. All we have to go by is their actions, their words, and the intentional ways the Duffers have coded their characters. Ultimately, people who say this are saying that Mike Wheeler “just isn’t gay” because he doesn’t fit their pre-conceived, ignorant, myopic notions of what a gay person is. Mike “just can’t be” gay in these people’s minds because he hasn’t done any gay “actions,” whatever that even means (that’s why they believe Will- sweet, innocent Will- is a predator/homewrecker because they associate gayness with freakish deviance and see it as something inherently sexual, whereas if Will were a girl with the exact same feelings towards Mike, they’d never in a trillion years see it this way).

In both real life and in fiction, despite all the progress we’ve made as a society, straight is something you’re allowed to just be, by default, regardless of whether you’re dating someone. Gay is something you have to PROVE or “fall into,” and even then it’s treated with incredible suspicion (this is why people who ship Stobin believe Steve can “fix” Robin and make her into boys). Bisexuality is tragically either erased altogether, treated as a joke/a phase, or completely misunderstood (I heard someone say Mike could never be bi because he’d never date Will and El at the same time - what?! That’s not how bisexuality works). And comphet is something entirely baffling to straight audiences. You might as well be saying 2+2 equals armadillo. 

They’d rather believe that he’s just become an asshole, or that Finn Wolfhard has suddenly become a bad actor. Because accepting that Mike Wheeler isn’t straight means accepting that he can be the cool, brave, valiant, kind, caring protagonist of seasons 1 and 2, AND also be madly in love with his best friend. That feels like a bait-and-switch to some people because they don’t see queer people as “normal,” even if they claim they aren’t homophobic. They see queer people as “the other,” as something alien. [Insert Visibly Stereotypical Character Here] can be gay, not MY Mike Wheeler. He’s straight. STRAIGHT.  He’s madly in love with El. He and Will are just friends. JUST friends. Sound like someone?

That’s one of the reasons that Byler will be such powerful, meaningful, representation (aside from just being the only logical explanation for Mike’s weird actions). Byler becoming canon will give hope and provide a voice for the millions of LGBTQ+ kids out there who don’t fit a stereotype or society’s pre-conceived notions but who just happen to not be straight. Mike Wheeler will join Nick Nelson as one of the best LGBTQ+ teens EVER on screen. It will be a cultural reset. And it will hopefully open people’s minds to the beautiful tapestry of humanity. A love story so pure, so beautiful, and so overwhelming that the boy who tried so hard to be “normal” and to deny his feelings for his best friend and the boy who survived bullies, a week in a hellish alternate dimension, and a possession that took over his mind and body had no choice but to go crazy together.

[doberbutts]

I think I saw someone recently say something along the lines of "if a gay man is assaulted and beaten on the streets, that's because he's gay, not because he's a man. If he wasn't gay he wouldn't have been assaulted", with the obvious conclusion here being if a trans man is assaulted it's because he's trans, not a man.

I think this line of thinking fails to acknowledge that while yes, if the gay man wasn't gay he would've been fine, if the trans man wasn't trans... He wouldn't be a man either. You can maybe divorce homosexuality from a cis gay man's manhood (though they're often interconnected concepts), but you can't divorce transness from a trans man's manhood. It's built into it. I'm not sure why so many people act like it's not.

I don't agree with the basis of your gay man argument.

The statement of if he wasn't gay he'd be fine is a loaded one. Would he? How did his hypothetical assault come about? Did people catch him in the act of Being A Homosexual by seeing him kiss or flirt with or fuck another man? Or did they guess based on behavior? Because plenty of straight, cisgender, perisex, GNC men do get attacked by homophobes for any display of non-conforming to patriarchal masculinity. There are more and more men feeling comfortable showing genuine affection and intimacy and love to their male friends without fear of "looking gay"- did this assault happen because a homophobe saw genuine male affection towards other men and guess incorrectly that he was gay?

If he was a gay woman, ie a lesbian, would he have been assaulted in that way? Well... that depends. Some lesbians do catch the same violent gaybashing as gay men. Others get it in a much different way. But I would say that the way people attack gay men and anyone they decide to label or lump in with such is pretty specific to gay men. There's overlap with other demographics, but both the "gay" and the "man" inform the homophobe's actions.

And, much in the same way, it is difficult to separate the gayness from the man portion of it. It's an adjective. One informs the other. Trying to separate them into two distinct concepts is literally the antithesis of what intersectionality is about.