#they're so you can get medicated and get therapy and be labeled by your struggles in terms of recovery

[runby2]

i've grown into this weird category as a mentally ill person where i can no longer stand mentally ill social media circles with people who refuse to heal and use mental illness as an identity and social status but i also can't stand moving to twitter with the people who think they don't have mental illnesses so i'm kind of just stuck here finding the occasional cool people down the lazy river of meeting furries with critical thinking skills . in anyone's defense it was my mistake for touching grass.

[blueraspberrycoke]

Best college research is in USA cost vs degree use which has a list of schools, this gives you the best loan for degree cost of the degree is the goal. Look at that and the subject then online at the best cross matches. Unless you want a social experience mostly then whatever vibes. Listen you know anti-trans bigotry like in your about has NO ethical point in feminism, it's just bigotry.

Thank you for the advice on college :)

I'm not a bigot. I'm not anti-trans. I don't think trans people are inherently evil. But I do not believe you can change your biological sex. I do not believe allowing trans women into women's sports, changing rooms, sexualities (lesbians being pressured to date trans women), etc. is good for women and girls. It's not just a belief I have, it's factually proven to be dangerous to put TW in women's prisons (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) and in bathrooms (1, 2, 3, 4, 5 [5 is written by a trans woman]).

I'm not saying I hate trans people or that I don't trust them or that teens/children who identify as transgender are "broken" or "wrong" like people have said I do. I think we have manipulated an entire generation of lesbians and homosexual boys (though not all trans-identified people are homosexual/bisexual) into believing they have to be the opposite sex. We've lied to dysphoric teens and told them they're going to die if they don't recieve gender-affirming care (see all the posts on the protecttranskids, transgenocide, transrights etc. hashtags).

This is also evident in that anytime you question someone who says trans people are experiencing a genocide, especially a younger person (like a teenager who gets all their information from Instagram and TikTok) they actually can't come up with a single example. Even when they bring up the so-called "anti-trans legislature" being passed in the United States, they can't name any specific bans, because that actually does not exist. What I linked for you is HB1276, which, if you read it, allows minors who underwent sexual reassignment surgery to sue their doctors up to 30 years after they turn 18 for malpractice if they regret surgery. Trans Legislation Tracker labels this an "anti-trans" bill.

They have reason to regret it, too. Lupron, the drug administered in FtM transition to dysphoric females, has painful and sometimes deadly side effects that gender-affirming medical clinics will not disclose with you in full. (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)

Also, a disproportionate amount of FtM females are autistic, homosexual, and depressed. I care especially about these women because I'm eighteen, autistic, and a lesbian, so I really resonate with their pain and struggle. I'm not disgusted by transgender individuals and I'm not angry with them. I feel terrible for them. And I want to help.

What I think we have in the world now is an extreme lack of education. It's harming girls and women my age, when there are more affordable and better options. We've known for a long time doctors will push medicines that don't work/shouldn't be as expensive as they are in order to make money (I'm talking about things like selling insulin for $500 a vial. I'm not talking about things like vaccines.).

If you want to change your name and use other pronouns, cool, fine, whatever. I don't care what you do with your life, your money, and your time. But don't call yourself male or female when you're not. See my pinned post for why doing so harms women and men.

Transgenderism is motivated by misogyny. Go to any of the subreddits created for TW (r/Egg_irl, r/MtF, r/transgender [though that one contains trans men also]) and you'll see in every "How I knew I was trans" post that these people consider being female synonymous with being feminine, and it isn't. I'm not feminine. Does that make me a man? No. It just makes me a nonfeminine woman.

I'm not denying the existence of gender dysphoria. Many of my mutuals are desisted females who still struggle with it. But hormone therapy/SRS (sexual reassignment surgery) are very clearly not the answer. I hope this helps you understand my position better. I also hope I've not come across as condescending or patronizing in any way.

[masterjedilenawrites]

Would you be willing to discuss the Batch and Bois having a s/o with mental health struggles that include excessive sleep and just general 'lazy' behavior? I'm mainly thinking the depressive episodes of bipolar (Which I'm currently going through) But feel free to make it as vague as you want so other people can relate. Even if this outside of your comfort zone, thank you. Your blog, your posts about all of the guys make me feel like I have an actual person there supporting me and making me smile. I hope you never give up on this blog, but I understand if the time comes someday. You're the best, wishing you all the good fortune in the world!

Hi anon! Well, considering I've struggled with depression and some form of executive dysfunction my entire life, being labeled as "lazy" despite that word being utterly useless and dismissive of any real problems, and wishing I had a partner to support me through these health issues... Yes, I will definitely write about our beautiful, strong clones helping us out 😅 Also, tysm for your kind words, it really means a lot to hear how my blog and content have helped others 😊

Fives, Hardcase, and Wrecker are great with motivation and encouragement. They understand you may not have energy every day, but they're very perceptive and can usually tell the difference between being completely incapacitated versus just needing a little pep talk to get going. They are quick to praise any time you do accomplish something, as well as reminding you of those previous victories during any bad days. They are your personal cheerleader.

Cody, Wolffe, and Jesse use Spoon Theory to help them understand how you function, and how they can best navigate a relationship with you. They'll legit ask you how many spoons you have left throughout the day. They may even keep a personal chart for themselves with how many spoons certain tasks usually require so they can gauge when to step in and help you. They never make you feel bad when you're running low.

Tup, Hunter, and Crosshair will adapt to your low-key lifestyle and never push you to do more than you want. You may worry at first, that you're slowing them down or boring them, but they adamantly assure you they are content simply with your presence, no activity needed. Within no time, it feels so natural to have them there as you sleep or zone out, and you don't feel like you are weird because of it.

Fox, Kix, and Tech are concerned and will do whatever they can to help you from a professional stand-point, if you're comfortable with it. Therapy, medication, or even simple adjustments to daily routines is their go-to in supporting you, because they like research and experiments. They just don't want you to be unhappy, so even if you'll never be the energetic, active type, they still want you to enjoy life with whatever aide(s) are useful.

Rex, Echo, and Dogma work hard to help you find balance and structure, so that even when they're away, you don't have to struggle. They pay attention to what works on your good days, and what is a danger to bringing out your bad days. They set reminders for you, they put up cheerful sticky notes, they get pre-prepared meals for you, whatever they can think of to keep the little things from bringing you down.

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[the-apples-were-monitored]

I found as a child that having an autism diagnosis meant no one took me seriously if I complained of mistreatment because obviously I didn't know what I was talking about or I was being too sensitive. As an adult I found being labeled with BPD (a diagnosis I contest as both unfair and sexist) meant all providers of healthcare assumed I was lying for attention. I found during trauma therapy that if I was struggling with sadness or anger throughout the day, my family would accuse me of not taking my medications or not doing the workbooks.

It seems to me that the second something is disgnosed as being in your head, you lose all credibility. My mom wasn't believed when she said her husband was abusive because she's schizophrenic. I'm assumed to be a hypochondriac because I haven't been able to afford testing for chronic illness and have an anxiety diagnosis. Just grateful I was never diagnosed with a fraudulent diagnosis like ODD or that would be continually thrown in my face.

I really need our society to reckon with the way our mental health system can inadvertently cover up abuse. People like to think they can see the truth of things, but bad parents game the system to get their child diagnosed with something so they're off the hook and no one will believe the child. I made this poll so people would know they're not alone and that I believe them.

[noguffchet]

Kreative Writes:

I have struggled to find something to write about that others would find interesting enough to devote their time to reading. It's not easy in today's day and age with all the other flashy, shiny, and more interesting shit that is plastered around every corner we take. I know that if I wish to gain a following I need to step up my content, and give people something to chew on that is worth dedicating their time to.

The truth is it's hard to do that. Catering to an audience of people with content that has substance and can capture the imagination, and persuade them to come back for the next installment is a gift, ... a talent in every sense of the word.

Struggling is something that comes quite easily to me. I've done quite a bit of it throughout my life. I've struggled to find my identity, my individuality. I struggle in my relationships because I tend to run away from my problems because of a complete lack of healthy coping skills. I've struggled with drug addiction and alcoholism since I was a teen. I mean the list goes on and on.

My extreme self-awareness leaves me with no excuses as to why I'm not dealing with these negative forces in my life. If you know what the problem is, and you don't remedy it, are you ultimately asserting a form of complacency and compliance?

Yes, and no. I don't believe it's all that simple. The gray area is too vast, the questions regarding the formation of these character defects are not concrete and thus leave me searching for evidence-based explanations. I know that it's my responsibility to find the answers but knowing where to begin searching is yet another personal struggle I face.

With that said, I feel like perhaps writing about my experiences and sharing them with people I've never met, who don't know me personally, well, maybe it will help me find whatever it is that I'm looking for. I've used writing in my past as a form of therapy, a way of taking my fears and anxieties and dumping them out onto the page. Getting them out in the open so they aren't locked up inside of my head, trapped by an unwillingness to let others know that I'm feeling that way.

Yes, I am guilty of not wanting to show any signs of weakness or fear. It's a fear of forfeiting my respect from others like I'm admitting that I can't do things on my own. I almost feel as if my independence is at stake like I'll be viewed as incapable of taking care of myself.

I know it sounds fucking crazy but my issues with this are deeply rooted in my mother's mental illness and watching her get stripped of her freedom, her children, her entire world, and having to be hospitalized until she was deemed fit to return to society. I developed a terrible fear of having a similar situation happening to me and as a result, I shied away from showing any kind of inclination that I might need help with my problems, and I certainly was not going to see a shrink or have anything to do with services for mental health.

I distanced myself completely citing reasons like " I don't want to take medication that might make me feel worse" or "those doctors are full of shit and don't care about your problems, they're just looking to push meds on you for the pharmaceutical companies and get their kickbacks". Truth be told, I was petrified that if I did go see a mental health professional they might actually find something was wrong with me, and then I would have to deal with that being my new reality.

In my skewed and twisted thought process, I couldn't risk being labeled as crazy. So as you can see my issues are deep-seated and rooted in fear.

I turned internalization and avoidance into an art form, and is a running theme throughout my life. More on that at a later date. Ok, so we've covered a good amount of stuff, and I feel like this blog might do at the least 1 of 3 things.

1) it could be a great way to just get some much-needed relief from the insecurities that I harbor even now in my mid-thirties.

2) put out some content that might help someone else that's dealing with some similar issues, which is great if that's the outcome.

3) this blog might be interesting enough to gain readership and hey why would I complain about that. So that's all for now, I'm off to have what's sure to be a looong weekend. Enjoy yours! ✍🏻

[thequintessentialqueer]

I've suspected that I'm on the spectrum for a while but feel weird about self diagnosing and talking to my friends about it and was wondering if you would mind talking about your personal experience with self diagnosis? Also how debilitated must a person be to have this? And can the amount they are debilitated vary depending on what else they're coping with and still be valid?

I’m formally diagnosed as ADHD-I and suspected to be on the autism spectrum, but not officially diagnosed. I was diagnosed as ADHD after fifteen hours of testing. they also said they had considered autism spectrum disorder as a second diagnosis, as my childhood profile matched perfectly. the reason they ruled it out? well, ADHD and autism have a lot of overlap in symptoms and traits, so they wanted to treat my ADHD before diagnosing anything else. okay, fair. ADHD and autism are very frequently comorbid, but fine. I can accept that. but their other reason? “you write poetry and have an interest in activism. those are not typical for people with autism, as they require abstract thinking and empathy.” here’s my take: if the only reason I wasn’t diagnosed as autistic is because my special interests/hyperfixations aren’t fucking stereotypes (because contrary to popular belief, autistic people are human beings with varied interests and passions…….who knew???), I can confidently say that those reasons are terrible. if those are the only things that prevented the diagnosis for a disorder I otherwise match perfectly, well, then I AM autistic. their reasons were outdated, ignorant, and uninformed. I have many autistic friends who share my interests and my commitment to activism: they are valid, and so am I. and so are you. the thing about diagnosis is that regardless of whether you do it, or your family doctor does it, or a specialist does it, it all comes down to examining your history and experiences and matching them to a list of traits that are frequently shared by people with that label. there’s no magic to it. there’s no trick. it’s just asking “do you experience this?” “has this happened to you?” “do you think about this in this way?” and answering honestly. there are definitely benefits to formal diagnosis. being diagnosed as ADHD means I can access medication that helps me manage my symptoms and exist more comfortably and well within a world that wasn’t designed for me. but with autism, I was never looking for a treatment. I don’t want to be medicated or cured. I don’t want to be put through abusive therapy designed to make me act allistic. learning about autism on my own terms and finding community online helped me fill in the gaps in my life and work through the shame and discomfort and humiliation that I grew up with. it gave me affirmation, coping strategies, and people who I could relate to. for me, that was all I needed, and I didn’t need a doctor to diagnose me in order to access it. sometimes formal diagnosis is necessary to access the help you need, but if that’s not what you’re looking for, and you can’t or don’t want to go through the diagnostic process (where unfortunately you’re very likely to encounter a lot of ignorance and ableism), you don’t have to put yourself through that. you know yourself. you’ve done the research. you exist in an age where all of medical knowledge is a click away, and if all you want is a word for how your brain operates, and a community of people who get you, well, then welcome! you’re here! you’ve found it! and yes, circumstances will have an impact on how debilitating your symptoms can be. I know that with my ADHD, I have much worse symptoms when I’m sleep deprived, hungry, stressed, etc. it’s also understood that environmental factors have a huge impact (upbringing, family life, education, support systems, etc). I was raised by very disorganized, chaotic parents (one of whom is now diagnosed as ADHD as well, and the other who is considering seeking diagnosis): as such, my biggest struggles are with tidiness, planning, time management, etc. at the same time, my mum’s realization that I was very unusual, and her choice to home-educate me to spare me from bullying and being made to feel like a failure in an academic environment had a hugely positive impact on me. she nurtured my special interests, helped me follow my passions, didn’t force me to do things that made me miserable (even including eating foods that gave me sensory issues: to this day, she always makes sure to cook me something she knows I can eat without being distressed!), and affirmed my worth in every possible way. a lot of adhd and autistic (and otherwise neurodivergent) kids grow up with very low self-esteem because they’re made to feel inferior within a system that wasn’t built for them. I know with adhd in particular, the drop-out rates, alcohol and drug abuse rates, incarceration rates, etc are very high compared to non-adhd people. I credit my academic success in my late teens and adulthood to my mum; if I had been in school my whole life, I wouldn’t have believed in myself and the results could have been catastrophic. what is disabling in one situation can be an asset in another; yes, ADHD and ASD come with impairments and challenges. sometimes really fucking huge ones. but a lot of the things that we struggle with are socially constructed and enforced, not innate to us. we live in a society that demands that we work and/or go to school full time; that we hold a job in order to survive; that we focus on and do things that don’t interest us; that we be able to socialize based on very specific parameters; that we constrict our emotions in public and only express them in ways that are considered acceptable to neurotypicals. we live in a world that is not designed for our brains, and that world makes our impairments disabling/debilitating. anyway, massively long response just to say that self-diagnosis is valid. I would still recommend getting some kind of counselling or therapy if you’re able to, just because growing up autistic or otherwise neurodivergent comes with a lot of pain, and it can really help to work through it with someone whose job it is to listen. (just keep in mind that there are a LOT of awful therapists out there and you should never stay with one who you don’t feel you can trust or talk to. the first thing my old therapist told me when I met her was that if I didn’t feel like she was the right fit for me, I could make an appointment with someone else and she wouldn’t be hurt at all, because it’s about my wellbeing above all else). at the end of the day, this is about your wellbeing. so if autism as a word feels like home, you’re home. find others like you and share with each other the joys and the pains of having this kind of brain. look for resources online. figure out what works for you and what doesn’t. use this knowledge and this identity to try to create a life for yourself that isn’t always hurting you.