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helluvabunch · 4 months

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"it's a trauma response" and "it's a shitty way to treat someone" are not mutually exclusive btw ✨

#i can be UNDERSTANDING of trauma without making it a get out of jail free card #i can empathize with them because of trauma. the trauma wasnt their fault. how they handle it is in their hands though #how they want to grow from here and the way they treat people is still their responsibility #i say as very much a trauma bitch myself #yes of course this is about stolitz #full moon spoilers #helluva boss spoilers #we hold people accountable for their actions in this household while also treating them with care and dignity #in real life too in real life too i love my traumatized chosen family and so i will not infantilise them #trauma has controlled our lives enough thank you i dont need it to make my loved ones feel they cant tell me when ive been shitty #i love them i want them to expect to be treated well. yknow?#i want to expect better of myself and for them to expect i want to be better #yknow?#so i get irked when people equate 'trauma response' to 'completely outside of the persons control forever'#anywaaayyys ✨✨✨#rant in tags #trauma response #which is also why i personally find it delicious that blitz tries to say sorry at the end #makes me wonder... is that another layer of trauma response? or was he fully genuine after seeing the hurt?#yummy

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labyrinthofthestar · 13 days

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da*2. is a game

#more thoughts below here be warned. i really enjoyed the introductory sequence and how it juxtaposed varric's dramatized version with the #real sequence of events. i also enjoy how they tied in lothering. imo id say the game has a really solid start. i also really enjoy the #visuals and stylistic direction of the game- i'd even go so far as to say i largely prefer it to inquisition (its just the oilyness LMFAO)#esp with the qunari and how they look.. less so with the proportions of the elves* (something that really irked me in inquisition is how #harold is forced to have the very clearly downscaled proportions while the elvish npcs (solas sera and basically every other elf #you interact with) dont have the slouched shoulders and very? crumpled looking frame). dont like that youre forced only to play as a human #though its very obvious that they were not given a reasonable amount of time to actually finish the game because OH MY GOD the reused #locations. the story was fairly solid at the start but the game is incredibly short (im in act 3 at the end of 2 days of playing) esp in #comp to origins. everything feels vaguely disconnected in a way thats uncharacteristic of bioware with the context of having played dao dai #and some of me1. and introducing the timeskips did Not help. i can see why people got absolutely attached to the companions however #with the system of friend + rival and it producing dichotomic benefits. rivalmances apparently existing also creates a really fun way of #interacting with your companions. i like anders #anyways completely unprompted thoughts on da2 over thank you for your time (i just needed somewhere to put them or i would go insane)

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bisaster-energy · 1 year

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people who hc cas as this just. guy that helps dean with his issues and trauma. why are you living that "no one cares that you're broken cas" life. why are you not caring about him.

#this isn't even a complete thought tbh #just irks me a lil bit when cas is normal adjusted guy that helps the ever fucked up and sad dean with HIS problems #Cas has his own shit?? The only person that thinks cas is fine is cas tbh #he's like yeah Sam and Dean are so damaged...I'm ok tho *is suicidal and self-loathing*#the thing about destiel is that they are both so incredibly fucked up that's what makes it so compelling!!#u diminish cas' character by writing an au where dean is like. Spiralling while cas is some normal guy #with maybe occasional loneliness. where is the obsession #where is the ego death. where's the ptsd the generational trauma. where is the need to run away.#where is the self flagellation where is the heart shattering feeling of never quite belonging.#Disclaimer write and think wtv you want I'm just so emotional about cas being his own person and get sad and mad about it

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jellybeanium124 · 24 days

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I like the picrew I just did but can we talk about how the bigger body type is not even plus sized. like I took the base model the picrew gives you when you open it and put them in their underwear so you can see their body clearly:

like that's like a US women's size 2 and a US women's size 10. XXS vs. medium. Incredibly Skinny vs. Real Humans Look Like That Actually.

I just... this artist is talented, and this is an amazing picrew in so many other ways. it has actually diverse skin tones and hair, most importantly. less importantly, there's so many clothing and accessorizing options. it's a very well made picrew, one of the best, dare I say, as a picrew connoisseur. and yet it betrays the fatphobia at the heart of society, where the skinny option is unquestionably underweight, and the "bigger" option is someone who's a bit slimmer than me.

the picrew maker uses the terms "body A" and "body B" rather than referring to the two options as anything else. but when I see someone on tumblr using this picrew, linking it for a game or making characters with it, they near unanimously use and link body A and never body B. this is not the maker's fault, obviously. but it goes to show that even though they almost certainly intentionally avoided words like "skinny" "normal" or "plus sized," we've decided which of these two body types is the normal one, and it's the version that isn't normal in reality.

I don't really like using the word "normal" here, especially when it comes to people's literal bodies. referring to body B as "normal" betrays fatphobia. I mean, the idea of deciding a certain body type is normal and another isn't is fatphobia. and body B is still relatively skinny! I think a better word here is "common." which of these two body types is more common in reality? body B. those are much more common proportions to have. and yet people make themselves with A, link A in their picrew chains, and make characters with A. even though, statistically, most of us do not look like that.

#nina rambles #this has been irking me for a while #runway model versus me if I lost maybe 15 pounds

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ratatatastic · 14 days

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wait what was the media storm during game 7?

media storm as in after going up 3 and dropping the ball the next 3 there was a lot of headlines/media attention that was bandwagoning on edm and calling the cats the worst sports meltdown in history because of the possibility of a reverse sweep when in their opinion the cats shouldve closed this out long before and pauls talked about it right after winning the cup especially the whole TURN THE TVS OFF episode

and montys mentioned walking in on game 7 and seeing the tvs still on when they were supposed to be off (presumably because of said media from what we know of because of what paul said)

lets not even mention how pro-edm a lot of the tnt panel was even during the series and spittin chiclets was notoriously very pro-edm its why during the cam&strick podcast when they bring up the whole "do you pay attention to media? do you know whos on your side?" to ekky (especially considering how much pressure they were under the whole finals) that ekky brings up the spittin chiclets podcast like "i saw all those spittin chiclets guys all over edms bandwagon" and then proceeds to try not elaborate too much about it

#ask #its a culmination of recency bias momentum and how much media attention edm naturally brings being from a country that deifies its players #ive been meaning to transcript that section for a while now #but i kept looking at the timestamp and i was like ughhhh its so long (its only 2 minutes but still >>)#because i think its one of the more fascinating takes we've seen on cats players talking about the finals #because for the most part players are like well it doesnt matter now we won!!!#or we'll we didnt pay attention to it THAT much we just focused on our game we knew we were gonna close it out one way or another #and to a certain extent im sure that is true #but also you cant tell me theres no way a part of you wasnt a little irked about the whole THE PANTHERS ARE A MESS 😱😱😱#also because a lot of hockey podcasts at least the bigger ones tend to be run by ex players so like you know #anyways i really just think ekky is so insightful and has fascinating thoughts is all #does any of this make sense

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topicaltropic · 3 months

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oops! all wips

#dndads #1st img is morgan . tried to solidify the type of person that would marry glenn & jodie and its like #manic pixie dream girl meets wife under bedsheets. fun loving carefree extremely irresponsible i imagine shes as much a bad mom as glenn is #a bad dad #close family dinner for each day of the week #i imagine its very depressing cool for kids sad for adult/college life meals #i had like a pmv/animatic of tmbg erase to nicks everything but ill never finish it sadge!#comic in the middle i was gonna do like a immediately after the final where willys defeated and schools out for summer norm and scary run #into eachother while theyre walking home #and scary would ask whats wrong and normal would be like #well knowing that the entire world ended because of me has been sort of weighing #on me yeah“ and then scary would go ”normal...do you wish that *was* the reason?“ which would lead normal getting dumbstuck cuz she hits #the nail on the hammer. and then hes incredibly defensive and hes like uh b buh NO !!! MAYBE !!! and scary would share her experience #but itd make normal more resentful cuz hed be like well it all worked out for you in the end with you and your dad and you mom who all love #you. and then scary would get irked and start to call him out but then now that the bottles been uncorked his resentment would start #spilling out.#“you burned my house down! i thought it was *my* family that had the connection with the doodler ! but why- when- ”#and normal would be so frustrated and he couldnt get his words out and hed refuse to look at scary while she looks at him w/ the hardest #look of conflicted sympathy and pain #and all she could say would be stop comparing yourself to me and shed mean that in the most compassionate way possible and norm would just #be like i know #and then the bus would come and scary would have to go but shed look back and then be like “am i still coming over saturday to play #and him busy crying would just give a thumbs up #god now that i write this out maybe i will draw it i have a little bit of time left why not #to me i think scarys someone normal would have the easiest time being mean to #one because of his latent misogyny and this like unconscious superciliousness he holds towards her yet shes the one receiving the #validation he sorely craves and knowing if theres anyone he could talk to and whos understand what hes going through its her so though he #isnt able to be emotionally vulnerable or engage in a deeper level but he does feel comfortable enough to lash out at her #last pic is if nick woke up post doodlerized and found himself on cassandras couch (where the teens placed him) and shes there to greet him

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todayisafridaynight · 5 months

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Going off the rules of sonic heroes if we were to trioize the jimas saejima’d obvi fit the power role but now we have to ask what roles majima and daigo fit cause on the one hand i believe majima could pilot a helicopter if he wanted to but on the other hand attributing ‘fly’ to daigo is another case of cruel and unusual punishment

#snap chats #i was gonna say ‘speed’ usually is given to the leader but vectors the leader of the chaotix not espio #vector my best friend ……..#im gonna say majima can get fly cause of that helicopter bullshit he do. you can have that majima #daigo just feels like hes too ‘balanced’ of a guy to be speed tho …. oh well #speed for. WR in how quick you can get shot into your chairmanship idk #FASTEST HAND IN THE EAST WAIT naw we got it. it checks out #well done team our impulsive assignment spurred by a tweet has been done efficiently #its so funny calling the jimas a trio cause since KH im lowkey sick of the word trio 💀💀💀#i dont even know why ….. it just irked me after a while …..#doesnt make any sense literally nonsensical it was just a feeling id get #thats what i hate about feelings you cant explain or justify them cause Theyre Feelings tf #you can TRY to explain them but theyre involuntary in the end and theres no objective cause for them. do we know what im saying.#im gonna go work now bye

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terresdebrume · 3 months

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Abruptly reminded of the (straight) woman at a birthday pool party who complained that the hotel next door didn't allow women on the basis of it being a place that specifically caters to gay men because 'all spaces are men spaces already' and I'm still inarticulately angry about it tbh

#Matt has a life #Queer stuff #Shit from home #The irony of course is that I'm annoyed at her statement while fully aware most people would consider me unwelcome there #at the moment #but I'm still irked #and I can't articulate why

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quibbs126 · 1 year

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I think it would be neat if we had a story in where like, the ninja all get separated into different places (my best excuse currently is the Merge), and Lloyd ends up somewhere now powerless and all alone, and the only thing that he could rely on to survive and fight is his Oni form, and so he has this journey where he has to rely on his Oni form, and throughout this journey he grows to accept it

I don’t think I worded it the best, but basically what I’m getting at is Lloyd being forced to acknowledge his Oni form, and thus his heritage, instead of rejecting it in favor of his dragon side (edit: okay they don’t really mention him being part dragon ever, but I mean that he only deals with the good side, always rejecting his Oni side), and through this learning to accept it, and likely control it

(Also I think it would be cool to see him use his Oni form after this journey, and while it’s not his main form of attack, he’d use it somewhat regularly and has far more control over it than just be a raging beast. I mean, maybe he doesn’t talk in that form and it is still generally destructive, but he can go in and out of it whenever he wants and won’t attack his friends)

#I dunno but it kind of irks me how Ninjago in general talks about there being a balance #but every time they reject the evil side in favor of total good #like the Oni and Dragons are meant to be a balance #but the Dragons are pretty much always cast as objectively good while the Oni are objectively evil #(with the exception of Mystake but the show doesn’t really acknowledge her)#and Crystalized kind of has Lloyd just ignoring the problem instead of dealing with it #when it comes to his heritage I mean #I want him to learn to accept it #I’d also accept a time skip where Lloyd uses his Oni form and has made peace with it offscreen #and then later on we could see how this happened #but Dragons Rising doesn’t seem to be going that route #this was more in my head before the new trailers came out #but I still thought it was neat #ninjago #ninjago lloyd #lloyd garmadon #random stuff

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moe-broey · 2 months

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No context but I got So distracted. I did not set out to do All That today. I don't even know where the fuck I am anymore. It was all an impulse decision and I didn't even write down the second distraction because it was So Strong. In my mind. But then a second distraction hit my two braincells. I have no idea whwre I am anymore. I was just gonna whip up a shitpost doodle and then go back to my main project. I never even got to the shitpost doodle. 🧍

#okay fine full context. i was hit w a vision last night due to a pet peeve like No Hate but Damn #people will really just put any guy in this specific format. and obvs epic trans headcanons forever i have nothing but respect 🫡#but like. it just irked me and made me ask myself Well. who WOULD fit this format in my beautiful mind palace #who. in my mind. has LAYERS of lore surrounding my trans hc for him. who would fucking say that. some sort of mentor perhaps #and who would ASK him that. what would PROMPT that. under WHAT PLAUSIBLE CONDITIONS #esp i think bc the topic makes me so fucking dysphoric too i go insane and die 1000 deaths about it routinely #to the point where i straight up almost never talk about it. i refuse to even acknowledge it.#which is. i think why this got to me so much LMFAOOOOOO I'M. ANGRY. HOW DARE YOU HAVE FUN WHILE I'M DYING. BADLY.#in a way that i just could never allow myself to have fun w bc I Am Above It. you CANNOT get me. i'm WINNING.#takumi has too much pride so not him. moe has too much pride so not it either.#no.... this is. a job. for Bruno.......#and sharena my best friend sharena my sillie goofy about to jump to the most INSANE conclusion bestie sharena 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺#but then. realization. i have to revisit my 'back in the day' designs for the askr sibs and ESP bruno.#and honestly i just needed to completely revamp him. okay. no probalm! 👍 i am revisiting my back in the day alfonse hcs #really Thinking about them. i doodle One Thing about how if alfonse wants to build any muscle #he needs proper nutrition. he is SCRAWNY. he is TWIGGY. he only has weight in his thighs abd really not as much as he shoulf #i get distractef. i am making a comic. anna is there. she is also a mentor. the comic is about learning life skills/food #I REMEMBER WHAT HAPPENS. I CAN'T FORGET. I NEED TO GO. GOODBYE #worte it down but alsp i got plans i gotta go for REAL. GOODGBEY

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the-official-account · 3 months

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This is like. Not important. But why is male wei wuxian always happily bisexual in fic but ciswap wei wuxian is always a stupid closeted lesbian who didn't realize her attraction to men was fake. And the same authors will do both of these things?

#the untamed #as a bisexual reader its like just a little but shitty.#like i'll read a good comphet story once in a while but. but women can have other reasons to engage in a slow burn romance that aren't comp #and in fact experience the same range of emotions & conflict as men. idk! Idk!!#is it to bad if a rule-63d wei wuxian has happilly gotten dicked down before?#what if we loved women more than we hated men #edil vents #lush vents #i knooooowwww this is not important but it irks me #biphobia

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ftmbruce · 6 months

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dick grayson categorically does NOT have "eldest daughter syndrome." sorry if that hurts your feelings or whatever but i understand him on a more personal level and i would not describe him with that whatsoever.

#as the oldest of 10 the phrase has always irked me and i can't exactly articulate why other than being transmasc #that might be the whole reason who knows #but even taking the phrase at face value i think it is intrinsically about mothering tasks that oldest daughters are expected to do #like genuine caretaking #yes he was damians guardian for a while but thats. simply not the same thing #if u wanna call him that fine whatever i guess its not hurting anyone but i just think it's doing a disservice to the actaul complexities #of his relationships with his brothers #and honestly all the reasons people say he has it is just. like normal eldest sibling pressures and expectations #yes bruce isn't necessarily a normal parent but still.#i think things ive done like caring for infants doing kids homework making dinner doing laundry paying for groceries and field trips #thankless unpaid babysitting no personal space no privacy #is more relevant to the phrase then the things people say about dick #whatever tbis is just off the cuff dont come at me with a genuine argument because i dont have one #or do ill listen to your case i just dont have the energy to make mine #dick grayson

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spioderman · 8 months

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thinking about how the haunting of hill house tv series rlly is kind of in conversation with the book. like the book is about the experience of feeling isolated and depressed and the way it overcomes your life and it contemplates the fantasy of running away and forgetting your problems while the show says gently yes, you are isolated, alone and afraid. you are wounded but you are not in an unfixable situation. you are loved whether you are alive or dead. you can change the future, and you can heal. there was love and there can be again.

#once again i love both #the book speaks to me a lot more #and there are some clumsy parts of the show that irk me #but its central message about kindness and forgiveness still gets me so much!#ik flanagan has discussed it but yeah. the book feels like it is about the experience of depression/mental health issues #while the show is from the perspective of someone watching it happen to someone else. and trying to be there for them #while also being afraid of whatever is hurting them #the haunting of hill house #mespeaks

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mazojo · 1 year

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What's yuri's personality then? Being gay?

About Minho, being mean and making mean two liners towards Kitty every in between?

ma'am this is a McDonalds drive thru