#trust الله decisions

[eternal-gardens]

[philosopher-blog]

الخوف، هذا الشعور الذي يتسلل إلى قلوبنا ويخترق أفكارنا، ورغم أنه قد يكون ضروريًا في بعض الحالات لحمايتنا، إلا أنه قد يكون أيضًا عائقًا يعيقنا عن تحقيق أهدافنا واستكشاف قدراتنا الحقيقية. عندما نقول إن الخوف هو توقف للطاقة، فإننا نعني أنه يأخذ منا القدرة على التقدم والتطور، حيث يجعلنا نتراجع ونتخلى عن طموحاتنا.

الخوف يشير دائمًا إلى التعلق بالمستقبل، بما قد يحدث وبما نخشى فقدانه. وهو عبارة عن تفاعل داخلي يعكس قدرتنا على التصدي للمخاطر والمشاكل المحتملة. لكن عندما يسيطر الخوف علينا بشكل غير مبرر، يصبح عائقًا يمنعنا من التقدم والنمو.

لذا، الحل الأمثل للتخلص من الخوف هو أن نذكر أنفسنا باستمرار بأهدافنا وطموحاتنا وقدرتنا على التحكم بمصيرنا. عندما نركز على إرادتنا وقدرتنا على تحقيق ما نريد، نقلل من تأثير الخوف على قراراتنا ونتحكم في حياتنا بشكل أفضل.

الإيمان بالإله يلعب دورًا كبيرًا في تجاوز الخوف وتحويله إلى حذر وحكمة. عندما نثق بقضاء الله وقدرته على رعايتنا وحمايتنا، نجد الطمأنينة والسكينة في قلوبنا. ومن هذه الثقة ينبع الحذر الذي يعيننا على تجنب المخاطر دون أن نسمح للخوف بالسيطرة علينا.

الخوف يمكن أن يكون عاملا دافعا لتحقيق النجاح، إذ يدفعنا لتجاوز حدودنا والتحدي وبذل المزيد من جهودنا. لكن عندما يصبح الخوف سببًا للتوقف والانقياد، يصبح ضارًا بنا. لذلك من المهم أن نتذكر دائمًا أن الحياة تحمل في طياتها تحديات وصعوبات، ولكن مع الإرادة والثقة بالنفس يمكننا التغلب على أي مصدر للخوف يعترض طريقنا.

فلسفيًا، يمكننا أن نرى الخوف كدرجة من درجات الوعي الإنساني، التي تدفعنا للاهتمام والتأمل في حقيقة وجودنا وعمق تجاربنا. الخوف يجعلنا ندرك جوانب من ذواتنا قد لا نكون قد تفكرنا فيها من قبل، ويدفعنا للبحث عن حلول لهذه الجوانب التي تثيرها.

لذا، فلنستخدم الخوف كمحفز لتحقيق أهدافنا وتطوير ذواتنا، وليكن لدينا الحكمة اللازمة للتفكير بوعي في كيفية التعامل مع هذا الشعور. بثقتنا في أنفسنا وبالإرادة الإلهية التي تقودنا، سنكون قادرين على تحويل الخوف إلى حذر والحذر إلى حكمة، وبالتالي تحقيق التوازن النفسي الذي يساعدنا على النمو والازدهار.

Fear, this feeling that creeps into our hearts and penetrates our thoughts, and although it may be necessary in some cases to protect us, it may also be an obstacle that prevents us from achieving our goals and discovering our true capabilities. When we say that fear is a cessation of energy, we mean that it takes away from us the ability to progress and develop, as it makes us retreat and abandon our ambitions.

Fear always refers to attachment to the future, to what might happen and to what we fear losing. It is an internal interaction that reflects our ability to address potential risks and problems. But when fear controls us unjustifiably, it becomes an obstacle that prevents us from progressing and growing.

Therefore, the best solution to get rid of fear is to constantly remind ourselves of our goals, ambitions, and our ability to control our destiny. When we focus on our will and ability to achieve what we want, we reduce the influence of fear on our decisions and take better control of our lives.

Belief in God plays a major role in alleviating fear and transforming it into caution and wisdom. When we trust in God's will and ability to care for and protect us, we find reassurance and tranquility in our hearts. From this confidence stems caution, which helps us avoid risks without allowing fear to control us.

Fear can be a driving factor for success, pushing us to push our limits and challenge our efforts. But when fear becomes a reason to stop and submit, it becomes harmful to us. Therefore, it is important to always remember that life carries with it challenges and difficulties, but with will and self-confidence, we can overcome any source of fear that comes our way.

Philosophically, we can see fear as a level of human consciousness, which prompts us to pay attention and reflect on the truth of our existence and the depth of our experiences. Fear makes us realize aspects of ourselves that we may not have thought about before, and pushes us to search for solutions to these aspects that it raises.

So, let us use fear as a motivation to achieve our goals and develop ourselves, and have the wisdom necessary to consciously think about how to deal with this feeling. With our confidence in our achievement and in the divine will that guides us, we will be able to transform fear into caution and caution into wisdom, thus achieving a psychological balance that helps us grow and prosper.

[strangerindunya403]

My husband abused me in the past ( kick, slap, punch) but he denied it and we have a child together. What should I do ? ;(

I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this. It's important to prioritize your safety and well-being, as well as your child's. I’m no alim or mufti/shaykh to have any verdict or final say but what I do know is that domestic violence is not acceptable in Islam. Consider reaching out to a trusted imam or Muslim counselor for guidance on how to proceed. They can provide you with resources and support to help you make the best decision for yourself and your child.

إن شاء الله

May Allah swt make it easy for you , Ameen

[shufah]

The man I have been trying to marry for years has agreed to marry someone his family chose. He tried for years with me and fought for me but at that time there was always something going on on my side, I’m really hurt by this and so is he as we both really wanted to get married to each other. I still do. He has no hope as my family have rejected him because of different ethnicity which I find unfair. It seems as if it’s impossible now. I don’t know if I should carry on making duaa for us as I can see how much pain he is in, we don’t talk to each other anymore as we both want to do everything in the way that pleases Allah. He tried for years when I fell short, I want to not talk to him but in my duaas I want to do everything I possibly could do. I’m really shattered right now, I feel as if all doors have closed. I know this is a test, please remember us in your Duaas😭

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته ،

honestly, i avoided answering this ask because i had no idea what to say so i recruited the advice of a friend which i will relay to you.

‘our whole life follows Allāh swt plan. you plan and you plan but eventually Allāh swt plan is the one that gets executed. happiness is when Allah's plan confirms with your dreams or desires, but when it doesn't, that is not sadness or misery or heartbreak, that's actually a blessing. obviously (and unfortunately in human standards), you and this brother are not meant for each other. Allāh swt is the only one who knows why. you just have to believe it in your heart that this is khayr for you and you try to put all your trust in Allah's decision, and try to move on with your life and let him move on with his in peace too. & be sure, if Allāh swt did not allow this thing to happen for you it is because He swt has a better thing saved for you, and Allāh swt knows best.’

all i’d add is that it must be painful accepting that you& this brother didn’t work out. but, stay hopeful & patient because there might be everything you’re looking for right around the corner :)

[http-suteki-da-ne]

ibrahim's speech for our wedding

وَمِنۡ اٰيٰتِهٖۤ اَنۡ خَلَقَ لَكُمۡ مِّنۡ اَنۡفُسِكُمۡ اَزۡوَاجًا لِّتَسۡكُنُوۡۤا اِلَيۡهَا وَجَعَلَ

بَيۡنَكُمۡ مَّوَدَّةً وَّرَحۡمَةً  ؕ اِنَّ فِىۡ ذٰ لِكَ لَاٰيٰتٍ لِّقَوۡمٍ يَّتَفَكَّرُوۡنَ

ٱلسَّـــلَامْ عَلَیْـــکُمْ وَرَحْمَــتُــہ ٱللّٰهِ وَبَــرَکَاتُــہُ

My dear respected elders brothers and sisters

We praise Allah swt for this blessed day, many of us are extremely grateful. Yet at the same time baffled how our beloved brother reached this stage. Alhamdulillah

Now the verse I recited to you

وَمِنۡ اٰيٰتِهٖۤ اَنۡ خَلَقَ لَكُمۡ مِّنۡ اَنۡفُسِكُمۡ اَزۡوَاجًا

He swt says. And of his signs is that he created for you spouses from amongst yourselves

لِّتَسۡكُنُوۡۤا اِلَيۡهَا

So that you may find tranquility comfort in them

وَجَعَلَ بَيۡنَكُمۡ مَّوَدَّةً وَّرَحۡمَةً

And he has created love and kindness between you.

اِنَّ فِىۡ ذٰ لِكَ لَاٰيٰتٍ لِّقَوۡمٍ يَّتَفَكَّرُوۡنَ

Verily in this there is sign for those of you who ponder

As today is a special day for my dearest most nearest brother and sister. i wanted to share a few words on this virtious life changing endeavour.

O my dear brother have taqwa.

Fear Allah in regards to yourself and your spouse.

And know you will no longer face hardships alone. partners to eachother . your happiness is hers and her griefs are yours. you will be together for the rest of your lives as well as in firdaus al ala the highest ranks of paradise inshaAllah. you are a trust to eachother so fulfill the trust.

And rememember your lord in every moment in every decision in every act and deed.

so that he may place within it his blessings and mercy. and if Allah swt mercy descends upon you. you will be successful not only in your marraige but in your ivlihood in your provisions in your families and in your children. You will have happiness and peace and attain his paradise.

هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّـكُمۡ وَاَنۡـتُمۡ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ

They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them.

meaning she will be a home for you .and you will be a home for her.

you will be eachothers comfort. happiness

let us end by congratulating the both of them and supplicating to our lord

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اللهم لك الحمد حمدا كثيرا طيبا مباركا فيه

اللهم لك الحمد حمدا كثيرا طيبا مباركا فيه مباركا عليه كما يحب ربنا ويرضى

الحمد لله الذي خلق السماوات والارض وجعل الظلمات والنور

الحمد لله رب العالمين الرحمن الرحيم مالك يوم الدين لا اله الا انت تفعل ما تريد اللهم انت الله لا اله الا انت الغني ونحن الفقراء

اللهم صل على محمد وعلى ال محمد كما صليت على ابراهيم وعلى ال ابراهيم انك حميد مجيد اللهم بارك على محمد وعلى ال محمد كما باركت على ابراهيم وعلى ال ابراهيم انك حميد مجيد

اللهم انا نسالك بأنا نشهد انك انت الله لا اله الا انت الاحد الصمد الذي لم يلد ولم يولد ولم يكن له كفوا احد

اللهم انا نسالك بان لك الحمد لا اله الا انت المنان بديع السماوات يا ذا الجلال والاكرام يا حي يا قيوم

نسالك با الله افتح لنا أبواب الخير

و أبواب السلامة

وأبواب الصحة و انعمة و البركة

وأبواب القوة

وأبواب المودة و الرحمة

وأبواب الرزق

وأبواب العلم

وأبواب المغفرة

وأبواب الجنة

يا الرحم الراحمين

اللَّهُمَّ آتنا نَفوسنا تَقْوَاهَا، وَزَكِّهَا أَنْتَ خَيْرُ مَنْ زَكَّاهَا. أَنْتَ وَلِيُّهَا وَمَوْلَاهَا. اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّا نعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ عِلْمٍ لَا يَنْفَعُ، وَمِنْ قَلْبٍ لَا يَخْشَعُ، وَمِنْ نَفْسٍ لَا تَشْبَعُ، وَمِنْ دَعْوَةٍ لَا يُسْتَجَابُ لَهَا

ربنا هب لنا من ازواجنا وذنياتنا قره عين وجعلنا للمتقين اماما

ربنا في الدنيا حسنه وفي الاخره حسنه عذاب النار

ربنا لا تؤاخذنا ان نسينا او اخطانا ربنا ولا تحمل علينا يصون كما حملته على الذين من قبلنا ربنا ولا تحملنا ما لا طاقه لنا به واعف عنا واغفر لنا وارحمنا انت مولانا انصرنا علي لقوم الكافرين اللهم

ربنا لا تزغ قلوبنا بعد اذ هديتنا ما هب لنا من لدنك رحمه انك انت الوهاب

اللهم اهدنا فيمن هديت وعرفنا فيمن عافيت وتولنا فيمن توليت وبارك لنا فيما اعطيت وقنا وصفعنا الشر ما قضيت انك تقضي ولا يقضى عليك انه لا يذل من ولا يعز من عديت تباركت ربنا وتعاليت نستغفرك اللهم ونتوب اليك

اللهم اهدنا بهداية القران

اللهم ارزقنا حب القرآن

وشفاعة القران

وعلم القران

وهدي القرآن

وهدي القران

وغنا القران

اللهم ار��قنا سكينة القران

و ارزقنا العمل بما في القرآن

اللهم اجعل القران العظيم لنا شفيعا

وفي القبر مؤنسا

وفي الجنة رفيقا

وعلي الصراط نورا

ومن النار سترا وحجابا

Ya Allah bless them and make this blessed union everlasting.

Ya Allah shower them in your mercy and forgiveness

Ya Allah grant them happiness, comfort and contentment in each other.

Ya Allah, bless their marriage and let it be a means for the them to become closer to You

Ya bless them their families and children

Ya Allah, let their marriage be a pathway to your paradise

Ya Allah, protect their marriage from the whisperings of Shaytan.

Ya Allah bless them with children who will be a great source of joy to them and be a light to the world.

Ya Allah as you have united them in this life unite them in your paradise,

اللهم الف بين قلوبنا واصلح ذات بيننا واهلنا سبل السلام نجنا من الظلمات ننور وجنبنا الفواحش ما ظهر منها وما بطن ملكنا في اسماعنا وابصارنا وقلوبنا وازواجنا وذرياتنا وتب علينا انك انت التواب الرحيم

اللهم اقسم لنا من خشيتك ما تحول به بيننا وبين معاصيك ومن طاعتك ما تبلغنا به جنتك ومن اليقين ما تهون به علينا مصائب الدنيا متعنا باسماعنا وابصارنا وقوتنا ما احييتنا واجعله وارث منا وجعل ثارنا على من ظلمنا و انصر اعلى من عادانا ولا تجعل المصيبه في ديننا ولا تجعل الدنيا اكبر همنا ولا مبلغ علمنا ولا تسلط علينا من لا يرحمنا

اللهم انصر الاسلام والمسلمين اللهم منصور الاسلام والمسلمين اللهم اعز الاسلام والمسلمين واذل الشرك والمشركين في كل بلد ومكان يا ارحم الراحمي

اللهم بلغنا رمضان

و صلى الله تعلى على خير خلقه محمد وعلى اله وصحبه اجمعين

لا اله الا الله حليم كريم سبحان الله رب العرش العظيم ان الحمد لله رب العالمين اسالك بموجبات رحمتك وعزائم مغفره وعصبه من كل ذنب والغنيمه من كل بر والسلامه من كل اسم لا تدع لنا ذنبا انا غفرته ولا هما الا فرجت ولا كربا الا نفسةه ولا ضرا الا كشفته ولا حاجه هي لك رضا الا قضيتها يا ارحم الراحمين

سبحان ربك ورب العزه عما يصفون والسلام على المرسلين الحمد لله رب

[onceuponadreamofyou]

فبما رحمةٍ من الله لنت لهم، ولو كنت فظاً غليظَ القلبِ لانفضوا من حولك

فاعفُ عنهم واستغفر لهم وشاورهم في الأمر، فإذا عزمت فتوكل على الله

إن الله يحب المتوكلين

"It is out of Allah’s mercy that you ˹O Prophet˺ have been lenient with them. Had you been cruel or hard-hearted, they would have certainly abandoned you. So pardon them, ask Allah’s forgiveness for them, and consult with them in ˹conducting˺ matters. Once you make a decision, put your trust in Allah. Surely Allah loves those who trust in Him."

‏ ال عمران، ١٥٩

Al Imran, 159

[asthaghfirallah]

22/02/2023. 09:47. "LEAVE YOUR AFFAIRS TO الله~ Sometimes we forget that we're not in control of our affairs because we despair so much when things don't go our way. We forget that in every thing that we want to do or to have, there are trials that would come before actually getting it, getting what we want in this dunya isn't as easy as picking a fruit from a tree, but it will feel like you'll be lost in the midst of the ocean through storm and sunny weather waiting for the waves to bring you to the shore. We plan, but Allah plans, and Allah is the Best of all planners. Either you give up or hold on to what you want in this world, make sure you put your heart at ease by always remembering that everything is upon your Lord's Will and Decision and you should trust Him, and ask Him only for strength and goodness of everything. Don't lose hope, even in the whale's belly there was hope! The journey may be tough and long but trust the One who has already written your destiny even before you were born. He knows. Just put your trust in Him indeed He said He loves those who put their trust in Him. HasbunAllaah wa ni'mal wakeel. حَسْبُنَا اللَّهُ وَنِعْمَ الْوَكِيلُ ''Allah (Alone) is Sufficient for us, and (He is) the Best Disposer of affairs. "" https://www.instagram.com/p/Co860DOJmmy/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[mindofserenity]

As salamu alykum sister , How was your familes reacts to you accepting Islam being a Muslimah in the family?

My was not as servere as many reverts goes through, although we all go through the similar struggles. They are supportive to my decisions and seeing me doing good and way better than before. Currently my situation is still they don't really understand it , and I don't have have the knowledge to clarify to them properly yet. Still very baby steps learning stage after 4 years , subhan Allah. You don't really have to answer this question if you don't feel comfortable too. I know people might ask it a lot lol.

May Allah SWT grant you with the best and with your familes in Jannah Al Firdaws. Ameen. 🤍

وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته 🌹

‎آمین and may Allah ‎ﷻ grant you the same as what you have asked for me.

It is hard to deny that part of my journey was greatly affected by my family. It took a very long time for them to accept my conversion and to trust that what I’m doing, or trying to do, is nothing but good. It was very difficult, to say the least. I cannot count the number of times I’ve heard all kinds of comments, remarks and questions, asking me to go back to how things were. Not so long ago that my extended family had only found out and after discussing with them الحمدلله they trusted me.

These things always take time. It was going through this experience I learned what sabr and tawakkul truly mean. When every day is a test of patience, character, and reliance. Taking baby steps is what I always advise, it’s a gradual process for you and your family and there’s nothing wrong if you need a little more time. Keep learning at your own pace, it also took me 4 years to finally revert.

May Allah make things easy for you, and bless you with his guidance and knowledge‎ آمین

[philosopher-blog]

القوس والسهم رمزان جميلان يمثلان الحياة بكل تنوعاتها وتحدياتها. عندما نفكر في القوس، نرى الاحتمالات التي تمتد أمامنا، وهي كل تلك الفرص والخيارات التي نملكها لنقوم باتخاذ القرارات. أما السهم، فيمثل النوايا والأهداف التي نسعى لتحقيقها في حياتنا.

عندما نتمكن من توحيد الاحتمالات التي تتاح لنا مع نوايانا الصادقة، نصبح جاهزين لإطلاق النفس نحو تحقيق أهدافنا. بالتعاون بين القوس (الاحتمالات) والسهم (النوايا)، نستطيع أن نكون على درب واحد تجاه تحقيق أحلامنا وتحقيق نجاحنا.

بمجرد أن نتحد في وحدة بين احتمالاتنا ونياتنا، نصبح نحن وهدفنا واحدًا. نكون كالسهم الذي يستقر داخل القوس، جاهزين للانطلاق نحو مسارنا بكل قوة وثقة. وهنا يكون لدينا الوعي بأن النتيجة ليست دائماً في أيدينا، فنحن نبذل قصارى جهدنا ونضربها في القوس نحو الهدف، لكن باعتقاد أن النتيجة النهائية بيد قادر على كل شيء.

إذا وفقنا لتحقيق الهدف، فلنكن سعداء لأن الله سدد رميتنا وجعلنا نصل إلى حلمنا. وإذا لم تتحقق النتيجة المرجوة، فلنعتبر ذلك درسًا وفرصة للعودة والمحاولة من جديد، ومرارًا وتكرارًا. يجب علينا أن نحفظ في قلوبنا أن الاستمرارية والإصرار هما مفتاح تحقيق النجاح في حياتنا.

لذا، عندما نشعر بأننا فقدنا السيطرة على الهدف، علينا أن نثق بالقدر وأن نواصل السعي بكل ثقة وإيمان. فالنجاح ليس فقط في الوصول إلى الهدف، بل في الرحلة ذاتها، في كل تجربة ودرس نستفيدها على طول الطريق. وعلينا أن نتذكر دائمًا أننا لسنا وحدنا في هذه الرحلة، بل نحن بين يدي الله الذي يهدينا ويوجهنا نحو ما هو خير لنا.

لذا، دعونا نعتبر الحياة مثل رحلة السهم من القوس، حيث يستوجب علينا التركيز والتوجيه والصبر والإيمان. فقط عندما نكون جاهزين لقبول مسارات الحياة بكل اختلافاتها، نستطيع الارتقاء وتحقيق ما نصبو إليه. ولنتذكر دائمًا أن التحديات ليست سوى فرص للنمو والتقدم، وأن كل نجاح أو فشل هو درس يعلمنا المزيد عن ذواتنا وقدراتنا.

فلنعيش حياتنا بقوة وتصميم، محافظين على اتزان بين الاحتمالات والنوايا، وثقتنا بأن كل ما يحدث له سبب وهدف في هذا الكون العجيب. ولنكن مستعدين لإطلاق النفس نحو أحلامنا بكل شجاعة وثقة، عالمين أن النجاح يبدأ من الداخل ويتسلق بخطى ثابتة نحو القمة.

The bow and arrow are two beautiful symbols that represent life in all its diversity and challenges. When we think about Sagittarius, we see the possibilities that extend before us, which are all the opportunities and choices we have to make decisions. As for the arrow, it represents the intentions and goals that we seek to achieve in our lives.

When we can unite our possibilities with our sincere intentions, we are ready to launch ourselves toward achieving our goals. By cooperating between the bow (possibilities) and the arrow (intentions), we can be on the same path towards achieving our dreams and achieving our success.

Once we unite in unity our possibilities and our intentions, we and our purpose become one. We are like an arrow resting inside a bow, ready to set off on our path with full strength and confidence. Here we have the awareness that the result is not always in our hands, so we do our best and hit it in the arc towards the goal, but with the belief that the final result is in the hands of the All-Powerful.

If we succeed in achieving the goal, let us be happy because God took our shot and made us reach our dream. If the desired result is not achieved, let it be a lesson and an opportunity to go back and try again, again and again. We must keep in our hearts that continuity and persistence are the keys to achieving success in our lives.

So, when we feel that we have lost control of the goal, we have to trust fate and continue striving with confidence and faith. Success is not only in reaching the goal, but in the journey itself, in every experience and lesson we learn along the way. We must always remember that we are not alone on this journey, but rather we are in the hands of God who guides us and directs us towards what is best for us.

So, let us consider life as an arrow's journey from a bow, requiring focus, direction, patience and faith. Only when we are ready to accept life's paths with all their differences, can we rise and achieve what we aspire to. Let us always remember that challenges are nothing but opportunities for growth and progress, and that every success or failure is a lesson that teaches us more about ourselves and our abilities.

Let us live our lives with strength and determination, maintaining a balance between possibilities and intentions, and our confidence that everything that happens has a reason and purpose in this wondrous universe. Let us be ready to launch ourselves towards our dreams with courage and confidence, knowing that success begins from within and climbs steadily towards the summit.

[iheartallah]

Assalamualaikum. Hope you are well.

I’m (23F) currently considering a proposal and would perhaps like your views.

The prospect is 25 and lives 4 hours away in the UK; a relative suggested me to his mother. We’ve exchanged pictures, and spoken on a video call. I was happy to then exchange numbers- and I suggested we would speak for a week or so prior to confirming whether we would be happy for families to meet.

He seems nice: mature, funny and calm. He lives separately from his parents, an hour away for his work and visits them fortnightly. His mother is conservative, and wasn’t really happy with the two of us communicating via text ‘alone’. She suggested we make a decision of families meeting within a couple of days of talking instead and that any other questions can be made through our mothers. I understood her view, and I felt what I had seen from him was enough to warrant meeting a family meeting. I also could feel myself getting emotionally attached to him, so I appreciated having the distance.

I have started praying Istikhara. They’ll be coming at the end of the month, and conversations with him and his Mum always go well- smooth and productive.

I’m conscious of the following:

I asked about habits such as smoking and watching pornography. He disclosed to me early on in the days of our conversation that he used to smoke at university, and that he doesn’t do so now. He also disclosed that he used to watch porn, but this has stopped too.

He then voluntarily highlighted that he had also consumed alcohol when he first entered the world of work. He’s provided detail, saying he was never drunk but ‘tipsy’. He isn’t proud of his actions, which he states occurred a handful of times, and he does seem remorseful. He was quite open in discussing the details with me, but asked I do not tell anyone, as his family are unaware. I’ve agreed to not disclose his sin, and thanked him for his honesty. I asked for promises that will not take up smoking, pornography and drinking again, and he has done so.

FYI- He asserts that he is a virgin, and has never been in a relationship. My older brother has spoken to him and approves of his character.

As someone who has abstained from these things, I am feeling a little confused. I expected the smoking and porn, it has cropped up with every potential I have spoken to. I’m nervous that he would turn back to drink, even though he has assured me that he will not. I haven’t disclosed anything to my mother, but I mentioned to her that potentials can promise anything before marriage- but once I’m in his care, they can switch. She emphasised that this is a matter of Tawakkul, and having trust in Allah’s plan with Istikhara.

It comforts me that he volunteered this information, and our discussion has been frank about it. He seems like a good person, who perhaps fell wayward in the past, but I’m nervous to marry him trusting only his word. It might be worth noting that my father is not in the picture, and this has led to incredible caution on my part, almost where I tend to overthink each proposal to saying no. In a way, the non-communication is not helping matters.

Of course, no being on this earth can tell me what the marriage will be like lol, but I would appreciate your thoughts on the above.

Alikum Salam

Best of luck for the meeting – I hope it goes well inShaAllah

The below answer is based on my personal opinion - I am not a person of knowledge and this is not a fatwa

Your mother is absolutely right. Have tawakkul in Allah and He will grant you the person that you are destined to be with and that is best for you

I would suggest not asking any potential in the future (in case it doesn’t work out with this one) about things such as whether or not he has watched porn; if the potential doesn’t answer you truly, they will be lying and if they do answer you, they are disclosing their sin; both of these actions are disliked by Allah hence its best to not put someone in such a spot. I would strongly advice against it in light of the below hadith

The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “My entire nation is safe, except Al-Mujahirin (those who boast of their sins). Among the Mujaharah is that a man commits an (evil) act, and wakes up in the morning while Allah has kept his (sin) a secret, he says: “O Fulan! Last night I did this and that.” He goes to sleep while Allah has kept his (sin) a secret but he wakes up in the morning and uncovers what Allah has kept a secret!” [Saheeh Al-Bukhari]

Also remember that any sin someone has committed is in the past and if Allah wills, He can wipe their slate clean and grant them renewed guidance & closeness to Him. Remember the example of our beloved Umar RadiAllahuAnh who was among the sinner before He accepted islam but later on, became the man who was among those promise paradise in this world itself; Allah is the one who can turn hearts away from guidance but also towards it! Hence, personally I would steer away from judging a potential from “sins/mistakes” they have committed in the past.

Marriage is all about trust and you would anyways have to trust your potential future spouse in many regards, not only this particular situation. The reason you are all the more sensitive about it is because it is with regard to drinking. My advice would be go with the flow in this regard and for now (as you are in the very early stages of getting to know each other) take his word for it - as you get to know him more in the future, you will be in a better position to assess whether or not he is a man of his word and can be trust - just make sure to not get emotionally attached (as this will cloud your judgement).

Allah has already written the name of your spouse next to yours many thousand years before the earth was even created; there is no way that can ever change. Do you best due diligence within allowable means, do istikhara and lots of dua and ask Allah for guidance in this regard. In the end, only Allah’s will can prevail and He will grant you the absolute best inShaAllah Ameen. I wish you the best and hope and pray you are granted a spouse that becomes the means of your success in this world and the next (Ameen)

No amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself for the outcome of all affairs is determined by the decree of Allah. If something is meant to go elsewhere, it will never come on your way, but if it is yours by destiny, from you it cannot flee.” - Umar ibn al Khattab رضي الله عنه

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[bintturaab]

Assalamu Alaykum, I been having difficulty making this decision and insha’Allah if you can give me some advice on it that would be great.

What’s your opinion on a sister wanting go to college(online, insha’Allah) but is hesitant due to the fear of not having enough time to seek Islamic knowledge? Also, do you think it’s of any benefit?

وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته

Okay, so, first of all, I firmly believe that educated believers are definitely an asset to this ummah. There is so much you can do when you possess knowledge/skills in a specialised/various fields. If your intention behind what you're studying is to aid the ummah, whether it's through financial means, dawah or whatever else, then bi idhnillah your education would be counted as ibadah. That's the beauty of our religion; the intention shapes and defines an action.

With that said, whatever field of education one chooses to pursue (after careful deliberation that this will bring benefit), it can't be done in a haram way. Co-ed unis/colleges in a secular/kafir environment contains so much fitnah and haram. Idc how many arguments people bring forward, I've witnessed it myself and I cannot, for the life of me, find any justifications for it. May Allah forgive us and rectify our affairs. However, if it's online, then that's awesome because there's none of the on-campus haram/fitnah involved unless your coursework includes you having to do haram stuff.

So, I think, a sister should definitely go to college online, but think about what subject you're going to study, if you like that subject, if that aligns with your future plans and if that would prove to be beneficial. There are plenty of stuff out there that would be an amazing skill to acquire, but also plenty of stuff out there that is nothing but a waste of time. So I'd suggest, make a pros and cons list, think it over, make istikhara and shura, discuss with trusted people and then decide. I feel like it's very important for women to be educated to survive in this current world, because unfortunately a LOT of Muslim men nowadays are nowhere near what a Muslim man should be, and take advantage of the vulnerabilities of women. But, I also feel that being educated is important as a mother as well, it'll help you raise your child better; oversee their education and homeschool, if necessary.

As for the issue of not having enough time for seeking ilm, I'd say that depends. Online classes can be very hectic, but if you plan out your courses - how many you'll take per semester/term (if you've got that option), and if you divide time and days accordingly, I think it's possible to balance it out and do both. It would also depend on what subject you're studying and how much time you'd have to give outside class time. Time management and course organisation is the key to balance between deen & dunya studies. At least according to me. You can also pursue Islamic education on a university/college level if that's an available option for you.

I hope this helps in some way. May Allah make things easy for you, ameen.

[hswritten]

فاذا عزمت فتوکل علی الله

when you have taken a decision,put your trust in Allah 🌹❤

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Allah SWT says: يقول الله تعالى: ۖ إِنِ الْحُكْمُ إِلَّا لِلَّهِ ۖ عَلَيْهِ تَوَكَّلْتُ ۖ وَعَلَيْهِ فَلْيَتَوَكَّلِ الْمُتَوَكِّلُونَ" "The decision rests only with Allah. In Him, I put my trust and let all those that trust, put their trust in Him." (QS. Yusuf 12: Verse 67) Аллах говорит: "Решение принимает только Аллаха. На Него одного я уповаю, и пусть только на Него уповают уповаюшне." ( СК.Сура 12, стихи 67)