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#STS A Thing Called Trust: An Issue

Having your trust betrayed can be commonly a "not-so-good" experience, cause indeed, some people may and still find it difficult to give, sometimes.

I once remember if trusting in someone also means me believing in their sincerity and giving them an option to hurt myself. Little did I know, it becomes inimical to the ship I am sailing when someone I "trust" is proven spilling what I expect to be "exclusive".

I believe each individual has their way to cope with this -if they call it a concern, cause some may not categorize it so since they can heal as quick as a flash, or even better; some did not spend any single sec to look it that way. (Good for you!)

Yet, because this written talk is about my personal point of view of this "thing", I will call it as an issue, and I will share with you how I see it and -probably solve it in terms of my personality.

I am grown to be a reflective person and learning about my self is always a to-do list. So I know what I am typing right now is the result of those self-learning sessions myself held.

It's considered a struggle for me to fully let someone in. I might be seemed so friendly and open to many people, but note that they don't get inside, the door is not as wide as the fence. Naturally, I was born as an outgoing person and luckily blessed to have other people come, reach and open up with me.

On the other side, it took me some time before I can feel completely comfortable with someone and approve if I can share my trust. 

And once I have every confidence in others and might find refraction on it, it is again another struggle because I don't want to appear to have trust issues to them. Again, my selflessness dominate, which happens many times. I don’t want them to feel distant and at the same time hoping to please them by sharing my trust. What a fact about me!

Believe me, as a perfectionist, it's tricky to share with someone my life as it is full of flaws and may take time for me to accept a judgment so easily.

Then what happens if I found my trust broken?

Well, disconnecting with them may hurt me more than that, and habitually I will only take this as a lesson (surely connecting doesn't always mean to keep your trust!). However, personally, I usually give so many chances and opportunities for someone to change (if they want or seem to want another chance from me) and maybe mend the commitment, cause forgiving is something I am routinely making a habit. And by that, I feel responsible for my action and give others the same things.

A note for myself which is just popped up right now, maybe setting clearer boundaries can help me finding the right people to count on and rely on. Most people trust because they get trust. But maybe getting trust from others does not become a reason to send them my trust in a knee jerk reaction. I better bring this last point on my next self-learning class tho! :)

Thank you for reading to this point. Know that you're loved.

SLS, KL 22082020

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#SML (Not-so) Minimalist Fashion: An Intermezzo

Been a while, huh? I have wanted to talk about this since months ago, yes, you read it right, months with “s”, referring how long it was. I will just start it all now I guess.

Check your closet now! See and count how many clothing pieces you have! A lot? Not really?

Well, you don’t have to give me the answer right now. I believe it’s you, yourself who need the answer. Let’s reflect on how much we spent or how often we used each and every piece of those. Again, it's not for me you shall answer, it’s you, and obviously I also need to give myself those answers.

I did not know when or how it all begins, but if you have been to my place or talked to me, you will notice a thing or two about “my clothing habits”. I love shopping and spending time picking what to purchase, but I did not always end up buying that even-though I did not limit myself at all I promise. I was very picky in every purchase not because I did not find the cute top or minimalist bottom, nor a pink little stationary and rose-pink jewelry. (Yes, I just describe my type of favorite items to you, Readers! :3). Automatically, without me realizing, my brain not only started to calculate but also analyze deep down. The legit discussion that I tried to guess happening on my brain are:

Do I need this? Do I like this? Is the color belongs to my personal color palette? Do I have the same color in this fashion category? Do I want to spend this much on this purchase? Do I have it on my monthly budget? Well, I think they are all most of those.

I did try to always grant myself an appreciation since I know myself work hard, which also a thing I like to tell my friends about, appreciate, and say thanks to yourself. I will talk about this later, on different occasions. So, yes, let me repeat, I did always give budget on my self-entertainment as I noted on my monthly financial plan and report. I aim for myself to go shopping or just basically make myself happy. And like I said, I love shopping and so I think it’s suitably right to be on the list.

But anew, after I get attracted by a thing, a top, a skirt, artsy stuff, or whatever, my Megamind naturally works without a delay. It is not my soul, I believe. After hours in the shopping mall, I could just wrap up buying nothing since the stuff that my sight wanted to have is not approved by my intellectual organ. 

Those many questions (listed before) need all to be answered with the confident yes, not maybe. Yet what shocking me the most is, my heart just let the brain work. It seems welcoming that decision. Alright, you may start making an inquiry now to me on why I would talk to you about this. Hmm, I have no exact response to your why honestly. LOL.

I am not trying to dictate you all to push your sense to copy mine, cause as much as I maybe want it, it will never happen, right? I ain't have the freedom to do so. Just in case. Yup, just in case. (I love the term and use it a lot, I know.)

Just in case you, who read this, are actually on the state of confusion about why your closet is so full, or why you spent too much on clothing, why it's so hard to make a single fashion purchase, or why it's so hard to arrange your closet or any point that one can think of and surely relate to this.

I would like to remind you of a situation I would always try to remind myself of every single stuff I have. All of the items we have will be examined in the Afterlife, and for everything you own, you will be responsible till the death bring you back to God. Yes, this statement may only be applicable if you trust religion and if you have faith that you are created by the Almighty for a reason.

There are definitely a lot-of topics and titles coming up on my brain monitor literally while finishing this one right now, but I think I will just give a full-stop here. I may see you in another post! Thank you for giving me the most precious thing in your life, your time.

May this talk is transferred to you well! I will come up with a new post about the tips on "not-so-minimalist wardrobe rules". Hopefully soon! InsyaaAllah!

Know that you’re loved, KL, August 2020 SLS

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MY S(ELECTION) #my-abroad-election-experience

You might hear already some stories related to Election Day abroad these days. Or you might not? 

 And far as I know, we can call it true, that on the election like few days ago, many of us face self-struggle, including us, Indonesian living away from Indonesia. Some decided to take a lead on themselves and said no to take part as they felt no confidence in any future decision of our new president. Yet, some had no choice but to trust this moment, including myself. 

Hours of waiting in the crowd actually made me a little mad. 

Despite of being delighted to be able gather with a lot lot lot fellow Indonesians, the uncomfortable feeling was dominated. No proper meal was given to my dear stomach on that day, had some working hours done before, and got stuck in the middle of human sea under the sun. Please, draw my description in your brain! I might fall and lose my consciences, I thought. 

I was not the only one, many people around my standing point felt the same way. Many of us (now I use “us” cause we share the same condition at the end), created curfew for that tiring lining. Saying to ourselves, whatever happened, at five we should take-off. I followed that “give-up” idea as I in all probability predicted to be fainted shortly. 

The crowd was definitely not surprising if you are Indonesian though. 

Some people would sing Indonesian songs (the vibe was somehow like a concert), some complaining, some just throwing their smile for unspecific reasons, some biting their nails (in idiomatic situation) and some chatting with new mates they just made a friend with, typical Indonesian, right? Sometimes they played a popular Indonesian song such as Selow or Lagi Cantik. Yes, expected us to sing along for sure. 

Giving details no more, in a nutshell, we made it to the voting box where we face a real situation -

where a single chance was given away in five-years basis. To those who did enough research and preparation, they unquestionable only needed secs. However, some didn't, so either they would choose randomly or trust their current gut for that gambling /again/ once in five years-chance. Well, at least even you give one number the benefit of a doubt, you were still one-step forward. 

What I was trying to describe was I am sure I understand every citizen struggle about this big day of our country, at least when we did this like here, in Malaysia, where around 500 thousand Indonesians resides. 

And for those who win the battle and got to choose, I wanted to tell you, I am so proud of you, so does Indonesia, I believe. 

And for those who didn't, I don't want to write any bad words here in my website. LOL For those my dear Indonesian darlings living in Indonesia, please please please make your effort to go to TPS/voting place, where you have sooo many around you. I bet some even only spend a very little calories to walk some steps to choose. Doesn’t it? Yes, I kindly remind you to be grateful! It's not next election you or me can choose again, right? None knows.

I hope I misheard but some disbelieve the future presidency would even affect their life especially when you live abroad. And for that, I didn't read enough books or learn many materials related yet, still I accept as true it definitely will touch us, directly or indirectly. 

And back to you who stay peacefully where we all belong, trust me, our voice matters. Yours, mine, will make a difference to this final decision. 

 Anyway, while writing this an idea popped-up a sentence for those who does not want to vote. I would say, please you, don't say any word of complain to our government since you even doesn't use your smaller “responsibility” to help the country, so why complaining the new presidency? Thank you! KL, April 16th, Before Working Sella Lametta ♡

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Tips: How to (Happily) Learn English?

Not a pro yet, well, even for Bahasa (my-mother-tongue) I will never call myself a pro.

So here in this post, I plan to share or talk or randomly type on something that I hope can be useful for those who want to learn English and be confident with it. This has been a talking topic, I have with some friends and therefore I believe it might be also useful for those of you, whether you call me a friend or not (yet). Some of these tips might ring a bell, still, let’s scroll a little bit and you will see the content! Enjoy!

1. Read English stuff

If reading is an American Got Talents’ contestant, I believe it will receive 4 yeses and a golden button.  Reading is like a matter life and death important in any language! On your own or even other’s, for fun or serious, reading is coming in handy.

“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.” — Dr. Seuss

For myself, I admit if reading can help vocabulary, improve my memory and focus and it is just fun to do, right? However, I learned from my own self, that it will be more trusted if you see the scientific reasons behind any statement especially when it comes to something with a behavior-change expectation. I don’t want to give the benefit of the doubt, that is why I have listed some points below for you to “read”. Let’s say the title will be “The Function of Reading”.

1. Reading Reduces Stress (http://www.kumon.co.uk/blog/reading-reduces-stress-levels/ and https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/health/news/5070874/Reading-can-help-reduce-stress.html)

2. Reading Stimulates Brain (https://www.rd.com/culture/benefits-of-reading/)

3. Reading Expands your Vocabulary (http://www.csun.edu/~krowlands/Content/Academic_Resources/Reading/Useful%20Articles/Cunningham-What%20Reading%20Does%20for%20the%20Mind.pdf)

4. Reading Improves your Focus and Concentration (https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn7298-info-mania-dents-iq-more-than-marijuana/ from www.neuronation.com)

If you are not far cry from me who could be hypnotized my research summary like up above, let’s go indulge in enough good books now, to learn the language (or just learn anything)!

2. Get More Touch with It (English)

I am convinced if more folks have more experiences surfing the web than the sea. Me, myself, access search engine almost every day, for helping me throughout the daily challenge of brain stuck. However, peeps, I think this point is somehow less useful because you all have been using English in browsing or social media, am I right? LOL

3. Virtual tools

As far as I remember, I use a language app to learn another language I had or currently have an interest at, such as Arabic, German, Korean, French, Spanish and Vietnamese. For that, I recommended Duolingo.

For English only, I am focusing myself to learn more on reading and listening long text or talks and so I’m having an app called LEB English (available in play store) for my daily supplement.

I am also into “idioms” and have a big desire to hit the books about it every single date. I spare some time on the go for “Knudge. Me”, a mobile-app for learning the English idioms (which is also available in PlayStore).

4. Write them down!

Every time I read a novel or text with a fancy word in English or other languages I am learning, I always like always to write it down in a distinct notebook, or any space possible. The act of writing helps the information stuck in our brains better. Also, this can be applied when you hear something in those languages or talks, go write them down as it will train our ear for certain accents (which can be a hack for your pronunciation issues) and support you improve your focus.

5. Learn and Get Entertained

Another modest yet exciting thing you can do if you want to nail a language is by maximizing the usage of entertainment. I learned from many ways in pop culture to advance each major skill in English/language, such as:

a. Listening : songs, movies, talk-shows, audio-books. The good news is all of them are as easy as ABC in the search of YouTube.

b. Reading: magazines, short stories, web articles related to your hobby and interest. Also, easily by typing your concern in Google.

c. Speaking : Well, I am not so sure, but I do singing for this!

d. Writing : (If you use the subtitle, you might notice how to form a sentence or write a word, kind of)

6. Talk to Yourself!

I have no number in mind if you ask me how often I am to speak to myself in front of mirror in English. Cause I do it all the time.

For practicing new word, I just knew, or forming a random talk, practicing my speech or literally just spread a personal sharing, I am talking to myself in front or not to mirror and consider it as the best practice for speaking if:

a. You have no friend to practice (I absolutely sure to recommend you get friends who are also willing to learn English or at least help at the drop of a hat).

b. You want to practice without any specific talk or time.

Wonder how I do this?

Now, the ball is in your court! It is up to you to make the next step!

I will be writing again later soon because I think it might be too long for you read at once, I love your eyes, so give it a rest! See you super soon, InsyaAllah peeps!

Make sure if you know that I will be happy as a calm to help and discuss you on this, just drop a comment or find me in another platform! Remember, every cloud has a silver!

Thank you! 

Sella Lametta ♡

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A State My Name Refers : Beatitude

It’s going to be very personal kind of writing, so you can’t expect anything kkkk 

Happiness. The first thing comes up to my mind every time I read this word is myself (so self-oriented? No noo!). If you check out up there, this writing made by Sella Lametta (my name, yes!), the first word there was originally taken from the world “sela-lu bahagia” or literally means “always happy”. So, since I get more numbers in my age, I finally contended a deeper meaning my parents actually tried to deliver through my name. 

I suppose myself to be born as a source of happiness for people. 

And since then, I know I could easily enjoy every second of my life if I fulfill that duty -making people happy by my presence. In short, I always try to do my best in accomplishing my goals and my dreams, that’s most likely to tick a point where I can make people happy. I struggled very hard every time possible to make people I love happy, that being said, I can gain my happiness too.

However, after living this world for more than 20 years, I have started to understand, that there are more people that own their expectation from me -to make them happy. Most of the time, I will per se place those names I love and respect to the list of “people-whom-i-should-give-the-happiness”. But more and more experiences told me if there are just some that don’t fit the list, by the same term and time than others. 

It might sound cliché. But it is happening right now and turning into my top life-issues. Then, can I just blame those who have trusted and expected me? Is it that I hate them? NO, not at all. 

Not hitting their name on my list is becoming a big question to myself. Why is it hard to make them happy like I usually do? I am mean, aren’t I? 

However, there must be a reason and a lesson of a thing happened. By that fact, I realized, that I was not born to fulfill everyone’s expectation from me. To make them happy might be a cool duty I decide myself to have, but again, forcing myself to fake attitude just to make those people happy, will never make myself happy. 

The important part of happiness, maybe not only limit as to how you can be the source of happiness of others but most importantly is how you can make that oneself -call yourself happy, then you can start to reflect that feeling to your surrounding, no one hurts, no one fakes. 

And those of you, who might not be on top of my concern yet, I am sorry to be too honest in life, to rather stop then fake. I appreciate that so much. I might just need more time to learn to make myself and other names happy first, before helping you. Not to worry, every time I failed to make you all happy, I pray to Allah more, to send you much more joy and blessings of life. He is the one and the only true source of happiness, right? 

“And upon Allah rely on, if you should be believers“

To tell you and myself that people rarely behave exactly the way they are imagined to. It is okay for wishing for the best, but please temper our expectations of others. Trust me, it will lead you to a true happiness. 

And lastly, thank you for trusting me so much. Even if this recent situation seems doesn’t work well enough, it is somehow worth it as it taught me to learn more about life and relationship. To that extent, I thank you.

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” ―Bruce Lee 

Sincerely, A selfish-self-oriented-source-of-happiness, a.k.a. Sella

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Why Her (Rapunzel)? #WhatILearnedfromDisney

Several years ago, I write about what we can learn from Beauty and The Beast Movie. While I am strolling around my phone folder, I found this random thought made two years ago, and suddenly ignite my inner self to do the second round of 'what I learned from Disney Princesses'. Anyway, if you are aware that I love them, you are lucky lol. No, I mean you are surely my friends!

Its hard to start my random ideas about what to write right now, so these points are actually summarized from the world of internet ×

She told me...

1. ‘not to stay in my comfort zone’ :

This lead to one of my favorite sanctity of life. I don't find myself grow as much in typical 'comfort zone'. Rather I make every new challenging zone to be as comfortable. I don't know if you have a clue about what I mean but it’s not a lie that I can just stay at home and enjoying what’s offer without trial myself. 

2. ‘that hobbies make us cool’ : 

I am not sure having many hobbies are considered cool to all people. Yet, reflecting to my own self who extremely excited to learn many things -which list them to be so-called hobbies-, they make me ‘cool’. We both entertained ourselves with paints, cooks, cleans, plays guitar, dances, sketches, diy (she makes candles), and other physical activities. Being creative is way to live and be grateful of life itself. I believe lifetime will be a lot more colorful by being a man of all seasons!

3. ‘if life is all about petite yet perfect flash’ : 

There are a lot lo lot of small things each and every second, but most of time, I or we, don’t really notice them. So let’s learn from her, to put more and more attention to surroundings. This is also why I enjoy motor-ride than train, since I can have a closer look to people and place, to smell the atmosphere and witness every single move of existence is another perfect moments to learn life.

"Venture outside your comfort zone. The rewards are worth it." — Rapunzel, Tangled

4.

‘to never lose hope’ and ‘be courageous’ : 

She has a goal and it drives her soooo much. She never stops trying. Despite the fact that good life give you routine struggles, let’s face every bit of challenge eagerly. Although it seems that I am very beholden person, it doesn’t make me tend to take things as they are. We all should do too. Some parts of life are meant to what they are, some are meant to be given more effort in order to be what they certainly are. Don’t stop there! 

5. ‘to accept the feeling of missing home’ :

This last one is pretty much self-explanatory. Every single person who leave their comfort zone a.k.a home eventually will miss where they come from, including this small human-being called Me! I don’t literally say I miss my home – I indeed never say that – to anyone. But there’s no way I can lie to myself if I do, and it’s unconditionally a normal thing happen to everyone! 

KL, August 23, 2019

♡ Sel  ﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋﹋ Inspirations: https://www.theodysseyonline.com/life-lessons-tangled-taught-me https://ohmy.disney.com/movies/2014/01/27/life-lessons-from-tangled/

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Cafe Tour: CaFace in Seoul, South Korea

Okay, although I do not want to group myself as "Selfie-Addict", I was not sure if I could skip this trip to "CaFace" and enjoyed a cup of Selfie Latte.

If you are there to find, here is the address:

Hours >12:00pm~10:00pm, Everyday

Address > 서울시 마포구 서교동 358-51 / 358-51 Seogyo-dong, Mapo-gu, Seoul

Phone > 02-3144-8756

Website > https://www.facebook.com/caface.seoul/info/?tab=overview

Some pictures to prove you that I have been there! LOL

Thank you!

Sella Lametta ♡

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First for Me : Live Orchestra

Invitation to Suwon Philharmonic Orchestra

Yes, I do enjoy classical music yet never expected that I might receive this chance to watch it live! Especially abroad!

This concert was held in Ajou University by Christian Professor Association. The event itself was called  "Evening of J.Sibelius" concert and was performed by Suwon Philharmonic Orchestra.  

Hey, this session called "First for Me" is the series of all activities, stories and experiences that happened to me for the first time and most took place during my stay in South Korea. Please share some of your precious time to read this series, ppl! ❣

On this concert, these talented musicians were led by a very famous conductor of the country, Mr. Kim Dae Jin.

I have read some articles about him and found how amazing he is and how lucky I was to be able to watch him as a conductor.

Daejin Kim is a South Korean pianist, an alumnus of The Juilliard School, the first prize winner of the Cleveland Competition, and currently a professor of piano at the Korea National University of Arts and the music director of the Suwon Philharmonic Orchestra.

He is sooooo cool! He even has his own websites > http://daejin.kim/

The performance is so legit and magical I should say. It was something I still remember till today, after almost 3 years.

Here are some photos I took during that unforgettable 2 of December.

Thank you!

Sella Lametta ♡

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Hong Kong : First Timer (Sleeping at Airport Edition)

Hey, it sounds a bit unwise, especially if my mom knew earlier about me, leaving the airport and strolling around a big Hong Kong, all alone but myself.

And thus, I would like to notice you Danger: not to follow this! 😊

I knew I should at least let my parent know if I would trek and enjoy what-so-called “Hong Kong Nightlife” unaccompanied and without any Wi-Fi or any possible way to reach. As I felt bad for this behavior, let’s skip that part in details:”)

I arrived at HKG after a flight that brought me from KL and that to me felt like a “sleepover” in a relative’s house. LOL. Yes, I am sure it was not my first or second time tho 😊 I did write about this in another post, peeps! So, hmm, you know what to do next, don’t you?

Sleeping at Hong Kong Airport

You would find difficulties like me if you wanted to have a decent night sleep. The airport seating which I found were hopeless and unfriendly to let you to stretch out. However, Mr. Google said there was actually some seats and benches without armrests so it would be a perfect place to spend your night, yet the number was very limited (at least for me! No offense!). In another case, if you can sleep while sitting down, you are likely to survive at any airport I must say!

Surely, they provide paid lounges or hotels and if you don’t mind sparing, go for it! 😊

Then, how about my version? What did I do to sleep properly?

I … had no ideas at first. But I found a corner at the 3rd floor (if I could recall my memories well), in front of some shops….. somewhere I could not describe well I know, my bad.

There was like around 6 m.sq space for me to rest happily while lying down, also none would take those areas, because it seemed like a closed territory.

But peeps, be aware because the airport security did their job well! (I mean this). They would wander around and woke you up. That’s why I would like to suggest you pray before sleeping 😊 If you were lucky enough you would wake up naturally not because of someone shouting at you haha.

Other sources said you could find “relaxation rooms, resting rooms, semi-secluded lounge chairs near gates, or comfortable sleeping chairs behind shops near a food court, and lots of armrest-free chairs in out-of-the-way areas”. Nevertheless, in my particular experiences, I did not try hard enough, maybe.

Let me call it a day! I do not have any intention to be an old windbag 😊

The real night at HK will be written at the other post. And many more to come, yes.

Although it was petite, it was like a Road to Damascus to the first timer of sleeping -alone, at the airport, abroad, very-different from my home country-.

I’ll touch base with you the soonest!

Thank you!

Sella Lametta ♡

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Tips : How Can I Apply My Korean Healthy Life Style in Indonesia?

I believe I ever told Tumblr about this before. A year ago? Two years? I forgot

But somehow, at this moment of myself trying to write a post in order to fulfill my own project of Tumblr, all I want to type is about this issue.

It is not a writing made for everyone to know, more than that, with this writing, I am actually talking and reminding my-own-self on how I can be healthier by applying my lifestyle while living in South Korea. Yes, I might have more points on the previous post (and planning to talk deeper about almost all points), but in this posts-series of “TALK TO TUMBLR: How Can I Apply My Korean Healthy Life Style in Indonesia?“, I will be talking more about the practical ways on how to apply the style in my current condition and position. As I mentioned if it is going to be a series, let me start with one of my favorite part of all: MEAL! So, yeah, let’s just get started!

My current self is one who does not have breakfast daily because of laziness. I used to have yogurt, fruit, and cereal back then, sometimes bread. And, milk! For lunch or dinner, I have two conditions though. When I wanted to save money, I had rice (especially Thai rice) with a can of fish! And chili sprinkles to enrich the taste (sent from Indonesia!) or a can of instant porridge! (I almost watered my mouth only by imagining those scenes!) On the other hand, I spent much money on meal LOL It feels like a normal luxury to have Korean / Western / Chinese food! I should not mention all cuisines I ever had there right? So, let’s jump to the most frequently-had one only! Korean food!

Yes, those Korean cuisines mostly will be set with “enough” rice, a lot of vegetables, kimchi (my love <3) and many side dishes. The most favorite menu of mine is fish! I usually had a grilled fish with a lot of raw wrap vegetables. Korean food also not spicy at all (which was such a shock for a spicy-food-lover like me!). For some occasions, I drank coffee and cakes more frequent than ever (Cafe Tour is A must, right?!)

And I almost forgot one more thing! I usually cooked as well, to save the money and save my heart (from missing home!) I am not a great cook so I only made a very simple Indonesian menu like fried rice, pasta or mixed-vegetables with fish cake (Fun Fact: I ATE A LOT OF FISH CAKE! Too much) and sometimes, when I was okay to spare more cash on food, I would buy seafood. Back there, I only used all healthy ingredients (because that’s what available there, including the vegetable oil to fry or organic vegetables).

Another fun fact is I often eat once or twice a day only! Rarely even three-time, yet still gain more kgs for the first time in my life after many years! This is actually a reason why I believe my healthy eating lifestyle really matter!

Key point:  healthy breakfast, enough rice, many vegetables, less chili

How I can apply now:  Starting my day with a super healthy breakfast is a must. Making sure to have vegetables every single day, a glass of milk before sleeping, and get less chili sauce, also less rice.

Once again, this is just me, trying to talk to myself and Tumblr. It will mean a world to me if someone actually really read this LOL It might work differently with other individuals, but somehow I believe my experience also have scientific reasons (yet I am just too lazy to add more trusted resources instead LOL).

Someday in Late 2016, Indonesia.

By writing this, I hope It will work out well for myself and my healthier me!

I will be uploading a special gallery here for my meal during life in Korea! Stay-tuned!

Thank you!

Sella Lametta ♡

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Vietnam and Me: 2/3

I am certain it would take much more times for you to read the stories on this story/series of “Vietnam and Me”. That’s why I decided to have it into some parts. Alright, welcome to the second one then!

During my extension of vacation (yes, it was no longer delegation activities), I stayed in two different guesthouses. I did not have any ticket to go home and purchased it during the program. That decision somehow was a case of any port in a storm as I did not expect the price increase would lead me to stay some more days though. But, when the positivity hit me, it looked as if a good thing for me despite this! LOL

Thus, in DNC, I had other friends I met during my summer camp in Thailand plus Cole’s sister (Cole is one of those friends I referred). Two of them were just perfect! I could not type any word to perfectly describe their treatment and how they made Vietnam more and more like a home for me:’)

And after that, there were still a lot of lovely moments I possessed in Vietnam -which-would-be-super-long-to-type-in-this-platform. This experience was also marked as the first time I did live out of my suitcase (which was physically a backpacker instead) throughout a country.

I should end the first Vietnam stories asap, so I am doing it now to make sure we have spaces for another version of “Vietnam and Me”. Yes, I know it is the second post already, sorry?

Again, I was not sure if I contact my memory well enough, but I thought I applied for a program to Myanmar at the beginning of 2017 in hoping I could regrant another chance to use my passport again for the third year or simply because I started to own itchy feet as a regular symptom. Another shortcut to this story, I was offered to join the EO to participate in their volunteering program not in Myanmar, but in Vietnam, in Hanoi specifically.

I was overwhelmed because it was just better than I expected. I mean, it felt like they got me a call to “go home” you know what I meant?

Well, it was Hanoi, one more part of Vietnam that I have not gone to see, yet worry not, because I was also as fortunate since I have other friends there to catch-up.

For this, I didn't tell any of my Vietnamese friends even until I publish this writing. At first place, I wanted to surprise them after I had my ticket ready. I bet I was not the only who would be excited for this. Wasn’t I?

Then, did I really have my ticket?

Online Gallery related:

https://www.flickr.com/photos/lulliciousella/sets/72157702322409491(Da Nang, Central part of Vietnam)

https://www.flickr.com/photos/lulliciousella/sets/72157690204724975 (Ho Chi Minh, Southern part of Vietnam)

Thank you!

Sella Lametta ♡

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Vietnam and Me : 1/3

It was all started back to the end of 2015, exactly three years ago, when I was spending time privately with my pink laptop at a winter-cold-night in Suwon, South Korea.

I was there for my exchange semester in which also became a fire-starter to my global-wandering-journey. All I wanted to do back then was to get a second bite at the cherry to step my feet to an unknown degree in the world.

Shortly, it was the moment leading me to apply and finally arranged a chance to come to Vietnam, for the first time in July 2016.

It was not categorized as an easy matter, for me in order to finally afford myself financially and got all preps for that youth forum. Just a month before it, Allah also blessed me with a summer camp in a neighboring country of Vietnam, Thailand, where I made some Vietnamese whom I might talk often in this further typed talk.

Furthermore, I debuted my first solo international flight to Ho Chi Minh from Jakarta. I had a very early morning flight that brings me to Da Nang, the location the event took place. Being greeted by the rain at night in HCMC, a first Vietnamese friend I would mention, Matt a.k.a Matthew welcomed me. We spent some times chit-chatting back in the day in a coffee shop nearby before finally heading back to the airport to spend a night, in a random opened-area-restaurant, on-not-so-hygiene-couch. I could not describe the rest of the story. LOL. That’s the highlight of my HCMC first visit, cause basically, it’s all that I had.

I arrived safe and sound in DNC and continued the program. I might talk about the AYF experiences separately but another highlight for this was all the people I met in the program. Undoubtedly, we did make a solid and warm circle on the first day and it’s clear to me, we loved each and every person and every moment there including our mom-dad-uncle of the event (re: coordinators).

It was completely not my style to straight headed back to home country after the program. LOL. It is a sure thing that I extend my visit there in DNC. One thing none should follow from me was: I had not purchased any flight for going home at that moment. I remembered I just bought it on the last day of the event if I call my memory right. Therefore, this story extension might or might not be planned.

So, what’s my plan?

Online Gallery related:

https://www.flickr.com/photos/lulliciousella/sets/72157702322409491

(Da Nang, Central part of Vietnam)

https://www.flickr.com/photos/lulliciousella/sets/72157690204724975

(Ho Chi Minh, Southern part of Vietnam)

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Letter : Dear Bride a.k.a. My Best Friend, ...

Dear Bride a.k.a. My Best Friend,

Yesterday was a big day, for you (of course), for your family (for sure), and for me (yes, it really was).

I am proud of you taking this huge step. It seems easy and difficult at the same time. It seems like a piece of cake for you because I know you as a person, you have that knowledge and supportive environment and family I must say. However, it was like a Pandora’s box because it always is, as you are not making a promise to your husband or his family alone, nor this country by signing that book. More than that, you make a holy promise to Him, Allah SWT. But hey, I have a hundred percent of trust that it is not going to bite off more than you can chew with this marriage.

I was touched because Allah got me the chance to visit you three days before the D-day (If I counted it right). Been a while without seeing your family too, like 8 years? It was also my first time meeting your baby daughter who is no longer baby though. I wish I had more time before, but as you know, having my study and work in the different island has turned all friends circle into long-distance-friendship, including ours.

Long story short, 

we concluded two years stories into some hours in your new design bedroom for newly-bride and groom. I was honored to have seen it earlier than your hubby LOL. We also checked the guest book that just done and sent, also you handed me your wedding invitation. To tell you another truth that your wedding invitation card was the best I have ever received, same went to my family too. Yes, a compliment for that! Again, little prouder to have seen it earlier than other guests. And once more, I was so much appreciative for receiving this condition of free-at-home and so I could make it to your marriage and wedding. Still, I was feeling like working against the clock.

I would jump to the D-day which to me, everyone can see eye to eye for such an inspirational wedding that catch our eyes now, after a short paragraph about how we two met first, we'll. Let's do it yo!

It was on August 2 of 2007, eleven years ago, in a classroom signed as 7.1, we gathered as the new classmates. I forgot the 'exact how' we ended up as chair mate. Yet I remember, it was the first of September, together with Ria and Anda, we grouped ourselves as a gang.

Next, I will stop throwing back a story. In your D-day, Anda and Ria could not make it as they were not around the city and left me alone as the official representative. I got sometimes in that morning to prepare our gang’s gift for you and sadly made me late. LOL.

Well, there was nothing I could do to blame it, I, myself was just late. I planned to come as early as possible because I did not want to call myself a guest, I preferred to be noticed as a part of the family who came as early as your relatives. LOL again.

Nevertheless, here, I did not count how many times I have mentioned, but I was again saved by Allah because the penghulu (Islamic wedding oath conductor) came a little bit late and thus spared more time for a late person like me. Just for your information, my ten minutes-late was honestly contributed by a driver that brought me there as he missed the direction, yet least I was not barking up the wrong three, Alhamdulillah.

The time I arrived at the venue, I speed my steps up to see you in the corner with other besties and family while waiting for the Ijab Kabul to begin. I was speechless as you might notice. I was trying to talk so randomly because, yeah I just did. After having some sentences with a nervous bride-to-be, all besties decided to get to the upper level that assigned for female guests.

Did you know what I truly wanted to do for real on that very moment? Well, I wanted to stay, sit next to you and witness all by my eyes. However, would not be fair for other girls, right? Besides, I believe the room might be full of your close family – who has an absolute higher priority to belong there, I would not make it more crowded though. Accordingly, I reach the second level and wait while biting my tongue.

Tell you the truth, again, it was more packed than expected which made the less clear sound thru speaker at that level. I decided to have my chair next to the speaker and assure myself to be able paying full attention to all event downstairs via that only speaker.

As I told you by chat yesterday, I got my eyes watery and my heart beat little faster. I have faith in if there was a person looked at me at that moment, she would barely see all the random expression I made. I was beyond happy in the heat of the moment.

Short after that, you beautifully came to the female area with your two official moms. At the drop of a hat, we all wowed at you. I did not bring my glasses and so I moved a little bit forward and forgot that merit speaker to check you out. And then some, I remember I came to Mrs. You for three times after ijab kabul . I too shook your mom in law’s hands as much as three-time excitedly –which frankly worried me a little bit if I drove her up the wall knowing her elegant brand-new daughter in law best-friending a much-enthusiastic girl like me. Then, can I have a penny of your thoughts on this later?

I could agree if we did not have to photograph everything to remember it, so I respect the rules KKK. But knowing that we still got a chance to have a picture with you, I was over again over the moon. I will treasure it without any doubt!

Another perk of your day was me able to meet your other good friends (whom somehow, I think would be mine too if I decided to go to your senior high school). And thus, thank you for the new friends and mini-reunion with my other best friend (also yours) there.

I just realized that I have made a long enough paragraph for my blog standard about this. Because of that, I was thinking to give it a full stop soon.

To cut the chase, I would like to tell you that I am grateful for knowing you for these eleven years, have met your family, your other best friends, and your husband’s family. I am thankful for ever being to your table, house, wedding, and life. I am shameful for not being such a good one for you and hopeful to be better. I am hoping that this ship is powerful enough to fill our life on the earth and useful for our future days in the akhirah.

Uhibbuki fillah!

Your Best Friend,

Blog Owner

Alright, peeps, I will call it a day! Thank you for reading the longest writing here, much love!

Thank you!

Sella Lametta ♡

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Trust Issues: Self

D o  y o u t r u s t  h e r / h i m ?

I found a set of sentences I feel so right about what I want to say on this. “The greatest gift you can give to somebody is your own personal development.

I quoted someone, that said this:

I used to say “ If you will take care of me, I  will take care of you” Now I say: I will take care of me for you, if you will take care of you for me.

If you trust yourself to do something, you feel confident in your ability to get through tough times. You know that even if you get the feeling of quitting, you can beat it. Or if you fail, you know you can start again, get back up and learn from the mistake and try harder. This is how I want to live my life with, and it’s ongoing, even sometimes I forget, and I know I should not because I trust myself.

Thank you!

Sella Lametta ♡

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Trust Issues: Family

D o y o u t r u s t t h e m?

 Your family is insyaAllah ultimately, worthy of trust. When things have been said or done or passed, anyone includes our family, can o lt be fully trusted if we have confidence in them. And I am grateful for having what I am having now, my family who keep boosting my confidence to do a lot of things. They listen to my crazy ideas and they help me to find out how to make it happen. Although many times those are beyond their brain. And since they also trust me, so I always get everything settled first and “consult” or 'discuss' with them. Sorry, still typically you can call me a persistent girl, but yes, I trust my family. Do you trust them?

 Thank you! 

Sella Lametta ♡

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Trust Issues: Him

D o y o u t r u s t H i m? 

I believe that we have to rely on Allah because without His permission nothing could happen or occur. For the trust we have in Allah is a path to every success and achievement in this life. We are human, we may regret and feel disappointed. But please, never ever lose your hope on something. Keep it in your mind that for every 'lost' term in your dictionary, He will present you something better and for every 'hard' time in your perception, He means something for you to learn life better. I insyaAllah always try to put my trust to Him above everything. I ask Him for suggestion, blessing, and any help on picking and doing any life choice. The result that I expect as human may be sometimes different with what He gives me, but since I ask for the best version of everything, and because I trust Him, think that any result will be okay. Yes, I trust Him. Do you trust Him?

Thank you!

Sella Lametta ♡