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Good Intentions?

So my mom asked me an interesting question: "Don't you ever feel like an asshole when you think you're correcting people? Especially if the thing they believe makes them happy?"

In this conversation specifically, about science and health facts, my answer is "No."

I don't feel like I'm being an asshole when I tell you the thing you believe about a health fact is wrong. I feel like I'm helping you learn the correct way to keep yourself healthy. I know I might sound like an ass, and be perceived as an ass, but I know your intentions are good, you might just be understanding 'the thing' wrong and I want to help you actually be safe.

For context: My mom has a fear of having a heart attack or stroke, but she doesn't talk to doctors or health professionals about staying healthy or safe. Instead she found this "Influencer" who gives "health advice", but this person has also been banned from Australia because their 'advice' was so wrong, it threatened peoples' health. My mom thinks eating excessive amounts of Celtic Salt will provide her with minerals that will boost her health, and EVERY TIME we talk about her salt, I tell her that she's eating so much sodium, those minerals mean nothing.

I know that often, people feel like they're being insulted when someone corrects something they say, but that's not always the case. In the above situation, I correct mom's misinformation because I know the thing she is doing, is going to greatly increase the chances of her experience the thing she's trying to avoid. I'm not mean about it, just persistent. I don't tell her she's stupid or anything. I don't really tell her "you're wrong". I remind her of a health fact she used to know as true, but has since been convinced to forget it?

I did tell her, when she asked why I keep talking about it, that "you might be lucky and nothing will happen, in which case I'm just annoying and we cannot have a good conversation about salt with each other. But a majority of cases show, the excessive amount of salt people eat can lead to greater risk of stroke or heart attack. And if you are unlucky and have an event, don't be surprised if the doctor talks to you about your salt."

I've been corrected too, but I've always thought it of someone trying to teach me something. And sometimes what they say is wrong, but I appreciate their attempt to help me. They state their case, I state mine, then I move on to another topic that we don't disagree on, but sometimes something they say has me questioning, and then I get to do more research :D

There's another guy at the homeless shelter who is giving me advice on how to start my own business. I cannot talk health facts with him because he believes changing his body's PH balance will protect him from cancer and that the oncoming eclipse is caused by excessive amounts of chemicals the government is exposing us to. He speaks so often and with so much confidence and authority, that I still feel bad voicing any opposing opinions. But I still try, sometimes.

( other side note, as a presenting woman, anything I do is often brushed aside as me "being a bitch", so very often anything I say or do is dismissed or taken with skepticism. Occasionally, I do find someone who is interested in learning and we ask questions together and do research and have good fun :) )

What do you guys think? I genuinely want to know your stance on correcting people or being corrected.

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Randomly ran across this. Currently in the process of taping every nook and cranny of my current apartment because it's infested with roaches and the landlords won't set regular exterminations. I think there was 1 spraying in the last 2 months and they straight skipped my apartment.

I will live in an apartment made of tape, if it means keeping healthy.

Also, they ain't getting rent until they spray.

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I am so normal about Reese Kelly y'all

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Checking In

Hey Y'all

Just wanted to check in and announce that I am NOT DEAD.

Okay? Cool cool

I'm in a Homeless 'shelter' right now and the wifi they have is so terrible that I can't even load a gif, so I have leave to use public libraries just to get stuff done.

Don't know how long I'll be here. I'm getting a lot of assistance but I still need to find a job that pays enough to actually allow me to rent a fucking apartment. And, you know America, the place where costs are high and pay is so low, it's deadly.

Lucky I have someone helping me job hunt too :) It's all about who you know, and I am meeting all the people, Istg

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I don't understand it, but I think my ad-block is messing with my Tumblr posts. It is SO HARD to post or reblog things. I need to hold ctrl to reblog posts in a different tab, and I need to hold ctrl+alt to get this text post to pop up. wtf?

[Didn't want to read] Summary: I'm frustrated with the lack of public transit in the US. Having no car is incredibly nice as it reduces hundreds of dollars in cost and reduces anxiety/stress of maintenance and safety.

Anyway, I'm about to start my new job on the 9th and I'm nervous that it'll take all my time to decompress away. Without a car, a 7.5 hour job becomes 10+ hours out of the house. And with the poor layout of the city and public transit, it'll be even harder to do any other activities outside of the house after work.

I LOVE not having a car. Love it. Love love LOVE it. But I hate that the US is so car dependent and car focused.

Do you know how much my budget is for travel a month?? 60 bucks. Flat. That's it.

No $100+ car insurance. No $200+ car payments. No $80/month for gas. No $45 for oil changes.

The problem is, there are no other public transit options in my city. Trains, trollies, subways. Nothing. And then the bus system doesn't even reach very far outside of the very concentrated city. Like, I can't even go hiking at the nature reserve 15min drive up the street, because the bus doesn't go there. I can walk from the nearest stop to the nearest entrance, but the hiking trails are on the other side of the reserve, an hour's walk from the stop. (I've tried to get there before)

So I fear that, with my new job, I won't be able to do anything but go to work, work, come home. There isn't even a grocery store along the way. I have to take a bus past my house, up to the grocery, and then come back down. I have to go out of my way.

Ugh. The oil oligarchs have really fucked this country over. Having a personal vehicle should be an option, not mandatory. People could save so. much. money. without a vehicle. If you want one, sure, go ahead. No problems. But I don't want a car. But I have no option but to get a car if I want to exist outside of work and home.

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I've hit a new level of stress: Full-body Hives =_=;

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Covid Update

I don’t have covid- just saying that now

Buuuuuuuttttt two of my little sisters do and my bro1 had a coworker test positive so things have been ‘fun’.

Also found out that, unfortunately, my dad and his household believe that their god will protect them, so the two sisters are under quarantine but the rest of the house doesn’t think it applies to them. This includes my bro2 who lives a state away, continues to eat out often, travel between family homes and travels between states. he was at my dads house less than a week before the sisters showed symptoms, yet refuses to get tested himself.

This year has been a culmination of disappointments -_-

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targeted ads rant

frickin’ hate search engines saving my information to try and target ads at me. 

i bought a couch once! ONCE! the hecky heck you going to advertise the same couch to me in fifty diff colors for? i’m not buying couches for every room

yes, i searched for dog harnesses and dog leashes and dog health stuff, i don’t need you advertising the same three leashes at me for the next month!

need to remember to work on ‘incogneto” mode from now on. SMH this is ridiculous

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‘Error’ Plot

Okay, my story ‘Error’ on AO3 (formerly ‘You’ve got an Error’)

I have just figured out the plot. Like, the whole thing and I got to say:

“Where the fuck did that come from????”

But I like it. Imma type it all now. 

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Writing Woes

I just need a few more paragraphs. C’mon brain, work with me here. 

Trying to finish up CH21 for ‘Error’ so I can upload it tonight but my brain wants to think of other stuff. Like painting and drawing. Grr

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G*damm*t

I think i just got scammed.

Just what I need right now. I'm so pissed. And no phone plus the weekend REALLY limits the methods of how I can check/report things.

Guy claimed to be from utility company, I gave him some base information and ACCOUNT information before the landlord came by and told him to leave.

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Malfunction

Ugh, what the f*ck. 

Wanted to draw on my laptop but my Sai and Photoshop both stopped working. Actually, my photoshop disappeared and my Sai says it was on ‘trial’ and now it expired. WTH, now I can’t draw *grumble grumble*

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Accounts

Hey y’all, soooooo I’m seeing a lot of people switching focus to other social media accounts due to the NSFW filter/ban/thing going on with tumblr on the 17th.

That really sucks because Tumblr had become my dominant social media site for art and undertale and meeting people, etc. 

But here are links to my other accounts. I don’t really know how Twitter works yet and maybe I’ll start a facebook page for art like how my tumblr was. I’ll probably also go back to using deviantart a lot. 

IDK, i’ll have to get used to this all over again, let me know if you guys have any ideas.

My Deviantart

My Twitter

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Flagged

IDK algorithmns or what have you, but one of my ButtonTale fanarts was flagged for having adult content.

Bruh, it has a picture of 4 kids looking sad and one adult holding a needle. Ain’t no adult content in there..

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Family

They are both my loves and a huge fuckin' pain in the ass that cause me never ending anxiety and stress.

Bright note: looking for a dance school for my little bro because I want him to have the chance to do something he loves

Bad note: Mom is acting like a teenager throwing a fit because I told her to clean her cat's cat box.

Yes, I told my mom to do a chore SHE SHOULD HAVE BEEN DOING ANYWAY!

dammit, I swear I'm a parent already.