#you’re the one buffy

[littlenastieswewhispered]

i get that spike/spuffy antis have to hate season seven on principle (and the fact that they act like spike’s arc is entirely frivolous and unimportant is so wildly dismissive of buffy’s i don’t think they actually even like her!), but so many are straight up factually incorrect about what actually happens. i don’t know if it’s a media literacy issue or a choice to be obstinate. probably a mixture. when you want something to be a certain way, misunderstanding something gives you room to declare yourself right.

their main talking point is that ensouled spike forces his presence on buffy. this… just doesn’t happen even once in the season. at all.

spike doesn’t return to sunnydale to see buffy. he goes back to the hellmouth. probably because it’s all he knows, as a demon he considers it home, and not for nothing he’s already being controlled by the first who wants him in place for a specific purpose.

in the first episode, lessons, buffy comes across spike on her own. he’s at some of his most insane for this interaction, and he walks away from her. in the next episode, beneath you, buffy seeks spike out. she goes to the basement and can’t find him. he’s actively hiding from her.

later in the same episode he gets himself cleaned up and goes to her, for the first and only time. he says it’s because something terrible is coming and he wants to offer his help. he tells her if she doesn’t want him around, tell him and he’ll leave and she can revoke his invite (which notably is still active). she doesn’t. she accepts his help.

they talk while looking for the demon and buffy says she can tell something is different about him but she doesn’t know what. spike makes a point to say he isn’t going to tell her what it is. that’s MAJOR. spike does not want buffy to know about his soul. he doesn’t put it on her, and he doesn’t make it her problem. he ends up telling her only after it’s nearly forced out of him and he’s triggered back into insanity after a lucid period. after he reveals his soul, he leaves.

in the next episode, same time same place, buffy seeks spike out. he’s once again hiding in the basement, so she knows where to find him, but he does not go to her. she enlists his help that episode, twice.

the next episode is help. buffy goes to the basement to see spike. she asks if he knows anything about cassie. he later helps buffy save cassie from the boys trying to sacrifice her.

in the next one, selfless, buffy once again goes to spike. it’s a definite a pattern. buffy seeks out spike. it’s actually a lot like much of their relationship in season six, only much more one sided. she tells him to leave the basement because it’s bad for him.

the next episode, him, sees a big shift. it’s still buffy going to spike, but this time she doesn’t just leave him in the basement. she actively chooses to help him out of it, getting xander to let him move into his apartment. there’s a huge and important change in their dynamic now. they are solidly in each other’s lives, and that was and continues to be buffy’s choice.

i won’t do little synopses for each episode from the rest of the season, but from here spike offers to leave at minimum four additional times, half a dozen or more total all season.

he earnestly wants buffy to kill him in sleeper and never leave me, because he’s devastated and terrified that he’s killing. buffy says no, she’s going to help him and she believes in him. she rescues him, because she wants to, and moves him back into her house.

later on spike seems to be gaining back control of his mind, but when the first threatens him he once again says he’s a danger and needs to leave and buffy says no because shes not ready for him not to be here.

buffy wants spike in her life. she makes that fact extremely clear. maybe at first it wasn’t for the healthiest reasons, but a major theme of season seven is spike and buffy healing both as individuals and growing closer together because of it. their relationship empowers and strengthens buffy, and the final episode is called chosen for a reason. this season is about buffy’s agency. that starts when she decides who’s in her life and who isn’t.

there’s never a single moment where spike makes that decision for her. he doesn’t once tell buffy she has to accept him, or that he should have access to her. he doesn’t come around when she says to leave, because she doesn’t say to leave. he stays away from her until she beckons him back. over and over.

spike doesn’t think he deserves anything from buffy. he believes the opposite, even encouraging her to date and hiding his heartache about it. he doesn’t make his insanity and suffering her problem. she volunteers to help him.

i understand having issues with the writing choice of spike back in buffy’s life at all after what happened in season six, but only if you’re engaging with it honestly. you can dislike that buffy makes the choice to have spike around, but it’s obvious when you disregard her agency and pretend he’s the one calling the shots. you hate a story that didn’t happen, and it’s impossible take seriously.

[clairedelune-13]

It’s been years, but I can still basically mouth along to Spike’s speech to Buffy in Touched.

[raisedbythetv89]

Me when the manipulative character manipulates irl viewers into ignoring all the bad and only seeing the good and then treating me like I’m the crazy one because I see through the manipulation and see the characters for who they really are instead of how they want to be perceived

[girl4music]

STRIKING DIFFERENCES: SPUFFY VS BANGEL

I’m usually not a SPUFFY VS BANGEL person but if you put ‘Something Blue’ and ‘I Will Remember You’ side by side in a comparison/juxtaposition gif set… oh boy… does it ever show that they were backing up the wrong couple from the get go for being “healthier”.

“We’re not meant to be together” because of extenuating circumstances involving our responsibilities and destinies as The Slayer and The Champion and “We’re not meant to be together”because we’re literally mortal enemies who happen to forget it sometimes because we’re just people too.

Never mind that “I’m an evil demon” nonsense.

Moot point when “You’re just a girl”/“That’s what I keep saying” and “Timmy’s down the bloody well!”…

Bangel find all the reasons NOT TO BE TOGETHER even though they’re afforded everything that LETS THEM BE. Spuffy END UP TOGETHER despite the whole damn world telling that them IT’S ALL WRONG.

I’m just saying,… someone should make that gif set.

[shejustcalledmeafish]

Nothing dates Buffy more to me than the fact that when Andrew is talking about being a fan of Doctor Who, he means Classic Who

[wren-kitchens]

im literally so glad depression did not take my sense of humour away because if it did I would literally just be angel from buffy and I cannot think of a fate worse than that

[vampirologist]

the reasoning that spike gives buffy for stopping angelus bringing forth acathla is SO funny as he presented the judge to drusilla as a present. the judge. who incinerates humans and things containing humanity. whereas acathla would just consume the earth into a hell dimension that consists of great torture. “the truth is, I like this world. you've got dog racing, manchester united. and you've got people. billions of people walking around like happy meals with legs. it's all right here. but then someone comes along with a vision. with a real passion for destruction…” like your gift of the judge literally involves creating an armageddon of wiping out humans and humanity. just say you don’t like the fact that it’s angelus taking back his patriarchal role of the group and doing the destruction. and the fact that he also was a homewrecker. maybe you do have a thing for the earth and humanity but it wasn’t stopping you causing chaos when it was you and dru doing it. girl what about your happy meals on legs when the judge decimates them

[francesderwent]

My husband is OBSESSED with Smallville and I cannot bear to watch it! Please tell me it isn't that cringe and weird as people try and tell me it is?

anon I fully believe it is probably cringier and weirder, but it is also true that it is, quite often, phenomenal television

[whiskeyadams]

Listen, Buffy crawled so First Kill could fuckin sprint

[irate-iguana]

I have too many memes in my photos app so, uh, Buffyverse meme dump part 1/?

Angel spoilers below:

[littlenastieswewhispered]

i’m obsessed with this clarification with little eyebrow raise for emphasis. like oh you mean before buffy summers, my wife, asked me to move in with her? yeah i lived somewhere else before buffy told me to move into her house with her where she lives. i live with her now though. at her house. she asked me to.

and then buffy goes and calls his crypt COMFY<3 and his brain, absolutely on its last crackling little circuit, shorts out entirely.

[stellernorth]

there’s buffy unabomber au fanfiction

this ask caused me to type a terrible combination of nouns into ao3 (“buffy unabomber”) and i didn’t even get any results as a reward for going through all that

[slut-jpeg]

okay the thing is buffy was kind of out of line in “empty places” when she told everyone what the plan was that and didn’t want to do it. but guess what? it’s her house. she’s the slayer, she’s in charge, and most importantly it’s HER FUCKING HOUSE! SHE PAYS THE BILLS! YOU CANNOT KICK HER OUT OF HER OWN FUCKING HOUSE! like anya and rona were fucking annoying as hell and they needed to shut the fuck up but holy fuck if I was buffy I’d kick them all out of my house before I let them try to tell me to get out. and dawn being the one to tell her to get out? like you didn’t exist two years ago you get out lol.

[ectokelpeigh]

Don't know if you're still accepting asks but 👑🎶

Hell yeah I am

(For this ask game)

👑: Danny’s not the King. There is no overwhelmingly accepted “the king of ghosts” or an absolute monarchy. Pariah Dark was very imposing, influential, powerful, you name it, but he was more of an emperor than the godlike authority many make him out to be. The crossroads of infinite realms doesn’t really have want or need of a ruler, you know? It’s more of an honor culture (think wild west).

Danny didn’t know all of this when a bunch of ghosts converged on him to inform him of his impending ascension to the throne. Nope. He actually thinks he’s destined to take Pariah Dark’s throne.

In reality, Pariah Dark’s influence was locked away again with him in the sarcophagus. Turns out Danny has a cult following in the Ghost Zone, and his defeat of PD got them hyped up enough to finally approach him. It’s a relief that he doesn’t have to be king of anything but extremely concerning that there’s practically a new religion in the GZ revering him. Suddenly Skulker doesn’t seem so creepy

🎶: Danny couldn’t carry a tune in a bucket with a lid on it. The Ghostwriter uses this to his advantage when he gets out of prison and exacts his revenge in his thrilling musical sequel (it’s very BTVS “Once More With Feeling”)

[shewhosleepsalotincemeteries]

Society if Tara was alive to be the one to find Buffy and give her a speech about how brave and wonderful and loved she is in Touched instead of Spike:

[babyleostuff]

which svt boy is the type of boyfriend with whom you can turn your brain off with | ot13

. . . most to least likely

1 . . . seungcheol

i don’t think anyone is surprised that choi seungcheol is the number one. you wouldn’t have to think AT ALL ever again with him, like come on - he’s big, buffy and dependable (jeonghan’s words, not mine). knowing him, he’d get offended if you tried to “think” - looking out for you, and taking care of you is his number one priority in life. i mean it, it’s his life mission.

2 . . . mingyu

husband material number two, he’s equally fixated on looking out for you as cheol. there is nothing that could distract mingyu from you, your well-being, and safety. the type to walk on the outer side of the sidewalk, and always holding your hand when crossing the road. not a single one of your brain cells would have to be active when he’d be around.

3 . . . joshua

the third husband coded man of svt. no matter how distracted you’d get, joshua would be there right by your side to make sure you wouldn’t hurt yourself or get lost if you were out on the town. there would be no need for you to be aware of anything, thanks to your lovely boyfriend. and it’d all come so naturally for him - he wouldn’t even have to think about it.

4 . . . minghao

hao, our silent and attentive boy that looks out for you, no matter what, would always make sure you’re taken care of, to the point where you wouldn’t really have to think around him. you could do whatever, and minghao would have no problem with protecting you from anything that could hurt you. he’s just so aware of you, and your presence.

5 . . . jeonghan

similar to mingaho in the sense that you don’t even realise that you’re not really “thinking” when you’re with him. even before you started dating he was always such a caretaker that it doesn’t really surprise anyone when you mindlessly follow jeonghan everywhere without a single care in the world.

6 . . . wonwoo

wonwoo is everything you could ask for - he is handsome, smart, funny, and most importantly he always makes sure you’re happy, well fed, and safe. he is ready to change a light bulb, make you dinner (even though he can’t cook for shit), pick you up after a party, and pack you lunch before school/work. the best part out of all of this is that you never have to ask for any of this - he just knows when you need him, so why do you need to think when your boyfie is always there for you

7 . . . woozi

woozi is kind of the middle ground between those who are excellent at taking care of you, and those who try their best, but are too easily distracted, or just prefer to be the ones taken care of. jihoon is always there for you, no matter what (obviously), but sometimes he can get a bit distracted, so you’d still have to be aware of your surroundings when out and about, or you’d have to check his luggage before a trip to make sure he packed his toothbrush.

8 . . . chan

a very observant lil bub that always keeps an eye on you. no matter how much you try to convince him you are good on your own, he still takes care of you in every way he can, and with time (you didn’t even realise when) you started to shut your brain off more and more when with your boyfriend. and come on, it makes him so happy when you depend on him, he loves when you grab his hand the second you exit the car, ready to trust your boyfriend with everything and anything.

9 . . . dk

does a pretty good job as being the “thinker” until something doesn't distract him, and because he is easily distracted, well… he is a cutie pie, though, and very obedient, so he will gladly follow you everywhere without much nagging so looking after him isn’t as hard as looking out for hoshi or vernon. there is one situation when you can definitely shut your brain off, and it’s in crowded places, because there is no way dk will let anything happen to you in a crowd.

10 . . . seungkwan

poor baby really tries to take care of you so can confidently shut your brain off with him, but at the end of the day your relationship is very 50/50… okay, more like 30/70 because usually it’s you who has to think about everything. seungkwan still tries to help you out as much as he can, he doesn’t want to be a burden to you, but sometimes he’s just so easily distracted or oblivious to what is happening around him.

11 . . . jun

easily distracted, manipulated, puts himself in dangerous situations on a daily basis, and has the tendency to wander off like a kindergarten kid, so naturally he’s the one to shut his brain off with you. looking after him can be quite tricky sometimes, he has his rebel moments when he want to make your life a living hell by worrying the shit out of you, but the second he sees you getting really stressed he gets back to his polite, and cute self.

12 . . . hoshi

this poor boy would get distracted so easily, you’d have to think for him. if you were out, hoshi would be the one to wander off, or not see the incoming car and almost getting hit by it - you’d have to be the one to save him from everything. it doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about you, but he’s a kid at heart that needs to be the protected one.

13 . . . vernon

same as hoshi, you need to be alert 24/7 with vernon. distracted easily, and does not understand the concept of dangerous situations - you’d definitely have to be the “thinker” in your relationship. like, if you were going on a trip you’d be the person that plans everything, is in charge of the maps, food, packing clothes, and vernon would be the one to venmo you money.

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