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every time you tag an aromantic post that only talks about aromanticism as "#asexual" or "#ace" i punch you in the astral plane. when you call a character that's not interested in romance "asexual", i punch you in the astral plane. calling aromantic people asexual when they don't refer to themselves as such earns you one hundred astral punches. and so on and so forth

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Aromantics who want a relationship are Valid

Aromantics who DON'T want a relationship are a Valid

Aromantics who hope to feel romantic attraction are Valid

Aromantics who feel a LITTLE romantic attraction are Valid

Aromantics who are romance repulsed are Valid.

Aromantics that enjoy sex are Valid

Aromantics who "Sleep around" are Valid

Aromantics who want kids are Valid

Aroaces are Valid

Allosexual Aromantics are Valid

Queer Aromantics are Valid

Hetro Aromantics are Valid

AROMANTICS ARE FUCKING VALID

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so ik how much the phrase "but ace people can have sex" has been used to harm ace people in the past... but i'm beginning to think that the response always being "but they also don't have to" can be harmful as well.

yes, that phrase is often used by people who are ignorant, people who are aphobic, or people erasing ace people altogether. but it's also true. i think we as an ace community (ace allies included) need to remember that erasing ace people who aren't sex repulsed isn't the way to go.

often, i - an ace person, or at the very least someone on the asexual spectrum - feel nervous to say this, bc i'm worried my own community is going to attack me for having this opinion. i'm worried to write the main character in one of my stories as a sex-positive ace person bc i'm worried i'll get hate for doing so and be told i'm aphobic. i just want people to acknowledge that there is no one way to be ace, and while saying "but ace people can have sex" erases us, so does constantly arguing the opposite.

yes, you can say "but they don't have to", but please, please mention that this is also true. bc if i'm just worried to get hate for talking about sex-positive ace people, imagine how they feel?

just remember that we're a community. being ace is not something to gatekeep, whether it's intentional or not.

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being in love must be so crazy. all my life i have observed what it does to people and it’s like they have a sickness it’s like theyre high it’s like their whole being is feverish with it. i am terrified of it and also terrified of never experiencing it

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does it kind of annoy anyone else that any time aromanticism or aro pride and such are brought up it always has to be from the lense of being aroace. as if you can't be one without being the other. like it's the expectation that if you're aromantic, you must also therefore be asexual. and if you're only one of these things, particularly aromantic but not asexual, you're weird. like yes it's fine to not have interest in romantic relations so long as you aren't interested in sexual relations either. you must be some sort of freak to only feel sexual attraction and not romantic attraction as well. this kind of also applies to asexuals who aren't aromantic but i kind of feel like it's kind of worse with people who are just aromantic (hi). romantic love is just seen as more pure and acceptable than sexual attraction and i dont really know how to feel about that

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gotta be honest, i hate the whole oppression contest between romance-favorable and romance-averse aromantics that’s going on right now. both of those groups are pressured to act like the other. you know why? because people just don’t like us being aromantic. that’s it. nobody’s more privileged than the other, at least not in this context.

if you’re alright with being in relationships, then you’re told you’re not really aromantic. the goal is to make you doubt you’re aromantic.

if you don’t want to be in relationships, then you’re told that aromantics can date, so you should! the goal is to make you more palatable, to make you romance-favorable so then, they can gaslight you into thinking you’re not actually aromantic. or they just straight up call you heartless, inhuman, but thats just their true colors showing. they think that of all aros.

and the aromantic people who says shit like that? they’re trying to throw the group they’re not part of under the bus to make themselves more palatable or less ‘confusing’.

nobody’s winning here. let’s all shut the fuck up for a second and recognize that those people just don’t want us to be aromantic. that’s it. doesn’t matter if you’re romance-averse, romance-favorable or anything else. they just want us to conform. and if you’re accusing the other side of being responsible for your oppression, you’re playing right into their game.

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In light of the recent discourse, I would like to say that if you think that cisgender heterosexual aromantic men aren't queer, or are somehow inherently predatory,

YOU CAN FUCK OFF.

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polyamorous aroallo trans wallpapers!

requested by 🐌 anon

Polyamorous: Someone who can fall in love with more than one person at a time; Desires a relationship with two or more people at once, with full consent from all involved

Aroallo: Someone who experiences sexual attraction, but not romantic attraction. An abbreviation for aromantic allosexual

Transgender: Identifying as a gender other than the one you were assigned at birth

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aromanticism deserves to be celebrated outside of the context of asexuality.

aromanticism deserves to be accepted and discussed without even mentioning asexuality.

aromantic allosexuality deserves to be celebrated.

aromanticism, on its own, with nothing else added, is fucking awesome.

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INTERACT WITH THIS IF YOU ARE AROACE BECAUSE WHY ARE THERE SO MANY OF US HERE

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Since i couldn't find a me specific aro stimboard i decided to make it myself.

I'll add the links soon. It'll be a bit tho.

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Links will be here

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The first date was something

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Regulus Sirius

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no one gets to tell you how to be ace btw. not even other asexuals or aromantics. there is no correct way of being ace. theres just being you.

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Your ace/aro experiences are real. Just because ace and aro spectrum experiences tend not to be well documented doesn't make them invalid.

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this has probably already been done, but it popped into my brain and I had to make it so here you go

+ aroallo, non-sam aro, and neu aro variants

➹DON'T TAG THIS AS ASEXUAL/ACE OR AROACE➹