#alloace

[ace-lesbian-culture-is]

Alloaces aren't valid just bc 'we can still fall in love' like non-ace people. We're valid bc asexuality exists and is not a lesser state of being no matter how much or how little romance we participate in. We're valid bc we don't 'have to' engage in romance to make up for the little sex and sexual attraction we have. In fact we don't need validity, just freedom and the right to express our sexuality just like everybody else.

[ivyoaknut]

I saw the headcanon recently that Tenna was alloace because sex is censored on TV but romance is everywhere on it and HOLY FUCK I CAN'T GET THIS OUT OF MY HEAD

[leikeliscomet]

When it comes to asexual allyship a lot of people wanna have their cake and eat it too (pun unintended). People like a lil 'aces are valid' moment but don't actually unpack compulsory sexuality. People see sexless queer representation and always clock puritanism before they ever clock asexuality. No one's actually reading the ace theory and texts coming out. Everyone keeps doing surprised Pikachu faces whenever a conservative or TERF says they're against asexuality despite the fact ace activists have been saying since day conservatives are not anti sex but anti sexual autonomy. 'Aces are queer' until we actually are. Even ace support posts keep ending with some expectation or condition that asexuality is #valid as long as asexuals still perform a small quota of sex/sexual activity. I'm so over 'Aces still have sex!' 'Aces are hot' Aces are sexy' 'Aces aren't virgin vanilla prude sexless puritans!' disguised as support.

Like no. Sorry. Until you accept that some asexual people's no is permanent, that some asexual's singleness is permanent, that some asexual's childless-ness is permanent, that some asexuals are the 'no' in little to no sexual attraction and i'd say most importantly, that queer sexlessness isn't a biological, social or moral failing, I don't believe you'll ever genuinely support asexuality. (In reverse, I also feel similar about aromanticism and romance).

Like a lot of u haven't gone beyond 'the a isn't for ally' and it shows. I don't want people to support asexuals just because we're soooo hot or because we write the best smut apparently or because we could have hypothetical sex or because we could do hypothetical kink or because our minds are soooo dirty actually or because we'd do romance reallllyyyy well or because we can still have kids or because asexuals hand out water bottles at the orgy or some shit. I want people to support asexuality because no sexuality is deviant and it's basic human decency.

EDIT: U lot really like this post huh. Well it's blown up again and the point's been lost so let's wrap that up:

'But op, some asexuals DO have sex/I'm an acespec that has sex/I'm a non asexual person what about meeee :(' pt 2, pt 3

'There's asexual studies OP??/Where's the asexual studies OP?'

EDIT 2: Yeah I'm locking this one up until u lot get better reading comprehension. If you genuinely, unironically, deadass believe this post is anti-sex favourable, anti-demi, anti-grey, pro-gold star/black stripe ace or even TERF rhetoric for saying asexuals don't need to have sex to be supported as human beings then compulsory sexuality has a done an absolute number one you. Read asexual theory. Look at the follow up posts I'm so tired of repeating myself.

[potatowithinternet]

Hey gang, what if we didn't talk about relationships like they were hierarchies

[black-ace-culture-is]

Happy International Asexuality Day, Black Asexuals! 🖤🩶🤍💜

Yasmin Benoit helped to co-found this day in 2021 to celebrate the asexual identity and ace experiences. I have to be honest and say given recent events I'm not in the celebrating mood, but I'm still gonna try to boost Black asexuality today just like every other day. Creating Black ace spaces and content is important because we're the only ones who can. Just like Yasmin, we have to create the Black ace representation that we want and need. We are the representation. Don't be afraid to take up space and speak your truth. Don't shrink yourself to make mainstream bigger ace spaces more comfortable. Don't feel like you have to downplay or 'fix' your Blackness for anybody ace or not. And most importantly, have a great day!

[fagbearentertainment]

I wanna see how much of the tumbr user base is queer so I made this 😋

Reblog for larger sample size! ☺️

[tonitheloftwing]

Meme inspired by me, an aroallo, being absolutely gobsmacked by the concept of Too Hot to Handle

[green-static]

Psst hey. Straight asexuals, you’re valid and you fucking rock

Pssst psst, straight aromantics, you’re valid and really fucking awesome

[doomvoidjelly]

people can be aromantic and not asexual. People can be asexual and not aromantic. Holy shit I wish people didn’t use those terms interchangeably.

this applies to real life, of course, but I see people in fandom do this all the time. A character can be aromantic coded and not asexual coded and vis versa. not every aspec coded character is aroace and I wish more people recognized that some characters are better read as aroallo

[simbistardis]

Happy ace week to my Black asexuals, Black demis, Black greys, ace studs, ace stems, ace femmes/fish and everyone else in between

[zillywalten]

Hey, if you treat QPRs as lesser than romantic relationships, I do not like you.

Like, don't say “they're at least in a QPR”, or “I don't ship characters, most I can do is QPR”

All relationships are equal, stop using hierarchies for them.

[leikeliscomet]

'But asexuals are so harmless why would she come after them/us?' I mean apart from the fact trans people, intersex people and people of colour aren't harmful either and oppression isn't because a group deserved it and marginalised people don't need to be morally pure to not be discriminated against, no asexuality isn't harmless in conservatives' eyes. In an ideology where cis heterosexual marriage and sex for reproduction is seen as mandatory you having little to no sexual attraction ruins the whole set up. You can't 'be fruitful and multiply' in the way god intended. You have a nonsexuality that isn't being forced onto you by them. You're not repressing your desire in the name of god because you barely have any. You have control over your own body and you aren't supposed to do that. You're spitting in the face of conservative sexual and gender roles just by existing. Spit harder!

Unofficial part 2

[dabouse]

happy pride to

male aspecs - your existence isn't sad, and you aren't an incel.

female aspecs - you aren't a prude

non-binary aspecs - you guys are real, seen, and valid

aspecs who are loveless - you aren't any less human

aspecs who are very loving - you aren't faking it

aroallos - you aren't just a whore

alloaces - you aren't just celibate

aplatonics - you're not any less valid than other aspecs

happy pride to all aspecs!

[black-ace-culture-is]

Yasmin Benoit with other aspecs and queer people at the Ace of Clubs, a temporary asexual club in London created in collaboration with AVEN and Budweiser UK in 2019.

[abookwasallittooktomakemeacrook]

"and historians said they were bestest of friends" they were. they were both aro/ace and in a qpr