#Consistent Discipline with Love

[kidsinnowadays]

How to Be the Cool Parent Without Losing Authority: 6 Hip Strategies That Work

Learn how to strike a balance between being the "cool" parent and maintaining your authority, creating a harmonious and respectful parent-child relationship. #ParentingBalance #CoolParenting #HipStrategies #EffectiveParenting

Striking the Balance Between Cool and Authoritative Parenting is a delicate dance between love, guidance, and boundaries. We all want our children to view us as the cool and understanding parents they can confide in, but we also need to maintain authority to ensure their safety and well-being. Striking this balance can be a real challenge, but it’s not impossible. In this blog post, we’re about…

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At some point in your life, you just have to realize that your laziness, your lack of goals and ambition, your unhealthy coping mechanisms, the books you're not reading, the people you're not meeting, the healthy food you won't even touch, the effort you won't put in.... it's called disrespecting yourself. Don't know about you, but I'm done with it.

[angerieque]

You don’t have to force a whole new personality, but reintroduce patterns and ways of existence.

[glowup-princess]

ʜᴏᴡ ᴛᴏ ʙᴇ ᴄᴏɴꜱɪꜱᴛᴇɴᴛ pt.2

Here are 10 more unique tips to help you stay consistent:

1. Tie It to an Existing Habit

Link your new habit to something you already do daily. Example: If you want to read more, read for 5 minutes right after brushing your teeth.

2. Use the "2-Minute Rule"

If a task feels overwhelming, start with just 2 minutes of effort.

Example: Instead of aiming for a full workout, just commit to putting on your workout clothes. Once you start, you'll likely keep going.

3. Track Progress Visually

Use a habit tracker, checklist, or even mark an "X" on a calendar every day you stick to your habit.

Seeing your streak grow will make you want to continue!

4. Set Non-Negotiables

Decide on a bare minimum you must do, no matter what.

Example: If you're too tired to exercise, do just 10 squats instead of skipping completely.

5. Change Your Environment

Make it easier to stay consistent by removing friction.

Example: If you want to drink more water, keep a bottle within reach at all times.

If you want to use your phone less, keep it in another room while working.

6. Develop an Identity-Based Mindset

Instead of saying, "I want to work out regularly," say "I am someone who exercises daily."

Aligning habits with your identity makes them easier to stick to.

7. Plan for Failure (Have a Backup Plan)

Expect obstacles and have a strategy for when things go wrong.

Example: If you miss a gym session, have a quick home workout plan as a backup.

If you can’t follow your full morning routine, pick just one key habit to keep.

8. Make It Fun

Consistency is easier when you enjoy the process!

Example: Turn boring tasks into a game, challenge yourself, or reward yourself after completing tasks.

9. Batch Similar Tasks Together

If you struggle with consistency, try batching tasks to make them easier.

Example: If you want to post on social media daily, create a week’s worth of content in one session.

10. Remove the Decision Fatigue

Plan ahead so you don’t have to think too much in the moment.

Example: Lay out your workout clothes the night before or meal prep for the week to avoid unhealthy choices.

Stay hydrated <3

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[blabbershere]

[ultred]

when disappointment gets in the way of your manifestations.

i’ve honestly barely seen anyone talk about this. and no, i’m not talking about people who feel frustrated, angry, sad, etc. i’m addressing the ones who dissociate, feel numb, disappointed, and detach from their manifestations negatively. the ones who feel disconnected from them.

but why does that happen to begin with ?

it usually happens when someone has been through severe emotional pain in their life. (yes, i’m going to talk about this before anyone comes at me and tells me to not acknowledge the “negative” once you understand it, shift your focus on solutions) in order to fully get rid of this state, you have to understand the reason. often when we’ve been through traumatic things or have experienced extreme unfavorable emotions, some of us’ minds/bodies tend to shut down when these traumas/emotions are triggered again in our current situations. for example, if you’ve been through trauma in your past relationships (any kind of relationship) and you see certain patterns that trigger this past trauma in your new relationship, instead of spiraling or feeling intense emotions, your mind shuts down as a way to protect you. so, that’s a perspective to keep in mind. your mind isn’t really against you so don’t be mad at it or view it from that perspective. it is just trying to protect you. so have more empathy towards yourself.

how to know if you’re experiencing this ?

1. you feel cringed/icked by your desire.

2. you dissociate from the person or thing you’re desiring.

3. you feel like isolating yourself/protecting yourself from the outer world.

4. you feel unmotivated and not necessarily in the mood to persist. you don’t care that much.

5. you might start developing resentment towards the desire.

6. you might try to replace your desire with another one in your imagination. (for example, instead of imagining your sp who you are attached to/have a connection with, you start imagining someone else who you’re disconnected from. like an imaginary sp)

7. you view your sp as a “threat.”

8. you feel like you want to move on to something/someone else. (this usually stems from feeling powerless and not in control)

p.s: i’m just using sp as an example because it’s a bit more common to happen in relationships. this can be applied to anything.

what is the solution ?

well, i’ll be quite honest here. the law is neutral. the law doesn’t care about your emotions, respectfully. it will not give you a pat on the back. it will not understand or analyze you. it will just do its job which is: giving you exactly what you select. as neville says, you cannot serve two masters. you cannot want and not want that thing at the same time.

here are a few things to keep in mind:

1. your past means nothing. it is not the ultimate truth. it is not the map you’re supposed to use to navigate your life. it’s just that. the past. nothing else.

2. patterns are there to show you that something has to change. they’re not there to keep you stuck in them. it doesn’t have to be the same again. it can be different when you decide to not let them dictate how to view your present situation.

3. it’s okay to feel disappointed, but remember that you deserve good things in life. disappointment doesn’t stop things from developing to the better. you can still be disappointed by something/someone and they can change. nothing is set in stone in your reality. it’s always changing. you have the choice whether to let it change to the better or worse.

4. everything is you. nobody has free will in your reality. nothing can reject you in your reality because they’re literally YOU. unless you’re rejecting yourself. now why would you do that ?

5. you’re more in control than you think. nothing happens in the 3d without your consent. everything happens with your consent including the disappointments.

now, i know this might make you feel like you have to do a lot, which is not true. i’m not saying that you have to exert a huge amount of effort to change this. i simply just want you to DECIDE whether you truly want it or not. whether you truly want to experience this desire or not with that specific person or thing. because even if you choose to move on from it, you’ll still experience the same thing over and over. it’s like you’re just throwing it away and “hoping” that the next will be better. like i said, you only do this because you feel powerless and not in control which is completely false. me, you, and everyone’s mama in the loa community knows that you are the operant power in your reality. so, it’s your choice. ask yourself, do you TRULY want this person/thing ? if the answer is yes, then it is yours. it’s done. now you’ve selected the reality in which that person/thing is 100% yours and they’ll continue to reflect who you’re being and whatever script you’re assigning them to.

here are some affirmations that will help you.

i am the operant power of my reality.

i am in total control of everything.

whatever i say goes.

i am stronger and keep getting stronger every day.

i always approach life with love and empathy.

i always see the best in people and situations.

i love how everything works out perfectly in my favor.

the world serves me.

i always assume the best case scenario no matter what.

isn’t it wonderful how i’m always approaching everyone and everything with a positive mindset ? i truly am the best at this.

i always get what i want.

i have high expectations and they’re always met.

i am such a determined person. when i have my mind set on something/someone, i get it/them.

— notice how i used “always” a lot. you have to make having this mindset a common thing for you.

what about visualization ? how can i start visualizing my desire again ?

i personally would recommend that you visualize this person/thing apologizing to you. i know this might sound weird, but let me explain. for instance, if you have an sp and you’re experiencing any of the signs i mentioned here, instead of just visualizing your desired outcome, you can visualize them apologizing for hurting you, regretting not treating you right, etc. etc. and then continue from there. feel them truly regretting hurting and being afraid to lose you. visualize them clinging to you even if you feel disconnected from them. eventually, you’ll start opening up to them again.

lastly, if you have any questions,

feel free to ask. you got this ! (ᴗ ̫ ᴗ) <3

[teastudieseveryday]

Habits sowing update:

24th February 2025

There's positivity surrounding me, yes. There's also some struggle, I slipped up again for a bit with my routine and daily rituals but I was going through my previous blog entries (thankfully none of those are depressive and sad, perks of being an optimistic and persistent) and it made me realize all I am capable of, yay!

We are in our habits sowing quarter, so we aren't panicking about being perfect, every day is a chance to do better. An opportunity to show up for myself from a better perspective.

I have successfully reduced my screentime to this average which was 9-7hrs average per week, so that's a win.

My month end cycle and period is here so we can conclude what areas I need to work harder on (in case I forget) & some goals I have for March:

waking up at 4:30am

reading 150-200pgs everyday with break days

writing 500-1000 words a day (researched or freestyled)

working out 3-5 times a week, bare minimum for 20mins

These are some qualities I want to inculcate for life, not just now. I want these habits to build overtime and this year so that I can be a better person in one years time.

I hope everyone's doing well and is healthy xx <3

[au-palais]

Wrote a solid 3k of four walls today I’m proud of myself

[unsung-legends]

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Things that helped me grow...

having friends that don't push my boundaries and understand my priorities;

consuming content that helps me connect with my goals instead of self-improvement based content;

understanding cravings and desires are not meant to be ignored;

realizing that health is the only aspect of your life you cannot postpone; 'I don't have to eat healthy/move my body/take care of myself' = 'I don't have time to keep myself alive for long enough';

literally allowing myself to make mistakes;

challenging myself to do 'embarrassing' things, to show up, to raise my hand in class, to start one difficult workout I cannot finish, to smile and joke with people I don't know, to ask for what I want;

learning to take advantage of everything and everyone (without causing any harm ofc) - the teacher who thinks I'm their best student, my friend who is great at biology and can teach me too, the time I have before classes start - everything and everyone;

keeping my schedule simple - health, school, my writing competition, dance classes, sleeping, time with family.

[angerieque]

Upgrade your habits.

[minimalist-quotes]

If you spend 100 hours a year in any discipline, (which is only 18 mins a day) you'll be better than 95% of the world in that discipline.

Consistency is everything.

[blabbershere]

If someone followed you around for a week, would they believe you're serious about your goals?

[aprilferdia]

Your choices every day after waking up in the morning:

Take action even 1% towards your dream.

Get away from your dreams by doing things that are not important.

Remember that the pain of discipline is better than the pain of regret.

[mya1112]

you cannot find peace by avoiding life.

Dear Sterlings,

I have been in a great slump, if I have to explain it in the shortest way possible. A lost student, who isn't as much lost (y'all if I say bs, don't mind me, I am trying my best to sound like *that*), someone who asks questions to herself all the time, even when she has the answers to them. And every time that debate with myself ends with only one line: "You just have to start doing it".

It's a ramble in my head, because I wish to say so much. 1 year is what I have to change my life, to prove everyone that I am capable of it all, to become the 1st person of my family to attend that college, and here I am, procrastinating each and every single day of my life.

It's an endless cycle, as if. You wake up, go to school, see how everyone is working hard and you aren't, thinking about all the course you have to cover up, thinking "Oh I'll do this once I reach home" and then never doing it. Watching reels all day, or scrolling through Pinterest, whole day having spent like that, and the cycle repeats. I go to school the next day, realize how much I have to study and never do it.

It's been this way for some months. I tell myself I have lost the hope to clear that exam, to get my dream life, and yet I daydream. It's as if each minute of my day is consumed by those daydreams. And then I say to myself "No, it hasn't ended", yet I feel as if I am stuck in a cycle that I cannot get out of. But here I am, making Tumblr itself the witness of my story, my journey.

I don't know if this account will ever reach its targeted audience, to the people like me, who have lost hope, yet they haven't, but there's nothing wrong with considering a social media platform your personal diary-cum-self development blog.

So here i am, promising myself, once again, never to fall in the mind trap of procrastination, even if it takes numerous frustrating days, to reach where I wish to, I promise myself to reach there, where I am proud of myself, to become the dream version of myself, to get that dream routine, to become...the best! so I wish, no, somewhere in the near future (watch me use that law of attraction bicchh), I am already in that place, where, instead of telling myself "Why can't you get out of this already", I am saying "I did it! I did everything I wished to do, and I am the happiest I have ever been."

Yours Sincerely,

Ciel :D

[teastudieseveryday]

First quarter of 2025! Sowing good habits till March ends ♥

We're doing well so far, I have experienced a lot of mindset shift in the past 1.5months when I was offline.

We've started with our morning rituals, but I slowly want to push myself to wake up at 4 in the morning sometime around the mid of February because I'll be on a short trip for 3-4 days.

For now-

I've progressed with my scalp massages, I can see so many short strands of new hair kinda made me emotional (though Im blessed with thick black hair but Im trying to grow my hair longer)

Im waking up earlier, at 6:30am. I stretch, lay with my head hanging upside down from the edge of the bed for blood circulation in my head, massage my scalp, have tea etcetera and read the news and listen to affirmations <3

I no longer feel the need to motivate myself, I just feel excited when I look at what needs to be done for the day. Although I procrastinate a lot on some days, we'll fix that too.