#growth and development

[milkiie]

nobody prepares you for that moment in healing/shadow work where you realize you have, in fact, actually suffered, it was not normal, you didn't make it up/weren't being dramatic, and the resilience you have in you is a great strength, but it has also hurt you, because you never realized how bad it has been

[boushwrites]

To heal is to give yourself the chance you keep seeking from others. It’s a journey of growth—working on yourself at your own pace, little by little.

Healing means reflecting on your experiences, mistakes, and emotions one at a time, not running from them or avoiding them. It’s about confronting the discomfort, allowing yourself to feel it fully so you can evolve into a healthier version of yourself. Only then will you attract the partner you truly deserve and have the wisdom and the strength to nurture a meaningful relationship.

♡

[minimumlie]

I was doing a review of psychology across the lifespan and I’m really tired of Erik Erikson. Surely, we have newer people to focus on. Surely, surely, we don’t need to use the guy who was barely born in the 1900s and institutionalized his daughter who had Down Syndrome.

Reminds me of how the Big Psychology Guy is constantly Freud. Bro got scared by his peers and decided to claim that everybody wants to fuck their parents.

We must have newer people exploring psychology and creating better theories nowadays. With the rise of awareness in mental health and neurodivergence, it's weird that we keep using sources that are ancient.

In other areas, we constantly strive for the most accurate and recent information, so it's just kinda wild to use 50+ year old information related to the mind.

[chaosnoirjpg]

Forgiving Myself and Self Love

It’s February, Love day is less than 72 hours away as of today. It is no surprise that in this entry I will be exploring how to forgive yourself and learning to love yourself.

Love, always

I am not a big believer in the maxim, loving yourself so you can be loved in return. This implies that you are unable to be loved because you are not worthy. This is extremely damaging and disempowering to the psyche. We are not put on this earth to degrade ourselves, to fit in boxes that demand we shine less so mediocrity can be tolerated. Let us explore a more freeing kind perspective on love. Know this, you are always worthy and deserving of love. No matter what you think or believe of yourself, no matter what you have done, no matter your faults. Whatever you believe that makes you undeserving of love, you are worthy still, forever and always. This allows love to be experienced as truly unconditional. This is what it means to be free, to be empowered.

Who taught you to hate yourself? What happened to instill mistrust and doubt in yourself? Whatever happened and who ever entered your life and stole your light, know that those people and events happened to shed light on who you are. That pain and suffering you endured can be transmuted and transformed into something great if you choose it.

Relationships are a vessel of growth for ourselves. The relationships of our lives are a reflection of what we are able to perceive. When we tolerate relationships that belittle and abuse us, we reinforce within ourselves that we are not worthy of experiencing kindness, gentleness, and reverence. This is where I believe the love yourself so you can be loved idiom originated from. Just because we have been treated poorly and that is all we know doesn’t mean we are not worthy of experiencing love. This means we are unaware of better. You can only meet people as deeply as they have met themselves.

Empowerment via Knowledge

To become empowered is to choose. To choose is to become aware. To become aware, you examine your thoughts (actions, beliefs, etc) without judgment and test those thoughts and belief systems without expectation. Prove to yourself that you thought wrong, you were misinformed and miseducated. Now that you are aware, you can choose to learn better, do better, and be better. Understanding that you have a choice in the matter of your life and how you experience life.

You are not a static being, you are constantly changing though you may not be aware. Ask yourself, “How can I think better thoughts so I can feel better and do better and act better. Thus changing my life for the better”. The answer may come in forms you could never fathom. There are ways to pick up the answers via listening to the messages and learning the lessons. Each way can be unique to the individual, however a common one is sitting in silence/stillness and listening to the world around you. You are practicing getting to know yourself. The more you learn about yourself the more you can trust yourself.

Love will be able to reach you no matter where you are in your life. Love will evolve with you as you evolve. Love will reach you when you are ready for it. Love is always with you, no matter the lovelessness around you, no matter the lovelessness you experienced. This is a more gentle view of what love can do, a more empowering view. You are less likely to waste energy searching for love when you relax into the knowing that love is always with you. Love may just be in a different form than you expected. The only seeking you would do is in training your senses to listen out for love’s presence. We do the best we can with the knowledge we had.

Mistakes as a Conduit to Learning

Not too long ago, parents were indoctrinated into capital punishment as being a proficient way to instill morals into their children. This is what they called discipline. An online therapist that changed an active spanking-parent’s perspective in just one session, asked a devastating question to the public, “Adults who were spanked as a child, how do you forgive yourself?” The comment section was a mess of people realizing something had gone awry in their upbringing. The one comment that struck me, “I’m supposed to forgive myself?”

The answer to that is yes and here is why. When you are unable to forgive yourself, you are subconsciously using all your energy to hold space for hate, anger, intolerance and blame. There is no room for love to grow. Love and resentment cannot exist in a healthy way. When we choose forgiveness we are able to break the blockages and allow our energy to flow in more fruitful ways.

Let's reframe mistakes and failures so that we can more easily forgive ourselves.

Mistakes are an opportunity to learn. Life is full of experiences and it is our human brain that views the outcomes as good or bad, these experiences are chances to grow. A mistake is an opportunity to evolve and the negative connotation of the word mistake can prevent you from trying again. There is no judgment involved with the soul’s lesson. What you view as a mistake is just another path. When one door closes, another one opens. Learn to enjoy the process and not the destination. (The Soul’s Journey: Lesson Cards by James Van Praagh, p. 40-41)

See how changing your perspective can change your world. Opening your mind to becoming more free and fluid, ever changing and evolving into better and greater. Forgiveness removes the blockages to let love flow.

Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~Rumi

Defining Love

My favorite definitions of love are from bell hooks and Bossy Bruja are as followed:

Love is the will to nurture our own and another's spiritual growth. ~bell hooks, All About Love

Love is the constant and unconditional givingness of God. Divine grace and mercy, infinite patience, tireless support, enduring passion, unbelievable favor, kindness, gentleness, complete forgiveness and total understanding. ~Bossy Bruja

Love is not this vague and elusive entity that plagues us during cuffing season and Black history month. Love is an action, love is a choice. Love is not something that sneaks up on you when you least expect it. Love is not a thing you fall into. Love is a conscious choice to commit to the fulfillment of your soul. Love is the ability to learn, grow and evolve your spirit. You are love itself, already and always. You are the one experiencing the expansion of your spirit. You may have had to learn how to go on your spiritual journey through doubt, fear and judgment but you got there. You learned that you are bigger than your doubts, your fears, yours and others judgements. You stayed curious and hungry for enrichment. Love is not a feeling or emotion. Love is the learning, the growing, and the evolving. You experience this on your own or with others friends, family and lovers. All relationships are an experience, a stepping stone along your path of life.

How do you define love? How have you experienced love?

Now, with all that being typed, do you trust yourself to make happy and healthy decisions? That is for another entry.

[nightengaleneedles]

This WIP Wednesday the work in progress is Trey! They recently remade Gale's fursona shoulder pet, and we took some pictures of the two side by side.

On the right is the original Gale shoulder pet, made approximately 5 years ago. On the left, the new and improved version. As you can see, in he past few years, our shoulder pets have gotten a little bit larger, a little bit sweeter, and a lot more detailed!

Trey's skill with applique continues to grow in leaps and bounds!

[blisspediatricdentistry]

Why Growth and Development Monitoring Matters in Pediatric Dentistry

At Bliss Pediatric Dentistry, we believe that healthy smiles start early—and it all begins with Growth and Development Monitoring. From your child’s very first tooth, their oral health journey is constantly evolving. Our expert team, led by experienced professionals, provides thorough kids dental checkups to track how teeth and jaws are forming, making sure everything is right on schedule.

As a trusted Kids Dentist in San Carlos, we specialize in monitoring primary teeth, ensuring they’re developing in a way that supports proper speech, chewing, and overall health. Early monitoring helps us detect any signs of developmental delays, bite issues, or alignment concerns long before they become problems.

By staying proactive, we help parents understand what’s normal and when early intervention may be needed—setting the stage for a lifetime of confident, healthy smiles. Consistent dental visits during childhood are key to identifying changes early and offering the best care tailored to your child’s unique growth patterns.

Give your child a healthy foundation with regular checkups and personalized care at Bliss Pediatric Dentistry—where little smiles grow strong every day.

[vlukopmo]

Exploring the Maternal and Baby Products Industry: Momcozy and Ovulation Calculation

The maternal and baby products industry is thriving, with innovative brands like Momcozy leading the way in providing exceptional products for mothers and their little ones. One of the key aspects for mothers planning their families is understanding ovulation calculation, which can significantly enhance the chances of conception.

Momcozy offers a range of products designed to support mothers during their pregnancy journey, ensuring they have the tools they need for a healthy start. By incorporating features that assist in ovulation tracking, Momcozy empowers women to take charge of their reproductive health and make informed decisions.

With a focus on quality and comfort, Momcozy's products not only cater to the needs of mothers but also promote a positive parenting experience. The brand stands out in the market by ensuring that both mothers and babies are taken care of, fostering a nurturing environment for growth and development.

In conclusion, the maternal and baby products industry is continuously evolving, and with brands like Momcozy leading the charge, mothers can confidently navigate their journey with the right support and resources.

[lovingmylight]

Instability

Signaling

(😡😠🤬😫👿versus😇😃🤣🤪🥰)

Either it's too little too late: (doing the minimal and having no intent at all to help you or anyone else if it isn't for themselves).

Or

Too much too soon: (doing the most and immediately seeming grandiose and righteous in the short term for personal gain).

Or

It's not the right time: (whenever you bring up a topic that points to their sensibilities, it's all of a sudden inconvenient to their fragile ego), so they gatekeep information that would have been beneficial, even for both parties.

Or

It's complicated : (they haven't developed the emotional intellect to articulate their inner dialogue replete with their pain, suffering, anguish, childhood wounds, and even their joy and contentment, while remaining objective), so they deceive, flipflop, avoid, deflect and project.

And lastly,

Showing no interest and intent at all of accountability throughout any and all interactions, but instead blaming everyone else ... victimizing all others while claiming to be a victim. No signs of commitment to growth and development. None.

Signals like these are just a few ways to identify instability in others. Proceed at your own risk.

C.

[ladydeathwrites]

https://archiveofourown.org/works/62537377/chapters/160060489

There's always been just one thing that I craved. Death. You're probably asking yourself why any sane person would wish to die, and well, let me just tell you I'm not a sane person. I crave death for peace. For just a single moment of that sweet dark abyss that is death. From the moment I was born my life had always been loud, my parents were always fighting, didn't really care for me much because I wasn't the son that they wanted which is probably why they named me Stevie, so that way if they were to mention me, they could pass me as a boy. I'm almost sure they don't even know my age, let alone my birthday. It's not like it matters. I hate my birthday anyways, it's just another day of the year, and it just means I'm almost there. One step closer to the grave. Whatever that bullshit is about dancing with death or kissing death, it was fake because I've been death's biggest fan, and I've yet to be noticed. I'm half tempted to figure out how to fuck death maybe then he'll take my soul to the dark abyss where I can be free of this piece of shit world. Now if you were to ask anyone about what they thought the afterlife looked like they'd give you some happy or religious answer that they use to make the end of their life have some meaning but I don't believe any of that shit. Death was darkness, quiet and peaceful, it was the end, there was no life after it. Or so I thought.

[lotuskks]

Narendra Modi: A Leader's Journey to Empower India

Who are your current most favorite people? Narendra Modi, Prime Minister of India, is recognised for his leadership and commitment to national development, emphasizing inclusive growth through programs like “SABKA SAATH SABKA VIKAS.” Modi’s journey from a humble background to a powerful leader involves significant reforms like the Clean India initiative and the abrogation of Articles 370 and…

[girlwithrituals]

GLOW UP GUIDE FOR 2025⠀

READ: On average, it takes more than 2 months before a new behavior becomes automatic — 66 days to be exact. And considering that 2025 is precisely these many days away, why not start with our glow up plan already?

Physical Glow Up-

BODY

— 5-10K steps a day.

— 7-8 hours of sleep.

— workout everyday for 1 hr atleast- yoga/stretching/pilates/cardio/lifting weights. a workout may take one hour, but your mood will be boosted for the next 12 hours.

— posture training.

— sunlight exposure after waking up for at least 10 minutes.

NUTRITION

— 2-3 liters of water every day.

— limit your caffeine intake.

— avoid sugars as much as you can.

— high protein diet, pre and probiotics.

— more fruits and veggies (+ green smoothies if you like).

— no junk/processed food/trans fat.

— no eating after 8 pm.

SKINCARE

— be clear on your skin type (oily, dry, combination, sensitive).

— once you're clear, use these accordingly- cleanser, toner, targeted serum, eye cream, moisturizer, sunscreen (≥50 spf).

— keep your bedding clean as well.

— no picking of skin on your lips, cuticle etc.

— gua sha to help improve blood circulation and lessen toxins.

— cold therapy may take three to five minutes of being uncomfortable, but your energy levels will be boosted for the rest of the day.

— remove makeup before you go to bed.

BODY CARE

— shower every day.

— exfoliate 2x a week.

— use body lotion (shea butter/aloe vera gel/coconut oil).

HAIR CARE

— wash hair 2-3x a week

— oil your scalp 2x a week, at least 3 hours before shampoo.

— hair mask 1x per week.

— never brush wet hair.

— use silk pillow case.

HYGIENE

— brush your teeth 2x a day, clean tongue and the roof of the mouth daily.

— floss daily.

— cut your nails 1x a week, never remove the cuticles.

— glycolic acid under arm for odor and discoloration.

— never use soap on your coochie.

Mental Glow Up-

MINDSET

— set clear goals- define and breakdown your aspirations.

— start your mornings with positive affirmations.

— surround yourself with uplifting content and people.

— be shamelessly selfish to your career and mental health, remove anyone or anything that doesn't align with your priorities and wellbeing.

— boost your brain health by these 4 neuroscience tools:

difficult first: start your day with the most difficult task (cortisol and dopamine are high in the body meaning that your body/mind is primed to work).

rest your eyes: introduce a micro-pause after learning by resting/closing your eyes - will help retain information better.

tomorrow's worries: write tomorrow's to-do list before bed as it is proven to be effective in helping you fall asleep.

find time to play: engage in low-stake play. can be anything you find fun but where the outcome doesn't matter (induces neuroplasticity + reduces stress).

MIND

— meditation might take as low as ten minutes, but your focus will be improved for the rest of the day.

— no social media after waking up and at least an hour before bed.

— keep aside 1 hr of time to read daily! reading a new book may take five hours, but you will keep the knowledge forever.

— journaling, gratitude.

— digital detox once a week or for 12 hours.

— limit unnecessary screentime, unfollow or cut off people you don't want to see.

JOURNALING

— choose a regular time each day to journal, making it a part of your routine.

— find a quiet, comfortable place free from distractions. light a candle if you want.

— allow your thoughts to flow without censoring or editing.

— write about your feelings and emotions to understand them better. write about things you are thankful for to boost your mood. write about your short-term and long-term goals. identify what triggers certain emotions or reactions

— set a timer for 5-10 minutes and write continuously during that time.

— reflect on both positive experiences and challenges.

— make lists, journal your thoughts on these questions.

— journal at night to clear your mind before bedtime, because emotions and thoughts lose their power once we acknowledge them.

— a gratitude practice may take five minutes, but your mindset will be shifted for the rest of the day.

AFFIRMATIONS

— customise affirmations to your needs.

Personal Life-

WEEKLY TASKS

— initiate small changes: begin with small, manageable tasks such as making your bed or cleaning your room every sunday.

— celebrate your success: reward yourself when you achieve your goals or have a consistently productive week. consider treats like buying flowers for yourself or watching your favorite show.

DAILY WORK

— set achievable goals: establish realistic goals for the day, week, or month ahead.

— track your progress.

— organise your work space, declutter your shelves etc.

— embrace the power of lists: keep a list of tasks to be done and their deadlines. this way, you start each day with a clear plan. to make it visually appealing and motivating, consider using productivity apps like evernote, habit tracker, or notion.

PRODUCTIVITY TIPS

— wake up early.

— plan ahead everything, do scheduling. you can use:

google calendar / notion / tasks .

— if the task takes less than 2 minutes to finish, do it immediately.

— countdown rule, if you are procrastinating, count 1-2-3-4-5 and jump.

— start slow, don't rush and try to do everything at one time.

— follow a proper routine, use app locks based on screentime.

— pomodoro technique, 25 min work, and 5 min break.

— schedule longer break times as well e.g 30 min nap.

[dr-arpit-garg-endocare]

Nutrition and Exercise for Optimal Growth and Development

Short Stature Treatment in Patiala

Short Stature Treatment in Patiala

While medical interventions may be necessary for some children with short stature, it's important to remember that healthy lifestyle habits play a crucial role in growth and development. In Patiala, while proper nutrition and exercise are crucial for growth, concerns about short stature can be addressed through Short Stature Treatment options.

A balanced diet provides the essential nutrients needed for growth, including protein, calcium, iron, and vitamins. Encourage your child to eat a variety of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, and dairy products. Limit processed foods and sugary drinks, as they can contribute to unhealthy weight gain and hinder growth.

Regular physical activity is also essential for optimal growth. Encourage your child to participate in activities they enjoy, such as swimming, dancing, or playing sports. Exercise helps build strong bones and muscles, promotes healthy growth, and can improve overall fitness.

It's important to consult with a pediatrician or registered dietitian for personalized advice on nutrition and exercise. They can help you create a plan that is tailored to your child's individual needs and preferences.

By prioritizing healthy eating and regular physical activity, you can support your child's growth and development, even if they have short stature. Remember, a healthy lifestyle is not only about height but also about overall well-being.

[bloomzone]

No one is watching you as much as you think they are. No one cares if you're biking alone, playing basketball by yourself, or sitting by a river with a blanket and a book. What actually matters is how those things make you feel. Do they bring you peace? Do they make you happy? That’s what counts. Not some random stranger’s opinion that won’t even last ten seconds. think again

[thorette]

I had no idea what it meant to be a mother.

But I always wanted it.

I was more eager and enthusiastic than I should have been.

Then I realized I did not want to be my mother.

And still, I wanted to be one.

When I became a mother, I was wary of myself and my mother’s shadow.

Now I am a mother unlike my own.

I don’t know how I did it.

Presently I’m very proud of how far I’ve come.