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When the seasons change...

As BoyzIIMen sang “Reminiscing our love as I watch four seasons change…In comes the winter breeze that chills the air and drifts the snow and I imagine kissing you under the mistletoe…Remember the warmth of days gone by” Being a follower of Christ isn’t always glamorous. It isn’t always trendy and it isn’t always easy. There are seasons in all of our lives when things are going great. We are…

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A couple that works out together...

A couple that works out together…

I hate running. Before I begin, I just want to make that clear. Never liked running and quite frankly, I hate walking for long periods of time. Nevertheless, I have developed a deep appreciation for it because it produces great results. Michael Alan ran track in highschool and college and was pretty good. He was a sprinter so anything beyond 400 meters was not an option for him outside of a lap…

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The Patch Stays On!

So, while some of my friends are running around taking vitamins and seeing an acupuncturist to assist with pregnancy, I am over here setting alarms to make sure I apply my birth control patch.  I have come to the conclusion that I have a real fear of having children! Do I want children? Yes! Do I want them to come potty-trained, talking and eating solid foods, with a training manual, and…

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Today I ended my relationship...

Today I ended my relationship…

I was in a relationship for four and half years and I ended it. In the beginning it was great. It was fun and new! We had such a great time.  I was convinced this was it. I invested so much time….okay, let’s be honest…. ALL my time. When I wasn’t with him, I was thinking about him.  There was a time about a year ago when I was certain we would take it to the next level, but alas, I was sadly…

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Spiritual Growth With Him

Spiritual Growth With Him

Hey bloggers, its me…the counterpart to the beautiful woman thats been writing the previous posts. ​ So this is my third time doing the Daniel fast and I can honestly say its the best I’ve felt. For those that have done the Daniel fast, you know how challenging it can be. Your body is yelling “feed me” while your mind is understanding that the purpose of this fast is to deny the flesh and come…

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Where you go....I will go

Where you go….I will go

“…Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay.  Your people will be my people and your God my God.  where you die I will die, and there I will be buried.  May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me.” – Ruth 1:16-17 (NIV)   Yesterday we had to make our very first real married decision. I was born and raised in Miami, FL…and you can’t pay me…

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It all began with a signed apartment lease...

It all began with a signed apartment lease…

Who knew we would end up here?? Twelve months flew by and we are at our first anniversary. Now what do we get each other for a gift? Well, my husband brought up the genius of idea of doing traditional gifts.  Now, I can’t lie, when he first mentioned it to me, I vaguely remembered someone saying something about it years ago, but I agreed to it nonetheless knowing that it had to be easy to have a…

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You don't just marry your spouse, you marry their family too!

You don’t just marry your spouse, you marry their family too!

How would you spend your first anniversary?….I can bet you wouldn’t think to spend it with your in-laws!! For me, a marriage isn’t just two people coming together, it is two families coming together as well. I am so grateful to be among those who actually love being around her in-laws.  I feel sorry for those that need to pop a Xanax during the holidays just to be able to tolerate their new…

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Our New Year's Eve Tradition

Our New Year’s Eve Tradition

A year is so long.  THREE HUNDRED SIXTY FIVE DAYS LONG!  How do keep up with the moments that made you laugh and those that made you cry?  How do you recollect the moments you wanted to strangle your partner and the miles  you all have traveled? Well, you write them down…duh! Ever since we started dating, we started a New Year’s Eve tradition of reviewing our year by highlighting some of our…

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Best Advice I got in 2016

Best Advice I got in 2016

There are so many decisions to make in your life.  Ex. Do I go to college or not?  What kind of career do I want?  Do I like pork or turkey bacon? So many of these decisions we make on a daily basis even. Ex.  What do I want to eat?  Show up for class or no?  Do these jeans really make me look fat? One of the best pieces of advice I received in 2016 was: Marriage isn’t a one time decision.  You…

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I went on a blind date

I went on a blind date

I called my mom that afternoon around 5pm complaining that I had nothing to wear. Mom: Well, where are you going sweety? Me: On a blind date. Mom: Ummm….you better be going on a blind date with your husband!!!! Me: Duh mom! Mom: Well, I’m confused.  How is this a blind date now? Me: Well, we are going to pretend we don’t know each other.  I am going to go sit at the bar and then he is going to…

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Missed Call.

Sometimes I wonder: Have I missed my calling? Like is that something you can even miss??  It’s not like a phone call where you can get a notification. I mean if it’s your calling don’t you think you would know it when heard it or saw it?  Well, if are one of those people who knew your calling the moment you were called, congratulations!  If you are like me and looking for your calling everywhere…

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Ellie: Don’t you know this an exclusive club?  Only explorers get in here.  Not just any kid off the street with a helmet and a pair of goggles!  Do you think you got what it takes?  Well do you?!?

How did this child know so much about marriage at a young age?? Oh! Thats right! Adults wrote this script.  Nevertheless, Ellie couldn’t have said it any better: Only explorers get it in!  I have learned that there is so much to explore in a marriage.  Oh sure you can explore your city and your country, but more importantly there is a need to go beyond that and explore yourself and each other! Not just any cute face and banging body has what it takes to be in the married people club!  There are so many that think that by looking the part of “wifey” it makes them prime candidates for the club, but they couldn’t be farther from the truth!

Do I have what it takes? We’ll see, but for now, I am loving every moment of exploration!  These past six months of being in the exclusive explorers club has allowed me to discover so many new things about my husband and how we work as a married couple! I’ll have to admit, somethings I discovered about myself that I didn’t like, but I’m grateful for the opportunity to change them.

This truly is the best club ever! I even got us grape soda pins like Ellie and Carl had in the movie to signify our membership.  I know what you’re thinking: why have grape soda pins when you have wedding bands? LOL! My response: the grape soda pins are sooo much cooler!

For our 6 month celebration, I was inspired by the movie UP and all of its lessons in love.  If you haven’t seen it, or don’t remember much, here is a short clip to jog your memory. 

First, I attached our wedding pictures to balloons and had them hanging over the bed this morning and then I presented him with our very own adventure book!  He had no clue what any of this meant, but he loved the balloons and pictures!  I showed him the clips later and it all made sense. LOL!

After that we packed our cooler, grabbed some breakfast, and headed to the park with our sangria and blanket.  There we laid on our blanket and watched the clouds while reminiscing on past adventures and contemplating new ones!!

Although it has only been six months, Michael Alan, you will always be my greatest adventure.

The “Ellie” Badge: The highest honor I can bestow

Thank you for the memories! Now let’s go out and make some more! Adventure is out there!

Me: Michael, you and me, we’re in a club now!

You and me, we’re in a club now Ellie: Don't you know this an exclusive club?  Only explorers get in here.  Not just any kid off the street with a helmet and a pair of goggles!  

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Just Shut up and Ride Picture this: God is in the driver's seat and we are in the passenger's. We have yet to reach our deatination and are frustrated with where we are, so we reach over and grab the wheel. "God it's my car. I know what I am doing!" Meanwhile we have no control over the gas or the brakes and this temporary life that we are trying to steer is not ours. Because we love to be in control, there is a constant power struggle over the steering wheel which inevitably has us riding off the side of the road at times and making wrong turns and such. When God actually lets us have the wheel, we proceed drive in all the wrong directions taking the long way and get lost even a few times. In our frustration we shove the wheel back to Him, "Here God! You fix this! Get me to where I need to be!" All while He is finally driving, we want to tell Him how to get there. "Make this turn here", "Give me this job", "Bring me my husband". What we are telling God is "I've been there before God. I know how to get there", "Last time when I prayed for a week, it happened." "Last time I applied for that new position I wanted and I got it". "I got this God. I know the way" God finally responds, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No man shall enter the kingdom of heaven except through me" John 14:6 Just shut up and ride!

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I soooo need this sweater in my life

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Black and unarmed. A black man is killed every 28 hours by a cop or vigilante.

Remember the names of unarmed Black men who were killed by police or vigilantes. This is only a short list, please reply with other names so we may remember these men.

Trayvon Martin The fatal shooting of Trayvon Martin by George Zimmerman took place on the night of February 26, 2012, in Sanford, Florida.  Martin was a 17-year-old, African American high school student. He was unarmed and headed home after buying skittles and sweet tea from a gas station close to his home. George Zimmerman, a 28-year-old multi-racial, Hispanic-American, claimed to be the captain of the Neighborhood Watch was the neighborhood watch coordinator cl for the gated community where Martin was temporarily staying and where the shooting took place. Zimmerman, against the instructions of the Emergency dispatcher pursued Martin on foot calling him “the suspect.” When the case garnered international attention, sparking protests all over the world, the state of Florida filled charges against him 46 days after Martin’s death. Zimmerman was tried for second-degree murder and manslaughter, and found not guilty on July 13, 2013.

Ervin Jefferson The 18-year-old was shot and killed by two security guards — also African American — outside his Atlanta home on March 24, 2012. His mother says that he was unarmed and trying to protect his sister from a crowd that was threatening her.

Amadou Diallo 22-year-old Amadou Ahmed Diallo, a Guinnea-Bissau immigrant, was killed when four white, New York police officers in plain clothes fired 41 shots at him; 19 of which hit his body. The officers said they thought Diallo was reaching for a gun when they shot him in the doorway of his apartment. It was just his wallet. During the trial, the officers admitted that they never considered the situation (four strangers in an unmarked car with guns approaching a guy on his stoop at night) from Diallo’s point of view. They were acquitted of all charges. 

Patrick Dorismond The 26-year-old father of two young girls was shot to death in 2000 during a confrontation with undercover police officers who asked him where they could purchase drugs. An officer claimed that Dorismond — who was unarmed — grabbed his gun and caused his own death. But the incident made many wonder whether the recent acquittal of the officers in the Amadou Diallo case sent a signal that the police had a license to kill without consequence

Ousmane Zongo In 2003 Officer Bryan A. Conroy confronted and killed Zongo in New York City during a raid on a counterfeit-CD ring with which Zongo had no involvement. Relatives of the 43-year-old man from Burkina Faso settled a lawsuit against the city for $3 million. The judge in the trial of the officer who shot him (and was convicted of criminally negligent homicide but did not serve jail time) said he was “insufficiently trained, insufficiently supervised and insufficiently led."

Timothy Stansbury Unarmed and with no criminal record, 19-year-old Stansbury was killed in 2004 in a Brooklyn, N.Y., stairwell. The officer who shot him said he was startled and fired by mistake. Police Commissioner Ray Kelly called his death “a tragic incident that compels us to take an in-depth look at our tactics and training, both for new and veteran officers." A grand jury deemed it an accident.

Sean Bell Hours before his wedding, 23-year-old Sean Bell left a strip club that hosted his bachelor party, jumped into a car with two friends, and was killed when police fired 50 shots into his vehicle. Police say they opened fire after Bell rammed his car into an unmarked police van filled with plainclothes officers. They say they followed Bell and his friends outside the club suspecting that one person in their group had a gun. Referring to Bell and his friends, Mayor Bloomberg told the Associated Press "there is no evidence that they did anything wrong." A judge acquitted the officers of all charges in 2008. 

Orlando Barlow While surrendering on his knees in front of four Las Vegas police officers, Orlando Barlow was shot with an assault rifle by officer Brian Hartman 50 feet away. Hartman argued that he feared Barlow was feigning surrender and about to grab a gun. Barlow was unarmed. A jury ruled the shooting “excusable." Hartman later resigned from the force a month before a federal probe uncovered that he and other officers printed T-Shirts labeled "BDRT" which stood for “Baby’s Daddy Removal Team" and “Big Dogs Run Together." 

Aaron Campbell Portland police officers got a call to check on a suicidal and armed man at an apartment complex. Aaron Campbell,25, came out of the apartment walking backward toward police with his hands over his head. The Oregonian reported that police say Campbell ignored their orders to put his hands up. At which point one officer fired six bean bag shots at his back. Witnesses say they saw Campbell reach his arm around his back, where the beanbag struck him. Officer Ronald Frashour said he saw Campbell reach both hands around his waistband to get a gun, so he shot Campbell in the back with an assault rifle. The jury acquitted the police officer with no criminal wrongdoing.

Victor Steen 17-year-old Victor Steen died when he fled from police, after being tasered, crashing his bicycle andthen run over by police cruiser. Steen committed a simple traffic violation while riding his bike. The deadly incident was captured on video. The officers were acquitted of any criminal wrongdoing.

Ronald Madison and James Brissette In 2005, in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina, five officers opened fire on an unarmed family on the east side of the Danziger Bridge, killing 17-year-old James Brissette and wounding four others. Then, officers shot at brothers Lance and Ronald Madison. Ronald, a 40-year-old man with severe mental disabilities, was running away when he was hit, and an officer stomped on and kicked him before he died. In a federal criminal trial, five officers involved in what have become known as the “Danziger Bridge Shootings" were convicted of various civil rights violations, but not murder.

Oscar Grant On New Years morning, 2009, three Bay Area Rapid Transit officers pulled 22-year-old Oscar Grant and four other black men off a train in Oakland. You can view what happened afterwards in this Youtube video. In it, former-transit officer Mehserle can be seen shooting Grant in the back. During the trial, Mehserle argued that he thought Grant was reaching for a gun near his waistband. To stop this from happening, Mehserle said he intended to Tase him, but shot him with a pistol instead. He was sentenced to two years in prison and served 11 months.

Jordan Davis On Nov. 23, an unarmed, 17-year-old Jordan Davis, was shot and killed by Michael Dunn after an argument over loud rap music. Dunn, 46, saw Davis through the window of a sport utility vehicle at a Jacksonville convenience store gas station before driving away, authorities say. Officials say Dunn parked next to the vehicle where Davis was sitting with three other teens. Dunn complained about the loud music and they started arguing. Dunn told police he thought he saw a gun and fired eight or nine shots into the vehicle. No weapons were found in the vehicle. He is charged with first degree murder.

Kenneth Chamberlain On November 19, 2011, after his Life Aid medical alert necklace was inadvertently triggered, police came to Chamberlain’s home and demanded that he open his front door. Despite his objections and statements that he did not need help, the police broke down Chamberlain’s door, tasered him, and then shot him dead. Chamberlain was a 68-year-old, African-American, retired former-Marine, and a 20-year veteran of the Westchester County Department of Corrections. He wore the medical alert bracelet due to a chronic heart problem. A grand jury reviewed the case and decided that no criminal charge would be made against police.

Abner Louiama 30-year-old Haitian immigrant, Abner Louima, was arrested and sodomized with a broomstick inside a restroom in the 70th Precinct station house in Brooklyn. The case became a national symbol of police brutality and fed perceptions that New York City police officers were harassing or abusing young black men as part a citywide crackdown on crime. One officer, Justin A. Volpe, admitted in court in May 1999 that he had rammed a broken broomstick into Mr. Louima’s rectum and then thrust it in his face. He said he had mistakenly believed that Mr. Louima had punched him in the head during a street brawl outside a nightclub in Flatbush, but he acknowledged that he had also intended to humiliate the handcuffed immigrant. He left the force and was later sentenced to 30 years in prison. The commanders of the 70th Precinct were replaced within days of the assault. As the legal case wore on, Charles Schwarz, a former police officer, was sentenced in federal court in 2002 to five years in prison for perjury stemming from the torture case. A jury found that Mr. Schwarz had lied when he testified that he had not taken Mr. Louima to the station house bathroom where the assault took place.

Kimani Gray 16-year-old Kimani was shot four times in the front and side of his body and three times in the back by two New York City police officers as he left a friend’s birthday party in Brooklyn on March 9, 2013. The only publicly identified eyewitness is standing by her claim that he was empty-handed when he was gunned down.

Kendrec McDade 19-year-old college student McDade was shot and killed in March 2012 when officers responded to a report of an armed robbery of a man in Pasadena, Calif. He was later found to be unarmed, with only a cellphone in his pocket. His death has prompted his family to file a lawsuit, in which McDade’s parents argue that he was left on the street for a prolonged period of time without receiving first aid. According to court documents, McDade’s last words were, “Why did they shoot me?" The officers involved were initially placed on paid administrative leave but have since returned to duty.

Timothy Russell Russell and his passenger, Malissa Williams, were killed in Cleveland after police officers fired 137 rounds into their car after a chase in December 2012. Officers said they saw a possible weapon, but no weapon or shell casings were found in the fleeing car or along the chase route. 

Steven Washington Washington was shot by gang-enforcement officers Allan Corrales and George Diego in Los Angeles one night in 2010 after he approached them and appeared to remove something from his waistband. The officers said they’d heard a loud sound in the area and the 27-year-old, who was autistic, was looking around suspiciously. No weapon was ever recovered.

Alonzo Ashley Police say that 29-year-old Ashley refused to stop splashing water from a drinking fountain on his face at the Denver Zoo one hot day in 2011, then made irrational comments and threw a trash can. The responding officers, who didn’t dispute that he was unarmed, killed him with a Taser, saying he had “extraordinary strength." No criminal charges were filed against them.

Wendell Allen Allen was fatally shot in the chest by officers executing a warrant on his house on March 7, 2012, in New Orleans. The 20-year-old was unarmed, and five children were home at the time of his death. Police found 4.5 ounces of marijuana on Allen after they killed him. An attorney for the family says that New Orleans police are investigating whether Officer Joshua Colclough was wrong to pull the trigger.

Travares McGill In 2005 in Sanford, Fla. (the same county in which Travyon Martin was killed), the 16-year-old was killed by two security guards, one of whom testified that Travares was trying to hit him with his car. But evidence showed that the bullet that killed the teen hit him in the middle of the back and that the guard kept firing even after the car was no longer headed toward him.

Ramarley Graham 18-year-old Ramarley Graham was shot and killed in February of 2012, when Officer Richard Haste and his partner followed Graham into his grandmother’s apartment where Graham was attempting to flush a bag of marijuana down the toilet. Haste fatally shot Graham, who was unarmed, in the chest. The officers did not have a warrant to be inside the home. A Bronx judge later tossed out an indictment against the NYPD cop. No weapon was ever uncovered from the scene.

Tyrone Brown 32-year-old former Marine from East Baltimore, Tyrone Brown, was shot 12 times in a crowded bar after an off-duty Baltimore police officer fires 13 rounds at him for groping one of the officer’s lady friend’s. That officer, Gahiji Tshamba, was indicted for murder and faces a maximum life in prison charge if convicted. Tshamba was sentenced to 15 years in prison.

Update: Sunday, 10:14 p.m.

Several names have been added to this list by fellow bloggers. I will add them below as people remember their stories. (If I missed any, please send me a message and I will add them).

Stephen Lawrence: A British black man who was murdered in a racist attack while waiting for a bus on the evening of 22 April 1993.  Two of the perpetrators were convicted almost 20 years later in 2012.

Ernest Hoskins, Jr.: 21-year-old who was shot to death by his boss, Christopher Reynolds, after they got into an argument during a lunch meeting at Reynolds home. Reynolds was arrested and charged with first degree murder 3 weeks after he killed Hoskins  in Nov. 2012.

Chavis Charter: 21-year old who was found dead from a gunshot while handcuffed in the back of a police patrol car on July 29, 2012, was ruled a suicide.

Keaton Otis: 25-year-old Keaton Otis was shot and killed by Portland police in May 2011.  He was killed after wounding an officer during a traffic stop in Northeast Portland. A grand jury later found no criminal wrongdoing by the Portland police officers. It’s suspected the police first pulled over his son after suspecting he was a gang member. A civil rights case by the Department of Justice was opened in June 2012.

Danroy Henry, Jr.: 20-year-old Danroy “DJ" Henry, a junior at Pace University in New York,  was shot and killed by police outside a bar in Pleasantville, N.Y. early on Sunday, Oct. 17, 2010.  His friend and fellow Oliver Ames High School graduate Brandon Cox and another young man were in the car with him. The officer who shot him said Henry was driving toward him and wouldn’t stop. That officer was cleared by a grand jury but is among several officers and jurisdictions being sued. A recent update in the case says the first official account of the shooting was purposely misleading.

Idriss Stelley: On June 12, 2001, Idriss Stelley shot more than 48 times and killed by nine San Francisco Police Officers at a movie theater. He was mentally-ill and both his girlfriend and mother confirmed with police that he needed to take his medicine when he disrupted a movie theater that prompted the police’s arrival.