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[amorous-apothipl]

I yearn for companionship like in adventure novels but in this danmed platonormativity and modern society it's almost impossible because 1. Nobody wants to go out in a magical aventure anymore and 2. People think you're their friend if you talk to them regularly

This fucking sucks.

[amorous-apothipl]

Making flags for some aplspec terms, based off of existing acespec terms. The flags are also based directly on their ace counterparts.

Requisplatonic / Requiesplatonic 

Requisplatonic / Requiesplatonic : Being aplspec due to emotional exhaustion.

Bliskoplatonic

Bliskoplatonic: Only feeling platonic attraction when directly interacting with someone; said interaction can include texting, being near someone physically, playing a game together, etc.

Vitrumplatonic

Vitrumplatonic: Feeling disconnected or separated from one's platonic attraction. One may feel like they're viewing their platonic attraction through a glass wall.

Feaseplatonic

Feaseplatonic: A frayplatonic term for those whose platonic attraction turns into hate or disgust when acted upon.

[amorous-apothipl]

Shoutout to asexuals who aren't sex averse or sex repulsed. Shoutout to aromantics who aren't romance averse or romance repulsed. Shoutout to aplatonics who make friends. Shoutout to agender people who use pronouns and get euphoria from wearing gendered clothing. Shoutout to aspecs who don't fill the community with negativity yall really doing God's work out there

[amorous-apothipl]

about the "support".. do you really think it's fair for be asking for anything else other than a sentence saying your supported? like i don't really give a shit about friends. i don't need anyone to really understand that or go out of their way for me. like why so mad about someone saying they support you? react like that and no one will support you cus you're unpleasant to talk to. just seems like a silly thing to ask

i think this is in response to [this post]?

a) yes, i think if people say they support an identity than they should do things that follow up on that, like doing the things i listed. just saying you support something isn't enough if you let oppression/discrimination/microaggressions/etc occur anyway, true of any identity, not just queer ones or aplatonicism

b) people should be supported in their identities whether they're unpleasant or not. me being pleasant and acceptable should not determine whether my identities deserve to be acknowledged and supported.

c) i don't care if i'm pleasant or not actually. "pleasant" is such a nebulous concept and means near to nothing. and i'm not going to just let myself (or other marginalized people) be stomped on in the name of being "pleasant". marginalized people are allowed to be angry about their oppression. marginalized people are allowed to be angry, period.

d) if the support is so empty that you're unwilling to support my identities because i'm "unpleasant" than i don't want your support to begin with. that's the point.

like i acknowledge that this is primarily an issue online, but it stems from larger issues of performative activism and respectability politics. it's performative to say you support a marginalized identity or otherwise oppressed group and then do nothing to actually follow up on that support. it's respectability politics if you expect marginalized groups to be nice and complacent in order for you to accept them; your support of a marginalized identity is circumstantial, which is bullshit. it's quite literally based in racist and ableist thinking.

[amorous-apothipl]

new school year, new people to talk to, new...PEOPLE CALLING ME THEIR FRIENDS?!

[amorous-apothipl]

Aplatonic Informational Website

AplatonicInformation.com is an informational website about anything and everything to do with aplatonicism. It includes explanations on what aplatonicism is, answers to commonly asked questions about aplatonicism, information for questioning potential apls, links to resources for aplatonics, and an archive of aplatonic and aplatonic-related terms and flags.

This website is a solo and ongoing project of mine. I will continue adding any and all aplspec terms and flags slowly but surely. I've also provided a way for people to submit terms and flags to be added to help make the content of the site as comprehensive as possible. Check out the contribute page (links on home page and in footer) for info on how to submit and to see my current to-do list.

Please feel free to send any feedback about the site to this blog or to the website's email, aplatonicinformation@gmail.com. This includes things like typos! I proofread every page at least three times, But I'm still just one person, and I'm bound to have missed something.

I'm so excited to finally share this with everyone! I hope you all enjoy it!

@saffigon @aplatonic-stuff @aplatonic-flags @mlp-friendship-isnt-magic @our-aplatonic-experience @amorous-apothipl

[amorous-apothipl]

the aplatonic experience is feeling like all your relationships are parasocial (on your end, not theirs) because you dont connect to people in a "normal" way

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[amorous-apothipl]

Me: Is totally cool without friends or any kind of human connection.

Also me: “I’m bored. I should go hang out with people and do something”

Me after trying to hang out with people: “Oh my gosh never again. This is why I’m apothiplatonic, isn’t it? Wow my plato repulsion is kicking in.”

Rinse and repeat every time I’m bored.

[amorous-apothipl]

turning a friend into a lover >>>

[amorous-apothipl]

Dislike it when I see a post making a good point about romantic relationships not being necessary from an aro perspective and then the rest of the post is about friendships.

Especially in a way where it just feels like they replaced romantic relationships with platonic ones.

[amorous-apothipl]

*Not seeking them out is just kinda passively engaging in friendships or happening into them, whereas actively avoiding is not engaging friendships at all and choosing to not be in them.

[amorous-apothipl]

i’m getting increasingly tired of people coming into aplatonic (and afamilial) spaces to tell us “i don’t understand you, but i support you!!” like cool. that’s like. the bare minimum. at best it’s just annoying and taking up space in places for us and at worst it’s infantilizing and dehumanizing. if you actually support us, speak up for us and stop talking over us. if you support us, work to normalizing being friendless, stop demonizing people for not wanting friends. if you support us, normalize not caring about or wanting family. if you support us, stop hating people for not liking or caring about their family. saying you support me does nothing for me.

[amorous-apothipl]

aro tag is so weird as someone who's plato-repulsed but romance favorable.

[amorous-apothipl]

SHOUT OUT TO OEOPLE WHO DONT HAVE MEANINGFUL OR EMOTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS!!!!! SHOUTOUT TO PEOPLE WHO DONT LOVE!!! SHOUTOUT TO PEOPLE WHO DONT HAVE EMPATHY!!!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥NOTHING STOPS YOU FROM BEING A PERSON!!!!!!! DEHUMANISATION IS NOT A FORCE FOR GOOD!!!!!!!! NO ONE IS EXEMP FROM BEING A PERSON!!!!!!!

[amorous-apothipl]

npd + aplatonic culture is my npd causing my aplness which is so cool of me actually

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[amorous-apothipl]

The amount of apologies some aromantics owe alloromantic aplatonic asexuals/alloromo aplatonics in general for posts and comments they make is uncountable.

[amorous-apothipl]

aplatonic flag colourpicked from smajor1995!

aplatonic: someone who feels no platonic attraction to others

source of colours:

and just the flag itself: