amorous-apothipl

[amorous-apothipl]

ngl, being allorospec and apl makes talking to people somewhat difficult. literally just be nice to me and i turn into a clingy motherfucker.

[amorous-apothipl]

Hey apls and losers. Label cheeeck! /s

Aspec -

Platonic: apothiplatonic, platonic-drained

Romantic: alloromanticish, romance non-conforming

Sexual: cupiosexual

Other: demidomestic, aqueerplatonic

Orientation -

achillean, abrose, queer, avirean

Gender -

man, boy, unaligned, genderqueer, bigender, genderflux

it/its, he/him, fae/faer, rot/rots, hi/hiss, cat/cats

Other -

voidpunk, catgender, loserboy, alloace

definition for uncommon/unintuitive labels -

platonic-drained: being repulsed by platonicism due to trauma or exhaustion

abrose: both abroromantic and abrosexual

avirean: gay for both men and women

unaligned: i dont align myself with masculinity, femininity, or neutrality

[amorous-apothipl]

i don't think media is as lacking for deep platonic relationships as many people like to think, but i will always be suspicious of people who only go 'but why can't they just be friends' wrt queer ships while remaining quiet in regards to het ones.

[amorous-apothipl]

cool things to do with aplatonic characters pt2:

a character who befriends someone only to realize they're aplatonic (perhaps frayplatonic)

an aplatonic who only has online acquaintances

an aplatonic who gets their social needs fulfilled by being an influencer

an aplatonic whose romantic partner acts as a buffer between them and alloplatonics

an aplatonic who forgets they have friends sometimes

an aplatonic who was abused by a former friend

an aplatonic who is a bully

an aplatonic who selfships

an aplatonic who has or wants children

an alloaro aplatonic

an aplatonic who has a roommate(s)

an allofamilial aplatonic

an aplatonic who is sleeping with someone who thus realizes they, too, are aplatonic

an aplatonic at an office job (perhaps with a work spouse)

pt1

[amorous-apothipl]

I'm very used to idolizing friendships, even tho im plato-averse. Like. I see friends joking around and i have this desire to be like that, even if externally, because i wish to be normal and "fit in" and not be "miserable" because i learnt that being alone is weird, miserable and undesireable.

But recently im unlearning that mentality. More because through my entire life, every time i tried to be normal and fit in i didn't manage to do it right (nd here cough cough) or also wasn't happy or fulfilled at all. Dont get me wrong, i adore to getting know people and joke around but thats like. Only acquitance level, yknow?

So now I'm learning to be happy alone, with the company of myself. Its fun and im stopping to idolizing "normalness" so much.

.

[amorous-apothipl]

Aromantic Character of the Day (29/11/24) is...

Dr. Eric Foreman (House MD) !

Anon headcanons Eric as aroallo and aplatonic!

[amorous-apothipl]

Btw shoutout to friending, plato-favorable, plato-neutral(I forgor what it's called) etc. aplatonics. I get too much shit from sex-repulsed aces and I will NOT repeat this pattern as a plato-repulsed aplatonic. I love you guys (no plato tho) and remember you're valid, and not any less valid than me

[amorous-apothipl]

i cant wait to finish my rudimentary worldbuilding so i can make a bunch of aplatonic characters 😫

[amorous-apothipl]

brotherhood is far more enticing than friendship. (i'm beginning to be accepted by some cis guys. this trans guy is winning! (they were accepting me. one of them asked me my pronouns the other day and they know i'm trans now. haven't talked with 'em since because it's the weekend.))

[amorous-apothipl]

Shout out to aplatonics that do experience romantic attraction. No one talks about it, but I see y’all, and I think it’s cool 💅👍

[amorous-apothipl]

I yearn for companionship like in adventure novels but in this danmed platonormativity and modern society it's almost impossible because 1. Nobody wants to go out in a magical aventure anymore and 2. People think you're their friend if you talk to them regularly

This fucking sucks.

[amorous-apothipl]

Making flags for some aplspec terms, based off of existing acespec terms. The flags are also based directly on their ace counterparts.

Requisplatonic / Requiesplatonic 

Requisplatonic / Requiesplatonic : Being aplspec due to emotional exhaustion.

Bliskoplatonic

Bliskoplatonic: Only feeling platonic attraction when directly interacting with someone; said interaction can include texting, being near someone physically, playing a game together, etc.

Vitrumplatonic

Vitrumplatonic: Feeling disconnected or separated from one's platonic attraction. One may feel like they're viewing their platonic attraction through a glass wall.

Feaseplatonic

Feaseplatonic: A frayplatonic term for those whose platonic attraction turns into hate or disgust when acted upon.

[amorous-apothipl]

Shoutout to asexuals who aren't sex averse or sex repulsed. Shoutout to aromantics who aren't romance averse or romance repulsed. Shoutout to aplatonics who make friends. Shoutout to agender people who use pronouns and get euphoria from wearing gendered clothing. Shoutout to aspecs who don't fill the community with negativity yall really doing God's work out there

[amorous-apothipl]

about the "support".. do you really think it's fair for be asking for anything else other than a sentence saying your supported? like i don't really give a shit about friends. i don't need anyone to really understand that or go out of their way for me. like why so mad about someone saying they support you? react like that and no one will support you cus you're unpleasant to talk to. just seems like a silly thing to ask

i think this is in response to [this post]?

a) yes, i think if people say they support an identity than they should do things that follow up on that, like doing the things i listed. just saying you support something isn't enough if you let oppression/discrimination/microaggressions/etc occur anyway, true of any identity, not just queer ones or aplatonicism

b) people should be supported in their identities whether they're unpleasant or not. me being pleasant and acceptable should not determine whether my identities deserve to be acknowledged and supported.

c) i don't care if i'm pleasant or not actually. "pleasant" is such a nebulous concept and means near to nothing. and i'm not going to just let myself (or other marginalized people) be stomped on in the name of being "pleasant". marginalized people are allowed to be angry about their oppression. marginalized people are allowed to be angry, period.

d) if the support is so empty that you're unwilling to support my identities because i'm "unpleasant" than i don't want your support to begin with. that's the point.

like i acknowledge that this is primarily an issue online, but it stems from larger issues of performative activism and respectability politics. it's performative to say you support a marginalized identity or otherwise oppressed group and then do nothing to actually follow up on that support. it's respectability politics if you expect marginalized groups to be nice and complacent in order for you to accept them; your support of a marginalized identity is circumstantial, which is bullshit. it's quite literally based in racist and ableist thinking.

[amorous-apothipl]

new school year, new people to talk to, new...PEOPLE CALLING ME THEIR FRIENDS?!

[amorous-apothipl]

Aplatonic Informational Website

AplatonicInformation.com is an informational website about anything and everything to do with aplatonicism. It includes explanations on what aplatonicism is, answers to commonly asked questions about aplatonicism, information for questioning potential apls, links to resources for aplatonics, and an archive of aplatonic and aplatonic-related terms and flags.

This website is a solo and ongoing project of mine. I will continue adding any and all aplspec terms and flags slowly but surely. I've also provided a way for people to submit terms and flags to be added to help make the content of the site as comprehensive as possible. Check out the contribute page (links on home page and in footer) for info on how to submit and to see my current to-do list.

Please feel free to send any feedback about the site to this blog or to the website's email, aplatonicinformation@gmail.com. This includes things like typos! I proofread every page at least three times, But I'm still just one person, and I'm bound to have missed something.

I'm so excited to finally share this with everyone! I hope you all enjoy it!

@saffigon @aplatonic-stuff @aplatonic-flags @mlp-friendship-isnt-magic @our-aplatonic-experience @amorous-apothipl

[amorous-apothipl]

the aplatonic experience is feeling like all your relationships are parasocial (on your end, not theirs) because you dont connect to people in a "normal" way

.