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So, as an aromantic, I'm not really fond of "get together" fics because I don't really get how it works.

I feel like that really came to a head when I missed the entirety of the "getting together" stage of my own relationship.

Just... A whole month of flirting, straight over my head.

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Actually, joke's on me, we're now QPPs

Aro culture is me calling my best friend "beloved" while they call me "darling" in return.

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Aro culture is me calling my best friend "beloved" while they call me "darling" in return.

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hey there, the uk government is trying its hardest to make it practically impossible for trans people to transition, here’s a twitter thread and two carrds that further explain the situation (click on the underlined parts for links)

+ only if you are a british citizen or a uk resident please sign this petition that will help reform the Gender Recognition Act to allow trans people to self id w/out need for a medical diagnosis and to allow nonbinary identities to be legally recognized.

if you are NOT a british citizen/live in the uk DO NOT sign the petition as the goverment will use invalid signatures as an excuse to dismiss the petition and the GRA will not be discussed in parliment.

please spread this post, time for trans people in the uk is very quickly running out

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please rb if you think demisexuals/demiromantics are VALID AS FUCK

trying to prove a point

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I feel like there is a definite different sense of humor that happens when your DM is A-spec. Because I, as an aroace DM, love to let my players know that their characters will pay for their horny crimes. Their days are numbered.

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So, pretty much none of my friends are a-spec, which means I can get away with a lot more than I could if they were.

My current two favorites are:

1. Responding very definitively one way or another when they show a picture of someone saying that they're attractive and then waiting for them to have a "wait a minute..." moment

2. Going up to them and saying "this character is a-spec because I said so!" and having them, in the most loving and adoring way they can, just go "that's nice, Erin", not because they don't care but because it's the 5th time this week and it's only Tuesday

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Romance aversion is weird. Like, for the most part, I’m fine with displays of romance, but the minute those same displays are directed towards me, it’s full on “No thank you, I don’t like that, please get it away from me.”

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idk can we stop…treating a.ce disc.ourse like it’s some haha funney cringe compilation or whatever the fuck because it fucking destroyed the entire ace and aro communities. there is no solid aspec community on tumblr anymore (which was by far the biggest number of aspec ppl). exclusionists took our community and fucking smashed it to pieces and y'all treat it as this fucking stupid joke when they traumatized, gaslit, and abused an entire group of queer people back into the closet. fuck every single person who doesn’t take that seriously.

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Tiktok, when I was emotionally able to take romance and actively looking for romantic audios: who???

Tiktok now, when romantic scenes are enough to make me cry: you want... r o m a n c e ? ?

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At what point do I- a mostly romance repulsed cupioromantic (yes, I am aware of the irony) - cave and make myself a fake significant other? Like, I make OCs for fun. It wouldn't be hard.

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When I told my parents that I might be bisexual, they told me they would support me no matter what and loved me for who I was.

When I told them I was a-spec, they told me not to worry to much about that yet because I was probably just a late bloomer.

That is something that will haunt me for the rest of my life.

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Maybe It’s not my place to say since I’m not ace (Still questioning but pretty sure I’m not); but when asexual people say they don’t want to have sex because they’re asexual, you don’t have to remind them that some asexuals still choose to have sex, and are sex neutral or sex positive. They probably already know, they don’t need to explain themselves in more detail. They’ve given a valid explanation that that’s an aspect of their asexuality and they don’t need to elaborate on it if they don’t want to. I would hate to need to elaborate on my gender or sexuality as much as sex averse asexuals are expected to talk about theirs.

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Just realised I can headcanon as many characters as I like to be ace and you can't do a thing about it

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It's 2:30 am, so why not write some religiously symbolic poetry about my struggles with being aspec. Aka I just want a relationship. Please. Enjoy!

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Absolution

I am guilty of breaking rules

I had no say in creating

I try to understand

But the words fall apart at my touch

Like entropy

They come undone as they are created

I try to reach out

I beg and cry and plead

To be heard

Just to be

Heard

But my words fall on deaf ears

Like worshippers praying

To a dead god

My broken form paws at yours

Clean and untouched

Holy

And I am burned

The sins I have commited

Those that caused my fall

Create such a distance

From your radiant light

I want to be in that light

But I was shunned for actions not my own

All I did was act upon what was given unto me

Like the apple in Eden

You have barred me from the one thing I crave

Absolution

The idea that we must be held responsible

For crimes not our own

To be baptized

And saved from the brandings

Of our very birth

That in our creation

We are damned

The belief of a vengeful god

Of a horrid man

Who wishes suffering on his creations

To live in a world devoid of the the light he gives

So freely to others

Where is my share?

Where is my spark?

What could I have done?

What crime is worthy of such a punishment?

Certainly not this.

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Y'know, every so often, I worry about my allo friends. One, whom I love very dearly, just said in our group chat that a robot is sexy to them.

Pardon??? 😳