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Just being a woman and existing makes you a pick-me at this point

People took this very necessary and cathartic term and overused and abused it to the point where it’s just used to degrade women no matter what they do, instead of for the women that genuinely think they’re better than other girls or humble brag about being different. Most don’t even know what pick-me means anymore. It’s now just being used for women who don’t follow all social norms, women who are friends with guys, or even over-the-top feminine women (like calling Hachiko from Nana a pick-me is just…. really??)

A pick-me is a girl who puts other girls down to make herself seem more attractive.

A pick-me says things like “I only hang out with guys because girls are too much drama.”

A pick-me is those girls on Marilyn Manson or other rock youtube videos (around 2013 it was an epidemic, not sure if it still is) talking about how her generation sucks and going “teehee I bet I’m the only girl here” in hordes.

A pick-me is a conservative woman who kisses up to men and hates feminism, that the lonely desperate horny incel men don’t want to touch with a 10 foot pole.

Now the term is just being used to shit on women you don’t like, and its lost its meaning. A lot of insecure women are using it on women who just happen to have a lot of guy friends and aren’t even weird or cringey about it.

You can’t be a girl and have a guy friend group anymore. And that is a form of seeing gender as real and wanting people to conform to gender roles. It’s like the basic straight people that don’t want their partners to have friends of the opposite sex or breathe the same air as people of the opposite sex. It’s lame and regressive.

At that point you’re literally being the insecure disney channel mean girl. Like you’re actually being what pick-me’s think all other girls are like.

In the early 2010’s you HAD to be “not like other girls” and have supposedly niche interests and the pick-me term wasn’t around yet and everyone just ate this up. The tumblr posts of “Other Girls vs Me” that blatantly tore down other girls as well as the pick-me YouTube comments were met with overwhelming love and positive reception.

But now it’s so far in the other direction that now you HAVE to be friends with only girls and like Taylor Swift (who ironically wrote the most pick-me song of a lifetime??) and be girly but not too girly.

It feels like you can’t just have more than one type of woman exist at the same time without one of them shitting on the other.

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2025 and One Piece fans are still terrible.

For a pirate show about empathy, friendship, sticking up for the oppressed and creating a kinder world it is actually ridiculous how many terrible people are in this community. inb4 "don't generalize/not all One Piece fans are the same" I KNOW. I like One Piece. I am not talking about you unless the shoe fits. But this has been MY experience with them since I was like 13.

One of them is obsessing over me and my last post, invalidated my trauma and gaslit me about my own experiences and attempted a smear campaign on me.

Besides that, they way they treat people that just don't like the series is disgusting.

God forbid a person not liking One Piece, or just having valid critique and not liking every part of it.

It's "You can't have an opinion unless you've read 500+ chapters of the manga!!"

"Oh you've read 500+ chapters?? Why are you reading it if you don't even like it that's so stupid. Don't like? Don't read."

Or "that's biased because you gave Bleach a 9 out of 10" ??? Like it's a cult?

The fans really strayed me away from it as a teenager and I was on and off reading it because of them and took long breaks and didn't get caught up until I was like 23.

I actually like One Piece now but I will always be respectful if someone doesn't like it.

Because of what one of them did to me yesterday, as well as my huge problems with the current arc, I feel like I have to take a break from the franchise and distance myself for a while because I'm at a point where it's not even giving me happiness and it's causing me more distress instead of being an escape.

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The older sibling trope is shitty and lazy, and there is no excuse for it to be this prevalent in 2025, point blank period.

(SPOILERS AHEAD for One Piece. Don't read unless you're fully caught up or don't mind. One of them is a thing that hasn't happened yet, at least not where I'm at, it's just really obvious that it will. Also spoilers for OG Fullmetal Alchemist maybe.)

This has been coming for some time, it was really just a matter of when the next time this stereotype shows up and ruins/turns me off from something before I put up this rant.

The Elbaph arc of One Piece has just become my least favorite arc in the series, and has ruined Shanks for me.

As if it wasn't bad enough how obvious it is that Loki is gonna turn out to be the good guy (writing this on May 5th 2025, I am on chapter 1140. Loki being the youngest gave it away.) and it's gonna be like Bruno from Encanto or something, but now Shanks has an evil older twin out of nowhere and this cool character is ruined.

Constantly making the older sibling in media evil and making the younger sibling the underdog/odd one out is such a dull overdone trope.

I have had a huge problem with it for years because it completely alienates me and invalidates me and the fact that I'm the only one who even notices or cares about this just adds to it. Like, I am actually mad when I see this.

In media, the older sibling can either be evil or a prissy overachiever who follows the rules (or both) and that is it. This is not fair and when it's the only thing you're shown throughout art and media it has an effect on real life.

And yeah, there are definitely more important/pressing issues than this but I can still be mad about this while also caring about more important stuff.

This is very personal to me because growing up, I was a complete inverse of this stereotype. I am the oldest of my siblings, and when we were kids I was the one getting mistreated. I was an undiagnosed neurodivergent child and grew up with a neurotypical and perfect younger sister.

My issues with this trope falls on deaf ears CONSTANTLY and I'm sick of it so l'm sorry but I have to bring up old family stuff. We’re good now and as long as that’s over I have nothing against them. But okay; I'm the oldest. I'M the one who was bullied. I'M the one who was "weird." I was the black sheep. I'M the one who did poorly in school. I'M the one who got the "why can't you be more like your sister?" talk. IT IS NOT FAIR.

It's like writers don't think older siblings are going to be watching or reading anything. We were all kids at one point. We were the same age our younger siblings are now and it's not okay to teach us that we're some horrible monster or a lame NPC for being conceived first.

Of course there are going to be situations where this stereotype really does happen. People exist. There are mean older sisters and brothers. But the fact that I can conjure up this giant ass list (80 examples as now) while I can count the number of good older sibling characters on one hand is fucking appalling. At this point they are really just demonizing older siblings and ass kissing younger siblings because we fetishize the shit out of youth.

Movies and books are supposed to be my escape from real life. It's really harmful that even my escapes tell me l'm not valid and there's no room for me in stories because I'm supposed to be the big bad evil one or the "obey your parents" prissy wet blanket while the younger sibling is always the good, rebellious cool one.

And I get why; younger = less life experience = underdog = root for the underdog. That mixed in with everyone’s subconscious younger = better. I know the reason but like?? It’s not a good reason? It should be defied and challenged once in a while.

This trope is lazy. Like flat out. There are better ways to write an underdog than this. We all know deep down that younger means better. It doesn't work. 

Being younger means you have less experience so of course an older sibling will be better than you at some stuff. It doesn't make for a good "oooo poor lil underdog" story. Imagine being the oldest AND having your younger siblings be better than you at everything and finding success faster than you. It would get the underdog message across even moreso, and that would be a way worse position to be in. Almost no piece of media has ever explored this.

Also if an older sibling is jealous of a younger sibling, they must be wicked and cruel. But if a younger sibling is jealous of an older sibling, we're supposed to feel sorry for them.

I have actually refused to watch shows or movies because of this. It makes me genuinely mad. Especially when I’m so far along in a series or if I have a strong love for a franchise just for it to pull this.

And it wouldn’t be making me this mad if people at least knew it as a trope. Like if it became as much of a thing as the middle child being invisible and people just recognized it as a trope it wouldn't piss me off this much. If it became an eye roll ‘oop here we go again’ that the audience groans about it wouldn't have driven me to this.

But the fact that I have EIGHTY AND COUNTING examples so clearly authors are doing it with intent and are consciously aware and it still falls on deaf ears where everyone I mention it to is all ‘huh what are you talking about?’ or change the subject or try their absolute hardest NOT to understand is what makes me want to scream. Like, FUCKING 80+!!! There has got to be some real intent behind this and when I call it out no one understands or wants to.

Fiction does have an impact on reality. Constantly putting firtborns under this light affects the way firsborns are treated in real life.

Their struggles aren't taken as seriously, people are quick to side with the younger sibling when there is conflict no matter what, and they'll be considered a failure or a loser if they can't live up to the 'perfection responsible leader' role they never signed up for.

Of all the media I've consumed, I could only find 5 positive examples of good older sibling characters that defy the stereotype in some way (13 if I'm being extremely generous)

To have just 5 - 13 well written good older siblings and over 80 bad ones, that's not okay.

If everything in my life was exactly the same but I was the youngest instead, if I was still the lonely fuckup black sheep who was bullied but I was younger, I would have been able to feel heard and have dozens of characters to relate to. But instead I'm isolated and invalidated even more and can neither have the cake or eat it.

No one ever talks about this, and when I try to everyone will cover their ears and change the subject or misunderstand it.

I’m probably going to blaze this because I will be heard. This current One Piece arc has deeply upset me and I already dedicated so much time and money to the series. Even if I have to keep shouting and posting about this over and over, I will be heard. 

I will delete comments that trivialize, invalidate, miss the point, say something like “technically (insert character) isn’t evil,” or otherwise miss the forest for the trees. I will be heard no matter how many times it takes.

EDIT: Tumblr seems to be deleting all the rude comments before I can get to them or read the whole thing, but I caught two comments (rudely) telling me I should have tagged for spoilers.

I would never intentionally try to spoil people, but you are on the internet and this is such a small part of the story, a single panel that tells us the obligatory evil older twin is here. And the other thing I said was a prediction. A really obvious prediction that I know is going to happen but it still hasn’t happened yet? (At least not where I’m at)

One of them also said that because they’re the youngest and was abused, that this trope is good and accurate. And then invalidated my own trauma and experiences, gaslit me that the trope isn’t happening (so the trope is good AND it’s not real) and attempted a smear campaign on me.

I match energies on here. Give me respect and I will give you respect. I am under no obligation to be life’s bottom bitch all the time. This essay subject is THE most triggering and touchy personal thing of mine and I will not be discredited here. You attack me on this subject and I will slap the same right back in your face.

Anyone who was actually concerned about the spoiler could have messaged me with, “Hello, I noticed you blazed a One Piece spoiler about one of the characters and it is potentially going to reach a lot of fans that haven’t read this far yet. Could you cover up the spoiler and tag it as such?” And I would have said “Omg, I wasn’t even thinking about that. Yes, I will put a spoiler warning in. Thank you for telling me.”

That being said, if anyone genuinely has an issue with the top panel being shown and isn’t a dick, let me know and I can figure something out in a way that still gets the point across.

Tumblr seems to be deleting all my replies to people so I’m gonna address comments on here (the ones that Tumblr is showing)

@ the Edward Elric comment: Yes I love Ed so much, he is one of my favorite fictional characters if not my favorite. I only count Brotherhood Ed though, because in the original anime they shoehorn in a secret third older brother to Ed and Al who is evil.

@ Lin from Korra wasn’t the parent’s favorite: No, but she was the hardass ‘follow the rules’ one who tried to follow Toph’s footsteps, while Suyin got to be the rebel going against the grain. It doesn't mean Lin is a bad character, she just meets some of the annoying stereotypes. You can like any of these characters. I even like some of the characters on this list too, but I'm still gonna call it out.

@ not the sofia the first mention: …kay. There’s also one from the Kung Fu Panda TV series on Nickelodeon. This new Shanks/Shamrock brother dynamic is so old and it has on par writing with the Kung Fu Panda TV show.

@ blazing this post is some real older sibling behavior: If you actually read the whole thing and said this, I am jealous of your lack of empathy. I think I would be happier if I was more like you.

@ what about all these good older siblings in One Piece: Ace and Sabo are good but still have some issues. You also have to understand like, Luffy’s not an actual fascist nazi foiled up against poor Ace. I love Ace, but their dynamic is not exactly reverse to Shanks and Shamrock. Nojiko wasn't bad list worthy but she did still have some 'good girl' vibes and she hated Nami when it was frustratingly obvious she wasn't working for Arlong because she wanted to. And she's still the NPC status quo and main character role always goes to the younger one. This isn’t really a problem, like Nojiko’s fine and there’s nothing wrong with having characters like her, but I would say she’s not really a good subversion either. And for Katakuri I'm really talking about oldest, not second oldest or middle. And I only count same-sex/same-gender siblings. That's why I didn't have Zuko as a hard <3 example and have him under more of an honorable mention because he's just such a perfect subversion otherwise. If we're going by boy and girl siblings then there's plenty of good older ones and plenty more bad ones I could have used. Hancock is pretty good.

@ why do you think Tina is a bad one: I know a lot of people do like her, and I knew someone would question her on here. I put her in because I feel like they let the younger sister be the “cool” kind of weird and gave Tina the unflattering kind of weird. But I get that a lot of people actually like her. I might remove her.

For some of the rude comments that got deleted before I could read, I might blaze this again out of spite

EDIT 2:

Blazing again. Good job. You are proving my point that it's not always this way in real life. A good person wouldn't invalidate someone's trauma and make them feel like their experiences didn't matter.

Younger siblings absolutely do get mistreated by older siblings and it's BS that they have to go through that. But you're the delusional one if you think it can never be the other way around.

A normal good person could have just gone, "I am the youngest and I did get bullied by an older sibling, but I can empathize with this. I didn't realize this was such a huge trope, and I'm thankful I can feel heard but I'm sorry it's not like that for everyone. My experiences are valid and so are yours."

It's also just ageist?? You literally can't control when you were born? What happened to Franky's "EXISTING IS NOT A CRIME" speech.

For a pirate show about love and friendship and empathy, it has some of the nastiest unkind people as fans.

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"Republican women are hotter anyway " THEN GO TO THEM INSTEAD???

Go get with the 52% of women who chose this and wanted this to happen?

The ones that will have fun being r@ped and treated like property??

Like these m3n acting like liberal women with blue hair/piercings are the most hideous creatures to walk the earth, but then won't leave them alone?? They couldn't pay you to go away??

And meanwhile the pick-me republican women that you think are so hot are all sitting there waiting and you ignore them?

Even in this extreme male loneliness epidemic the pick-me women STILL don't get picked

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15 anime to watch in October oooo

Here is my list of some nice anime shows with some scary elements that you could watch around Halloween time :3

I’m only gonna include shows I’ve personally seen and completed, and not including movies.

In no particular order:

- Ghost Stories

This works both dubbed or subbed, but dubbed would be better. U can watch these kids solve ghost mysteries with their possessed kitty

- Hell Girl

You can stop after episode one cause it gets repetitive. It has all these characters sacrifice themselves to hell for eternity over the most minor inconveniences, but there’s a creepy schoolgirl with black hair and red eyes so thats good.

- Blood+

Nice anime that will give u 2006 adult swim nostalgia (if u were around back then)

- Tokyo Ghoul

But skip the anime and just read the manga

- Mononoke

Short horror anime with a unique art style :3

- D Grayman

A shonen jump show with some goth-y and spooky vibes

- Another

I found it to be mid, but it works for Halloween time cause it’s a mystery horror anime.

- Higurashi

This one is a fucked up gore-y mystery with some best girls. I think it’s one of the most successfully done horror anime.

- Mermaid Forest

It’s a mermaid horror anime. But I recommend the manga especially, it’ll give u Rumiko Takahashi’s art with creepy episodic mysteries

- Rosario Vampire

This ones kind of trash but hey

It has lots of different monsters and some best girls like Mizore and Kurumu >:)

- Soul Eater

Super Halloween aesthetic

- Monster

Watch because it’s a creepy mystery and has a main antagonist that terrifies people.

- School-Live

Good anime with zombies and some psychological stuff

- Death Note

Death Note is best anime. It’s very aesthetic and it has shinigami, an unstable traumatized girl who will do anything for her love interest, and a boy with messy black hair and dark eye circles.

- Vampire Knight

This one’s a shojo anime with vampires that aged not so well. But it has vampires and scary elements, plus will give off a 2008 emo fujoshi mood :3

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If you don't know what you're talking about you don't need to be judging women for being stuck in the situations that they are in.

You have a lot of unrecognized privilege if you think it's that easy for straight women/fem people exclusively attracted to men.

(I'm screenshotting the people adding me at this point, because I want to cry every time I'm on these apps.)

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Anime ALWAYS making Japanese people the victims, the “othered” or oppressed ones of the story. It’s very frustrating because Japan is capable of being racist and xenophobic asf

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Not gonna lie; I think it’s kind of hypocritical for media (especially Japanese) that fetishizes youth and refuses to make main characters any older than like 15 to be making commentaries with characters like Akaza, Orochimaru, and Togoro, telling us that growing old is a natural part of life and is worthwhile and not something you should run away from. (I like all of these anime, btw)

It’s like an unwritten rule that anime characters who matter at all have to be middle school students or if we’re lucky high school students. Even if the main character looks easily 20, is very physically developed, and it wouldn’t get in the way of the story at all to make them older, they are constantly aged down to as young as possible (Nezuko for example, is NOT fucking 12. I don’t even care what the creator says her canon age is, that is absolutely ridiculous. She looked 18 since episode 1 before becoming a demon).

Anime main characters don’t age past high school, and it’s like if they did get past that very small window of life they would be pushed to the side and become an NPC that creeps on the younger generation until they expire too. And then the person who wants that youth and wants to stay relevant becomes the bad guy for it?

More on this later.