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I deserve it all. The family. The loving husband. The beautiful house.The stable income.The sisterhood. The happiness. The love. The faith. The hope. The prayers to come alive. I deserve every ounce of goodness this world has to offer.

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new habit ideas for june ✨

new moon, summer vibes and it's time to establish healthier habits for the new month ahead 🤍

eat more healthy, avoid sweets and fast food

wake up before 7 a.m

go to bed before 10 p.m

10,000 steps daily

read 10 pages on any book every day

start with a mental detox

keep your space clean

get ready every day

meditate every day and night

if you have the possibility, spend more time near the beach or in nature

journal daily

start talking to yourself and treating yourself as if you were someone else you love

start organizing your summer

spend less time with your phone

affirm at least one positive thing about yourself or your life every day (when you wake up or before you go to sleep)

organize new plans with your friends, e.g. outings to try out new restaurants

take time every day to train or learn something new

pay more attention to the little things in your life

it's time to start what you haven't started yet

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On a health/skincare/fitness kick.

Working to make it a habit ✨

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get out of the house. visit museums. go to open air festivals. go to concerts. meet new people in the park. use apps to meet people with common interests. try new things, try hot yoga. try pilates. try rock climbing, try a new gym, a new trainer. attend a public event, a yoga class, aerobics class, join a book club. get a professional massage, have a full day of spa activities. read a life changing book on selfcare, mental health and wellness and implement it daily. make new friends that you actually hang out with physically, frequently, that you have lunch dates with, coffee dates with, sleepovers, that you heal and laugh and grow with day by day, friends that are friends in every sense of the word. be open to opportunities every day for anything that brings you joy and sunlight and adventure. life is meant to be lived, tasted, experimented, savored to the last maddening drop. life is not a neat little checklist put away on your shelf for when you feel ready to tackle them. life is here. life is right here right now. what are you waiting for, a magical tomorrow to give you permission to live the life you want? you already have permission, all you have to do is decide it. it's in your hands. now, in 10 years, in 30 years, in 50, the choice is yours. the only thing standing in the way of that reality and the current one... is your actions.

15.05.22 // Lumen's diary

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Lets Talk: Elegance

 In todays society, true elegance is rare.

 Women are now shying away from words like this because for some reason they believe it doesn’t empower us. However, elegance is one of the most important attributes you must have if you truly want to succeed.  NO DEBATES. 

What is Elegance?

If anything, elegance is princess energy. Imagine yourself to be the daughter of a king. A royal. You walk with poise and grace. You are a prized possession. You are not stressed over men because you know the right prince will find you. . You befriend other princesses. You are polite and respectful to everyone regardless of status. You don’t tolerate bad behavior from others. You are soft, gentle, optimistic, kind. 

Why Should One Be Elegant?

In my opinion, money can only get you so far in life. The way people receive your energy is too important. Money cant conceal bad behavior. If you want to have a successful relationship with other people you need to master grace and elegance.

Xoxo, Vivacious

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Go after the career YOU want.

Not the career your parents want you to have, not the career that makes the most money, not the career that seems the most practical.

Go after the career you want. Study the craft. Be the best, and watch the money come to you.

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9 Passive Income Ideas For College Students

Studying as a college student is not all fun and games, especially when you've hit the financial rock bottom and your bank account is screaming "PLS SAVE ME!".

Most college students are in their late teens to 20s, and this isn't a fair age to call mamma and dada to keep bothering them for a bit of cash here and there. Here are 9 best passive income ideas for students who yearn for financial independence and freedom:

PS; And the best part is that once these products or services are created and put up for monetization, you don't have to do much about it again. These are literally money you make while sleeping! Without further ado, let's dive into the rest of the content.

START UP A BLOG: Sis, you don't have to be a degree holder in English studies or an accredited media person to get on this train. You don't need years of experience to become a blogger. If you are still skeptical, start off in a basic platform like Tumblr, Blogger or Pinterest. There are tons of money you can make off this.

START UP A DROPSHIPPING BUSINESS: The best THING that had me obsessed with drop-shipping was the fact that as a seller, you accept orders and have them shipped to your customers without keeping inventory or being in physical contact with the products. AND you can bet there is a hell of a lot of money attached to the business if you play your cards right.

CREATE AND SELL ONLINE COURSES: Take advantage of your skills, no matter how basic you think they are. Whether you bake, sew, do diy crafts, photography and all of those stuffs, creating a platform for others to learn from you can earn you more than you feel your skills deserve. No skill or talent is underestimated in our world today.

START UP A PRINT-ON-DEMAND STORE: Use online sites like Printify, Etsy, Shopify and the rests to create print-on-demand products (mugs, shirts, notebooks and journals, stickers, gift boxes...) and let the company do the rest for you.

WRITE AND PUBLISH AN E-BOOK: Now, I am not saying you have to be a J.K Rowling clone or write a 100,000 words novel before you can publish a book. You don't have to be or do any of those sorts. Like creating an online course, if you are great at a skill, you can decide to write a short book on that, giving helpful tips and instructions, and publish your ebook on Amazon KDP to earn some real cash off it.

CREATE A YOUTUBE CHANNEL: Vlogs, diys, financial literacy, fashion and beauty hacks, food and recipe videos..., there's lots of contents you can put out there to get monetized.

AFFILIATE MARKETING: Hold up a sec. Now, I'm beginning to wonder why I never thought to put this in number one. Sis, becoming an affiliate marketer has been the best decision of my life. Affiliate marketing simply is, advertising someone else's product to an audience and earning some commission when you succeed in getting your audience to patronize those products and services. You can start affiliate marketing with these companies; Amazon, Clickbank, ShareAsale etc.

SELL PRINTABLES AND DESIGNS ONLINE: Whether wall arts, habit trackers, templates and the rest, you can simply create and up them up on sites like Etsy and make sales off them.

SELL WEBSITES THEMES: Wordpress themes, Shopify themes, Etsy themes..., there's a lot you can do with them.

There you have it guys. I hope you are able to pick some ideas that inspire you and kick-start without further delays, cos as the saying goes; TIME IS MONEY. AND A WASTE OF TIME IS A WASTE OF GOOD MONEY.

Stay safe. Keep growing. Continue being a #penggirl.

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My favorite and most efficient technique to manifest lately is using the Notes app.

Creating a new Note each month starting with the Full Moon, and listing all the things I want to manifest for the next 30 days. I find that working with the lunar cycle is the most efficient. I like to add photos and emojis for each item in the list, to help with visualization and further imprint those experiences into my consciousness, into my reality. The rest is history: you can open up your monthly visionboard every day whenever you're drinking a cup of tea, sitting idly on your balcony, or taking a coffee break. All that focus, all that meditation and visualization adds up.

This way I can get a bigger picture of that month, while also being able to dive into the details. Previously I was focusing on year-long manifesting and, no wonder, many energiess and goals can get lost along the way.

But by working with the potent energy of the Full Moon, and the 30-day timeframe of the lunar cycle, you can channel your energy in the most effective way, and tackle next month right away any goals that might've slipped your focus.

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Where is the lie in this?

27 Red Flags of Low Value Men (LVM)

In previous articles, we have established what constitutes a High Value Woman, the dating commandments of a High Value Woman, and the most common obstacles that hold us back from implementing such dating strategies. But in order to replace our toxic dating habits with healthy ones, it is equally important to have a clear understanding on the difference between a High Value Man (upcoming articles on that next) and a Low Value Man.

Remember, this system of values is not about qualities that people are born with. It is not something outside our power that we have either inherited or not. Instead, this system of values is something that we all develop for ourselves, choose for ourselves, create for ourselves. It is about values, beliefs and principles. It is about priorities, morals and mindset. It is about good manners, empathy and emotional intelligence. And that is the responsibility of each and every individual.

And if you hold yourself to high standards, you should absolutely do the same to everything else in life, especially a partner!

Here are the most common red flags of a Low Value Man, so you don’t have the learn the hard way…

1. Love bombing

Too much committment, too much adoration too soon is a tell-tale sign something is off. It can be a marker of insecurity, of unhealthy idealism or obsession. It can also mean they don’t actually see you for who you are, but are infatuated with an idea, an ideal, a fantasy. Not a crime by itself, but it foretells a relationship that will lack a stable, healthy foundation. Instead it will be a relationship built on how you make him feel, on what the idea of you means to him. Is that the kind of man you want to be with, or the kind of relationship you want to be in?

2. Future faking

The escalation of lovebombing. Just months, weeks or evend days in, he will already be discussing engagement and marriage and kids, and paint a fairytale fantasy with such dedication that you may wonder if it’s too good to be true.

Such soulmate stories are certainly possible. However, if he promises the sun, moon and stars (which is all great) right off the bat, and other issues start popping up one after another, you should be on high alert! Other red flags can be: inconsistent behaivor, blowing hot/cold, his words (all beatiful fairytales) not aligning with his actions (not actually showing interest in your passions, aspirations, goals, not actually listening to you, making you cry on multiple occasions and lacking empathy in his reaction to it, etc), and any of the ones below.

3. Gaslighting

First, let’s review what gaslighting actually means: “Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where a person or group makes someone question their sanity, perception of reality, or memories. People experiencing gaslighting often feel confused, anxious, and unable to trust themselves.” – Medical News Today

To exemplify, he may gaslight you by saying phrases like…

“You’re making a big deal out of nothing.” (invalidating your feelings)

“It’s just in your head.” (making you question your ration and discernment)

“You’re overreacting.” (downplaying your feelings)

“You shouldn’t be upset/affected by this.” (trying to control your feelings or tell you how you should feel)

Someone who exhibits gaslighting behaviour needs therapy, and will never make you feel truly safe or be beneficial for your wellbeing (and mental health) until they have sorted through their issues.

4. Lacking interest

If they’re not listening to you, if they’re not initiating interest in your day, hobbies, skills or interests; if they’re not congratulating or hyping your achievments and success; even worse, if he shows signs of envy over said achievements, and actively belittles or downplays them, in an unhealthy sense of insecurity and seeing you as competition (when in fact they should be on your team cheering for your success) . . . it’s time to take the hint. They don’t actually care about you.

5. No respect for boundaries

Disrespecting boundaries, challenging them, debating them, finding counter-arguments for them – if he does any of these things, he lacks basic respect or understanding for boundaries. He may say things like…

“Well you need to face your anxiety with ___ and just do it, then you’ll be fine”

“Come on, I know there’s chemistry between us, why follow some stupid traditions & old values instead of enjoying the moment?”

In either case, this is a person that believes anything is negotiable, including your feelings, thoughts, privacy and dealbreakers… Read more

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the caption tho!

to be small even just for a while

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Live everyday like it's your last. read that again.

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5 biggest tips to brighten your day

There is hardly any guarantee that a fantastic day spent yesterday equates to a great day today. Same goes for good days. No matter how positive or productive a person is, there is no escaping gloomy days. No, honey. Still, starting a day with a low vibration energy does not automatically mean the rest of your day is damned.

Instead, it is best to turn the tables around and calm the storm. Here are 5 surest tips that would lift your spirits off gloomy days.

Read a book. Avoid books that trigger your anxiety, and substitute for gentler books that contain inspirational contents.

Make a cup of tea

brain dump or journal. This is an effective relief for stress.

Stay clear off screens. Give yourself space to breathe.

Call an old friend or family member you've missed. Sometimes, the best way to deal with bad days is to simply talk to someone you can trust.

Overall, take your day slow and understand that bad days are only temporary and will pass. Be gentle on yourself and give yourself time to heal.