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Difficult question time for aspec people and people who struggle with intimacy

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Pick the one that troubles you the most.

"But ace people can have sex !/ Aro people can be in relationships !" I know but there was not enough space to specify 'repulsed' or 'people who do struggle with relationships of any type'.

I didn't add "I'm worried people won't accept me" or something similar because I'm asking about problems you have with yourself.

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Miss Congeniality (2000) dir. Donald Petrie

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Any other ace and/or arospec people who keep forgetting about past sexual or romantic encounters ? I can't recount the names or faces of the people I went on dates with even though there were so few. My sex-repulsed ass has been undisturbed for so long, today I wanted to make a joke about not knowing anything about touching a man down there when I suddenly remembered that actually I do.

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every day against my will i learn something new from the lotr fandom

you know i'm thinking about how few teeth gollum has and like do you think frodo ever got a good sloppy bj from him

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oh it's ON !

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reblog if your name isn't Amanda.

2,121,566 people are not Amanda and counting!

We’ll find you Amanda.

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Again and again I have to hear the argument that "asexuals are actually not oppressed because in fact virginity and abstinence is expected" but these people seem to be forgetting that not everyone lives in a puritanical or at least puritan-shaped society.

I had close, good friends remark about another friend that she was abnormal for finding some guys cute but never approaching them or seeking a relationship when we were only 18.

When I was 19 I had to see a doctor and when I told her that I never had sex she reacted with "Really ? How ?! Did you never get the urge or just want to try it out ?!"

I was asked how one could get me, an autistic person, to develop a special interest in sex so I'd want to do it all the time and try out various positions/kinks/etc.

During my internship I managed to secure a position as an assistant and everyone openly assumed that I had slept with my boss. I was 19.

Personally, I'm not sex-negative but sex-repulsed. Non-graphic sex scenes or snippets alluding to sex (i.e. hands grabbing sheets) are not only part of the normal tv program but ads. I'll see sex scenes during day time for sex toys, condoms, health apps - even fucking bottled water. On channels with kids-friendly programs.

During high school I refused a date AND just sex with a friend. He didn't understand when I said "it's not you, I just generally don't", so he came back and told me in detail how he'd rape and murder me and more.

In my 20s I lived in shared housing. Several people could not accept that I wasn't interested in sleeping around. One was actually yelling at me in public that I should sleep with him because "it was obvious I wanted to". But clearly that's homophobia ? We actually had gay and lesbian housemates, they were fully accepted.

Another public scene. A guy yelled at me from a distance in the pedestrian zone how I had nice legs and he wanted to perform oral sex on me. I was mortified. My mother found it "funny and quite charming"...

When I was 16 and had no interest in dating or sex my best friend told me "when you eventually have sex you'll have to grid your teeth and act like you feel no pain and are experienced. No one wants to have sex with an 18+ virgin. Also if you're over 18 you can't expect a guy to go slow during your first time, you're too old."

And while I love the diversity in aspec-spaces, it can get annoying to hear "just because you're ace doesn't mean you can't have sex, right ? You do engage in sex, right ?!", because people read about sex-positive asexuality and jumped on it right away.

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Hi OP, i know your post wasn't about america, but can we please talk about america? this also applies to America, hey did you know this happens in america too? oh hey this applies to america too, did you know about america? i bet noone has mentioned america yet, as an american i feel the need to mention this happens in america too. this also goes for america. america America America can we talk about america please? we should talk about how this happens in america. nothing can be talked about without mentioning america. we need to talk about america.

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While we all try to deal with the choices made for the ladies in round three, I have the men's tournament stickers the people (one person) were clamoring (asked) for!

these are SO GOOD.

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VOTE in Everyone Hates Poetry 2024

Click the link to vote for up to five favorite poems for the first round.

Judges will vote separately and votes will be included as the rounds progress.

I wanted to randomize the poll for fairness, but that means poem links are not in the same order as the poll. I suggest reading all the poems from the links and then voting accordingly.

This round will end next Tuesday.

Poem links by title or first line

A Good Honest Poem

Sand, Wind and Time

It is a Kind of Animal Sacrifice

Thenody for Alchemists

Montauk

I Wish Some Days You Could Open Me

Maybe There is Something

Words

The Sky's Back in Blue

Bad Social Interaction

Heartfelt

T4T

When You Have Words I'll be Waiting to Hear Them

Fragment 1

The Noseblind Fox

Just Bow

I Do My Own Haunting

Defabricated

Riverrun to Repeat

The Truth Is

Secondary Succession

Tabula Rasa

Eating Spicy Noodles at Midnight

Observations

Dalek Haiku

Rococo Route

Wintering Grounds

Pig Aproxm

Bull Moose Shedding Antlers

Death of an Erotic Photographer

The Sounds of the City

New Years is Bullshit

With Each Year That Passes

I Found God in the Campfire

Again

Wasn't There

For my Brother

Man Made Machines

Ode to Dining Hall Meals with Friends

Xquic Speaks

She Taught me Poetry

I Wash Our Comfort Objects

Six Feet Under the Bridge

Carlos

Musings from a Simpler Time

Distant Driver

We Were Friends

Morn

Longing to Hold

Lens

Fruit from the Womb

Solstice

Epiphany Day

Small and Painful Wound

Feeling

Black Between my Thumbs

One Drew my Grandma

Here is the Truth

On the, in the, from the

Blessings

Mad Science Erotica

I lose my Faith in People

XO

Stars

Skin in the Game

Love

Walking Round and Round in an Aimless Square

Buck Moon

Shifting

Can You Feel the Fall

Onan

Come Seek Us Once You Become Human

You're an Enigma

Broken Doorknob

Radioactive Purity

Seven and the Fourth

The Apparition Seated at His Desk

The High Rule

The Doors are Left Open

Wether it's Direct

When I grow up

Storage Space

Who we are

Home

When the Message Comes

What is Lighter than a body left behind

Conservation Talk

Eulogy

Amor

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its so unfortunate when different peoples neurodivergent traits clash horribly. like yes i totally understand that the man at the other table cant control his stimming and loud vocal tics and i think he deserves to have a nice day out at a restaraunt without judgement. however if i dont remove myself from the audible vicinity in the next 20 seconds i will explode.

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TV writers will come up with vaguely weird & awkward mannerisms for a character and unwittingly craft exemplary autism representation, then try to write an explicitly autistic character and commit a hate crime

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help my social worker is cute

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The "everything is linked up online but actually not" has reached new heights. It's the first week of lectures in this semester at my distance university. Obviously I've forgotten my old password by now because you need a new one each semester anyway and there are no hints which rules the password has to follow so there are 37893 variations what it could be. I'll just request a new one-time password, no problem right ? Right ? Right ?!

Yeah the new general password is sent to me via postal service.

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One really weird thing I encounter more and more is the Netflixifaction or something of media. I'll see a recommendation and the comments will be flooded with "where can I watch this ?!" as if it's a given that every piece of media is a 2 season show available for streaming. And often the rec just refers to a book or manga or web comic or even to a fucking prose woven in a tapestry or something.

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This happened ages ago on television but I need the whole of tumblr to know about this:

We have a show where people go on a blind date at a hotel, do some activities together, and after every day they decide if they want to stay and get to know their date better or leave. I think they stay up to three days. That's the whole show.

There was one episode where a sister and brother arrived and had their heterosexual dates. Because they were close they spent their evenings together with their respective dates joining them. Now, I think the timeline went like this: The brother decided that he and his date hadn't clicked and he wanted to end his stay. But he didn't have to leave !

Why ? Because the guy who had a date with his sister also didn't click with her but confessed to the show's staff that he kinda ? Liked maybe the brother ??? And he's never felt this way before but he wanted to spend time with him ?! And obviously they were like "Good on you for admitting to that, go have your date".

Ultimately they didn't end up together but he had found very close friends in the siblings and being on national tv like "I'm a straight gym bro but this man makes me smile and feel good" is balls of steel insane.