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Going through kind of a lot…

I was/am in school for early childhood education but this semester has kicked my ass. We moved to a new state in January and have been struggling to get schedules together to get my kiddo in daycare and my fiancé started a new job which has been positive but I fell so behind in school the last month I had to completely withdraw from all my classes and that really sucked I felt like a total failure but after talking with my advisor it’s still ok I can still return next fall and take just two classes at a time instead of 4 which should help significantly and since I withdrew early my gpa is still safe which was a huge relief for me. And we’re trying to work on budgeting hella seriously cause it’s been a lot of years of not knowing wtf is happening with money so that’s been stressful but hopeful too. We have a plan to reduce spending on ordering out (our biggest issue probably) and instead saving that money to go towards a new car cause my fiancés truck is a gas chugger and has had a ton of issues lately and hopefully we can get a new one in a few months. Honestly I’m just sorta rambling now but while it’s currently sucking and money is super tight I can almost see the possibility of it getting better and I haven’t had that in too long. Soooo fingers crossed? Idk I’m having very mixed emotions about it all

- Moss

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oh god what did i do

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Something I feel isn’t talked about much in the did/osdd community is the guilt of being host. Specifically being host for extended periods of time with minimal to no interaction from anyone on the inside. I’ve been fronting alone in silence for most of this year, it’s been terrible, lonely, and kicking my denial up again. I know they’re still there because every once in a while I get a passing emotion or thought that isn’t mine but it’s gone so fast it’s like it didn’t even happen. I know I should be happy because that means that I’m doing well out here and they trust me to take care of everything but hell it’s stressful and sometimes I need the break. I just I need someone to reach out and tell me I’m not suddenly alone that nothing is wrong and they’re still here.

It’s hard I hate being alone and I really miss them.

Tldr being host too long is complicated and lonely, tell your host you love them/thanks every once in a while

- Moss

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next week being christmas feels fake but okay

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Here are some links to worksheets about anger (you can download the pdfs for free and print them):

The cycle of anger

The anger iceberg

This worksheet discusses when your anger might have become more of a problem rather than a healthy emotion.

A small introduction to anger management

The 'anger thermometer' to identify your own gradations of anger

Anger warning signs

Anger stop signs (intended for children but I like this too)

Worksheet to identify triggers

A summary of anger management skills

Coping skills to deal with anger

The 'urge surfing' technique

Improving the moment when in distress worksheet

Distress Tolerance Skills (self-soothe with senses / distractions)

Distracting from distressing emotions worksheet

Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills (communicating needs, fostering positive interactions and self respect)

Communicating needs worksheet

Emotional Regulation Skills (opposite action, fact-checking, paying attention to bodily needs, guiding focus back to positivity)

Brief explanation of some relaxation techniques to use when angry

Questions to ask yourself about anger (good journalling prompts)

The 'fair fighting rules' aka how to engage healthily in arguments

Template for keeping an 'anger diary'

Template for keeping a 'coping skills log'

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You don't need to be actively trying to heal all the time. And honestly, that sounds like a recipe for burn out.

It's okay to not always be focused on your healing. It's okay to take breaks.

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so embarrassing when i forget im checking someone's blog and i start scrolling through and liking and reblogging shit as if it's just my dash. it feels like wandering into someone else's apartment and not noticing and making myself lunch

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“Okay here’s the list of chores I want to get done today” I tell myself before having sudden full body fatigue from seemingly nothing

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I'm awesome at keeping surprises under wraps because I fully forget they're a thing until it's immediately relevant.

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if u see this PLEASE reblog!! We need this to spread as far and wide as possible!

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system ask game, because i'm bored!

PART 1: BRAIN MADE ALTERS

💫 - do you have a face claim? if so, what is it, and how'd you find it? ⭐ - do you have a "theme song", or a song you think describes you? 🌟 - what's your voice claim, if you have one? ✨ - do you have any friends or family in the system? 🌜 - did you form with any pseudo memories, despite not having a direct source?

PART 2: INTROJECTED ALTERS

🌾 - do you like your source? if so, does it bring you comfort? 🌱 - do you feel connected to your source, or more separate? 🌿 - do you have any pseudo memories? are there any you'd like to share, if so? 🍃 - what are your opinions on interacting with source mates? ☘ - do you look like or sound like your source?

PART 3: HEADSPACE

🍓 - does your headspace have layers to it? if so, how many? 🍒 - is your headspace big, small, or somewhere in between? 🍎 - was your headspace there when you first discovered you were a system, or did you have to make/build it? 🍉 - has your headspace changed over time, or has it generally stayed the same? 🍑 - do your alters have their own spaces/rooms?

PART 4: DISCOVERY RELATED QUESTIONS

🛑 - how old were you when you first discovered your system? 🚧 - do you remember who was host when you discovered your system? are they still host now? 🚨 - have roles within your system changed a lot since you first discovered your system? ⛽ - how did you discover you were a system? 🧭 - were there any obvious signs that you were a system before your discovery? feel free to send any of these asks in/our way as well! have fun lovelies!

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i need. to be. in water.

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system ask meme

🍄 - how did you get your system name?

👾 - funniest out of context system quote?

🎉 - favorite system holiday?

🌙 - do you have subsystems?

☕ - what is switching like for you?

💫 - are there any hobbies you all have?

💾 - what's your headcount?

👻 - do your alters/headmates have different voices or speech patterns?

🎨 - does anyone in your system like art?

🥀 - how easily does the system split?

🦖 - is your system fictive-heavy? factive-heavy? neutral?

🎵 - what songs remind you of your alters/headmates?

❓ - how much amnesia do you experience?

🎮 - what do your alters/headmates do in their free time?

🪐 - what is headspace like for you?

🍐 - are there any non-human alters/headmates?

🪫 - what do you all do to recharge?

🌧️ - how does the system cope with stress?

🔦 - how did you discover your system?

🌟 - do any alters help out with school/work?

🌊 - who are your frequent fronters?

🎁 - have you ever bought your alters/headmates things?

☘️ - what are your introjects/fictives usually sourced from?

💬 - free space!! tell me about something!

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