#hoping for the best

[whomst-the-hell]

you gotta say it like its the last thing you’ll ever say (because it always could be)

[toxictoxicities]

So I got a bacterial infection and was given antibiotics

So many regrets

[aida-sparks]

Buddie Season 7 Hype and "Brothers" Rumor

I know some of us may have seen the "brother" rumors floating around, hinting that an upcoming Buck and Eddie scene this season might officially cast their relationship as strictly platonic.

Some fans just want to live in the buddie moment and be happy after the stills and 7x04 synopsis dropped. I get it. It's fun being on the buddie train. But some are worried now that they've gotten their hopes up. I get that too. So I just wanted to talk about it here on my little buddie blog. If you're unbothered by it, definitely scroll past this post.

Firstly, we don't know yet if they will actually call each other brothers or not. It's just rumors at this point, from what I can tell. And if even if they do, we don't know the full context of it or either character's reaction to it. Secondly, just the way the show has stirred up the buddie hype this season makes me want to believe the "brother" dialogue that may or may not even happen would NOT be meant to shut down buddie canon hope once and for all.

While I don't think we're getting a clear and true, full out buddie-feelings-realization in these next couple episodes, it would be very cruel if the show instead went in the extreme opposite direction and defined their relationship as "like brothers" at the end of this particular storyline that has fans so hyped up, if their intention in doing so is meant to cement their relationship in the general audience's eyes as brotherly only. Let's be real: the show has ramped up the marketing attention on Buck and Eddie this season like never before. From pre-releasing a ton of Buck-and-Eddie-centric stills to the decision of pairing Ryan and Oliver together so damn much for promotions … all actions not seen on this level in any previous seasons.

To me, that demonstrates the show's intentions to build hope for buddie rather than dash it.

Especially because we know the show KNOWS their audience. I think the show knows how to market to the buddie fandom, even when they're marketing differently to the rest of the general audience and other potential viewers. They are acutely aware that the buddie fans tend to be dialed in, always seeing the episode stills the instant they're released, waiting on pins and needles for the next synopsis to drop, theorizing, reading each article, devouring every interview, examining bts details, etc. They tend to be highly engaged fans.

The showrunners and powers-that-be know how this promotional content is perceived and are aware of the fandom's dedication, and so have fed into the fervor with strategically released content for calculated engagement. And now we have the carefully worded synopsis for 7x04, where we've been told Eddie will form a close bond with someone else, and Buck will be envious over it. It's obvious how buddie fans will perceive this. So for them to pivot so sharply and end up defining Buck and Eddie's relationship as nothing more than brotherly after such a known buildup would not only be a massive letdown but might also be perceived as an uncaring bait-and-switch tactic. And I really don't they would do that to their fans.

They wouldn't hype us up to the top of a cliff knowing they're only going to throw us off it, right?

I don't want to get into if it would be queer baiting or not; the situation isn't black and white, and I don't think it's blatant enough to be considered anything like that. It's more about the emotional investment the fans have made, based on the carefully crafted cues the show has provided them with. The ethical route, if the showrunner's intention this season was always to solidify buddie as a brotherly bond with no romantic potential, would have been to firmly manage expectations from the start rather than amplifying them to the point of no return going into this network change and new season. To sum up here, the buildup we've been given around Buck and Eddie lately leads me to hope we're moving in an optimistic direction that will eventually culminate in the chance for a buddie romance at some point in the series. At the very least, I hope it means we're not going to have our hopes crushed entirely and see Buck and Eddie be officially friend-zoned. (Even though we can certainly still ship them to eternity and beyond regardless, it means so much if them going canon remain a possibility.)

To officially redefine Buck and Eddie's pairing in strictly platonic terms now, after all these seasons, would not only be a disservice to an incredibly invested fanbase but also a hell of a missed opportunity to go on and explore a rich relationship in a more dynamic way, especially as buddie has captivated viewers for so long in a slow-burn sense already.

[crystalsword]

Considering how Buddy Daddies appears at first glance as just a cute comedy, I really can’t get over the amazing character development! Rei began as someone who felt trapped by his life and like there was no other way for him, and he almost didn’t even care anymore. He was made just to follow more orders, and to be a passive witness to what happens to him, rather than trying to influence it for himself. But now Rei wants something and, even though he has been shown how hard his life will be if he reaches for it, he wants to take action and be different. And, most importantly, he believes that this is possible!

Meanwhile, Kazuki’s experiences in the storyline had caused him to lose the belief that their lives could be anything different. So he ends up believing that really loving Miri means they have to give her up, and that he would actively hurt her if he kept on reaching for that dream of a family. Rei actually gained hope over the series, but nearly the opposite happened to Kazuki! And yet, the turn around with Rei is strong enough to pull Kazuki out of that fear, and now they’re both finally on the same page!

They are both now people who truly want to cherish and take care of their found family! And now they’re at a point that they can actually make that commitment. Because, for arguably the first time, they truly understand what it means and will actively work and fight to keep it! What incredible character growth!

[bikelaned]

GUYYYSS GUYS GUYSSS HELP HELP HEEELPP ME E :((

I no ideas, need

need ideas

give them

would it be against tumblr etiquette to just @ ALL of my mutuals I feel like maybe that's too much but i'm tempted lmao

[dead-pidove-do-not-eat]

I’m so sick of that pop psychology myth about your brain being fully developed at 25. Your brain is constantly adapting, changing and developing different skills. If you’re neurodivergent your brain develops slower than a neurotypical persons. That’s not a valid excuse to infantilize and take away bodily autonomy from literal adults.

[helix-studios117]

Okay. Today is a fresh start.

[thatineffablewitch]

Relating aros to love is like conceptualizing women against men

So we agree that women exist outside of men, right? Saying women can do what men do is still problematic because it assumes we want to be like men, that masculinity is the bar everyone must be striving to achieve. That, as Adrienne Rich points out in her iconic piece on compulsive heterosexuality, a great deal of feminist scholarship still assumes women are innately drawn to men and refuses to examine the institution of heterosexuality. Women and femininity exist in their own right, and don’t always need to be compared against men. Men are not the universal measuring pole that gives something worth.

We’re agreed on that? Yes? Good.

So explain to me why we do the exact same thing with love.

Now, everything I say may not be 100% accurate because I just accepted myself as aro. I’ve learned a lot about myself and this community in the past few months, so if I mis-explain something, please understand it is ignorance rather than purposeful malice/exclusion and kindly correct me (we do basic human respect on this blog).

A (if not, the) main LGBTQIA+ slogan we hear is “love is love.” People justify and sanitize queerness by centering love in the conversation, usually romantic love. This itself probably plays a big role in aromantic erasure when it comes to a majority of queer spaces. People understand love, think of it as this unifying and positive force that brings people together, and assume this feeling is universal and good.

Aromanticism means we innately have a different relationship with the word, “love.” Whether we still experience other forms of love (platonic, familial, love for pizza, etc.) or are loveless, we know the importance of other feelings. A queer experience of romantic attraction naturally shapes our experience with the general idea of love, and what it means to truly experience that. We know there are an abundance of other experiences in this world worth having, and that love isn’t necessarily the only way to care about other people. Love isn’t the only thing to give life meaning, or to make someone whole. Queerness in queer theory means to question to status quo. If love is baked into our amatonormative society, what does “love is love” do to queer this widespread societal ideal? Nothing.

We use love like a weapon, a measuring stick for something or someone’s worth. So to be loveless, if love is what society uses to assign worth and validity, is to be worthless or inhuman. Hence any media representation we manage to scrounge up (or at least be coded as) are either villains, not human, or both. Instead of accepting aromantic existence, instead of being intrigued by lovelessness and allowing curiosity to lead to liberation, society insists on erasing and invalidating aromantics instead.

Well, just as women exist independently outside of men, we can exist outside of love. Love does not measure our worth just as men do not measure a woman’s worth. We can treat people kindly and care about things and be complete, whole human beings without love. This seems to me like a radical flavor of queerness that society as a whole (and some other queers!) aren’t eager to contemplate or try to understand. But whether they understand or not, we are valid and cool as fuck anyways.

Wishing every brave and gorgeous aro a wonderful aromantic awareness week!

[vampirecatboy]

today, with the support of my therapist, i'm going to be coming out to my parents

keep me in your thoughts, wish me luck, pray for me if that's you're jam

hopefully things will go well

[peanutstudying]

Reference photos from Day 2

[minghio]

Going to rewatch episode 6 and 7 hoping that things changes

[windblume-wishes]

TW: Mentions of cancer and surgery

I go in for a dermatology follow up on Wednesday, while this may be a follow up appointment for healing progress from my s*rgery in May there may be additional checkups in this appointment that will see whether or not I truly am still c*ncer free. I have been in remission since May and have been fine, they said they got the developing c*ncer out of me before it hit stage one- at least I hope all will remain alright.

Many of you may not be aware but as of late I have not been doing too well physically. Though it may be stress or simply being overly exhausted the fact remains that I have not been at my best. I may look fine on the outside but I have grown increasingly tired and have had some discomfort here and there- mainly in places where my lymph nodes are located which is of course of concern. (Under my arms and upper throat are the main spots of discomfort)

I hope this is simply but a bug, stress or even exhaustion but if something does happen at that appointment that warrants further attention I will let you all know.

Lets hope for the best~

- Windblume

[novelconcepts]

Oh, yeah, rad. This is a terrible week for my treadmill to just decide not to start.

[she-ismysun-archive]

911 has already been renewed for s8 and we're still waiting for s7 of the rookie. I don't really think i can handle the heartbreak if we're not renewed.

it's not lookin good chat! especially since ABC picked up 911 and it is one of the most expensive shows despite good viewership

[roostertuftart]

I try not to be negative I really do but that new game trailer…. Disappointing

[almostperfectstarlight]

3.21.24

Went to the gym with my fiance and I'm feeling really good about that.

Cardio felt harder today than it did earlier this week. I think it's because I was dehydrated.

I also think I had a very promising call for a potential client and it'd be like a 5 year contract I'd I got it which actually sounds awesome like exactly what I'm looking for and the person wants to coach women in tech. I'm hoping for the best here.

Its a more junior PM role and they're looking for someone they can build in a senior PM. I'm definitely alright with that and I'm hoping for the best and for the interview next week once set up. Yay!

Caveat is there is homework for this role because the last person freaked out and quit after 3 weeks and her work didn't make sense in terms of how she would do things and present them.

I'm thinking I'd set up one on ones with the people I'd be overseeing to get a better idea of their product and role.

Normally I'd not like pfffff about homework for a role but this one is for a big ass household name and its in tech and telecom so um I think it's worth it.