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Don’t Put Them On A Pedestal!

[This is a note to myself, and anyone else who has limerence.]

• You’re not in love with your LO, you’re in love with the idea of them (the idealised version you have unconsciously created in your mind).

They aren’t perfect, because no one is perfect. You just don’t see their flaws, because your brain has blinded you to them. You’re perceiving them in a disordered way that makes them seem like some sort of God-like figure, which they aren’t. They are human, just like you and me.

• If you’re putting someone on a pedestal, you likely don’t know them very well, if at all. Especially when your LO is a celebrity or public figure.

The truth is, you don’t know the real them. You only “know” the version of them that they choose to project to others. They could be a really shitty person behind closed doors, you just don’t know. Like I said, everybody has flaws. Maybe they’re bigoted, narcissistic, cruel, super toxic or even really stinky. I say this because you should never compare yourself to anyone, especially an LO- that you’re putting on a pedestal. Which brings me to my next point.

• Don’t compare yourself to the people they choose to surround themselves with.

This is an obvious one. You think that your LO is perfect, so obviously you’re automatically going to view the people who they spend time with as perfect too, and strive to be like them. The same with your LO, you don’t know what these people are truly like. You don’t even know how much they get along with your LO. You don’t know anything about their relationship with that person, it could be strained or toxic. Just like people, relationships are never perfect. Two siblings who seem to be like peas in a pod outwardly might secretly argue and fight all the time behind closed doors. And as for the things that you see, such as beauty, success and intelligence, there’s a lot of people faking it out there. Just saying. Makeup, photoshop, fraudulence, nepotism, etc. Don’t compare yourself to them, because all you’re going to end up with is a crippling inferiority complex and no self-esteem. Remember- they are just doing the same thing as everyone else- projecting the image that they want others to see. What you see isn’t always truly real and authentic.

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I hate limerence because why can’t I just have a regular schmegular crush? Like why does my brain have to be so extra about it? Why does it have to torture me in every way possible? How is gonna find someone for me to crush on to make life seem a little more bearable at the moment and then use it to torture me?

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An amazing and informative read 🫶

The GOP appeals to the white working class not through class issues, but through racism. Because the white working class in the United States is, by and large, racist.

There's definitely a Horseshoe Effect when it comes to the racial politics between wealthy white Republicans and white working class Republicans. It's arguably their biggest common ground.

It's not that the white working class doesn't care about being underpaid and exploited for their labor. It's not that they're unaware of how much bosses and the capitalist system screw them over. On the contrary, they're quite cognizant of those issues. It's just that they are much more fearful of competing with immigrants over jobs or minorities fighting for racial equality, and they vote accordingly.

Some anecdotal evidence on my part: I'm a white woman born and raised in the South where my mom, dad, and stepdad's sides are all economically diverse but solidly Republican. I've heard pretty much every racist talking point across this large class gamut that doesn't include overt, KKK racism. A very close family member, a woman who grew up working class (and became middle class by marriage), cited the aforementioned fear of immigrants and minorities on why she voted for Trump, more than any other issue. The white working class kids I went to school with were also solidly Republican, and you bet your ass they had racist views!

There's a popular narrative that the white working class started voting Republican because the Democratic Party abandoned class issues. That narrative implies that the Republican Party has made class issues a large part of their platform, but that couldn't be further from the truth, as their embrace of Trickle Down Economics proves. Instead, the Democratic Party started emphasizing racial equality, which turned off the white working class by and large.

There's another popular but just as inaccurate narrative that the white working class are voting against their interests. From a class perspective, that's true. But once again, the white working class greatly prioritizes their racial politics over their class politics, so in reality, they actually are voting for their interests. Maintaining white supremacy - whether they want to admit it or not - interests them more than addressing wealth inequality.

As long as all of these factors hold true, the Republican Party will continue to court the white working class vote with Race Panic ad infinitum.

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I miss Kurt Cobain so much 💔 (he died 12 years before I were even born)

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Favorite women in horror, villain edition.

• Shawnee Smith as Amanda Young in Saw III (2006) • Jennifer Tilly as Tiffany Valentine in Chucky (2021) • Betsy Palmer as Pamela Voorhees in Friday the 13th (1980) • Shari Moon Zombie and Karen Black as Baby and Mother Firefly in House of 1000 Corpses (2003) • Bette Davis as Baby Jane Hudson in Whatever Happened to Baby Jane? (1962) • Katherine Isabelle as Mary Mason in American Mary (2012) • Samantha Scaffidi as Heyes in Terrifier 2 (2022) • Angela Bettis as May Dove Canady (2002) •

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Diary of An Idiot? More like Diarrhoea of An Idiot.