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Sorry to all those asks in our inbox that will go unanswered, hope all of you have a great day and life :)

We’re gonna be moving away from this blog and all side blogs. Sorry to all those that followed us and liked our posts, but we’re gonna be moving to a more private tumblr (that we will not be sharing for personal reasons.) Love all of you /p <33

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anger holder culture is yelling on your personal blog because YOU´RE SO FUCKING SICK OF ALL YOUR FRIENDS BEING SHIT. OKAY, FINE, THEY´RE GOOD AT POINTS BUT THEY CONSTANTLY FUCKING MAKE US FEEL LIKE SHIT AND MAKE OUR SPIRALING EVEN FUCKING WORSE. THEY GET UPSET AT EVERYTHING WE DO, AND THEN WE GET UPSET BACK AND SUDDENLY WE´RE THE PROBLEM??? OUR FRIENDS ANGER HOLDERS GET TO SCREAM AND VENT EVEN IF IT´S UNREASONABLE AND THEY GET COMFORT AND SUPPORT AND ALL WE FUCKING GET IS GETTING YELLED AT AND PEOPLE MAD AT US AND GIVING UP ON US AND IT ISN´T FUCKING FAIR

WE TRY SO GOD DAMN HARD FOR THESE PEOPLE, WE PUT UP WITH THE CONSTANT PAIN THEY PUT US THROUGH, THEIR VENTING, THEIR APATHY EPISODES AND MOOD SWINGS, BUT THEY CANT BE BOTHERED TO FUCKING EVEN LISTEN TO US VENT WITHOUT BITCHING ABOUT SOMETHING GOD FUCKING DAMN IT

AND I CANT EVEN SAY ANYTHING BECAUSE THEY´LL GET MAD. IT FUCKING SUCKS. I HATE THESE PEOPLE.

-4️⃣

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Hypersexuality holder is like finding another hypersexuality holder and being adamant that no one will understand you like them (I was right, we're married now)

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Anxiety holder culture is the constant uncertainty (･･;) -🤎

(Btw sorry for so many asks in a row, we just remembered this blog exists again, and yeah, new split(?) ^^; Kinda blurry/blendy rn but we know we want to send in stuff about the newbie :3)

.(dw abt it!)

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Anxiety holder culture is having elf-like ears because they're long and express how I feel accurately enough (usually slightly drooped, sometimes perk up when startled or surprised) -🤎

Sometimes I get the feeling that I introjected parts of Marcille or one of the other elves from dungeon meshi and that's where this comes from (even though I dont rlly look like them) ^^;;

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Anxiety holder culture is not knowing when exactly or why you split but knowing you must exist because you aren't the depression holder and you aren't the joyholder despite masking as them... sorta? Idk, but usually the feeling/idea of those two being together regularly precedes realizing I'm out

It's still presenting with/having a cheery disposition despite the anxiety you have, which is probably coping with what causes the anxiety ^^;; -🤎

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anger holder culture is trying to explain to two bpd holders why what our FP did is pissing me off, knowing they won't listen 🙁 -🤎🦇

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Joyholder culture is

AAAAAAAA❣️

I'm so so SO proud of my sysmates/headmates‼️ XD

Our anger holder and traumaholder (catch-all role label we all use for em) had a conversation in writing (we have an easier time communicating in writing together, be it story/narrative or just random thoughts on paper).

I wasn't actually THERE but like. So the traumaholder did what trauma does and had bad thoughts about stuff. Well, the anger holder was. Ok it surprised me bc I didn't expect to see it, I don't think anyone did, but they had a GENUINE look of HURT on their face, like betrayal.

So traumaholder did a little bit of stupid stuff by themself (recoverable from, so no worries there), break downs, etc etc. EVENTUALLY, they were calmed down, though usually it's in a tired and numb way.

I wanna say the angerholder actually started the conversation? Somehow? Not sure how but I think it's just cuz they had a (sarcastic/funny) thought they wanted to write down, and it just went on from there.

ANYWAYS LIKE I'M SO PROUD OF THEM‼️ Idk about you but I. Love. PROGRESS❣️ Like the good kind. I'm the system's personal cheerleader, basically XD

THEY HAD A CONVERSATION TOGETHER AND LIKE MANAGED TO MAKE UP AND REASSURE EACH OTHER AND STUFF AND LIKE IT WAS SO CUTE AND IT WAS THE FIRST TIME I'VE SEEN OUR ANGERHOLDER LIKE THIS‼️ Pretty sure they're a protector, so they definitely are trying to help us and like support us, 100% I'VE JUST NEVER SEEN EM LIKE THIS!!!

I'm so happy I could cry TwT /pos

(Btw when I think about giving em a group hug I just see the angerholder trying to free themself from my clutches >:3 XD)(All in good fun, I promise X3)

- 🤎

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Pain holder culture is “Okay I can definitely do all of this today” and then immediately sitting back down after not in fact being able to do all of the tasks that day

(Feel free to respond and also can we claim 🌑🐾 please?)

yeah you can claim that!! also this is so real, thankfully our main pain holder has a super high tolerance so that’s good for us

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Love and BPD holder culture is violently sobbing when they like another alter more. -🩸🪱 (if that combination isn't taken ofc it's just the closest I could get to a leech)

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(If this was intended to be sent off anon then I apologize <//3)

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Disassociation holder culture is :

We……..are? I………am?

— 🎁📋 (with ⭕️🚬’s help) \\ 🐾🦮

okay I know we said we wouldn’t respond to things but this is so real. I’m having one of our caretakers help me out in answering these asks rn -mod 💠

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Anger holder culture is: "it was almost an entire year ago. why can't I just fucking get over it."

🐦‍⬛

from ☕

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Being a peace/peacefulness holder is fronting after a long day and letting everyone relax and rewind while you take care of the body for the evening, and knowing you never want to do anything else because you feel good about what you do for your system

(Could we claim "🦠⚠️" as an anon sign off???)

(ofc you can ^^)

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[This is not directed towards the blog owner or anyone who has submitted here.]

Anger holder culture is—

"Stop interacting with/posting about [immoral communities]!!! You're just making yourself miserable!"

Don't act like you know me. I post about toxic spaces [with proper "anti" tagging, may I add] because I have a very strong sense of justice. I enjoy putting my opinion out there because I feel like I've made a contribution to lessen the problematic communities. I like spreading awareness on them and why they're harmful.

It's actually very calming to me. I can feel like I've done something to bring justice both for myself and for my system, because I formed due to a situation where we never felt like an abuser of ours was brought to justice. I like discourse. I enjoy debating online. And yes, I do tend to get irritated with the pettiness of other people—

But it's so much easier to let things go when you've hardly talked with some bitchy little rando for fifteen minutes.

Anger holder culture is exposing yourself to things that do anger you, because at least you know how to calm down from them rather than the things you're really upset about.

— ☕ anon

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"This user/alter/part/headmate is a symptom holder." Non-requested userboxes. Variations in red, yellow, blue, and green.

Red variant.

Yellow variant.

Blue variant.

Green variant.

Part one of our holder useboxes.

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The disaster pair of being an OCD and anger holder culture is Them™ consuming your thoughts on a daily basis, and having to check all of their socials in order to feel better.

[may we claim "☕" ? (No quotations) It didn't look like it was taken, but if it is, "☕🪶" is also fine]

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