honeystar-xo

[honeystar-xo]

bye, 2021.

last day of 2021.

it was one of the worst years i had experienced personally, but i still wanna feel thankful for everything that has happened, because i’m still alive and well today, surviving through the tough situations definitely made me a better person.

people came, some stayed, some went away, it’s just a normal thing in life.

i’m thankful to everyone that came to my life, and stay on; your companionship, no matter how big or small, matters to me. tiny little things that people do does warm my heart in the darker days, even if they don’t realize it.

i’ve become better at managing my expectations about people who left, or will leave one day. it’s simply inevitable, and it made me realized that i should really treasure the moment, each memory created together with a friend, family or even lover, is unique and precious.

relationship is complicated, and always will be.

but personally, i have realized what i truly needed, and wanted for my near future. it might not be a conventional decision, but at the very least, i’m happy and relaxed, i get to be myself.

i’ve accepted that every human has different perspective of various relationships in life, and it’s completely okay to agree to disagree, just accept that difference, maybe one day, everyone is more willing and open minded, but until then, i’ve come to terms to not be stressful about what other people think.

drama and conflicts is unavoidable in human interaction, and i’ve also seen a lot and been through enough to be able to know how to keep my own sanity and principles in check. 我不是金钱，不会幻想得到所有人的爱，只找到知心人就好。朋友不需要太多，一个懂我的知己胜过百个塑料的友情。

career is something of my own, the thing that i should rely on.

i’m thankful to have always worked hard and have achieved so much, i know how important it is to continue learning and staying relevant for better opportunities. while it might be cruel to say this, but in this competitive world today, survival of the fittest does define who stays at the top. i truly thank myself for being able to do that.

i’m a firm believer of proving yourself with actions and results, and everyone does get equal opportunity at the starting line, it’s just how much passion and determination you have and willing to put in to move forward. i still hope to continue to go forward in the future, and i do think that past experience have helped me a lot in making choices and decisions, which i’m grateful for.

of course, a lot of bad things did happen, and definitely a lot of lessons learned, it wasn’t a good year to begin with, everyone has more challenges to face and overcome than before. i came out fine, and the past is the past, learn and move on, treasure the present moment, and prepare for the future dreams.

走过许多的路，克服不少的困难，一直坚持自己的信念，是时候释怀心酸的往事，换一份心情来期待新的一年，继续为自己打拼，珍惜自己的健康，关爱身边的真心朋友，期待更美好的明天。

[honeystar-xo]

positivity

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everyone knows that staying positive or surround yourself with positive vibes is good, but it’s not always that easy in life, and it’s simply not possible to only have positivity all the time. maintaining a balance of positive and negative energy should be what you aim for, to not be overwhelmed, to have a relaxed mind and soul.

the world is big, endless and there are things happening every single second. trying to care or want to care about everything will kill a person, because our energy is limited. instead, try to find what truly matters to you, what you should really care for, not what the society wants you to care about.

in life, there are things that are within your control, and there are things that aren’t, we are not god, just merely humans. remember to do your best or give your all for the things that you can control, so that no matter the outcome, you will not regret your decision or actions, while keeping an open mind on things that is beyond your reach, but always be prepared for the worst. this way, you will find that it is easier to feel happy or satisfied with good outcomes and much easier to accept failures or bad results and move on quickly.

our world now is pretty much running on social media, internet sites, and stuff, it has become such an essential part of everyone’s life, but no one realizes the actual impact it caused on a person. if you are a person which emotions get affected easily from the news, gossips, articles, videos, opinions of strangers on the world wide web, it’s best to avoid or refrain from being so involved. learn to control your emotions first before embarking on the internet journey which will open your mind to all sorts of influence which would create a lot of negative or bad energy around you.

it’s difficult to try or to start changing, but taking the first step is always the hardest. one small step forward at a time, and you will notice the positive change eventually.

where do you find positive energy?

if you are an emotional person, it’s best to find ways to make yourself happy through daily activities such as sports, cooking, reading, gardening, walking, shopping, listening to music, camping, yoga, etc., activities that you are involved in every day life which can help to calm you down or bring your mind to a rest. if you can’t think of anything, perhaps you should explore and try something new to slowly discover yourself.

besides doing things that you enjoy, reading self help articles or positive vibes books, drawings, music, being close to nature, and slowing down your pace in daily life would calm your mind as well. start with just 5 minutes a day where you let go of the stress, to collect some positive energy back to yourself, slowly but certainly.

and when emotions do go out of control, how do we release the negative energy?

let it out through different activities that you prefer, such as sweating it out, drinking, boxing, writing songs, writing diary or journaling, drawing, talking to someone, crying, etc. it is important to not keep bad emotions bottled up, as it will just continue to affect you with negatives thoughts. do keep in mind that this is no way an excuse to commit crime or hurt others like bullying, drug abuse, violence, cyberbullying, attacking other people, throwing tantrums, etc. use a proper and healthy outlet to let go of emotions would help you gain positive energy too.

more listening, observing, thinking, doing, less talking, complaining.

listen to what others have to say, even when you do not agree, do not try to argue immediately, instead, listen to the whole story, learn to give chance to others to speak and you will find that you are able to hear people’s thoughts more and gain knowledge from there.

observe what people do, especially successful people, sometimes just by observing you would discover details that you could have missed otherwise, and it makes a difference in building your own character and personality.

think and process what you are heard and seen, then analyze and transform them to knowledge that benefits you. using your brain to reflect on the things you have experienced would often give you some surprise realization about yourself and that’s how you improve.

do meaningful things for yourself, every action you take, make it count. do more good in order to make peace with your soul and when you are busy, there are less chance to overthink and confuse yourself with negative thoughts.

talking less means having more time to action on things that would benefit you. just mere talking is pointless and a waste of time, and often let you miss things that are important. communicate, but reduce on unnecessary talks.

less complaining is important because the act of complain is generating a lot of negative vibes around you, and it doesn’t bring any actual benefit to you. instead of wasting time speaking bad about something or someone, use that time to fix your own issues and shortcomings instead. precious time should be spent wisely on yourself and not some random folks that do not matter.

[honeystar-xo]

正能量 - 你需要吗？

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大家都知道正能量是好的，但是往往找不到怎么保持满满的正能量，赶走负能量。其实，不是要做到没有负能量，而是要找到一个平衡点。只要负能量不泛滥，那你的心灵就会舒服。

世界上的事很多，如果你每一件事都想管，想改变，那一定会累坏的。先搞清楚你在意的是什么，你真正需要的是什么。别人你的事你别去牵卦，切记一个人的精力有限。

再者，有些事是你能控制的，有些事是不能的，在你能控制的范围里一定要做到全力以赴，才不会因为不理想的结果而后悔。至于那些你没办法控制的事，请保持理性的期待，也做最坏的打算。这样，无论事情发展如何，你都不会有很多负面的情绪。

新闻，网络，社交媒体，等等 都经常有各式各样的新闻和话题，如果你会因为这些新闻而产生负面情绪的话，建议少接触，少参与。尤其在社交媒体各种评论，一定会带给你很多无谓的负能量。发生在别人身上的事你就别管了，先管好自己的情绪，有能力好好控制自己的时候才去看别人的事。别以为八卦是好事，八卦的影响往往比你想象的还要恐怖，不然又怎么会有那么多人有样学样呢？

开始的确不容易，但是不尝试就永远都做不到。

正能量要上哪儿找呢？

如果你是一个很容易被事情影响情绪的人，你一定要找到可以让你心情放松或变好的方式，然后经常去做这件事，例如：运动，逛街，听音乐，散步，画画，冥想，种花，等等。找不到或不知道的话，就尝试新的活动，因为你试过的都不是你喜欢的，那就只能探索你没试过的事。 

除了找到自己喜欢做的事，多读一些有益身心的书或文章，听一些舒服的乐曲，看一些成功人士的分享，多接触大自然，把生活脚步放慢一点，都是有帮助的。大改变是很难的，可以从每天5分钟开始，慢慢的花一点点时间去收集正能量。

然而，情绪这样东西，都不是你我可以完全控制的。接下来，就是面对负能量，要怎么处理呢？

如果情绪依然被影响了，就要把负能量发泄出来，不要把它藏起来。每个人发泄情绪的方式不一样，但是只要不伤害自己，不伤害别人，适当的发泄是好的，例如：唱歌，喝酒，写日记，打拳，睡觉，申诉，哭泣，等等。切记发泄不代表可以违法或做一些不负责任的坏事，例如：发脾气，出口伤人，打人，网络霸凌，冷暴力，羞辱别人，等等。

多听，多看，多想，多做。少说，少怨。

多听听别人的意见当作参考，就算你不同意也不要反驳，听了要分析，要从别人的角度去看事情，你就会理解别人的想法而学到新知识。不认同不一定要吵架，可以理性的了解然后接受不一样的看法。

多看看成功人士的文章，文案，文笔，很多著名的作品是要反复用心体会才会理解它的意义。客观的看书，看画，看人，看事是学习最好的方法。

多想想自己的经历，分析遇过的事，你会慢慢的发现也许错过了一些事情，或者发现自己的短处和进步空间。人都需要成长，反审自己就是最好的办法。

多做有意义的事，只要它对你有意义就可以了。多做事可以减少胡思乱想的机会，过分的焦虑带来的负能量也会慢慢减少。

少说话不是不沟通，而是让你有更多的时间去了解别的人和事，去学习，去做事。光说话不做事最浪费时间的。

少怨别人的短处，别人的缺点。这世界上没有人事十全十美的，每个人都有自己需要改进的地方。与其一直抱怨别人的错事，倒不如努力把自己的短处改正，时间很宝贵，不应该花在别人的身上。

[honeystar-xo]

你是我的荣耀 - 感想。

这好像是2021年的第一篇文章，我太懒了。 不过，现在也不迟吧.. 其实我好久没有看电视剧了，而且是完完整整的看完.. 不知道为什么，每一次看剧都会失去追剧的欲望，然后就放弃了。

我用了3个晚上看完了《你是我的荣耀》。 我也惊讶了，而且看完了还很回味，所以决定写写我的感想。

它是一部偶像剧，但是我觉得是一部成人的偶像剧， 不是说它有什么大尺度的画面， 而是它的故事剧情比较成年，不是那种校园学生的。

它描述着成年人有可能遇到的矛盾，挫折，社会交流，等等，很实际的话题.. 在它的爱情线里，有甜蜜，有失望，有无奈，有迁就，有信任，有成全..

看剧的时候，刚好是我比较感性的时候， 我哭过，我羡慕过，我开心过，我笑过，我渴望过，我心痛过， 就是很莫名其妙的有共鸣，看到一个眼神，一个动作，明白了剧情的表达。

航空的领域也让我回忆了童年的梦想， 曾经，我也很好奇这无边无际的宇宙，有着什么秘密等着人类去探索呢.. 有想过有一天可以去外太空探险，可以近距离的看到其他星球， 很多很多星星的幻想与美梦，真的触动了我的内心。

真心觉得它是一部值得花时间去看的戏， 就算你不喜欢偶像剧，也应该尝试， 除了被甜甜蜜蜜的荣耀夫妇磕到，还有很多其他的元素，值得去探讨， 而且看一部那么正能量的戏，也可以让心情好起来。

或许会有人说偶像剧的结局永远是甜美的， 故事人设都比较单纯善良，不切实际， 但是，我想说，看剧就是想看现实生活很难找到的东西， 暂时觉得世间还好美好的事， 索取一些正能量，继续奋斗人生。

当然，必须说明， 我在看剧之前，已经是很喜欢杨洋的 😄。

好吧，大概就这样，第一次用中文写了那么多字，以后再加油。

[honeystar-xo]

wrapping up 2020

It’s been a challenging year, undeniably.

but I want to look at the good side of things as well because while we all faced tons of different challenges, there are still something good that has happened for me, and I just want to appreciate that instead of whining about the difficulties.

I did relatively well this year in my personal and professional lives, because I made progress and I could definitely see improvements in myself. of course, I’m still far away from perfection, maybe never going to be, because I’m just human. but most importantly, I learned how to be happy with myself, how to see things more positively and being less bothered by negativity. it would seem like a cold or cruel thing to say or do, but I believe in treating myself well first; no one would love me if I don’t love myself.

there’s a lot to say actually, and I don’t know where should I draw the line. I definitely have seen more, experienced more and matured in terms on my socials and relationships. now, I could confidently say what I want in my life, and be able to cut off any toxic influence easily. I learned that my time and effort are precious and it shouldn’t be wasted on people who don’t matter. Society standards are kind of outdated or restrictive, and I come to accept and respect people’s differences. I am happier in my own way, and that doesn’t mean I am a weirdo, it just mean you are not at my level yet to understand me.

one thing though, I noticed that more people start to scrutinize when someone is trying to celebrate success.. saying when the world is in a bad state and when many other people are suffering, you should be more compassionate instead of celebrating your success, or rewarding yourself and trying to move on towards a higher goal. instead of doing that, people expect you to stop and help others, but why? I don’t owe my success to random strangers. I worked hard for it, yes, I do admit that I am fortunate to get the opportunities, but you know what? I hunt for opportunities too, instead of just sitting around waiting for it to drop from the sky. I prepared a lot behind the scenes and put in tons of effort to achieve my goals. So why can’t I celebrate my success and start to move onto the next thing in my life just because others are not able to do so? I don’t hang my dirty laundry on my social media, I only showed my good side to everyone, but that doesn’t mean I don’t stress, don’t suffer in pain, don’t feel emotional and have a breakdown in between all my successes, right? So, stop judging and think that I owe the world or you anything, I am free to be proud of what I have achieved and there’s nothing wrong with me moving forward with my life. (Lol, sorry for the rant.)

another important thing I learned this year is the importance of mental health, I know everyone is probably bored of this topic by now, but it really hit me hard because I was one of the many who thinks I’m strong enough and I wouldn’t have any issues. Little did I know, mental health is not something you can see or even feel, it just creeps in slowly. I actually didn’t think there’s anything wrong with me until months later, when I reflected and I saw a huge change in behavior and mindset in myself, and that was the light bulb moment for me to connect the dots, knowing that I need to take care of my mental health too.. not that I am super good with my physical health, but yea.. the realization is important so that steps can be taken to manage things.

okay, I kinda wrote a lot without realizing.. but to summarize, I think there were good years and bad years, and yes, 2020 was not the dream year that everyone was expecting, there were no flying cars, time traveling and teleportation, and it wasn’t all unicorns and rainbows, but I believe balance and perspective is important, we can’t change what has happened and what is going to happen, but we can change our mindset to make it less painful or more bearable, we can find solace is difficult moments. and I would definitely love to remember some great moments of 2020 as well, instead of just thrashing it all away.

of course, to continue to give my best each day, and look forward to better days in 2021 and continue to be a better version of myself.

[honeystar-xo]

what do I seek for? 我想要的是..

disclaimer: if you have no patience or dislike reading long post, move on~ 如果没什么耐心或不喜欢长篇大论的，跳过吧~

what I am about to write is all about me, my preference, my desire, my choice. I respect that everyone has their own thoughts, based on different background and life experience, and I ask for the same respect in return, bear in mind that I am not asking for your “expert/kind” advice in any form. 这是一篇关于我与 我的喜好，我的选择 的文章，每个人都不一样，请切记我不需要任何 “专家/善意” 的建议。

as I grow, and go through different phases in life, I experience, I learn and I discover, things keep changing.. that’s life, we adapt and become better. I have come to a point where I kinda know what I seek for, instead of just randomly looking and see where fate leads me to.

many have sent me private messages through various platforms, I rarely respond to any, and some did ask what do I seek for, with this anonymous identity or through other platforms. The simple answer would be happiness, a partner that could and would make me happy. It sounds so simple yet in reality, it is a completely different story. I am willing to wait and put in effort for my own happiness, because I believe it is worth it and I am worthy of it. 我的人生中不缺男人，我的幸福也不依靠男人。

as someone who has a busy lifestyle, I do not have interest for anything shallow, temporary or meaningless, which means date to fuck, one night stands, fuck buddy, etc. are out of the window. If you are looking for just a warm body to satisfy your sexual desires and lust, you are looking in the wrong place. If you are interested in only my body through the photos that I shared, and not me as a person, then you should stop wasting your time. 对于单纯性爱或身体上的满足，这种暂时性，一次性的关系，我没兴趣。如果你看上的是我分享的性感照，而不是我这个人，那就别浪费时间了。

as a person who enjoys quality lifestyle, I also seek for quality partners. 素质对我来说很重要。Someone who is wise, intelligent, respectful, attracted to me as a person instead of just another lady, and also seeks for the same thing as me. 这些都是相互的，而不是单方面对伴侣的要求。

a wise person would have many life experience and lessons to share, we could exchange ideas, share similar encounters and draw some conclusions or views together on many different matters in life. We would listen to opinions from different point of views to see things more holistically. We would broaden our horizons, learn from each other and grow to be better versions of ourselves. 三观如果不一致，在沟通上会很困难，而，人的三观都是靠经验和岁月累积而成的。

an intelligent person would be able to hold conversations, plan proper and casual dates or even vacations, and discuss life matters or help each other out when necessary. Reading the mood and solving potential problems are also important in this aspect, to prevent awkward situations. 智商是沟通的关键，不会聊天，不会策划，不会解决问题的话，很没意思。

a respectful person would practice proper social etiquettes, be polite during conversations, understand boundaries, do what a gentleman does and would not objectify women as a sexual being, would not dismiss other person’s opinion or feelings. 尊重每个人是对等的，而不是喜欢刷优越感，觉得自己高人一等，看不起其他人，更不会因为我喜欢发性感照就觉得我很随便，任何要求都会答应。

a person who is attracted to me would take time, effort and money to understand me more by interacting with me, admire and compliment me for who I am as a person, enjoy my personality and style. 对每个女生都感兴趣，到处撒网，到处撩妹的人，说有好感根本就是在诈骗，每个女生那么不一样，怎么可能都喜欢呢？

a person who seeks the same thing as me would mean we could have so many new experience and adventures together. I would want someone who understands the true worth of quality lifestyle and seeks enjoyment of finer things in life, who treats me as a good friend, a confidante, a partner in crime. 了解和共同追求更美好的人生，懂得享受生活，做我的蓝颜知己。

there are also plenty of things I would stay away from, just simply because I do not have time for things that I dislike. I avoid any possibility of mind games, tricks, gossips and dramas. I stay away from commitments. I dislike immature individuals. I look down on negative people who whine, give excuses and never own up their mistakes and responsibilities.

all these mind games, tricks, gossips and drama I have seen is too time and energy wasting. I am not interested to butt into other people’s life or get involved in any cult/groups who think they are better than everyone else. 朋友只求精，不求多，也谢绝已婚男士，家庭纠纷我没兴趣参与。

commitment is something I am not ready for, and I do not know when will I ever be, perhaps it takes the right person to appear for me to make up my mind and take that leap of faith. For now, I am happy with casual affairs, just enjoy the moment and don’t take fun things so seriously is my motto. 承诺从来都只是甜言蜜语，用行动来证明诚意吧。有时间就一起，没时间就下次再约。

immaturity is something I could not stand, this has nothing to do with a person’s age, but a person’s mindset. being jealous, having unreasonable demands, unable to control emotions, are some of many examples of being immature. 幼稚没法说，公主/王子病这样的，总之接受不了就对了。

there are too many negative people in this society, who only whine and give excuses for every thing that happened in their life, instead of owning up mistakes, reflecting and improving themselves. I believe rewards come with hard work and there is no free lunch in this world. 努力奋斗的人一定会得到一颗糖，好吃懒做，怨天怨地的就自求多福吧。

I am not super beautiful nor do I have a perfect model body, I am just a girl next door with an attractive personality and a passionate mind to continuously improve my life so that I can enjoy all the precious moments and have a blast. I don’t expect my partner to look like superstar but I do appreciate a person who knows how to carry himself well and have some fashion sense. 我没有女神的脸蛋或魔鬼的身材，我就是一个有趣的邻家女孩。我不幻想我的伴侣有明星般的外表，但是我很欣赏会打扮的人。

写了那么多，目的是什么呢？我也没有太多的想法，毕竟，知己可遇不可求。就是心血来潮想写写一些东西，让人知道我心里是怎么想的。If you have read the whole post, I just wanna say thank you for your time and effort. =) 

until next time~

[honeystar-xo]

labeling relationship, is really none of your business.

there are tons of words or phrases or terms being used to label relationships, either between same or mixed genders, such as best friends, partners, lovers, boyfriend girlfriend, besties, old friends, new friends, lovers, scandal, bffs, pet sisters/brothers, friends with benefits, master/slave, daddy/mummy/baby, fubu, 炮友, 知己, 红颜, 情侣, 爱人, 暧昧对象, 一夜情, 伴侣, 好友, 死党, 兄弟/姐妹, 干妹妹/弟弟/姐姐/哥哥, etc. the list goes on..

everyone uses these terms loosely, it’s just a label, it does not define what the relationship between two parties is about. the more important thing in a relationship is both parties form a good bond, understood what are the expectations between them and agree to any terms set, if applicable.

we are human beings, each human is different from the next, and it is the same with any relationship formed between two parties, they are unique, one of its kind. what they decide to label their relationship as, is entirely up to them, any third party or outsider has no rights to comment or criticize because you are simply not included in the relationship.

human relationships are not a definite thing, it does not follow the same set of rules and expectations for everyone, it evolves with different persons, with time and experience. if we want to know the “dictionary” definitions, anyone could look it up on the internet easily, or consult a subject matter expert, not a random person over the internet. before pointing fingers at others to claim that they are wrong, what credentials do you have to support your stand that you are right? you are not even inside the relationship to understand anything, you just make assumptions!

why would i ask an outsider what should i label my relationship as, when this is about me and the other person only? why would i care if any outsiders have other thoughts or disagree with what we think? you are no one in this relationship, and you do not add any value, so stop interfering.

stop butting in onto other person’s personal life without invitation, that’s freaking rude, have some common courtesy. stop trying to police other person’s relationship, it does not concern you in any shape and form.

if you have too much energy and time on your hands, do something meaningful like charity work or plant a tree, and the world would be at a better place.

与其无礼的插手别人的感情， 把你的精力和时间用在更有意义的地方吧， 例如，去做做义工或者去种棵树， 世界会变得更美好。

* image is sourced from the internet.

[honeystar-xo]

伤心失落的资格

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Ａ：男友因为工作取消了周末的约会，我的浪漫惊喜全泡汤了.. Ｂ：你有男朋友已经很好了，就取消一个约会.. 你哭啥？我单身都还没说话呢。

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Ａ：因为疫情，我熬了无数夜晚做出来的公司计划书都用不上了，努力都付之东流了.. Ｂ：你公司还是你的，还在赚钱.. 我只是打工的，要加班，还被扣工资.. 我才伤心啊.. Ｃ：我连工作都没了，你们在埋怨什么？我才要哭呢。 

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不知道你对以上这些对话是不是有所感触呢？还是似曾相识呢？

你觉得以上Ａ，Ｂ或Ｃ拥有伤心的权力吗？他们应该有吗？ 如果你认为不应该，那我很有兴趣听听你的理由。

我呢， 坚决认为无论是谁， 人都是有情感的，都会有开心与伤心的时刻， 每一个人，无论他是站在顶尖的，或是跌入谷底的， 都应该拥有伤心失落的资格。

他拥有��福的感情，不代表他不会有伤心的经历， 就因为你觉得他已经足够幸福，他就不可以失望了吗？ 就因为他比你幸福，他就没资格哭诉吗？

他创业成功，有了稳定的经济基础，不代表他不需要面对挫折， 就因为你觉得他不愁生活了，他就不迷茫了吗？ 就因为他有了小小成就，他就毫无烦恼了吗？

答案都是否定的。

每一个人的成就都是他们付出努力换回来的， 这不是你剥去他伤心失落权力的理由。 你的遭遇或状况不比他好， 不代表你有权利要求他放开他的烦恼来同情你。

当一位朋友向你哭诉或抱怨的时候， 他需要的是一位聆听者， 而不是否定他情绪，甚至倒回来要求他帮你忙的人。

很多人都因为太多被否定的经历， 慢慢的就把自己封闭起来，显得冷漠无情。

这也是成功人士觉得孤独的一个理由吧， 因为愿意做他们的聆听者的朋友消失了， 剩下要求他们帮助的“朋友”。

作为一个聆听者， 你不需要给予帮助，不需要表明意见， 只需要静听和理解。

能遇到交心的知己是幸福的缘分， 他不求回报的听你述说，让你发泄，助你理清思路， 真的要好好珍惜，给予相同的福利是你报答他最好的方法。

“他” 只是一个代名词，不代表男女。

以上对话纯属虚构，如有雷同实属巧合。

动漫图片取之于网络。

[honeystar-xo]

why do people put others down to feel better about themselves?

being insecure - try to make all sort of excuses but never self reflect and accept their own shortcomings. true confidence is not walking around with your nose in the air and think you are better than everyone else around you, it is not having to compare yourself with anyone in the first place.

my opinion - it is actually a really pathetic and immature thing to do. putting others down also mean you do not even know how to be respectful of others, pushing away kind people who could have helped you, and gain absolutely nothing in the end. will you feel better by doing so? no, you are just lying to yourself and going nowhere while losing good people around you. no one is obligated to stick around when you are being an ass.

do better - instead of putting others down, lift them up, look at people with a positive light and praise them for their good, make someone happy, help someone with kindness. i believe good deeds are always rewarded, even though it might not be immediate or in a way you realized. it’s a two way street, treat others how you wish to be treated. i believe that if you are truly nice person and do good, people will notice without you mentioning or showing off. appreciation and acknowledgement from other people mean so much more than boosting yourself and get fake compliments.

to get the recognition and love you want, work for it, acknowledge your shortcomings, get advice, and change for the better. get pass that meaningless ego, it is normal for human to make mistake, whether you notice and change for the better determines the kind of person you are.

topic inspired by recent observations on social platforms and discussion with a friend.

[honeystar-xo]

随便写写的空间

就如标题，

心血来潮时会写两句..

关于什么呢？

可以是任何话题，本人亲身经历，或是网上看到的，或是突然想到的，

就是纯粹说说自己的心声和想法，或者吐槽一下..

会用华语或英语呢？

看心情吧，也许一起用也不一定..

如果有什么有趣或值得研究的话题，可以给予建议供参考..

嗯，暂时到这儿吧。