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How to get rid of scars.

1.) Aloe/ Aloe Vera.

Aloe Vera has anti-inflammatory properties that help reduce skin irritations and help remove dead skin from wounds. Aloe vera may also lessen swelling, help repair damaged skin cells, and fortify new skin cells being produced.

This is the ‘Magic cure’ I used. Whether it’s straight from the plan for just the stuff you use for sunburns it works fine. Apply it all over your scars and let be for 15-20 minuets it until dry, repeat as many times a day as you want. You should see results in about a week.

2.) Lemon.

Lemons contain alpha hydroxy acids(AHA) which help to remove dead skin cells, help new cells grow, and bring back some elasticity to the skin. As a natural bleach, it can help lighten scars.

Apply one teaspoon of lemon juice to a cotton ball and make sure the surrounding area of the scar/scars are clean. Rub scarred area and let it sit for ten minutes and then ride it off.

(Lemon juice may make your skin sensitive to light, so wear sunscreen wherever you applied it when going outside.)

3.) Raw Honey.

Raw Honey can be used to fade scars and is also a natural moisturizer that can stimulate tissue regeneration.

First, Mix 2 tbsp. of raw honey with 2 tbsp. of baking soda. Then massage for 3 minutes into scarred area and place a hot washcloth over the area. When the washcloth has cooled, use it to wipe the area clean

(Try mixing 2 tbsp. of raw honey with 1 tbsp. of baking soda to make an exfoliating wash to help fade acne scars.)

4.) Onion extra.

This is an anti-inflammatory and can inhibit the production of collagen in a scar, making it less noticeable.

It is typically found in a gel that you rub onto the scar. However, this process is long and may take up to several months before you start to see any results which is why I don’t really recommend it.

5.) Indian gooseberry.

Also known as "amla," this is most effective if applied to a newly-healed area immediately as it will go right to work inhibiting the formation of scar tissue.

Massage the paste into your skin on the scarred area and let try before rising off. Amla is often found in a powder or paste, if you can only find the powder mix it with water or olive oil until it becomes a paste.

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Signs

I have said it once and I will say it a thousand more times.

SELF-HARM IS NOT JUST CUTTING!!!

Self-Harm is any action that you take to hurt yourself on purpose. 

While Cutting is the most frequently used form of self-harm. Such as, Burning, Starving yourself, giving yourself freezer burn, pinching, and scratching. 

So, when I say look for scars I do not just mean the ones left behind by Razor blades. I meant Burn marks,(A sign of physical abuse), Sudden loss of weight, ice burns, small bruises, (Also a sign of physical abuse), Patches of skin that look like they’ve been rubbed with sandpaper, Wrists what look raw, (They probably wear a rubber band). 

Any mark that should not be a constant on someone’s body might be a sigh of self harm or physical abuse.

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Are they cutting for attention?

Before I begin I would like to start off with a to anyone who is tempted to start, anyone currently struggling, and anyone who is trying not to relapse. Self-harm not only shouldn't be one of your options, but it isn't one. As someone in recovery, (Two, almost three years), I know Self-harm is often romanticize in media and website just like this one. No, before any of you that are tempted, it doesn't help. Yes, you are lying to yourself if you are self-harming, if you tell yourself that. You are only isolating yourself more and making it harder. You have to remember that, those that are in recovery. You already realized what it was doing to you and so you stopped, but you have to remember it's a curse not a saving grace.

Now, you found out a person is harming themselves and you're wondering if it's real or for attention.

In my experience, if a person is harming themselves for real reasons they do not tell anyone but a few highly trusted souls, if anyone. Personally, even though I've been clear for a couple years now only five people in my IRL life know. One was an accident, three were trusted friends that I told after I had already been clean a year or more, and one was my best friend- still to this day- That helped me get and stay clean.

Now, this doesn't mean they won't write or blog about it. If the page is Anonymous or they feel like no one from their day-to-day life will find it they might speak about it a lot.

Talking to them in person about it might be a completely different reaction, if they didn't tell you about their problem directly. They could completely go silent when the topic is brought but, become stiff and awkward- like they have a secret they don't want you to know. (Because they do.) They might try to change the subject, or they might defend the people who do it. They might even start to say how wrong they think it is to deflect suspicion off of them. How the person reacts to self-harm conversations varies from person to person and isn't a reliable sign.

NOT JUST WRISTS I cannot stress this enough! If a person really wants to cut but doesn't want anyone to see they will cut anywhere. Most common is thighs, but people will also cut on their hips, shoulders/upper arms, feet, and even on or around genitalia. However, just because someone has scars on their wrists doesn't mean they're looking for attention. However, they will probably cut other places too.

If you hear of someone self-harming who show these signs please contact an helpful adult immediately. If they have not said to you directly that they need to and are going to stop they won't. The person might hate you at first but it will save their lives in the long run.

*This information if from my story and from self-harm cases I've detected in my life. This Information may not apply to everyone.*

They're not secretive about it? They are probably doing it for attention.

Now, what does that mean? It mean they most likely don't suffer from a mental illness that commonly leads one to hurt themselves,(Depression, anxiety, OCD, schizophrenia...ect.), if they suffer from one at all.

What are the signs? They talk about it openly, now if they are old scars and they are trying to help someone to stop, stay clean, or not start they are probably in recovery themselves. However, if they don't seem to be doing anything but saying things to get sad or shocked responses out of people, (the "Oh you're so strong"/ "You can always talk to me" type of response.) they are doing it for attention.

People like this will also probably cut in the most checked and most obvious place- Wrists. Again, just because someone is cutting on the wrist doesn't make them attention-Seekers. The place the cut us also not one of the most reliable signs.

When I was in middle, my 7th grade year, there was a girl- One year younger than me who would often pull down her sleeves and would trace the scars on her arms with an expo marker and tell people when and why she got them. It was like she was showing them off as trophies- Which only made me, something actually struggling with self-harm, Even more inclined to hurt myself because she made me feel foolish and angry.

Now, I've stated the signs of real self-harm and harm for attention, let me say this. Whether you believe a person is cutting for attention or for real I strongly urge you tell a trusted adult. A person may just be doing it for attention, but they are still hurting themselves- They might it need medication or therapy but they do need an authority figure or someone they respect to tell them what they're doing us foolish and dangerous. Also, while in my journey and talk with others these signs are, for the majority, a good tell-tale- Every person is different and someone you think may be doing it did attention actually needs help.

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Blog design-

It might seem like a really colorful blog for such a serious and dark subject. But I chose the colors Purple and teal because those are the colors of the suicide prevention ribbon.