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H HEWWO Y'ALL HAPPY WEDNESDAY I HOPE YOU GUYS ARE DOING OK!! TODAY YOU GET A PICTURE OF ARTEMIS SITTING POLITELY I HAVE A PICTURE OF HER FROM WHEN SHE WAS A BABY AND SHE WAS ALSO SITTING POLITELY THEN BUT SHE LOOKED A BIT MENACING?? SOMEHOW?? I DON'T KNOW HOW TO EXPLAIN IT BUT I ASSURE YOU SHE WAS THAT

IF YOU WANNA SEE THAT KIND OF PICTURE LET ME KNOW

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You'll probably get a lot more followers because of the Guam cookies cuz I'm following because of the Guam cookies

Nice!

I can’t wait to disappoint everyone with bad memes and anime content

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OKAY CAN SOMEBODY EXPLAIN TO ME HOW THE FUCK YOU SHIP A PACKAGE OF COOKIES TO A FRIEND WHO LIVES IN NEW JERSEY, ONLY TO HAVE IT NOT GET THERE ON TIME BECAUSE IT SOMEHOW ENDED UP IN GUAM?

I JUST

GUAM?

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The thrilling conclusion to the Saga of the Guam Cookies

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Ok, I know I often have issues just getting up and starting a task that will only take me 5 minutes in the end. But WHY is that? What happens in my brain?

This topic is very intricate and hard to explain in simple terms - I gave it my best shot, so please excuse the masses of text! Split into 2 images for easier reading

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Know what I’m salty about?

In all my art classes, I was never taught HOW to use the various tools of art.

Like yes, form, and shape and space and color theory and figure drawing is important, but so is KNOWING what different tools do.

I’m 29 and I JUST learned this past month that India Ink is fucking waterproof when it dries. Why is this important? Because I can line something in India Ink and then go over it with watercolors. And that has CHANGED the ENTIRE way I art and the ease I can create with.

tldr: Art Teachers: teach your students what different tools do. PLEASE.

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Arin Hanson

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Also I feel like calling her a walking stereotype is a bit misinformed. Yes it was a common archetype for “angsty teen” at the time, but that was because goth and emo was popular fashion in 2006. And people don’t usually join countercultures because they’re pleased with the state of the world.

Also if this is 2006 and she’s a teenager she’s a Millennial, not Gen X.

Deadpool and the suicide prevention PSA

Hopefully everyone has gotten a chance to get a copy of Deadpool (2015-) #20 by now. 

Obviously, trigger warnings for suicide

So, Deadpool #20 is a standalone issue that specifically targets the issue of suicide and we’re going to jump right to the ending to start off with: the writer’s, Gerry Duggan, message

I don’t actually think it’s outlandish to try to do a helpful story about suicide prevention with Deadpool as the protagonist. Like Duggan said, it wouldn’t be the easiest story to write, but it makes sense in an odd way. Deadpool is probably the most suicidal character ever if only because he is immortal and yet is constantly trying to kill himself and lets people murder him when it’s easier than fighting.

It’s also coincidentally the right time for this type of story with this type of character.

If this story came out in the 90s when Deadpool first debuted I don’t think it would be well received. The bro fans would complain about it being an afterschool special and people in general with think it’s in bad taste for character like Deadpool to be in a PSA like this, that’s Superman’s job (which we’ll get to in a second)

That was a Generation X audience; very disenfranchised, cynical and very angry about it.

This is a millennial audience, very disenfranchised, cynical and resigned to it all.

It’s an unarguable fact that the Baby Boomers are the worst generation ever and so when Generation X came along and got the shit end of their decadence and eventual complacency about civil rights they were understandably angry. Even grunge was pretty angry; you would sing with melancholy “I’m a loser baby, so why don’t you kill me” but this was underlined by rebellion. It was the clapback to the failed “give peace a chance”

Fuck you and your bigoted warmongering capitalism. I’m out, I’m done so why don’t you kill me?

Generation X is the exhausted end of this anger and is clearly exhibited by meme culture. Fuck you, everything’s a joke, how the hell are we can it dig ourselves out of this pit? Might as well kill myself  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Anger and aggression has become the joke. Celebrities are reading “mean comments” on Jimmy Kimmel that say things like “fight me, you piece of shit” and don’t understand that that means “I’m a really big fan of yours and am probably sexually attracted to you”

So why is a character created out of this angry high adrenaline culture the best one to speak to an exasperated culture that mocks angry high adrenaline?

Because he isn’t condescending.

You want to kill yourself? So does everybody else but there’s a lot of stuff on Netflix we still need to get to so let’s try to make the best of it.

Deadpool isn’t a happy person telling sad people to cheer up.

Arguably the most popular/cited superhero comic about suicide prevention was made for Generation X audience in 2006’s All-Star Superman #10

It was effective for a lot of people and pleasantly regarded by the general public but some people didn’t like it.

I’m obviously arguing that if this were to come out now the majority of people wouldn’t like it.

This girl is a complete stereotype. She could easily be the poster girl for the “rebellious” trope.

You can totally tell she’s depressed because look how dark her clothes are.

And then Superman comes along knowing fuck all about her giving her a shallow complement based on absolutely nothing and then hugs her.

He tells her it’s not that bad.

It is bad.

Things are really bad.

I think Deadpool #20 is better even if it only conveys camaraderie in the badness.

The cover alone conveys that

Deadpool sees a girl, conventionally attractive but within ordinary aesthetic, about to jump to her death

He jokes about it in a very deadpan and abysmal millennial way. Much like Superman, Deadpool knows nothing about this girl but he doesn’t condescend to her

He’s not the right guy for the job

He doesn’t know her or have any stake in her well-being

He doesn’t belittle her decision but implores her to give it a little time

What does Deadpool know best? Showtunes and beating people up so he does what he knows best and the distraction gives her the ability to feel and just do something, anything

Then what? He still doesn’t know what the right thing to do or say is. There is no right thing to do or say. He gives for the resources to talk to people that have at least been trying to figure out the best way to help in this situation longer than he has

He doesn’t force her to use these resources and he offers to go with her as an equal

As a few people pointed out, going into inpatient care is not fun, nor is any other option. The problems are numerous and frightening but we have to make do until we can build better systems, but that’s not really the point of the comic. It’s how to handle these things in the current system and when you have no idea what to do. Whether it was because the Deadpool team got consultants on the issue of whether they lucked into it I believe they nailed it.

It’s not an comic that will prevent someone from committing suicide, in my opinion, but it’s an comic that will help people know how to better react to their loved ones who are suicidal.

We’ve discussed suicide extensively on this blog from many angles and the consensus has always been that what helps is when people don’t condescend to you, don’t just tell you to feel better, don’t invalidate your right to do what you want with your body. What helps is being there, as an equal, to consider the decision further.

You may want to kill yourself and you have the right to do that but remember that you don’t have to do it right now. You will still have the option tomorrow or the day after. It is a huge and final decision and you need to consider it as clearheaded as possible. Do something fun or mundane and just distracting to get you through the next few minutes or hours and then explore all your options.

A suicide hotline might not work for you, nor will a hospital but they are options that are not permanent. You can try them. If suicide is really the right decision for you it will still be an option after you explore these avenues.

Remember, you can always make the decision tomorrow. Give today a chance.

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Sounds like this post isn’t for you then! Sometimes posts are for a specific group of people, and do not apply to literally everyone! Hope this helps

I think cis people should also be their gender of choice. Like, if you're a man, you should get to really enjoy being a man- have fun with it! If you're a woman, take the parts of womanhood that really deeply make you happy. If being a little androgynous or ambiguous or hidden is the part that really makes you happy, you don't have to be trans for that. If you wanna lean really hard into being femme or masc- do it! You have one life in your body, do what makes you happy. Ditch the stuff you don't like.

My sinister queer agenda is I think that everyone should be the gender they like in the way they like it.

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advice i think we should tell children is that when adults say stuff like ‘now that i’m an adult i get really excited about stuff like coffee tables and bathrooms and rugs etc’ they don’t mean ‘and now i don’t care about blorbo and squimbus from my childhood tv shows anymore’ bc your average adult still loves all the same pop culture stuff they always did; they just have a greater appreciation for the mundane as well. growing up just means you can enjoy life twice as much now. you can get really excited about a new stuffed animal AND about a new kitchen sponge. peace and love

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Source: Eden: It's an Endless World! エデン

by Hiroki Endo

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Having an abusive father really takes the fear of customers out of you.

it’s sooo funny when rude customers encounter employees who can deny them service for the first time.

i was working at a little cafe where I could deny service over bad behavior, harassment etc. & mask mandates had just ended a week before & already people were being weird about me still wearing mine—an N95, the kind shaped kinda like a duckbill.

so this man walked in, looked at me sooo scathingly, laughed at me, and said “damn. never known a woman to choose…practicality over looks.”

And I just said, “oh. you can go, you’re not getting a drink.” And he said, “what???”

I said, “sir, you just walked in at 6 am & called women impractical and me ugly in one sentence.”

And he was so astonished he didn’t even argue he just turned around and left 💀🙏🏻 it was like he suddenly became self aware

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things that happened to me when i was a woman in STEM:

an advisor humiliated me in front of an entire lab group because of a call I made in his place when he wouldn't reply to my e-mails for months

he later delegated part of my master's thesis work to a 19-year old male undergrad without my approval

a male scientist at a NASA conference looked me up and down and asked when i was graduating and if i was open to a job at his company. right before inquiring what my ethnicity was because i "looked exotic"

a random male member of the public began talking over me and my female advisor, an oceanographer with a pHD and decades of experience, saying he knew more about oceanography than us

things that have happened to me since becoming a man in STEM:

being asked consistently for advice on projects despite being completely new to a position

male colleagues approaching me to drop candid information regarding our partners / higher ups that I was not privy to before

lenience toward my work in a way I haven't experienced before. incredible understanding when I need to take time off to care for my family.

conference rooms go silent when I start talking. no side chatter. I get a baseline level of attention and focus from people that's very unfamiliar and genuinely difficult for me to wrap my head around.

like. yes some PI's will still be assholes regardless of the gender of their subordinates but, I've lived this transition. misogyny in STEM is killing women's careers, and trans men can and do experience male privilege.

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Why do games so often model a d3 with "1d6, divide by 2 and round up" rather than the neater-feeling "1d6 mod 3"? [Not particularly about CAIN, but it's an example]

The modulo operator isn't particularly intuitive for folks without a math background. In practice, nobody's really doing the math at the table every time they roll a d3 – both the divide-and-round-up formula the mod-3 formula serve simply as mnemonics to help remember which faces to read as which values, and 1/2 = 1, 3/4 = 2, 5/6 = 3 is just plain easier for a lot of folks to remember than 1/4 = 1, 2/5 = 2, 3/6 = 3.