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Once we went to the doctor’s for my sister’s hyperflexibility and chronic pain. The scales glitched out and it seemed like my sister—who’s five nothing and 120 pounds with her two winter sweaters on—had lost twenty five pounds. In six months. Which, if it had really happened, could have sent her to the hospital.

Instead of asking her about her pain or recommending joint braces, the first thing the doctor did when he came in was congratulate her on her weight loss.

That, plus his insistence on putting me on acne medicine that tasted so horrible my throat closed up so I 1) couldn’t swallow, 2) had to drink the powder in water, 3) had meltdowns and almost threw up from it. And he kept me on it for a year.

We changed doctors.

Trying to prove a point to someone who doesn’t understand why going to a new doctor would be anxiety inducing because “they’ve literally made a whole career out of wanting to help people, how could they do any wrong.” And “Why would you be scared of someone that spent years and years, went hundreds of thousands in debt, just to be able to help people?”

Fucking hell could you please like or reblog if you’ve ever been gaslit or fake-claimed or in any way mistreated or not taken seriously by any healthcare professional. Any details in the tags is appreciated too. I just need more people to understand that getting clinical help is often infinitely harder than it sounds.

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i love it when italians argue about italian. like we don’t even know how our language really works we just roll with it

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Mine do that tooooo it’s normal now but it’ll probably be weird in a bit

HELLO THE LIKES AND REBLOGS AND STUFF ARE NORMAL AGAIN OMG

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I’ve been experiencing like three times the migraine flare ups since school started, I feel this so bad 😭

i hate when i, a completely healthy person (very chronically ill), get sick (flare up) for no reason at all (i exerted myself way past my limit just cuz i didn’t wanna be “annoying”) (this post is about PHYSICAL DISABILITIES and CHRONIC ILLNESS, please don't derail)

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I made something!!! Guys I think he's a phantom ✨

Sadly I don't have any means or plans to sell them :') maybe in the future. I can share more photos with you tho! Here are some under the cut:

↑The metallic surface pin

↑The reflective surface pin

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old outdoor greek theater theme? Rundown outside stage with bowed wood and vines on the sound system theme? Amphitheater hidden by the trees theme?

we might need to bring the nature theme back guys I miss it

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Could you do “this user is aroaceagender” or “this user belongs to the triple-A gang” with the aroaceagender flag (the aroace flag with the green stripe down the middle)? It’s okay if not…

sorry it took so long, i’ve been busy and burnt out.

always free to use, credit not needed but appreciated

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also if gnomes were all sitting around a small tree stump using it as a table and someone used the word "misnomer" one of them would speak up and go "HEEHEE. MISS GNOMER IS WHAT I CALL THE MISSUS" they'd all laugh so hard they fall off the mushrooms they are sitting on and spill the berry juice everywhere

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I have acquired a snack

Nutella, salty crackers, and fig newton thing but with blueberry filling instead

Eyyyyyyyy we love to see it!

I think I get those exact same crackers lol they’re soooo fire

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I wanted to give a shout out since you questioned your labels

Shout out to the aroaces who didn’t want to date, then happened to have found the right person. We NEVER wanted to get into a relationship, then we did with our partner. Just felt like saying that.

Aroaces who don’t date, aroaces who change, your valid!

Thank you anon, this is so sweet!

Being aspec is, by definition, a spectrum. Favorability towards romance, sex, and related activities is also a spectrum. EVERYONE on these spectrums belongs, because they’re all part of the aspec community.

I care about you guys. Like anon said, you’re valid.

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can I be so serious and ask that you interact with this post if you are a member of the trans community and you love trans women and trans men and intersex people and trans people outside the binary and I mean GENUINELY love and resent infighting. sounds like interaction bait but I’m just so distressed lately and I need to know that all the infighting I’m seeing is the minority and the majority of people are actually here to love and live and see trans people thrive

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Hmmmm okay. Some tips from someone with (maybe) arfid:

to get The Hungry going, I usually drink a bit of milk or smoothie, or maybe like. Plain rice if I’m up for it. This then reminds my body that it is in fact hungry

to get around the All Food Is Bad And Eating Is A Wretched Necessity, I do a backwards meal prep (because we also need to get around the adhd haha) where I make sure I have a selection of instant meals. Microwave rice and lentil beans. Ramen with separate flavoring so I can remove it. Spanakopita. At this point, any food is good food. Being able to get past the mental barrier of Eating is paramount, even if it’s three marshmallows or a spoon of peanut butter.

the scent of food, even foods I crave, can turn me off of eating, especially when I feel full. Sometimes I will prepare food with a mask on in the house, or eat with my nose plugged.

if there’s a food you normally eat but it somehow looks Wrong and Awful and Physically Incapable Of Being Eaten, it’s probably prepared a bit wrong and it’s pinging your body’s “something is wrong with this food” signal. Sometimes that means you have to heat it up to get it to the right texture. Sometimes that means putting it in the oven on high for two minutes because it should be crispy not limp. Sometimes that means putting it on a fancy plate to trick your brain.

If it’s a bad environment, please remember you are not obligated to eat at normal times. You can sneak a granola bar before the day and after. You can eat breakfast at five and lunch at two and graze until bed. My school serves free breakfast and I grab it and sit in a back corner with my friend to eat. I don’t eat during my actual lunch period, but I do eat safe foods when I’m at home.

Sometimes you just need somebody to cook you an egg because you’re exhausted and caught up in food issues. Or you make a smoothie to get vitamins so there’s little texture. Or you eat plain ground beef one hour and a plum the next and raw bread two hours later. You can ask for help.

Let me know if you have more specific questions—I’ve been kicking around with autism + arfid for seventeen years and I’ve never eaten a sandwich and I’m fine with that. You do not have to eat what everyone else eats.

I really need to eat more food :/ but I’m literally just not hungry

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A helpful guide for all my fellow antlerheads

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A helpful guide for all my fellow antlerheads

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A helpful guide for all my fellow antlerheads

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A helpful guide for all my fellow antlerheads