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Dear, sweet, Littlefoot, do you remember the way to the Great Valley?  I guess so. But why do I have to know if you’re going to be with me? I’ll be with you. Even if you can’t see me. What do you mean I can’t see you? I can always see you.

The Land Before Time(1988) dir. Don Bluth

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We never really talked about it but The Ugly Ducking that grew up to be a beautiful swan was still probably pretty fugly from a duck’s perspective

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btw the katy perry/bezos' girlfriend/other four irrelevant billionaires 10 minute space stunt was not the first all female expedition no matter how much they try to market it as such. the first all female mission was in 1963 with soviet cosmonauts Valentina Tereshkova, Irina Solovyova and Valentina Ponomaryova - all three of which were working class and had to pass incredibly hard exams to be chosen from 400 potential candidates. just in case we started falling for the propaganda machine again

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The United States Disappeared Tracker is “tracking persons politically arrested, detained, or disappeared by the Trump regime since March 9, 2025”.

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Katharine Hepburn in a publicity photo for The Madwoman of Chaillot (1969)

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Gluten free dairy free chocolate cupcakes with a hazelnut praline center. Mmmmmmm!

Thank you loopy whisk.

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Gluten free dairy free chocolate cupcakes with a hazelnut praline center. Mmmmmmm!

Thank you loopy whisk.

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@inneskeeper this seems relevant to your interests

BUT WAIT! THERE’S MORE! SHE DOIBLES DOWN!

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be sure to leave out milk and cookies for brutus tonight

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i got this book of sappho's poetry only to find out it has translations that paint sappho as straight. like this absolute classic that every dyke knows by heart

istg i hate cishet academics so much.

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Under a cut for venting about my mother (again)

Apparently I lack empathy.

So I've been sick since last Thursday, took Friday off (which she knew) and by Monday had no voice. So when she called on Monday, I didn't answer, although she had emailed on Sunday saying she wasn't feeling well, to which I replied that I was sorry to hear that. Monday I emailed her that I hadn't answered the phone because I had no voice. Tuesday she sent me an email saying that she needed me to call her, because she wanted to talk to me, even if I couldn't speak. So I call her, literally croaking because I have no voice and she starts telling me about how she has had vertigo all weekend and had to use the walker and fell in the nighttime. And that she is so upset that I didn't answer the phone and it was so frightening and she needed to talk to someone. In my head, I'm like, there are about five different ways you could have handled this off the top of my head that I can think of, any of which would be better than what you're doing. But all I said was that I didn't think it was a realistic expectation for me to answer the phone when I can't speak. So she said "We'll talk about this later." I said (whispered), "I'm sorry that you were frightened." And she says, "Because that sounds so sincere." At which point I lost it and shouted "Fuck you" and threw the phone across the room.

So today I called her to apologize for swearing because while I know she won't change, I didn't like how angry I was in response and I did want to apologize for that. So I did and she says she doesn't remember me swearing (what? how? I screamed it. Unless she hung up on me before I lost it - a total possibility). And then she tells me how hurt she is by my lack of empathy. I said that she couldn't read my tone because I was too hoarse and she said, no, it's not that, it's my "total lack of empathy" that is so like my father that she can only believe that it's hereditary. She never had one word of kindness from him in 14 years and it was like if he said something kind that would diminish his humanity. So after she finished trauma dumping about her marriage that ended 33 YEARS AGO I said that my throat hurt too much to keep talking and that I was going to go but that I was glad we had re-connected. To which she said, after a long pause, ok.

I'm just so sick of being the bigger person and getting shit on and told stuff about my character that I know is untrue but that I then spend hours obsessing about. I really wish I could cut contact but last year showed me I'm not there yet. Like, I am literally hurting myself physically in order to talk to you in response to your demands and you're telling me I have no empathy? Fuck that.

Also like her trauma is so ridiculously patently obvious and instead of working through it, she just decided at age 30 that therapy meant demanding everyone else accommodate her endless trauma-based demands. Like, no, I cannot love you enough to make up for your parents' neglect. Yes, you did prefer who I was "in those first five years" because I was entirely dependent on you and that's what you think love is. Yes, your ex-husband did leave you in part because no one can meet your insatiable need to be loved and centered. Yes, I do sometimes act like your ex-husband, partly because (spoiler alert) you chose him to be half my gene pool BUT ALSO because we both refused to be engulfed by your never-ending demands for attention and affection. Yes, you have lost basically all your friends because of these same unmet emotional needs. Yes, you are all alone and no one loves you. Congrats, you made the story come true. Way to go.

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My mother is NUTS! Just completely and utterly bazooka bonkers. That is all.

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ngl for lot of my life i thought parents sitting their kids down and telling them how babies are made was just a thing they made up for comedies on tv so now im curious how common it actually is.