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(2/2)"Next day I decided to propose her in a filmy style with flowers, chocolates,I even got a wedding card printed and when I went down on my knee to propose she said I will think and let you know🙈 Finally,we both decided that we will get married but it was not so easy as it seems. She belongs to a Punjabi family and I am a true Rajput so both our families were against this marriage. We both told our respective families and made them meet too but they were simply not ready. It took us 3-4 months to get the approval of our families who were still not happy with the decision but still agreed for our happiness. We decided to get married with all our savings and not burden our families with the expenses. Finally on 14th Jan 2015,we got married. I could never understand how my infatuation for this girl brought me to a point where she was the only one I could think of. She has been super lucky for me as the next year of our marriage,we booked a new house for ourselves and bought a new car too. Now we are living happily in our new house and by the way now she is my family's favourite.. They respect and love her more than me which makes me very happy and proud that she is my wife❤️" #love #loveislife #relationshipgoals #happiness #together #soulmates https://www.instagram.com/p/CCdoJEdJyiX/?igshid=1pefkx3c9ns7j

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(2/2)"Next day I decided to propose her in a filmy style with flowers, chocolates,I even got a wedding card printed and when I went down on my knee to propose she said I will think and let you know🙈 Finally,we both decided that we will get married but it was not so easy as it seems. She belongs to a Punjabi family and I am a true Rajput so both our families were against this marriage. We both told our respective families and made them meet too but they were simply not ready. It took us 3-4 months to get the approval of our families who were still not happy with the decision but still agreed for our happiness. We decided to get married with all our savings and not burden our families with the expenses. Finally on 14th Jan 2015,we got married. I could never understand how my infatuation for this girl brought me to a point where she was the only one I could think of. She has been super lucky for me as the next year of our marriage,we booked a new house for ourselves and bought a new car too. Now we are living happily in our new house and by the way now she is my family's favourite.. They respect and love her more than me which makes me very happy and proud that she is my wife❤️" #love #loveislife #relationshipgoals #happiness #together #soulmates https://www.instagram.com/p/CCdn_QcJWrV/?igshid=ui6woak4a0ju

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(1/2)"In 2012,I was a new joinee in her office in the HR department and she was in the engineering. Our first ever meeting was when she saw me getting yelled at by her boss. Though I was in a casual relationship at that time with another girl but when I saw her for the first time I had decided that I have to get to know her. She was a very simple cute looking girl which really attracted me about her. Being a guy, I started getting all the information about her and tried to speak to her but could never say anything beyond HI for the next 3 years. Finally,I gathered some courage and whatsapped her but even after reading my msg she did not respond and this continued for a long time. After a week she replied back to which I asked her that why was she ignoring me and she responded that she was aware of my relationship and my reputation in the office and does not really want to indulge in any conversation with me. I was taken aback but I respected her decision and did not bother her again. Few days later, I broke up with my girlfriend on mutual grounds and was single again. Somehow I again felt like talking to her so I messaged her and asked if we can meet and again she did not respond. Finally, she asked me to meet her so I got really excited and went to pick her up which took me 3hrs due to traffic and when I reached and asked her where do you want to go,she said I want to go to zoo.. I was shocked at her choice of location but her thought process was that she wanted to be in a crowded public place as she could not trust me so I took her to the zoo. We started chatting and immediately after 15min she told me that she wants to go home.. I was quite irritated but then I understood that she might have her own inhibitions so I requested to drop her back. She repeated the same on our next date also which thankfully was not in the zoo. Eventually,we started meeting more often and realised that we really liked each other. One day after our date,when I reached home,she called me and asked if I will marry her? I was not expecting this question so soon but she left me with no choice so I said yes I will. #loveislife #love #relationshipgoals #lovestory #truelove https://www.instagram.com/p/CCdnlwhJaMt/?igshid=1uglskssaqtmq

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"I belong to Bijnor UP, but came to Delhi few years back to support my family monetarily. With all my savings,I financed my car and started working for Uber/Ola..I am a very quite person so never interact with my customers but I have come across all kind of people and have heard their sad or happy stories which they share with their friends or families on phone.. Though at times, I feel like consoling them if they are in trouble but I know that we as drivers need to maintain our distance. But this profession really helped me to grow personally and professionally both. In March 2020,I decided to go to my village for some ancestral work and the day I reached my village,the lockdown was announced. There was no sign of coronavirus in my village and everyone was healthy and safe but due to this lockdown I had no work and had to stay there. Now after 3 months,I decided to go come to Delhi and start driving again to earn as I have to pay for the installments of my car but I take all the possible precautions. I sanitize my car after every ride and keep wearing mask and gloves and request the customers also not to remove their masks as their irresponsibility can be harmful for my next passenger. I request all cab drivers not to be lazy and keep sanitizing your car as lives of our passengers is more important than anything else." @uber #cabdriver #positivevibes #simplelife #happy #cabs #drivers #safety #importance https://www.instagram.com/p/CCOsFrIJ2G9/?igshid=hwwn22e5ls43

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(2/2)"From booking uber for me once in a while as he is not here to drive me around or being on video call throughout as I rearrange the entire furniture of my room,we have had our own moments. Who would have thought that during our struggles,we will be hit by this pandemic and we will have to stay at home which led us to watching our favourite shows together online and cooking together via FaceTime. Hopefully,we will have so many stories to share with our kids one day. Lastly, my love and sympathies for all the couples in long distance relationship..It is difficult but we have to stay strong and believe in our love the way we are doing it and will continue to do so till eternity." #love #loveislife #positivity #relationshipgoals #friendship #longdistancerelationship #happiness #happy #romantic #life #lifestory #lifestruggle https://www.instagram.com/p/CB-aMoWHLdZ/?igshid=1b47rb95ljq3p

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(1/2)"When I decided to pen down our story,I was at loss of words in the beginning as it has been the most beautiful chapter of my life and happened when it was least expected. We met through a dating app in 2016 and on the first date itself,he made quite an impression.Shortly,we decided to delete our apps and give a shot to this relationship. We both were trying to know each other better but the vibes and chemistry around us was very romantic which brought us closer. We both were very happy together and it all felt like a dream come true. In 2018,when everyone around us was planning to announce our wedding,we were planning my further studies abroad..yes WE.. This was the beginning of our sweet bitter journey of our long distance relationship. He supported me throughout just like my family. At first we used to ignore the conversations about it but as the time was approaching for me to leave and live nearly 12000 km away from him,we realised that we have to make peace with the situation. We used to fight for hours to hide our frustrations as we were scared but eventually we addressed it by crying and hugging each other. I still remember hugging him for the last time before I was leaving,we had tears in our eyes but we were at loss of words. I made lot of new friends and he was happy for me that I have finally managed to settle despite the fact that we were not being able to talk to each other properly due to 10hrs time difference. Eventually,we started fighting and realised that it was not as easy as we thought and our lives will be very different from the other couples we see around but still we never gave up on US. We decided that to sustain this relationship we need to be friends first and understand each other's situation. Though we still had our romantic vibes around us but this friendship brought us even closer.. At times,I really used to miss him so I would cry and he would console me by reminding how much I wanted to do what I am doing and that he is always there to support me. Nearly four birthdays and 1 anniversary later,we are still going strong. #love #loveislife #romance #relationshipgoals #longdistancerelationship #friendship #friends #happiness https://www.instagram.com/p/CB-ZiX3nx-w/?igshid=junfnxp30uif

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(Part-2)"Nowadays everybody wants a govt job for the perks it provides but unfortunately nobody wants to send their kids in govt schools. I always wanted to change this mindset but I knew that it will not be possible for me alone to do so. I started teaching students with new techniques & methods, used smart teaching. How motivating it becomes when students go to Principal office & demand you as their teacher? Education is a very dynamic field & I believe that we teachers need to be equipped with various tools, techniques & methods of teaching. Exactly after 1 year, I was awarded as one of the Best Teacher by our State Education Minister then. A good job, handsome salary, good reputation what else somebody need? But this wasn’t enough for me. I believe life is a process of learning and I have imbibed a lot from APS & the best thing is Discipline & Time management. I always wanted to do something different and do not waste my time in gossip and household work.I love to travel & explore new places. I went to Leh in 2018 & after coming back I started with my YouTube channel. I started sharing my travel vlogs on it initially. It was quite challenging for me managing my home, job & then this new thing on YouTube. I was always busy in making content, editing it. People around me used to think that I am earning really well from YT but there are certain things we do for our passion & not for money & most above all, I wanted to keep myself busy always. I qualified All India Exams and living a good and happy life and have done everything possible to make my parents proud. My dad must be looking upon me and bestowing his blessings. The motto of my life is that we should be happy with what we have and do not cry or crib over things which we have lost or have never achieved. So keep going in life and follow your dreams the way I did." #education #girlempowerment #teachings #teacher #respect #betibachaobetipadhao #girlpower #schools #discipline #timemanagement https://www.instagram.com/p/CB2cKchn0hl/?igshid=8cvz6th8t4di

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(Part-1)"I was born in Jammu in a political family. I lost my father to a heart attack when I was very young so I do not even have a single memory of him in my mind.Even all my relatives on the paternal side left us after my father's demise. My Mother was a Lecturer in Botany in Govt. Education Sector and she raised me and my brother. I was a very active, curious and communicative kid who was fond of music & art and I really wanted to a teacher when I grow up. So when I finished my schooling,besides my graduation, I had also enrolled myself in courses like-diplomas in Computers, DMLT,garment making,painting as I was always so curious in life and wanted to learn so much. After my college I also did B.Ed and as I was very fond of Science & Computers, I got selected for PG in Microbiology a subbranch of Biotechnology from Jammu University. After completing my PG I got selected in Govt. Job in 2008 but I quit. I always wanted to teach the govt school students but with some experience in my hand, not as a fresher. I worked hard & qualified All India Test for Teachers (both PRT & TGT) conducted by AWES (Army Welfare Education Society) and got selected in Army School as a Teacher on contract basis. I was fond of Army Lifestyle & their approach in teaching. Their work culture is totally different, full of discipline, ethics & devotion. I also taught in a paramedical college as a Lecturer (visiting faculty) after the school hrs. Being there in APS, I did my M.ED. through distance mode from Jammu university. I again filled the form for Govt. Education deptt, qualified the written test & interview and got selected as a govt. teacher. Meanwhile I qualified CTET (Central Teacher Eligibility Test), an All India Test for Teachers and got a confirmation in APS. Now, it was a dilemma for me, what to choose? A job full of learning, discipline, technology or a job where I have to start from the beginning. After serving in APS for some good 8 yrs, I gave my resignation which they refused to accept but I came back & joined the govt. sector in 2016. I was incredibly happy because now, I can teach those students with my experience which I received from APS. https://www.instagram.com/p/CB2bi3rHxJ6/?igshid=8nznau75lkn3

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"I belong to Tamenglong Manipur and have been staying in Delhi since 2005. Recently during this pandemic,a random boy looked at me in the market and started shouting corona corona and I am sure you must have guessed why!! We do not deserve this. We are also a part of India as much as you are and it's time for everyone to accept that and show some respect". #manipur #northeast #respect #deserve #lifestory #speakup #ignorenomore #speakup #humanrights #humanity #socialissues #storyoflife #alllivesmatter https://www.instagram.com/p/CBvfwU9nV-t/?igshid=1up1ww9vg0etx

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"I was 11 years old when I realised that I was different from other boys but was unable to understand my feelings. I lost my father at a very young age and my mother could not cope up with his loss and became alcoholic. I started working with photo studios to click passport size photos for a living where I experienced for the first time how a camera works and honestly I used to enjoy it. In my personal life I was still confused about my identity and before I could share it with my mother we were thrown out of our house due to the nuisance created by my alcoholic mother and we started living on footpaths,under the bridges where I met a transgender and we started getting along. She finally discovered about me and introduced me to her community. I felt I belong here and decided to be a part of their community and finally revealed to my mom about my identity. She was shocked at first but later on explained that how important it is for me to maintain my dignity and respect in this cruel world. I started begging in trains but continued with my passion for photography. I have faced sexual and mental harassment lot of times but that did not break me at all and I stood like a pillar for myself and my community. I have participated in lot of LGBTQ rallies because we have still not achieved what we deserve. We do not want to beg in the train or streets but we only demand equal job opportunities and respect. With my savings which I earned by begging in trains, I managed to buy a second hand DSLR and working as a first transgender freelance photo journalist and I am proud to be a part of my community and will prove it very soon that if given a chance we can change the world too!!! #lgbtq🌈 #lgbt @lgbt @lgbtq @viralbhayani #journalist #photography #transgender #proud #lifestruggle #positivity #humanrights #equalrights #lgbtq #newschannel #jobs #freelancer #spreadlove (at Mumbai, Maharashtra) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBnhNOMnfqd/?igshid=1igvs8cm9h357

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(Part-4)"Now, I actively volunteer at a village school called Nareshwadi that houses over 350 students from the Warli tribe, and even houses orphan children who live in the school premises itself. It is a sustainable school that not only focuses on academics but teaches vocational and all round development to these disadvantaged students. I used to play basket and football with them, and it always always surprised me to see them kick my ass , even when they played barefoot. Which was most of the time because they could not afford to wear shoes every day. So keeping this in mind, I reached out to Puma, and told them that rather than sending me free products, I'd appreciate if they sponsored the school team with basic sports gear. Puma went above and beyond! I had informed school that they'd get a parcel, but the next thing I know, I got a call saying that an entire truckload of gear had arrived! Puma had supplied shoes for all the school children, in varied sizes and styles. For which I am ever grateful to them! At the end of the day, I believe it is important to know who you are, believe in yourself and use your voice to empower others. No action is too small - just be confident in who you are, for there is only one you in this world!" @pumaindia @feminaindia #alllivesmatter #saynotoracism #appreciate #spreadpositivity #love #kindness #inspiration #thankyou https://www.instagram.com/p/CBh10S7nWSu/?igshid=1cozqmucp2y27

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(Part-3)"I stood my ground and eventually managed to convince the client to stuck to my original skin colour. After all, they had selected me for the way that I looked. The irony is, when the campaign was released , they had Photoshopped my skin colour anyway - to be much lighter. 3) the most frustrating incident out of all the others was when I was called by one of the biggest production houses in the country - to give an introduction the tested for their upcoming films. They have a reputation of launching people based solely on talent. I reached the studio and was waiting eagerly for the opportunity to blow them away! ( I had prepared a few fun anecdotes to show different facets of my personality) and while I was waiting , one of the assistants, whom I knew well, crossed by me and completely ignored me. I figured he didn't see me so I greeted him. He initially greeted me cursorily , but then stopped, backtracked and looked at me in shock. I said hi, and he said, and I quote " oh Mariette. I didn't recognize you, what did you do? Can you get rid of this? While waving at my face. So I made a joke of it and asked " do you want me to get rid of my face?" , Slightly indignant and amused at the same time at the blatant display of racism. When he agreed, I walked out and vowed to my self that I will always use my voice to speak up and speak out against injustice , both in my professional and personal life. As I have grown professionally and become more influential, I continue to use my voice to speak up about issues. In that light, I would like to share one of my biggest achievements, on a personal level. When Puma India called me last year to be an influencer, my first reaction was surprise to know that I was perceived as an influencer in the first place. I didn't initially believe them until I started getting products on a regular basis. After the initial excitement wore off , my mind immediately set to how I can use this to help those in need." @pumaindia #modellife #racism #skincolor #positivity #awareness #inspiration #achievements https://www.instagram.com/p/CBh1TGyHIcJ/?igshid=ugbda39uwvx2

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(Part-2)"I was scouted while walking the streets of South Bombay by designer James Ferreira, and initially took up modelling on the side . In the same year I left the MNC when Maxim India declared me as one of the top 7 models in the country! When I changed careers from working in an MNC to modelling full time, that's when I realised that my entire career depended on the way that I looked - something that I had not previously bothered about. That is when I was made conscious of the colour of my skin. I experienced colourism for the first time as an adult, and I'd like to share these with you. Three such experiences come to mind, that stood out for me and had an impact in my being so outspoken about colourism in India. 1) When I started, one of my first auditions was for an established hair brand. My agency sent me and I am blessed with wonderful, thick hair from my Mallu genes. When I entered, the casting director simply looked at me and told me that I didn't fit the part. I was confused, because he hadn't even checked my hair, and it was a hair commercial. As I was clarifying the reason as to why I wasnt allowed to audition, I saw other girls with lighter skin and eyes, and ( objectively) hair worse than mine being allowed to go in an audition. I was initially surprised, and after I chatted with my agency, I then understood that I wasn't allowed to audition because of the colour of my skin. But I believe that good always happens, and sure enough, about six months later, I booked a nationally campaign for Garnier Hair colour - which cemented the fact that I will not let others perception of my skin hold me back! 2) Another incident that revealed how deeply entrenched colourism is in out society, is when I was hired by an Indian wear brand for their shoot. The makeup artist walked in, looked at me, smiled in a reassuring manner and said " don't worry, I'll fix this". When I asked him what exactly he wanted to fix, he referred to my dark skin, and by fixing he meant he will make me lighter. I further engaged him in conversation, to get him to explain why and he said it is what sold and what clients wanted." @garnierindia #positivity #racism #model https://www.instagram.com/p/CBh0vbWHW3h/?igshid=10pol6e2353ps

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(Part-1)" I was brought up in Chanakyapuri, New Delhi in a highly educated and professional family who imbibed the idea in me, that it is my achievements and not my appearance that should speak for me.My parents as well as neighbours were broad minded thanks to their backgrounds and professional lives of working in esteemed positions in the government and armed forces and they always believed that men and women should be treated equally, and given the same freedoms. I was always taught to be a good and righteous human being and I will take these values to my grave. As a kid, I loved playing outdoors sports and represented my school in basketball, volleyball and even played football and baseball at the American Embassy. There were very few girls who did the same at the time. I was surrounded by so- called concerned aunties who used to tell me to stay indoors to protect myself from the sun but I thought it was out of concern that my skin may burn, but eventually realised that I am being subject to the mindset of racism/colourism inherent in our country and society. But honestly, I give a lot of credit to my parents for raising me in a way where I would not get affected by comments like these! I am a happy go lucky person, and I intend to preserve that about myself. Then I shifted to Mumbai and joined At. Xavier's college, where I , again, excelled in extra curricular activities and sports. I was always out in the sun but was never judged for the way I looked. Living independently in Bombay taught me the value of being humble as before I had started working,I had to live on my savings for the first few months. I had to save so much that I had only enough money to take bus to and fro from college. I would not eat food in college that day and go hungry.I would work really hard to take part in all the college festivals and miss dinner as I would reach hostel after dinner time so I have slept hungry many days which made me stick to my values even more even after achieving so much in life. I graduated in English literature, and competed my PG in Corporate Communications ,and joined an MNC! Little did I know that life had different plans for me." https://www.instagram.com/p/CBh0GkAHnhQ/?igshid=1s6npf3i8qyx5

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(2/2)"At 4am in the morning,I felt as if there has been some blast in my house but when I saw him sitting in front of me laughing saying that he has managed to succumb my ego by throwing acid on me and giving me a scar for life,that is when I realised what had just happened. He ran out and locked me inside the house and also locked my family so that they could not catch him. I was crying and yelling out of sheer pain. He later surrendered to police saying that I tried to attack him with acid and by mistake I spilled it on myself only.Somehow I managed to get help and was hospitalized. I was in coma for 10 days and was hospitalized for four months When I saw my face for the first time,I just wanted to die but I stayed strong for my daughters who used to get scared by even looking at me. One day I just cried and cried and finally decided that I will not feel bad for myself anymore because now I have to live with this face and have to love it myself for others to accept me. I was ill treated due to my appearance..my relatives started ignoring me,I was not invited for weddings, I was not even able to find a house because the landlord's were too scared to even look at me but all this didn't bother me and I kept going. It's been 2 and a half years to my accident and I have been struggling to get a good life. I have done a make up course and want to be a professional make up artist and I am sure I will succeed one day. Life is not easy but if you fight with your struggles,you will emerge as a winner and I am very positive that I will manage to give a beautiful life to my daughters and a respectable life to myself. Please do not sympathize with acid attack survivors like me,treat us equal. We do not want to be used as objects for any kind of publicity but need to be given equal rights of opportunities because what has happened with us was not our fault!! If anyone reading this really want to help her to overcome this lockdown, please feel free to show her that humanity still exists and donate via bank transfer on the details mentioned below. Beneficiary Name-ZAKIRABI SHAIKH IFSC code-ORBC0100405 Account Number-04052191013587 Bank-Oriental Bank of Commerce" (at Mumbai, Maharashtra) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBa4eE1nDxR/?igshid=esqhoeadjxhl

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TRIGGER WARNING (1/2)''In 2008,at the age of 17,I was married to a boy in Allahabad. On the first day of my marriage,my husband and his family demanded for cash in dowry,my father had already done everything as per his capacity but their greed was not satisfied. Being a smart independent yet traditional Mumbai girl,I told them that they will not get anything more and I will file a case against them if they demand dowry to which they got scared and did not demand again but their harassment had started.They used to torture me mentally. Everytime I used to call my father and request him to get me out of this hell. Finally my father understood my situation and asked me to come back to Mumbai and start a new life. My husband decided to come with me and somehow I managed to explain him that we should start afresh in Mumbai thinking that maybe his mindset will change if he stays away from his greedy family. I told him we both will work and start a living and he agreed to do so. After sometime he realised I was doing well in life so he decided to quit his job and lead a relaxed life which became another reason of our fights. I knew I was living in hell but I somehow kept ignoring it for the sake of my 2 daughters. After I lost my father in 2014,situation got worse. I had to face domestic violence everyday and everytime after fighting with me,he used to vanish for few months leaving all the responsibilities on me..I was really fed up and I decided to take divorce so both the families sat together to discuss the matter and somehow due to the family pressure,I had to give him another chance but he continued to do the same. Infact now he even started threatening me that he will kill me or attack me with acid to which I complaint to my mother and instead of protecting me she told me that he is just threatening you and will not do anything and you have to handle your family life yourself. When I returned back from my mother's house,he asked me to cook food for him and I refused,he went to the hotel and got food for both of us and made me eat with him and apologised for his behaviour. I had not even dreamt about what was about to happen to me." #acidattacksurvivor #acidattack (at Mumbai, Maharashtra) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBa3sDonaTm/?igshid=1jy5phcc08b7y

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(2/2)"Now it was time for Farewell in College and to bully me more,my college mates decided to make me go shirtless on Farewell and somehow I got to know the plan and this was 'the moment for me'.I started reading about diets and finally decided to follow keto diet for 6-7 months with vigorous 6 hours workout in a day and trust me I only had to open 3 buttons of my shirt on the farewell to shut everyone up..I was so proud of myself but we always take our lives for granted..I again reduced my workout and gave up on my diet and spoilt my body.. Once I was gymming when I joked with a guy who had a very fit body that if he could lend his body to me for a day as I have to go for an event but instead he made fun of me by saying if I give you my body what will I do with your pathetic body and it really pinched me.. I started my vigorous training again with all my heart and soul when my gym owner approached me and asked me if I was keen to participate in Men's Physique IBBF for Delhi and I agreed..There were 90 participants and I came 2nd in the competition..I cannot explain in words the kind of respect I received from the people who used to bully me.. Then I started preparing for IBBF India and used to train for 8 hours a day. There were 108 boys who had participated but I still managed to reach till top 5 which for me was a big achievement. A mere boy who used to weigh 40-45kgs and was always bullied for being so thin had achieved such heights in body building and finally I decided to fulfill my dream of lifting the heaviest dumble of my first ever gym so I went and did 10 reps of single hand with the dumble..I know it sounds weird but it is my biggest achievement!!" (at Mumbai, Maharashtra) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBUxCLoH1ZA/?igshid=9h5cb158x7gi