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Me alone talking to myself: no cuz I don’t think you bitches really get it

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Shoutout to systems who just now noticed the OSDD and Dissociative Identity Disorder tags are working again

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We are happy to present the newest DID/OSDD System pride flag!

We chose a tree with different colored leaves to represent systems because we love the "one strong tree with many individual leaves" metaphor vs the "Broken plate/vase" one.

OSDDID Systems are NOT broken, and we must have pride despite our condition and challenges that come with it. We deserve to be happy.

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Hey, my parents keep saying I'm not allowed to research my mental disorders or OSDD, is this normal? They say that it's giving me "ideas"

Oh my. Anon, that doesn't sound very good.

I don't know your situation at all, so take what I say with a grain of salt. There are a few reasons why Parents might try to deter a minor from researching. I'm going to try to present the ones I know in oder from most to least innocent.

Concern About Influence - Teens can be impressionable. There's a chance that your Parents are worried that without worldly experience, you might be influenced by communities that might manipulate you into feeling like you have symptoms you don't.

Lack of Understanding - Some parents are on the older side, or on the side of gen x that missed the psych wave. There is every chance they don't fundamentally understand what you're trying to look into in the first place. That can be scary for parents. They might misunderstand it for the way media represents us- or that it's something you can learn. In that case they may be concerned for similar things to the point above.

Lack of Accountability - We're going to get into the more sinister categories of why we have seen parents steer younger people away from research. For some it's about the source of your trauma. Of you research a trauma disorder and you find out you have mental health problems, at your age that has to be tied to something, right? Some parents are worried or know they haven't done a good job as parents and that can lead to them trying to keep their children from being exposed in the first place.

Keeping Up Appearances - Some parents might be so worried about their own image and the image of the family that they might be concerned that if you are found to have a disorder, the news will get around. In the case of out S/O, their parents didn't want it to reflect badly on them, so they did their best to keep them away from resources. They worried if people knew, they would trace the behaviour back to them.

Medical Neglect and Victimization - The last one is the most extreme and a huge stretch given how little I know about your situation. Sometimes, parents will steer children in away from research and resources to make certain they do not have the tools to heal or resist. Repeatedly victimizing someone demands they believe that they believe they are in a position of helplessness. If you don't know what's out there to help and you don't know what's wrong in the first place you have no tools to combat their actions.

Again I'd like to restate that I am outside of this situation so even the reasons I game here could be inaccurate. These are just what we have seen happen. What I would say is do your best to keep looking in to credible resources. Keep researching and make sure you are taking a long time to reflect on symptoms and your experiences. Never jump to any conclusions and be careful what you bring to your parents if you suspect they are abusive. As much as it can hurt, you may not be able to find support in them.

Best of luck, Anon.

Note: Followers are welcomed to add any reasons they know!!

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op of my previously rbed post is a pedo defender and necro defender now ig. pretty easily pinned. refuses to listen to facts. i reccomend blocking them

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A trend that needs to stop -

I've seen this happen to multiple people at this point, including myself. Bigots now enjoy screaming "p*doph*le" at anyone they want to oppress. Mentally ill people; people with OSDDID and their "proof" is that we have child alters (which is NOT sexual). Trans people, especially trans women because they equate AMAB people with being predators. Now I'm seeing it happen to other minorities such as non-white people by racists who want to slander them. This. Needs. To. Stop.

Accusations like that are not something to be taken lightly, they aren't a joke, and being falsely accused of being a p*doph*le for those who have a history of CSA trauma is especially unforgivable. This is not an insult toss around and lol at because you know you can use it to get under someone's skin.

It's not only cruel and disgusting for the people you falsely accuse, but it dilutes the actual meaning of words like this for other trauma survivors. Fuck people who do this.

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Pseudomemories

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What Are Pseudomemories?

Pseudomemories are memories that an alter holds that the body hasn’t experienced. They may be positive or negative memories, and are most commonly seen in introjects, though any alter can have them.

Are They Real?

Both yes and no. These memories are very real to the alter who holds them. It’s important to keep that in mind. They can cause that alter serious and very real pain and trauma symptoms (if negative), or very real comfort (if positive). They are a part of that alter and help make them who they are. Their memories are extremely real to them, and you shouldn’t discredit their experiences.

Their memories are also created by the body’s brain, and therefore are going to be connected in some way to the body and its experiences. They might not be directly what the body has experienced, but like all things alter-y, they do serve to hold some form or trauma or to provide some system comfort or help the system or that alter in some way

However, the body hasn’t necessarily experienced these things. An alter should be aware that their memories, while very real to them, do not apply to the body, and when talking about them, should be able to make that distinction.

What If They Can’t Make That Distinction?

Some alters may not be able to make that distinction, but it’s not your place to get on them for that. You might try to explain it once, but if the alter doesn’t grasp it, leave it alone. That’s a job and thing that should be approached gently and cautiously over time with a professional who knows them and their system.

What Do I Do If I Have Pseudomemories?

If you have pseudomemories, then you should try your best to remember that they are very real to you, and your memories, experiences, and self are valid. If possible, try to find that distinction between your memories and body memories. If you can’t, then that’s alright, too.

If you have negative, trauma-infused pseudomemories, (also called pseudotrauma or exotrauma) then you’re probably going to have some trauma symptoms like PTSD, triggers, flashbacks, etc. try your best to learn healthy coping mechanisms, grounding steps, good people to contact if you need help, and other ways that help you manage those symptoms. I know that personally, I like to talk to a system caretaker or emotional supporter, or write out what I’m remembering or experiencing in a personal, private journal.

If you have positive pseudomemories, then feel free to use them when you’re feeling down as a way to cheer you up, or use them to find comfort and happiness in.

Either way, I would recommend trying to find a therapist or other mental health professional. If that’s currently not a possibility for you, then do your best to have coping mechanisms, and treat them as your own memories and trauma, because that’s essentially what they are. If you’re having a difficult time with them, then try talking to someone or writing them down somewhere. No matter what, know that they don’t make you a faker or invalid in any way.

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we call our body simply trans! as for sexuality we usually just say bi since thats what the majority of our system is

our host identifies as a trans malewife/femboy, however most alters are either genderfluid or nonbinary. just saying trans is easiest! less to explain

QOTD!

If you identify as something other than cis/straight…

Is there something you call The Body, versus how you identify? For example, we say we’re a Genderfluid Bisexual, even though I’m actually a trans-man grey ace alter, because I know Curtis is a pansexual cis man, and Deb is a cis female lesbian, etc etc. Not knowing what to call ourselves has been an issue, and we sometimes feel bad saying we’re a Genderfluid bisexual when we aren’t, really.

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Having an unbaked thought about how our younger parts ("the kiddos") hate being infantalized or "treated like children" with a passion. They grumble about other peoples' posts encouraging them to enjoy candy and plushies--even though some of them do like those things--because they don't want to be "treated like children." They just want the care and safety that should be given to children that they felt they missed out on, with the freedom to enjoy whatever they want now that we're an adult. And, if that happens to be a big plushie dragon and some gummy bears, so be it. But it feels so reductive and infantalizing to assume that's all they want.

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Please take this survey, reblog it for your followers, and share it with your friends! I’d like to get a better understanding of the current state of the Tumblr DID/OSDD-1 community. This includes basic demographics, preferred terminology, engagement with other DID/OSDD communities, experiences with dissociation, and system composition. The survey is open to anyone age 13 or older who thinks that they have DID/OSDD-1 regardless of diagnosis or lack thereof. 

This survey is completely anonymous. All results will be summarized here once I have enough responses; I’m aiming for at least 100 but would ideally like to get closer to 500, given the number of blogs active in the tags. Free responses will be analyzed and summarized, but nothing potentially identifying will be quoted.

Please answer as completely and accurately as possible to help us to understand the current community. Even if you end up skipping some of the questions, every response helps!

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You ever surprised that you're fronting?

Like someone says something and when you reply your voice is deeper than normal and you're just like "Oh shit I said that out loud???"

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the serial killer alter stereotype is evil but can i say that having parts with violent fantasies or thoughts or feelings (or having those as a result of trauma even if you don't have did/osdd-1) isn't smth to be ashamed of? or am i a bad survivor for saying that?

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People are constantly diluting the meaning of important words.

Trauma is not having a negative experience. It's by definition an event that would be considered outside of normal experiences. It is something that is deeply distressing, and overwhelms your ability to cope in the moment due to threat or fear of life-altering injury, pain, abandonment, or death etc.

A trigger is not something that you find annoying, or even something that offends you. It's something that causes an intense trauma response. Triggers can cause not only panic attacks but physical symptoms.

Trauma dumping is not venting to your friend. It's launching into a monologue about your trauma without warning or consent from others, not caring whether it triggers them or is inappropriate in that setting. This is important because other people are NOT required to do emotional labor for you nor act as your therapist any time you feel like.

I am extremely tired of seeing these words be watered down and misused.

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Maybe he’s ordering a decaf because he has a heart condition, and you’re about to give him a heart attack and send him to the hospital.

Or maybe he’s just ordering a decaf.

Maybe she’s ordering sugar free because she’s diabetic, and you’re about to put her six feet under.

Or maybe she’s just ordering sugar free,

Maybe they’re ordering non-dairy because they’re intolerant, and you’re about to ruin their day. Maybe they’re allergic, and you’re about to sponsor an all black event in an open field.

Or maybe they’re just ordering non-dairy.

Maybe they ordered gluten free because they can’t process it, and you’re about to destroy their digestive tract.

Or maybe they’re just ordering gluten free.

Maybe they’re ordering this way just because they don’t want the food, for whatever reason.

But are you willing to bet their life on it?

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If an autistic person overexplains something to you they probably don't think you're dumb they just think THEY would appreciate those details if they were the ones being explained to

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