#Child Development and Education

[bumblebeeappletree]

Soooo I went and watched some video compilations of teachers saying kids can’t read or spell. And it feels obvious that these are the iPad babies who’re finally getting older. You know, the iPad babies who didn’t develop their fine motor skills to actually hold a pencil. Because all they know is tapping on an iPad.

Parents you need to realize you are your children’s first educator. You read picture books to them. You sing ABC’s with them. You do not give them a screen to watch that will shorten their attention span no matter how much you think it will help you.

Because it will not help your kids in the long run. It’s already harming them. Take them to the library. Get together with your neighbors for play dates. Your family members. Find people to babysit. Find events to take your kids to like an arts and crafts festival.

And give your kid a flip phone when they reach middle school if they absolutely need a phone. Talk shop about iPhones when they’re in high school. If the school provides your kids with an iPad or a Chromebook, set boundaries that the device is for school only.

It can be hard, especially when you’re a first time parent. There’s a reason why they say “it takes a village to raise a child.” Build connections to your community, and you’ll be able to raise your child to the best they could possibly be.

[arcanewebs]

personal take on fem tsukasa

[thebirthofvenusfly]

hi i was raised in a home daycare for over 20 years and studied child development and psychology in school for 3 and would like to gush about why i love how bonnie was written and how they're one of the few kids in games i've played that Actually Feel Like a Kid:

firstly: bonnie's diction

bonnie cursing like a sailor is honestly pretty accurate for a kid aged like 9-14 and i distinctly remember having a huge cursing phase of my own at that age too so LMAO

they ask a lot of questions adjacent to a kids' understanding/confusion of things, social norms, situations, feelings, etc. (the conversation about the actors kissing in that play they saw and how they MUST have had an invisible paper between their lips because nobody would REALLY kiss on stage in front of everybody!)

they can be incredibly blunt but often not with the intention to hurt feelings rather than genuinely acquire information (sometimes with some sass b/c of previous conditioning.) ex. "Our teacher always tells us we have to speak up more... You're an adult so why don't you speak up more?" (Precedent/Conditioning; "Adult in position of power and authority has ingrained it is important to use my voice." -> "Why don't you, an adult who should know better, use yours more then?")

they have a tendency to confidently and casually use words and phrases they don't fully understand or know ("Air-no-no-nomic" -> this especially being something picked up by a fellow kid and just trusted that) (struggling to say, "pomegranate" (very cute watching odile help them with it :,) ) (struggling to say onigiri -> purposely messing this up to get a playful reaction out of dile, a party member they're especially close to, was also very sweet)

it's hard to discuss feelings. they're more likely to use a vessel as a means of connecting to someone else before being able to assign words to everything (offering a peach to siffrin in the classroom because they recognize he's upset without fully understanding why, then waiting for him to address the situation)

secondly: how bonnie handles feelings towards the others and about their Scenario

tendency to hold onto hard, serious, difficult-to-breach subjects and then explode and scream when addressed (ex. Rotten Adults quest)

slightly more partial to physical touch than verbal affirmation (hugs, hugs, hugs! including the little half-hugs they do where they just run into siffrin's side...)

jabbing siffrin in the stomach as a show of example for touching them LMAO???

recounting stories and information that interests them without regard for how socially appropriate it is or why others may react poorly (ex. talking to the party about how nille ran away with them and why she did)

unspoken guilt and trauma causing disconnection from people they love (siffrin's eye situation)

just a few examples and thoughts i liked

[typhlonectes]

[dhddmods]

Intersex should be included in "basic biology."

It is literally so easy to include intersex people from the get-go in biology class. Same with transgender, transsex, and altersex.

And its super important because we can guarantee that at least one of the students in that class is intersex, or will know an intersex person, considering intersex people are as common as green eyes (and possibly even more common, due to being underdiagnosed/misdiagnosed.)

Like, first, you DO NOT separate the class into "male" and "female" segments. Teach everyone the same lessons, don't contribute to kids developing sexist stereotypes and anatomical confusion. Then, explain perisex anatomy. Use the words perisex, TWDP/wolffipathian, and TMDP/mulleripathian while explaining.

Then, you explain intersex people's existence. You say:

"Some people fall outside of the perisex classification. This is known as being intersex. The intersex spectrum includes: -People with a urethra that is in an atypical location, or merged with the vagina or anus. -People with a penis that has an atypical appearance. -People with genitalia or reproductive organs that are small, closed off, or have absent parts. -People with extra genitals or reproductive organs. -People with mixed genitals or reproductive organs. -People with higher levels of estrogen or androgens than expected. -People with lower levels of estrogen or androgens than expected, or a body that does not process estrogen or androgen. -People with the opposite chromosomes than expected. -People with chromosomes other than XX and XY (0X, 0X-XY, XX-XY, XYY, XYYY, XYYYY, XXYYY, XXXYY, XXYY, XXY, XXXY, XXXXY, XXXXX, XXXX, and XXX.) [Have a slideshow with illustrations of each of these examples.] If you want to learn more about intersex people, here is a pamphlet including all currently known intersex traits and variations. [Hand each student a pamphlet that explains in brief, easy to understand, but concise language all intersex variations, with illustrations to go along with it. Something similar to our intersex guide, but with your own spin on it.] Being intersex has its own unique sets of challenges, and may co-exist with certain disorders and characteristics, but it is not a disorder itself. A person is either born intersex or develops intersex traits during puberty. Taking hormones or undergoing surgery does not change your perisex or intersex state - you cannot become one or the other, it is just something you biologically are. If a person - perisex or intersex - wishes to change their sex traits, they may call themself transsex or altersex." [And then you can expand upon that, talking about transgender people as well, and how gender and sex are separate concepts.]

It's so easy to be inclusive and to stop promoting intersex erasure.

[starry-bi-sky]

*grips your shoulders* an eight year old is not gonna act like that. put the pen down. close the laptop. stop writing for a minute. volunteer at a daycare center for a week or smth. an eight year old is typically (unless they're purposely doing it, but at that point you'll be able to tell) not going to speak in one word sentences. that is a child with a possible developmental delay and should probably get an assessment done. that is a two year old with an MLU score of 2.0 who is struggling with their present possessive verbs. look up the average heights of an eight year old because i promise they're bigger than that.

if your six year old is still doing reduplicated babbling and it's not clearly an on purpose active play decision, then they should probably (re: REALLY) undergo evaluation because one of the first signs of a developmental delay is delayed speech. children begin speaking in two word utterances as young as 18 months old. three year olds on average can hold simple conversations with adults. four year olds absoLUTELy can.

i know it's super fun to write children as being dependent and clingy to their parent for your super fluffy found family child fic but that is not a six year old that is a worryingly large two year old with a mild speech delay. you don't have to be 1:1 accurate, god knows i'm not but please at least know that children on average are capable of holding simple conversations by the time they're 4, and are usually doing the baby talk stuff to be cute or as a play thing. which isn't a bad thing but if they're talking like that unironically and ALL the time, then there is likely a problem in their development.

[hamstersnamedmarinette]

It would've been funny if Adrien and Gabriel had 1 (one) topic they could have an engaged conversation about. Like 99% of the time it's toxic emotional distance and fawning but the second this one subject gets brought up they're both ranting and vehemently agreeing with each other

[daisylovesrumble]

With PBS being only .01% of the federal budget, it should be very obvious that the Trump administration and DOGE isn't wanting to defund it to save money. They want to defund it because it is an educational resource.

Children's educational television on PBS is a great resource for low-income families who often cannot afford cable or streaming. PBS provides children with free educational television.

Educating our children should not be something that is considered government waste.

[boobookittenartblog]

@slowsimpleseasonal

[lovelyisadora]

Also when sep restarts his apprenticeship is he like. Okay so you rlly did cut out a lot of stuff huh. Wtf were u going to if I finished the apprenticeship. And marcia's like idk I didn't think that far ahead. Or like. What happens andjdndjfn I need More

quick context because this has been in my inbox for at least two years but this is about the apprenticeship arrangement in rewrite au (at least I am like 95 percent sure it is).

if Septimus had actually finished the apprenticeship, he wouldn’t have been able to take over as extraordinary wizard because of how she modified it to be age appropriate and because he went into it with little to no experience with or knowledge of magyk (in rewrite au, the extraordinary apprenticeship is more of an elite position; if the purpose is to train potential extraordinary wizards, then only apprentices who are top of their magyk classes or programs are considered). Marcia was never going to have him take over so young, but without the proper training, he couldn’t have taken over ever. so since she didn’t have a plan and never thought that far ahead anyway, and because the arrangement was always about his day to day functioning, she really was just figuring it out as she went (with no help from Silas or Sarah, but only because Marcia is the extraordinary wizard; the apprenticeship hiding the fact that she is his legal guardian is hers to figure out as far as they are concerned).

the hardest part, since she did want him to take over eventually, would have been keeping the arrangement a secret and finding how to prepare him in a way that qualified him without him realizing what was really going on. she would have pushed him to higher education, would have found ways to introduce new books and extra lessons and spells in a way that didn’t clue him in that she was teaching him the way he should have always been taught. anything, so that when she was ready and he expressed interest in replacing her, it could happen. but because he doesn’t have the easiest apprenticeship even modified as it is, none of this happens. it all falls apart because it wasn’t sustainable, but also because he wasn’t ready and neither was she (which she did warn Silas and Sarah about).

she tells him this, after the first three months of his restarted apprenticeship, but only when he asks. because he knew, after they finally talked about it when it all fell apart that the actual apprenticeship was different, but he hadn’t realized just how much. he’s taking magyk classes because Marcia warned him she wasn’t going to bridge his gap in knowledge. he would be more than prepared for some of it, but nowhere near ready for a lot of it. if he was serious about recommitting to the extraordinary apprenticeship then the extraordinary apprenticeship was what he was getting, nothing less, and he needs do the work he missed on his own. Marcia is also Marcia, so she pushes him harder and expects more of him than other extraordinary wizards might have expected of their apprentices if they were in this situation. his first three months are very difficult as a result and he starts realizing that being the extraordinary wizard is a lot harder than it looks, that the work required to get to that position is harder than he thought, and he’s like, oh my god, Marcia, were you going to throw me into that without any of this?

telling him the second part of it, that she still wouldn’t have told him about the arrangement had he finished his original apprenticeship, is almost as hard as it would have been to cover it up. he really does not like hearing that Marcia still would have lied by omission and kept it from him. he thinks that he would have deserved to know, had he not found out by accident when it fell apart.

Marcia ends the conversation there though, to his frustration, because there’s no point in talking about what would have been. he knows now. he’s doing the apprenticeship now, the right way. they’ve already discussed the arrangement, at length. they don’t need to discuss it any further.

except they do, because they resolved it without resolving it. if Marcia kept this from him, if she would have continued to keep this from him, what else must she be keeping from him? he never fully trusts her again.

[babyspacebatclone]

Small rant from a daycare teacher:

It’s important and healthy to teach children they can be told no.

We’re talking something like a bell curve, you need to be in the middle, but please for the love of your child’s future please answer this:

Will your child be expected to stop at red lights?

Will your child have to make appointments in inconvenient days?

Do you want your child to be able to live with, at most, a manageable amount of debt?

If you want those things for your child in the future - safety when driving, handling making doctor’s appointments in the schedule available, and financial health - If you want your child to be able to handle that in the future…

They need to learn that it’s ok to be told “no.”

That they can’t get everything exactly when they want it.

That some things are reasonable, but maybe not right now.

That other people have needs too, and we sometimes have to put those needs first for the time being.

Please.

I’m just… Exhausted from the three year olds complaining “But I want it!” or “I don’t want to [take my break]!” for months.

Because that behavior is age appropriate.

It is age appropriate for a child to want to impose their desires on the greater world. They don’t know other people have real feelings, real needs.

They need to learn this.

But if the belief that “I want this!” is going to work for months, that means they A) are getting away with it from someone regularly and B) aren’t learning patience and self control.

And at the minimum, if you want your child to have the independence of a driver’s license, they’re going to have to learn patience and self control.

And I promise you, they can start learning even before the age of 1.

On the flip side, of course, they also need to learn they do have control over the world, but that’s a different rant right now……

(They won’t be good at self control at age 1, in fact the way you know they’re learning is they cry at the word “no.” But that’s the process, and the earlier they understand the world imposes limits on them while having their needs otherwise met, the earlier they can learn coping skills for working within those limits.)

[notrimbaud]

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[menlove]

the way my autism latched on the beatles age 12 and has just constantly had it as one of my like. 3.5 special interests. truly embarrassing things happening in this world to gods most autistic warriors.

[bluebirddiary]

Schooling

It's nearly summer break and I am making it my goal to teach these kids how to read this summer because their school never taught them how to read. First and second graders flat out not even reading Dr Seuss.

Nobody is allowed to say childcare has no value when I am literally doing the teacher's jobs for them because they have neither the time nor resources to do so.

I should note, half these kids ain't white. I'm not even paid for this.