#Interpersonal relations

[thesixtyin69]

This probably isn't appropriate to ask but you've been so forthcoming with information that I gotta.

Were you deployed with ummm....an "attachment" or did you acquire it later?

Between you and me, sweetheart, nothing is too inappropriate to ask. 😏

I’m not sure what you mean by attachment, but I’ll have you know, I came equipped everything I’d ever need and baby, I come prepared for so many scenarios.

[rorykurago]

"elf with an overactive thyroid" and "carcass full of memory banks who should be squatting in a mushroom" are my two new favourite insults

[allfearofanend]

Suppose there is a happy ending for them, one where Dakota curls up in his embrace and the haunting stops. Pauses. Some shit the supernatural would do. There is a dream where she is a ghost and he still kisses her.

-- take all the pieces off the ground, languidnimbus

[biblebloodhound]

We Are All In the Same Boat (Romans 3:9-20)

To be a human being is to be intimately familiar with sin and godlessness, guilt and shame, no matter the group nor the individual.

What shall we conclude then? Do we have any advantage? Not at all! For we have already made the charge that Jews and Gentiles alike are all under the power of sin. As it is written: “There is no one righteous, not even one;    there is no one who understands;    there is no one who seeks God.All have turned away,    they have together become worthless;there is no one who does good,    not even…

[whatgoesthroughmyhead]

Vengeful vibes ain’t worth it, man.

Doing your best to always remain as blameless as possible is worth it (note that I'm specifically talking about interpersonal relations here, not like, stealing from corporations).

If you try to spite someone or bite back at them for some bullshit, it never (or almost never) works out in your favour. It offers cheap satisfaction in the moment, and that’s it. In the long run it only gives other parties more fuel for fucking you over.

Just be kind. Give the benefit of the doubt, to the greatest extent you’re able.

If a person you’re dealing with is actually a sociopath or psychopath, try to avoid them at all costs because you’re not gonna “win” dealing with a person who doesn’t have a meaningful conscience.

For everyone else though, if you’re kind to them when they’re treating you like the dirt under their feet, it’s low-key gonna drive them nuts ‘cause they’ll know deep down inside that they’re the ones who are shitty and rotten and difficult to like. (The human conscience can be brutal that way.) Let that knowledge fester in their minds and slowly tear them down and apart.

:)

To live as a shit person is its own worst punishment.

[ikenagi]

The key to amazing communication! Unraveling the effects of different experiences and values on human relationships!

“Chat with God - Your common sense is someone else's nonsense -” by Mitsuro Sato

The insightful book titled "Chatting with God - Your common sense is someone else's common sense" was penned by Japanese psychologist Taizo Kato. The purpose of this book is to investigate and amplify knowledge of the disparities in values in interpersonal interactions and communication. Kato acknowledges that individuals possess varying beliefs and perspectives, and stresses the significance of enhancing empathy and comprehension with others via conversation.

This book explains why different people respond in various ways to the same information or scenario and how relationships are impacted by this. According to Kato, people's actions and decisions are heavily influenced by their unique experiences and values. She also stated that in order to have effective communication and create wholesome relationships, it is critical to recognize and value the opinions of others. It makes that clear.

In order to clear up misconceptions and disputes brought on by persons with disparate experiences and values, Kato also stresses the significance of dialogue and communication. He asserts that we can create stronger bonds with one another by understanding and respecting the opinions and feelings of others.

This book will offer helpful recommendations to readers who are interested in social and personal development. Readers will be able to get insights on living a richer life and strengthen their relationships with others and themselves through Kato's insightful and empathetic writing style.

[psychologistmimi]

If you heard that spoon drop it's 'cause I'm eating a bowl of fruit loops

I was recently, at midnight, watching a stand-up comedy special to try to help me sleep.  I specifically was watching John Mulvaney’s latest stand-up special. The one after his rehab stint.  It was funny. It was self-deprecating. It was timely. I think, in many ways, there are a ton of people who could relate to his journey to sobriety.  Even though his story contained a story about a $10,000…

[frodo-a-gogo]

Let us be brutally honest with ourselves and with eachother for a moment. If he weren't obese you motherfuckers would be capable of percieving evrart claires sexy sexy moral ambiguity and complex charms

[hwlpro]

[geoffwhaley]

Book 969: The Art of Communicating - Thích Nhất Hạnh

Book 969: The Art of Communicating by Thích Nhất Hạnh - #buddhism #communication #interpersonalcommunications #nonfiction #philosophy #psychology #relationships #religion #selfhelp #spirituality #technology #bookreview #books #bookblogger

I had to read this for a course I’m talking about the art of brave communication. We only had to read the first couple of chapters, but I found it to be an approachable and relatively easy read so kept going. Where Hanh excelled was in his simple writing. For the most part, there were no overwrought metaphors or awkward analogies. There was one at the end that I’ll get to, but I think it’s a…

[aroaceleovaldez]

i have suddenly become obsessed with a theme that HoO established but never proceeded to extrapolate on, which is:

You are Percy Jackson, and you have been swapped with a boy who was allegedly everyone's favorite person, but they have decided to replace him with you. They just met you. You stand next to his best friend and the people he's known his entire life. In his home. In his cloak. In his place. They stopped looking for him.

You are Jason Grace, and you have just found out you have a long lost sister who completely replaced you in her life with this girl you just met. Your lives and personalities are mirrors. She is you, living the life you were robbed of.

You are Annabeth Chase, and you have just become starkly aware that you have been inhabiting the void left behind by your best friend's long lost brother. You and Luke were just replacements for him. Now you have to look him in the eyes when he has nothing and know you took that life from him.

You are Piper McLean, and you have just found out your relationship is fake and built entirely on the memories of Annabeth Chase. You have been given a boyfriend when hers has been taken away. You have no idea how much of it is real or not but regardless you feel like if your relationship isn't exactly in their image that you have failed.

You are Leo Valdez, and you have just learned that you are the echo of your great-grandfather. You are not your own person. You just exist to be a mirror of him. A doppelganger. An actor and stunt double facing all the danger he never had to but wearing his face. To be there for his best friend decades later simply because he couldn't. You are playing a role. A seventh wheel and a pawn for a goddess who carefully sculpted your entire life for her own purposes.

You are Hazel Levesque, and the only reason you are alive is because your brother couldn't save your his sister. You are a consolation prize. An apology. Your existence here is misplaced in every way but you inhabit it anyways.

You are Frank Zhang, and you are a shapeshifter. Inhabiting your own body feels strange and clumsy when you could be literally anything at any time. You are anything and everything and live your life with the simple certainty of knowing exactly how you will die.

[xeemaee]

We aren’t even on hiatus yet and I miss him so much already

[bingobongobonko]

from its rot, begins your tower (to hell)

[biblebloodhound]

Avoid an Ambush (Acts 23:12-35)

It will not do for any of us to believe that we are immune from trouble in the form of an ambush – whether the ambush is a literal physical one, or mental, emotional, or spiritual.

The next morning some Jews formed a conspiracy and bound themselves with an oath not to eat or drink until they had killed Paul. More than forty men were involved in this plot. They went to the chief priests and the elders and said, “We have taken a solemn oath not to eat anything until we have killed Paul. Now then, you and the Sanhedrin petition the commander to bring him before you on the…

[books-apples-socks]

(...) Silver had terrible hard work getting up the knoll. What with the steepness of the incline, the thick tree stumps, and the soft sand, he and his crutch were as helpless as a ship in stays. But he stuck to it like a man in silence, and at last arrived before the captain, whom he saluted in the handsomest style. He was tricked out in his best; an immense blue coat, thick with brass buttons, hung as low as to his knees, and a fine laced hat was set on the back of his head. “Here you are, my man,” said the captain, raising his head. “You had better sit down.” “You ain’t a-going to let me inside, cap’n?” complained Long John. “It’s a main cold morning, to be sure, sir, to sit outside upon the sand.” “Why, Silver,” said the captain, “if you had pleased to be an honest man, you might have been sitting in your galley. It’s your own doing. You’re either my ship’s cook—and then you were treated handsome—or Cap’n Silver, a common mutineer and pirate, and then you can go hang!” “Well, well, cap’n,” returned the sea-cook, sitting down as he was bidden on the sand, “you’ll have to give me a hand up again, that’s all.” (...) Silver’s face was a picture; his eyes started in his head with wrath. He shook the fire out of his pipe. “Give me a hand up!” he cried. “Not I,” returned the captain. “Who’ll give me a hand up?” he roared. Not a man among us moved. Growling the foulest imprecations, he crawled along the sand till he got hold of the porch and could hoist himself again upon his crutch. Then he spat into the spring. “There!” he cried. “That’s what I think of ye. Before an hour’s out, I’ll stove in your old block house like a rum puncheon. Laugh, by thunder, laugh! Before an hour’s out, ye’ll laugh upon the other side. Them that die’ll be the lucky ones.” And with a dreadful oath he stumbled off, ploughed down the sand, was helped across the stockade, after four or five failures, by the man with the flag of truce, and disappeared in an instant afterwards among the trees.

[raayllum]

was thinking about why the fandom focuses on callum's devotion to rayla more so than the other way around - even if they're equally nuts in a lot of ways and i do think the focus is 60/40 - and i think a lot if is really comes down to callum just being 'easier' to love than rayla like, objectively, especially in arc 1.

he's sweet and goofy and emotionally open, he can be insecure and get stuck in his head but that's very internal, he makes mistakes but never anything too major, at most interpersonal relationship wise he can be a bit pushy or momentarily cruel, he's a prince and wanted peace with the elves from the start, he never really causes massive disasters and when he does there was a 50-50 chance it was going to work out anyway or if he is taking a massive risk, thus far it's really only involved risking himself.

he's cute and caring and has never really broken her heart (as she maintains hope even throughout his bouts of cold shoulder in s4). of course she loves him. of course she'd risk everything and anything for him. and even in arc 2 when he's being cold, he's still caring and still knows when to step in and support her

rayla is like... a much more 'difficult' character and person from the start. she lies repeatedly, especially to cover up her failures, she can swagger without actual substance, she's snarky and stand offish and can be snappish. she breaks at the worst of times and often leads to other people being put at risk. she abandons him and breaks his heart. she showed up threatening to kill him. she blew up their lives together and repeats the same mistakes over and over again.

on a surface level and on an interpersonal level, she's far more of an overt piece of work, whereas callum's nastiness comes out more sparingly and is more hidden under the surface; it's not always so apparent. but rayla's typically is, she is a moonshadow elf who fundamentally cannot hide her flaws even when she's trying to so hard

and callum loves her anyway.

he's endeared by the snark, he persists past the standoffish, she pushes him away and he keeps coming back to try and help her, he gets angry but he ultimately (and always rather quickly) forgives her, he's had multiple people telling him that she's bad and cannot/should not be trusted and just flat out doesn't listen to them, because he believes so fundamentally in her goodness, even or especially when she doesn't believe in it because of all the reasons above. he knows she can be difficult and he either doesn't care or loves her not in spite of those things but because of those things. and that's what's so appealing about that aspect of their dynamic.

callum is a wonderful walk in the park when it comes to catching feelings with only a few hiccups, and so often rayla is a ditch with spikes, and callum just goes "challenge accepted" every time (and succeeds) because he knows/believes that she's worth it (and he's right)