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Angry aro/ace rant incoming

Okay I see WAY too many aro/ace posts and memes centering on the idea that we’re valid and I just wanna say: I know that. I fucking know that. I know there’s nothing wrong with me. I’m very adamant about the fact that nothing is wrong with me. I get it

I understand that lots of people need to hear that and see that and stuff but it’s over half the content I see from aro/ace accounts. It’s just “remember you’re valid” I can’t forget, it’s the only thing you actually talk about aside from when people tell you you’re too young or you don’t know what you’re talking about or whatever. Argh

You know what I would like to see more than just “you’re valid” over and over again? People actually fucking talking about what it’s like to be aro/ace. Like how terrifying it is to be on a date even if the person is the nicest most harmless person ever and they’ve never done anything wrong in their life but the bad part of it is the fact that you two are on a date and people might see you and assume you’re on a date.

How crazy it is when it hits you occasionally that “oh wait, the majority of people on earth over a certain age walk around wanting to get banged and thinking about how they can accomplish that and some of them might view you as someone they could do it with” and how not only frightening it is to be viewed as a potential sex object (IM A PERSON NOT A DOLL DO NOT INSERT ME INTO YOUR FANTASIES I DO NOT WANT TO BE THOUGHT OF IN THAT MANNER) but also how crazy it is to think that to them, you’re the weird one for not feeling that way when to you, they’re all very very strange for being like that because to you, it’s a foreign concept (or even if you understand or feel it on some level, it’s not exactly in the same way).

How it feels to read scientific texts and see people say the basic survival instincts include, fighting, feeding, fleeing, and fucking and some part of your brain registers that, according to this piece of text that was seen as accurate enough to get published, you’re missing an important survival drive that most people have. This leads you to either wondering if the scientists are getting something wrong or if there’s something wrong with you on some level because you’re perfectly healthy and happy without a (strong) sex drive but according to a lot of professionals worldwide, you shouldn’t be. Either sex drive has been categorized as more important on the hierarchy of needs than it should be or there’s something wrong with your hypothalamus.

How terrifying the thought of your friends leaving you for romantic partners is? How afraid you are of losing everyone to their s/o? How you know that to some people, you’re just not important enough to live with or to be seen more than once a month because the person or people they’re with is viewed as inherently more important and their bond is more meaningful? It’s so easy to think that people who leave their friends for their partners are lame and not worth it but the reality is that a LOT of people prioritize their partners over their friends and some of those people mean too much to you to let go of simply because you can only be second at best.

Can we actually talk about what being aro/ace is like more often instead of only reminding people that they’re valid? Maybe I’m just being hit with those posts and nothing else but I would really like to see some people actually discussing this stuff in depth.

(If anyone knows of any accounts that frequently talk about it please send them my way, I need aro/ace discussions so badly)