#Sending shitty anons to blogs who don't like him is wrong

[reigningmax]

What do you think about the Daniel thing?

That he's an idiot, rich, privileged man in an idiot, rich, privileged man sport where they are all the same. All of them. Each one has had his share of fucked up comments.

That being said, a lot of what was posted and said has become an attack on his fans, which feels extremely unfair. Just because people aren't publicly discussing something or aren't publicly going on a crusade against him, doesn't mean that those discussions aren't being had. I know for a fact that all the "big Daniel blogs" on here have chatted about it and think he's an idiot for it. And it is so so unfair to take a moral superiority take on this towards his fans.

But there have been things said that make it sound more or less like anyone who is his fan can't think for themselves, or that they're stupid, or bad women, or whatever the fuck along those lines cause they like him or buy his merch...no. They can enjoy him, call him out, and buy his merch. All of it can coexist. Just like how we Max fans have had to accept some things he has said. Just like how Charles fans have had to deal with him being a moron during covid.

[skaruresonic]

I just wanted to share that I relate with you, a few years ago I posted that I really hated Sonic Forces, bad game bad story and everything, I then ended up getting someone who send me numerous messages on how wrong I was, I ignored them but they kept going, then they made fun of the way I drew Sonic and I suddenly a week later I got messages on my personal blog mocking me for my post regarding depression thoughts, thinking about suicide and missing my cat who passed away . That really hurt, not helping them was that they constantly told me I drew Sonic out of character, a hobby that helped me cope with my feelings, all this beause I didnt like Forces. I just disabled anon messages for six months. When this year I expressed mild dissapointed with Frontiers gameplay but that I still like the game, I got 4 messages on how wrong I was. I dont get this with the Pokémon fans. It just makes me think there is something fundamentally wrong with the Sonic fanbase.

Jesus. You shouldn't have received that kind of treatment for posting opinions online, and this is coming from someone who leans more towards neutrality on Forces.

It's also funny, not "ha ha" funny, but in an ironic way, as a contrast to our experiences, because once people caught onto the fact that a few of us didn't think the game was utter dogshit and it does have a few good points, they proceeded to double down on their cries of "Pontaff apologist." Apparently saying "No, Forces is not the equivalent of '06" is enough to get people on your ass, but it also seems disliking it garners you harassment.

Plus, they were all too happy to dismiss Frontiers criticism as "you just hate Flynn and are using this an excuse to bash him again and not give him a chance" because Flynn Haters must never have independent thoughts, their hatred of him is just a mindless reflex. They implied this, even though some of us stressed repeatedly that Flynn's involvement ranked pretty low on the reasons we just didn't like the game.

What does that tell you about how mercurial the environment is? At this point I can't imagine being a part of the in-group, how stressful it would be to keep biting my tongue, stifling my real thoughts, just because at any moment someone could arbitrarily decide they don't like my face that day and proceed to use my "shitty opinions" as an excuse to fling abuse at me. If one of my friends says "I don't like SA2, it's overrated and the story sucks," the most I get is annoyed for a while. Then I move on. It's not something I hold against them because ultimately their opinion doesn't have to affect mine.

Somehow, though, this fandom acts like you have to hold the Correct Opinions or else, which just makes you wonder at the insecurity underpinning everything. If they really believed what they believed, they wouldn't have to resort to these tactics. If we're "desperate," as they often say, they're insecure.

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I then ended up getting someone who send me numerous messages on how wrong I was, I ignored them but they kept going, then they made fun of the way I drew Sonic and I suddenly a week later I got messages on my personal blog mocking me for my post regarding depression thoughts, thinking about suicide and missing my cat who passed away .

I'm so sorry. Again, that should have never happened. That kind of behavior is reprehensible and unacceptable. There is no opinion you can express online which merits such treatment.

This? This is what harassment is. Idk what they're on about when they complain they've suffered "harassment" because one of us reblogged their post with commentary on The Reblogging Site. They are absolutely not the same thing, and you (general you) are insulting harassment victims when you do this.

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It just makes me think there is something fundamentally wrong with the Sonic fanbase.

There is. I can't exactly pinpoint one cause because it seems to be a melting pot of interrelated issues. It's like a pressure cooker of conformity borne of the desperation not to be seen as cringe by the mainstream - hence all the diatribes about "you guys are making the rest of us look bad," like, who are you performing fandom for? why are you performing fandom? - with anti-games bias stemming from that since the games aren't considered as "deep" as the comics. Unlike the book which improves them, the games are childish, and we wouldn't want to be seen as childish, taking something as inconsistent and puerile like Sonic games too seriously.

Then you add a dose of purity culture, the intense focus on parasocial relationships with ascended fans (I find IDW staff's conduct unprofessional and really skirting the line wrt its fandom), and outright abuse apologism (the stuff with Emi Jones is sickening), and the mixture becomes toxic.

[manikas-whims]

What are five of your favourite Grishaverse quotes? Send this ask to 5 of your favourite grishaverse blogs!

OMG been a while since i got a fun ask like this. Thanks for sending this lovely anon whom i hope is also a moot 🥺

This was extremely hard simply because I have too many Kanej quotes that i hold close to my heart 😂

But here's 5 I really love with little descriptions of why:

1

I’m going to get my money, Kaz vowed. And I’m going to get my girl.

– Kaz about Inej

I just love this for the simplicity and depth of it. Kaz didn't address Inej as “my wraith”, which he does a lot. No in this moment, he addresses to her as “my girl” because thats the love of his life and he's going to crush all his enemies and save her. We all sleep on this alot 😭

2

She couldn’t just watch him die, she wouldn’t. [...] Her knives were in her hands. She’d kill them all. She’d pile the bodies to the rafters for the stadwatch to find.

– Inej watching Kaz Vs the Dregs fight

Kaz is all “touch her and I'll kill you” but Inej is also “touch him and I'll kill you”. We don't appreciate or acknowledge how deeply and madly Inej is in love with Kaz. She'd kill for him and to protect him.

3

“The life you live, the hate you feel—it’s poison. I can drink it no longer.”

– Matthias to Jarl Brum

An underrated quote. People don't talk much about Matthias's character but this right here is a beautiful one. This shows the exact moment he entirely let go of all the Druskelle ideals he was raised with and all the wrongs he was taught throughout his life. He decided to throw away his hate altogether and start anew. A new and brighter future with Nina 🥺

4

“You’re stupid about a lot of things, Wylan, but you are not stupid.”

– Jesper to Wylan

I love this one simply because after all his life of hearing from Van Eck that he wasn't enough, Jesper is the one who tells him, affirms that Wylan is a fucking genuis and so much more than his shitty father could ever fathom. And when Jesper says it, he kinda snaps at Wylan. He's mad at Wylan for belittling himself and Jesper will have none of that. I just love it!

5

Her silks were feathers, and she was free.

– Inej after choking Heleen and running away with her diamond choker

Contrary to the popular and weird belief in the fandom that Inej would hate wearing silks or putting on makeup, she doesn't. And this statement right here speaks it all. Inej has just beaten Heleen, her monster, the monster of her worst nightmares and she's running free. In this moment, she believes her silks to be feathers. She realises that donning the persona of the Wraith or keeping 20 knives isn't what she needs to best her fears. She manages to do it in a dress made of fake silks alright. And she has made piece with them.

(tbh, i don't think Inej ever said she hated make up. She just said she doesn't like the menagerie's silks because they are fake silks and not the authentic Suli ones)

Anyways, thanks again for this lovely ask ♡

[trekkele]

Hello! I'm the Anon who asked about Bruce being self-aware.

When I said "Also, there's something of a difference between being self-aware about himself and when it comes to his kids." I meant that he says or does super hurtful stuff that he just doesn't seem to think was wrong or reflect upon when it went downhill or realising too late or sb had to spell it out for him.

Examples being:

him reading Dick's diary after taking him in as a ward to figure out what Dick wants instead of just asking, thus creating the Robin suit after Dick's designs (God, it was a Batman or Robin: year one comic book, I'm pretty sure but I don't rememer which),

saying "commendable" instead of just "I'm proud of you" to Damian (basically his "emotional constipation" as a whole, like being unable to understand or even recognize his kids feelings and then failing to say just the most normal praising/comforting/loving things.),

ignoring (or acting as if) when Damian apologizes for direspecting/ignoring previous orders and holds a cute speech about trying to listen now but Bruce just turns around like "Did you say something?",

not telling Dick that Jason is now Robin or that Jason died even though Bruce said he would call Dick (yeah, he was being petty or grief stricken, but still)

Tim's sixteenth birthday "present"

I hate to bring this up but the whole Batarang to the NeckTM situation in UTRH. His resurrected son confronts him and he fails to show a single emotion, instead immediately debating ethics and morals with him.

anything with Jason in future comics where Bruce beats him up and acts like Jason asked for it or that Bruce didn't have a choice but to do that.

bringing Jason back to Ethiopia to the warehouse where he died, so Bruce could maybe find a way to resurrect Damian after Heretic killed him (I think it was Heretic, but maybe it was sb else)

beating up any of his kids for any reason. The most he should do willingly is defend himself with defensive moves only or seeking distance. But not charging in like he wants a fight.

sending only Damian to save Alfred from Bane, which just allowed for Damian to be captured and then having to watch Bane snap Alfred's neck, and then Bruce says to Damian's face "If I had been there, I could have saved him." (Bruce prioritised his own grief over his son's grief and trauma and all that)

Bruce tells Cass she doesn't need a real life and sectret identity, that she only needs a costume and a private batcave and she'd be fine

Bruce instigates a fight where he and Cass get drugged and can communicate about their feelings through fist fighting.

Taking/ Trying to take Robin away from sb for their "own good". I don't mean benching, but full on "You're not Robin anymore, never again." but then folding a few issues later anyway. (It could be seen as very shitty parenting ig)

Like you said, Bruce gets written very inconsistently and I tried not to cherry pick too much of what I wanted to say, so I made this mess of a bulleted list. While a lot of these examples do come from his communication issues, I still wanted to include them anyway because it's taken too far with some writers (can't say "I love you" or hug his kids, although he doesn't have a problem with doing that with Clark or Diana) or he doesn't reflect on those moments or he repeats them over and over again.

I swear I love Bruce, I'm not a hater!!! He's actually my favorite character!!! 😭😭😭

(Making this list really hurt. Just so you know.)

Hey listen, im going to answer these by number* and then probably delete this ask in a few hours because. I hate all of these!! Maybe 3 are in character!! I dont want this terrible Bruce on my blog!!! But also i dont want you to think i asked for clarification and then ignored you so feel free to send another ask when you see this lol. Or if I have once again missed the point.

* because I misunderstood this ask again and also most of these gave me hives lmao and also also I think like 75% could be answered with "we needed someone to mean to [character] and Bruce is convenient el oh el"

Anyways:

1. This one is in character, a little bit, because as much as we understand kids needing privacy now, i can see the way Bruce was raised (Alfred would have absolutely read his diary, that feels very in character for him) and the way Dick was (sneaking out to find Zucco) leading to him panicking and monitoring him as much as possible. That doesnt make it right mind you. The thing is if Dick hacked the bat computer Bruce would probably be proud of him, so not entirely hypocritical.

2. Also possibly in character, because again, thats how Alfred probably spoke to him. Not great, and i think the current Batman and Robin run does a much better job with their relationship, but can be chalked up to bad writing tbh.

3. No this is shitty writing. Sorry it just is!

4. This could be its own post but in summary: decisions made to launch another chracters solo or in order to make a different character look good are ignored. They wanted a Nightwing solo and decided a good launching point would be a big fight between Dick and Bruce. No thanks.

There have also been panels where Dick talks about ignoring Bruce’s calls during that time period, so this could be chalked up to mutual miscommunication if you insist. And i prefer the pre crisis origin for Jaybin, for multiple reasons.

5. I haven’t read this, ive heard of it, and its weird. It feels like point 4, but for Tim. The writers wanted a villain for his birthday comic, Bruce is right there.

6. Nah, Jason fucked around and he found out. He wanted a Batman that kills criminals, he just forgot he was also, now, a murderer and a criminal. Im only half kidding here, but the problem with UTRH is that exactly. Also the fact that Jason spent like six months doing absolutely horrible shit in Gotham, and that like 15 minutes before this showdown Bludhaven was blown up, Bruce has no idea if Dick is alive, and Jason mocks him for possibly losing another son. Also Jason is the one demanding Bruce cross his very personal boundaries here, ethics and morals are a very necessary part of the conversation!!

7. Anything where Bruce beats someone near death or uses lethal force is technically out of character. Jason comics outside of DITF and UTRH do not do enough work to give his actions the context necessary for them to be in character. RHATO #25 Is shit writing.

8. It was heretic, on Talias orders, and that whole storyline is dumb. This does feel in character, because Bruce response to grief has historically been 1 become Batman 2 attempt to commit suicide by cop/criminal so points for that consistency? I really hate this plot tho. Stop killing Bruce's kids!! The man is unstable as it is!!!

9. Out of character. I know it gets used for some god awful reason but it is so out of character unless the writer is willing to give it some serious work to provide context, (or unserious; see; Zur-En-Arrh in Gotham War. It's dumb, but it provides plausible context for Bruce beating his kids ie: it isn't technically him). Barring mind control, rejected.

10. No!! What the fuck!!! Bruce is not sending one of his kids alone against Bane there is an entire comic where he drugs them so that doesn't happen stop that!!!!

As a side note when I read that the first time I understood it as "I should not have sent you in alone because it was a task too big for you, If I had been there to help we could have saved him", but I am an optimist with too much faith in DC.

11. Absolutely bonkers statement from "please let me fire you from robin so you can have a normal life" McGee. Chalking this one up to racism and misunderstanding Bruce's character and that stupid "Bruce Wayne is the mask Hur dur" thing.

12. Ok this one feels in character actually. Somehow. At least they're talking?

13. Also feels in character actually. This one is weird because you'll see those stupid "child soldier" arguments side by side with "how dare Bruce take away Robin!". Pick a side. It's either bad parenting to let Robin exist or it's bad parenting to not let Robin exist, it can't be both!

And since these are comic books, and you need to engage with the genre in good faith or you'll have a miserable time of it, Robin exists! And is allowed to exist! At the same time, as a mentor Bruce has to be able to bench Robin, that is also a function of the mentor/mentee relationship! Basically - Bruce should be able to bench an injured/at risk Robin, but the writing for those scenarios usually wants him as a villain.

Taking away Robin completely only happens to Dick tho, and since it's after he gets shot on the job I do think it's in character.

As for "I tried not to cherry pick" babe please do so!! It's comics!! It's not canon unless you want it to be, and if you want these truly terrible Bruce's to be canon all the power to you! I want to set them on fire tho. And snort WFA like it's cocaine until all this is a bad memory jfc DC screen your writers for daddy issues I am begging you.

[viscountessevie]

I’m not going to excuse people getting threatening messages because that’s just fucking wrong, no matter what. But you very much shared an ask response on the main Bridgerton tag about Colin being confused and fucking Penelope’s belly button. Like okay, maybe it seems like a funny joke of him being a clueless virgin? But I have heard the fat joke countless times growing up, about a woman being so fat that a man might make that mistake. And hey, maybe you never experienced that but it’s really hurtful. It just comes off as incredibly fatphobic, so if you’re not actively trying to hurt people, please try harder?

Anon is talking about this post

[Shoutout to my friends for looking this over before I posted @sweetestviscount @sophiamariabeckett and @hptriviachamp & @jeanvanjer for the HR insight]

Hey there, thank you for sending this ask and letting me know in a civil manner! While they were not death threats aimed at me - I’m hoping I never get those - THIS is the way to broach things that are hurtful not call people disgusting names and hope they die. Under no circumstances should we ever try to justify death threats under the guise of moralising. That being said, I genuinely thank you for the way you wrote this, anon. 

I definitely hear you and understand your frustration on hearing countless fat jokes growing up. That must have been really shitty and I'm genuinely sorry about that. I promise you this blog is a safe space for those who wish to make it as such and, while I condemn Show!Penelope for her actions, I am actively anti-fatphobic and DO NOT tolerate it on here at all!

However, I would like to clarify the joke in the ask and the anon who sent it very much confirmed it too. You were somewhat right in your first guess:

Like okay, maybe it seems like a funny joke of him being a clueless virgin?

You may also have missed a related ask here where I explicitly stated this:

To a certain extent, it is about his cluelessness as a virgin but mainly about the lack of his sexual prowess and so I assure you, the joke is 100% on Show!Colin and the way he is currently being written and nothing against Pen or her weight at all.

Like I said in the screenshot above, literally nothing wrong with being a virgin! It can be great and you aren't always clueless. Again, this is HR (Historical Romance) show and that comes with a certain standard. If they want to keep him a virgin, that's great - more rep for people like us! But he needs to be a Hot Virgin™ and if he was clueless, let Pen teach him or something! That's a solid trope.

While we are on the topic, I do want to defend Pen against the show and the way the showrunners clearly view her. Aside from the horrible things she's done to innocent people in the Ton, hate-criming the POCs and backstabbing those closest to her, it's very telling that Daphne and Kate got Regé Jean Page as Simon and Jonathan Bailey as Anthony respectively who do have a large number of people who find them hot (if they aren't your type, fine but you can't deny they are on the higher end of an objective attractiveness scale). They fit the standard of a typical Hot HR Hero and that's what their wives deserve!!

Why doesn't Pen get the same type of hero? Why isn't she written like Daph and Kate who also hit the standard of HR heroines? Yes, Penelope is framed sympathetically by the narrative after everything she's done but when you put together all the actions I listed above, she is also written as a villain that gets away with everything (so far - we don't know if she'll even apologise in S3). If this was any other show where she wasn't guaranteed Colin as her endgame, she would be a villain.

It's just really annoying to see the (1) one fat main character on the show not given the HR heroine treatment and given a boy next door looking man who is very close to doing brownface if that tan from Greece keeps up. Book Pen (pre-TVWLM weight loss) and Nicola deserved the HR treatment!! 

[I have said this a couple of times on my blog but Newts is cute; especially his S1 looks but it not exactly HR Hot but if he gets you going, that’s great! He’s just not it for the majority of us and that’s okay too.]

To close this off, again I do apologise that the original ask hurt you and may have brought up painful memories. That was neither Jett Anon's intention nor mine, I hope the clarification helped and my DMs are open if you do want to vent about this more.

[faeiapalette]

I rarely ever send asks to blogs but I noticed the absolutely shitstorm taking place in your inbox from my OC blog and I'm so confused??? Like why did it escalate to such a heated discussion?? I actually fully agree with you that Ayato's LE route is anything but bad. It was one of my favorites amongst the S boy routes and while I did feel bad for him, I don't think the 'they don't deserve it' argument is valid for any of the DL boys. They've all done horrible things to Yui/the MC so they can't complain about karma biting them in the ass at one point or another. Also this whole 'which boy is the main one/Yui's canon S/O' is so silly imo. (and mind you, I'm a big AyaYui shipper myself) After translating over half of all the games' content, I can confidently say that Rejet is not that serious about the plot of DL and will defy or contradict their previously established lore literally ALL THE TIME. So why can't we - as a fandom - also be a little more chill and laidback about it and enjoy our own interpretations of the story instead of trying to prove other people's opinions wrong? ^^;; In the end, it's just fiction and there's no real right or wrong. Also big disagree on you not being able to voice your dislike for Ayato because he's generally loved by the fandom. :/ So it's okay to bash Cordelia or Karl because most fans agree that they're shitty people, but you can't speak ill of one of the main boys? Oh boy I better go hide now because I've lost count of how many times I've called Kanato a nasty purple gremlin.

I'm a Subaru stan but if I see someone insult Subaru, I don't get upset. I realize he has his flaws too and he won't be everyone's cup of tea. That's totally fine like go and call him a sad piece of emo trash for all I care. He might be my oshi, but in the end he's also just a bunch of pixels on a screen lol.

(😳 wait can i say “senpai noticed me”? Although i’m not too fond of this kind of “notice” and i don’t think it’s something i should be proud of it either, but still 🥹🤣💀🙈💗

Also… i deeply apologize for this massive tornado of… whatever it is 😭)

And 😭💦 I have no problem with Ayato tho? It started when i start wondering why the reasons i heard didn’t came from the inside of Ayato’s route (instead, as you can see, people compare his route to the other S boys’ routes, aka the external. Oh and actually an anon told me that problems lie in bad writing and horrible ending, that’s the first one for me. 🙌) So i just started analyzing things using internal infos in his route and speak it up in the form of an opinion. 🤔 Then people misunderstand what i said and see it as “i’m attacking Ayato”, and all of this happened. So… Thank you, but i’ll pass that 1st sentence in the 2nd paragraph to any other person who couldn’t say “i hate this character” in this fandom. 🥺💗 Sigh…. I do wish people can be chill and understanding like you and some people i know as well. Realizing all of this things isn’t that hard. 😔

[beca-mitchell]

Umm... that girl who reblogged a post from her male friend who you made all your buddies send rude anons to? Don't play dumb

edit: removed usernames bc i would hate to be told i’m bullying by setting my followers on these people or something like that

Are you joking?

Nobody made anybody do anything. I don't know who sent her anons, but she is literally a 20 year old adult who was called out on something shitty. Do you think I give enough of a shit about her to send friends to send anons? Or do you think nobody has an any agency? Like did she send YOU to send anons? Or are you just here being a knight for no reason.

After simple research, she has been crying non-stop about anons she got that were evidently not remotely rude (if they were the ones published on her blog) and she consistently has been fucking lamenting over how shitty things are for her.

You all don't seem to get it so I will spell it out nicely for you:

[REDACTED] posted a long post about how he was HATE CRIMED. Literally, "I was a victim of a hate crime". Then detailed how the specific hate crime was that a black woman (an "African American woman" rather) crossed the street to avoid his house while he was standing watering his front yard.

Now, there are SEVERAL reasons why any person would cross the street to avoid a person watering their lawn (one being that they don't want to get wet??).

But of course, this individual decided to give us more information. He said he was a 40 year 6'4 caucasian male. Fairly fit or whatever his description was. She was a black woman.

Not only did he profile her immediately, he ASSUMED she was judging his singular pride flag hanging outside his house. Not anything else. Now if you don't know why a black woman or any woman really would want to avoid a 6'4 man (a white man!) in today's climate/society/environment, then you need to TURN ON THE NEWS.

(side bar - if you think this is a hate crime, then you are simply a white karen and you will stop at nothing to make yourself a victim in situations where you want to exert power over the agency of minority populations. full stop.)

Now your dear friend [REDACTED] reblogged it and said "this is so sad uwu signal boost bc more people need to be aware" and "mental health" or some other obnoxious shit like that. There is nothing to signal boost here. Do you know why? Because you have yet another white man profiling a black woman and stripping her of her agency, her entire being, and what she was doing (which was minding her own business) just so he could make a post about being sad about hurt feelings. That's all it was. People get hurt feelings all the time from social interactions they don't understand, but you can see not ONCE in his essay-length post did he consider what she was thinking. Somehow, to him, the only thing that could have been going through a black woman's mind as she encountered a 6'4 white man watering his lawn was that she wanted to hate crime him by minding her own business and walking across the street.

never mind that he was obviously tracking her for several minutes by watching her exact positioning at any given time.

so no, i do not believe it was right for her to reblog it. she can reblog what she wants on her blog, but she now wants to cry wolf and point to things that are simply untrue. i am not making anybody send her things, nor have i posted about it publicly at the level she has. she has simply made herself out to be a victim when she is not one. in fact, she was told by, ostensibly, several black individuals (black women if i recall correctly) what she was doing was uncomfortable and wrong and all she did, instead of removing the post was to remove the "signal boost" tag and leave "mental health".

There is no mental health at all associated with that post. There is nothing to be gained from that post, at least nothing of value to other people. it was not a coping method, it was not important. somebody's feelings were hurt and that was it. this person, rather than knowing how to cope with hurt feelings in a totally proportionate way to the situation, decided to blow it out of proportion. and your dear friend, instead of talking to her friend privately like most people would, decided to make it everybody's problem by reblogging it. then told maybe one or two black individuals (or the same one) to get off her blog when they identified themselves as such.

she, for some reason still has the reblogged post up so you can see several people's comments on his original post. nobody sent him anons (to my knowledge) and nobody that i know sent her anons (to my knowledge).

PEOPLE WERE UNCOMFORTABLE BECAUSE OF THE POST. This not just that he's a fucking dude in the PP fandom, this is about him making it uncomfortable for several people, especially black people. So they can make it out to be an "oh my god theresa and her friends want people to be excluded from this fandom" um??/ nobody fucking said that? and i certainly do not endorse that? it was uncomfortable bc it was like a thousand microaggressions in each sentence!

for the record, i am not black and i would never pretend to be black. What i did was (1) send her a DM after she unfollowed me bc i got a couple anons and (2) posted in a gc tagging her, to which she unfollowed. i also posted screenshots on twitter.

so you can take these as it is, but if she wants to call me a "demon" or a "minion" or whatever, that's fine with me. i said my piece several days ago and she is the one who is CONSTANTLY bringing it up.

this is not bullying. she and her friends simply do not understand what is going on and have re-characterized this as something that it simply isn't. and they are consistently talking about it, crying about it, and bringing it up in ways that are DRAGGING THIS OUT for no reason.

[vaspider]

Aight.

I spent a day away. That was good, though I had to stand for a few minutes longer than I budgeted for and ended up needing help bathing and dressing for bed and couldn't sleep for pain. Weird experience for someone who "isn't a cripple" or wev.

Anyway.

Two things, and then I'm off to attempt sleep once more:

One of the many very wrong things còck-dealer keeps confidently repeating is that traņsgentleman-luke sent or is sending screenshots of his blog to me and @happysadyoyo. This is not true, at least as far as I'm concerned. Luke & I mutually blocked one another in the course of this whole bullshit. I don't remember why and at this point I don't really care. It's okay if people just don't get on. I haven't spoken to him directly in ... weeks, at minimum, and I have no need to have him supply me with screenshots. No one needs to "supply screenshots" of c-d's blog; it's visible from any web browser if people want to look at it. That's... that's how Tumblr works if you're set up to be seen off Tumblr. It's not a mystery. I'm not sure where he pulled that particular paranoid piece of garbage from, but it doesn't make any sense and isn't true.

By some wild coincidence (it is not a coincidence), as soon as I shut down asks and made it harder for people to harass me, that same behavior which had previously been directed at me--sexual harassment via fetish-porn-riddled asks, anon/fake-account ask harassment--either began getting aimed at people who hadn't been suffering it or rapidly escalated. It's really weird and shitty to just shift off to the next target. And the fact that I can point to multiple different people that this happened to is just... depressing.

Look, y'all. It must fucking suck for you if your current favorite bullying target removes himself from your target range. I suggest doing literally anything else other than shifting that harassment to a random third party (but strangely none of my more well-known/bigger-following mutuals 🤔).

Like... if you wanted to make it clear that it's just about bullying someone, there's no higher purpose, just the endorphin high you get from saying mean things from a safe distance, you couldn't have planned it better.

So... bravo, I guess? Good job, you really wrote I AM AN ASSHOLE JUST TO BE AN ASSHOLE on your foreheads and underlined it twice.

Anyway, could you fucking stop bothering third parties? Literally all it does is paint you further into the "I am an asshole all by myself on Asshole Island" corner.

Good night.

[mykinkyyandere]

About CNC Kink

TW: Swearing, explaining and mentioning cnc, sexual abuse, rape, kinks

Consent Basics

Why do half of women have fantasies about being r*ped?

Is CNC Kink Normal?

Now that I'm a yandere & dark writer, I decided to write a post about the bullying I have witnessed so far. Basically I tried to write about CNC but I may mentioned other things as well.

I left some links I found very instructive here. Please read them, especially the purple one. Also, you can always find plenty of resource about anything. So please make sure you do your research before sending someone judgement and hatred. Now I want to talk about my own thoughts and feelings.

Why am I so into yandere/dark/kinky things? I guess it's because of the lack of attention, understanding, respect, love and care. But everyone's reasons are different, remember that. I want someone who loves and wants me obsessively. Someone to make me feel loved, to show me that I'm special.

I knew I was into CNC /consensual non-consent/ (and other kinks) but didn't know what to call it. I've always dreamed of someone taking me by force. And 'that someone' is always the perfect person with the perfect traits I want. So it's not a rape or anything. I want him to take me, but act like I don't.

I get incredibly excited when a man (I want) being so strong, powerful, dominant and me being so, so weak against him. I love being desired. I'm so irresistible that he gets wild for me. And of course I love the power dynamic. These are most of my reasons. BDSM, CNC, power dynamic, Dom/Sub relationship, DDLG, CLG... I didn't even know these things were existed. I just knew I'm into something people don't approve or see as normal. But later, I learned I wasn't alone and it was very common. It's not wrong, there are people like me and all the things I'm into have names. Since then, I don't feel guilty or let people make me feel guilty.

Back then, I was using Wattpad for reading and because I didn't know English, I was trying to find writings in my own language (which is impossible). I didn't know how to find works with the dark contents I wanted. It was a time when I really questioned myself. I felt bad, guilty and alone. I remember I used to write my secret stories in my phone notes. I didn't post them on any platform. I remember very little of them. For example, Barry Allen (I was watching The Flash series back then) ahahah 🥲

↘️ BULLIES, I HAVE A COUPLE WORDS ↙️

(I'm not talking about people who ask normal questions or talk without bad intention, I'm talking about people who spit venom, the real haters and bullies.)

You can't tell people that CNC is unacceptable by asserting sexual harassment or rape. I and I'm sure everyone else know there are survivors and it's very triggering topic for most of people. But you can't deny that survivors also exist in this community and find peace in themselves with the help of CNC. You send hatered on my blog or others, but how do you know we're not a survivor? Let me put it this way, me and someone I love (made me promise to not to tell anyone so I'm not gonna say who are they) had some shitty experience. How do you find the right to tell me and someone else how to cope with our trauma? Who the fuck are you? We don't have to reply to your shitty anons with "I was abused too", why do we have to bring up bad memories for you to be convinced? If something's not helping, if something's triggering and uncomfortable, it's you.

Ignoring our rights and saying, "This is so triggering and disgusting, you're a terrible person, you want to be raped, you support rape."

Nah, babe. You can not say that. I don't understand how you can be so small-brained and selfish. Just because you think it's completely wrong, you want the whole world to objectively believe it's completely wrong too? Every person is different, every person has things they consider absolutely wrong and absolutely right in their own way. And I don't know about you but we accept something as wrong if it hurts others. Why does a fantasy taking place in a bedroom of two consenting adults bother you so much? Or posting, sharing, reading and liking our fictional writings?

I've never supported sexual harassment / rape and I never will. I write what you'll read on each of my works. It says Yandere & Dark in my description. It also writes in my FAQ/Warnings. There are warnings in the descriptions and works of all the dark creators I've come across. If you're triggered, you must stay away, block, filter. Not sticking around and going mad for nothing, you know. It's not our fault you're not into it, our blog is for people like us to meet. Not for you to come and throw your shitty hatred.

(Seriously 😑)

[sitp-recs]

Hey

Um I don't know if I should be asking this but I thought I'll try it since there's no ask option.

So I am in a lot of fandoms and I always see a lot of hate for ships or characters I like in comment sections and videos and stuff. Usually if it's like videos i just skip past but I am all about listening to the other side and not living in an echo chamber and it almost always ends with me feeling drained coz there's just a lot of hate most of the time. I was thinking about asking anything u usually do when it comes to hate where people say stuff like ur wrong or immoral for liking or reading something...

Thanks for all that u do for our fandom. Just saying it out to someone helped a lil. Thank u so much for ur recs, reblogs of lovely advice, being a nice and kind person in this fandom and everything else

Hi there! Thanks for sending this, I’ve reopened the asks because I really wanted to answer this one publicly. Many of my new followers may not know, but I’m a pro-shipper, ship & let ship, kinktomato and whatever else defines folks who couldn’t care less about what others enjoy in their free, private time. I happen to indulge many ships considered “problematic”, most of them involving age gap, so I consider myself personally implicated in any conversation about fandom hate. I may not receive as much in this blog but I certainly got it in other fandoms so I feel like I do have some experience (especially because I’ve dealt with this conflict internally, way before I decided to expose myself and engage with the fandom community).

Anyhoo! How do I deal with hate on ships and characters I enjoy? I tend to follow the avoid - delete - disengage triad. It’s not an easy task, it requires a lot of self-control and focus not to delve into it, but ultimately I’ve decided that my mental health is way above any rich, interesting convo I may get out of it. That’s easier said than done if we go beyond anon hate to include actual friends who disagree with you, but I feel like a compromise must be done on both cases.

For example, my fave character is Tony Stark. I love him like I’ve never loved any character before or since, and I’m particularly sensitive about his arc and about his relationship with Steve in Civil War. My closest fandom friend is @tackytigerfic and Tony is SO NOT her fave 😂 I know that, she knows I know that, we respect each other’s views and we simply don’t talk about it (Tacky is not a MCU fan either way and Drarry is soo much more interesting!) but I’m pointing this out because we get on really well and I’m sure we could have AMAZING convos about the MCU in general and about Tony and Steve in particular, but I won’t go there because it’s a discussion that wears me out, makes me bitter, makes me sad, makes me think and feel things I don’t want to face while I’m enjoying fandom in my free time. I guess your friends will either take it or leave it, but honestly respecting someone else’s limits is a basic friendship law (or it should be!) and a common courtesy in general.

People often ask us to be the “bigger person” and talk it out like the mature adults we are, but fandom isn’t a paid job - it’s a hobby and as such we owe absolutely nothing to strangers about whatever fictional preferences we choose to indulge in our free time. We all want different things out of fandom and I believe we should actively pursue it, and focus on what brings us joy, comfort and fulfillment. I don’t want to see things that upset me, and I’m not here to have mindblowing meta talks at the cost of my own peace of mind, not even with close friends. That’s not a compromise I’m willing to make, so I don’t. So I go on unashamedly deleting rude asks, ignoring shitty comments, blocking blogs, and living this fandom life inside my happy bubble. After a few years struggling to come with terms with what I enjoy and what I want out of fandom, it is that simple for me.

Now I’m 100% comfortable with knowing my reading preferences aren’t a reflection of my personality or morals, I feel freer and self-aware in a way I’ve never felt before. And again, this is what works for me - while my 2 cents may not be as helpful to someone else, I’m posting this publicly hoping to maybe start a conversation and get some other perspectives to share. I hope you find a way to deal with it that won’t take away your joy of interacting with fandom :) stay safe! ❤️

[blue-shaded]

Hey blue! I haven't been on your blog lately and I've tried to catch some stuff too (Been pretty busy to school and for some reason get tired so easily so my free time is pretty short)

So, Mark has been trending on twitter again after he announce that he was home. It was like days ago? Can't really remember doe Djjrjdbebfbd

Second one, I just watched this video titled "Therapist reacted to Tangled" and the therapist said that the movie portrayed or given signs of gaslight. Like, when the mother (IDK what's her name) gaslight Rapunzel into believing that she's way too immature to go to the outside world or making her believe that she can't be anything without her mother. The video is highly recommended if any of your anons want to know more about gaslight. Tangled portrayed it well.

Third one, about Seàn's apology, the fact that Seàn brought up charity livestreams to the apology is weird. I don't know he does it for the sake of covering the bad stuff not because genuinely doing it to help the people in that organization. Some people actually noticed when Sean brought up about the charity livestreams is just sounded off. If you genuinely do the charity livestream, you wouldn't bring it up and make it excuse of the mistake that you made, basically being like, "I'm a really good person! I've done x and y. I won't ever do mistakes like that." I mean just because You've done something good to the people that you've offended, it still not a reason for you for joking about them, mocking, and making fun of them then use the excuse of you've helped people so you won't look that you did anything wrong even though you did something really wrong and should GENUINELY apologize for it without adding excuses. If you brought the good things that you've done to the people that you've offended, it portrayed that you're not genuinely doing the kindness to help people but you're doing it so people think you're a nice person and get compliments from it which is a really shitty things to do. This is my opinion. I'd like to know your thought on this

Fourth off, a lot of people has been getting cancelled this year. Seàn is one of them but I know for 100% sure, you're not cancelling him but you're calling him out and trying to educate him but his stubborn ass won't listen so he just ignored the criticisms that he has received and not genuinely apologizing for the horrible stuff that he has done. Third off, a lot of people has been getting cancelled this year. Seàn is one of them but I know for 100% sure, you're not cancelling him but you're calling him out and trying to educate him but his stubborn ass won't listen so he just ignored the criticisms that he has received and not genuinely apologizing for the horrible stuff that he has done. One of the people that I recognize and has been trying to get cancelled this year are James (Theodd1sout). He was basically making fun off? The tone indicators. I can't really remember what it was but he has apologized about it afterward and deleted the tweet. People started calling him ableist about that even though James himself is an ND person. I don't know if he's getting cancelled or his fans are just criticizing and being dissapointed, regardless, he has apologized about it without any ifs

The fifth one, IDK if any of your anons know what or who any other youtubers that have been controversial lately? I've seen like only Jack mostly, and probably (Unfortunately) Ethan. Also, Dr. Mike? Maybe if any of your anons could help me out? I just want to know more about it.

Last one, I'm still upset because there are still people out there who think that criticize the same as cancel. It's upsetting. Also, there are people who think that past mistakes are only the past and shouldn't get brought up to even though past stuff are the one that build who you are at the present.

I think that's all from me. Sorry for sending this long ass ask. You can give your opinion one by one if you're in the mood too. I hope you have a nice day. Stay safe! <3

~🦄

HI! 1: Yes Mark did a thing again, or well his fandom did. 2: Fairytales often have abuse in their stories. Tangled indeed is not much different, but recommending the video! 3: He didn’t apologize. Manipulation isnt an apology. Point. Sean isn’t a good person and he isn’t charitable. 5: Passing on 6: I’m used to the bullshit by now.

[itsgoatmanentrapment]

If you don't respect other people in the fandom, I think you should leave. This is a healthy fandom that people have been building for so long and we don't need any influencers. The people who shipirl, they didn't SEND any of their contents to the people and keep it low. It has been this way since forever, people who ship, people who don't, they respect each other and don't call each other out. If you can't see it this way, I'm sorry, this place isn't for you.

I’ll humor you, anon, even though I already said that I’m not interested in debating with unmovable people when I myself an unmovable on this subject, I’ll still humor your argument here.

So let’s unpack it. 

First off, no one has control over who participates in fandom on this website, and no one has control over how they participate in fandom on this website; this means that I don’t have control and neither do you. So you gotta realize how absolutely juvenile and entitled you sound when you say I should “just leave” the fandom if I don’t like it. This is why I block people instead of saying “hey get out of here no one likes you!” because if I don’t want to see it then I’m going to remove it myself and not expect people to bend to my will.

Secondly, yes RPF/RPS has always been around but guess what? It shouldn’t be. And I’m going to be critical of it for forever because it’s gross and disrespectful. I’m not going to stop making my views and my criticisms known about it because being silent about it doesn’t effect change. Same goes with all criticism. If we aren’t critical of toxic behavior, if we don’t speak up against it we are allowing it to happen and nothing will change. And this does need to change. Criticism is crucial to all progress. No one is immune to it and no one should be immune to it (except like...children who haven’t learned better yet). Saying “this is just the way it’s always been” doesn’t mean it’s what’s right.

I’m not going to be silent on this subject just because it makes disrespectful people feel disrespected.

Thirdly, in that post I wrote “writing fic about them is still a form of objectification even if they aren’t going to see it”. That wasn’t an accident. I wrote that on purpose. It was a precise and direct decision. I know the main argument against RPF/RPS is the fact that it makes the RL people being objectified and disrespected uncomfortable. That argument holds value but that is. not. the. only. reason. I. am. anti-rpf/rps. I will not trust or respect someone who thinks it is okay to take a real life person’s identity and mold it to their own design. This is why I wrote “writing fic” and not “writing romantic/smutty fic” because it’s STILL objectification; it’s STILL taking someone’s self and making it dance like a puppet; it’s STILL not okay. I do not trust a person who justifies this behavior. I do not trust or respect a person willing to turn someone they supposedly respect into a fictional character who does their fucking bidding. Having the person’s consent is only half the issue with RPF/RPS. So I don’t fucking care if IRL shippers keep their ship to themselves (historically they do not and you’re dead wrong about that) I still think they are gross for treating real people like action figures in their own barbie dream house.

Fourth, anti-rpf discourse has also been around for a while so I don’t know what fucking rock you’ve been living under if you believe that everyone in fandom is just tolerant of each other’s shitty behavior all the time. The fact that your sending this to my BFU blog...? Have you not been participating in the BFU fandom for long because it’s a common subject here. It’s well fleshed out in this fandom.

Lastly, that post was tagged “anti-rpf” on my Danny blog. I did not reblog a rpf/rps blog’s content. I did not call out a specific person. My main point is that I do not want to see that shit so I will block people for it, because I’m not going to argue with unmovable people. 

This isn’t harassment

This isn’t bullying

This is sparta criticism

If someone reads that post and feels attacked it’s because they are being criticized for their choices not their identity. And that’s good. People do need to feel accountable. People do need to be criticized. Including me! Do I consider this ask harassment or bullying? Hell no. It’s also criticism. It’s criticism that I heartily disagree with but it’s still criticism.

So, if you don’t want to see these types a posts then why don’t you take a leaf out of my book and block me! Because you’re never going to convince me to stop criticizing this. Danny Gonzalez himself could say that he thinks RPF/RPS is okay and I would disagree with him, argue with him, and call him gross for believing that. 

[viscountessevie]

Idk if and when you'll start answering benophie asks again but I cant help but notice how all the 🌼 that shit on aofag by saying its classist and elitist are also the same people who don't want to see that story played out on screen. It's such textbook virtue signaling and I'm tired of it. Like just say that you don't relate to to sophie or her story of trauma and abuse, just say that you want a story about two rich people going to balls and falling in love. There's nothing wrong with that. (1)

Related Ask I got about a week after(?): 

First off hii anon thank you for sending this in and waiting a while! 

Just a lot of shit happened on this blog and then when you sent this in I was trying to keep my blog ‘neutral’ because some people took offence to my post calling you-know-whos after a old timey disease and decided that we wouldn’t be impartial with our poll results which btw I apologise to everyone who is still waiting for it - I’ve been depressed (I’m fine don’t worry it just be like that sometimes) and my friends all have started school/work so life has happened we’re going to try to compile everything starting this weekend hopefully! Will come back with more updates when we’re ready to post. 

That tangent aside, that’s why I couldn’t answer right away and then everything on my blog happened but now it’s free rein, The Petty Viscountess is here and ready to answer all your anons venting and calling shit out on you know which fandom. Not even gonna bother giving them a cute nickname, they’ll whine. 

Let’s get into your ask, shall we! I don’t have more points to add to be honest - you said it all! 

Sophie saved their book!! And also we have Luke T to thank for making Ben even more likeable! Ben has his charming moments in the books but we all - even those of us who love him - gotta admit he was so creepy at times being so pushy. I think its good for us Benophines to accept that part of him in Book Canon and engage critically with that aspect of him. 

However that being said, you’re absolutely right about the way other subfandom fans can be so annoying about our ships by acting all high and mighty about their ship both being virgins. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that inherently and it can be romantic - but to act like that somehow makes their racist faves a morally better couple??? Do they realise they sound super puritan and like Church Pastors and Nuns who scared us former Christian kids into not having sex cos it was supposedly a sin?? 

It’s funny when you realise now most of them are trying to their couple out to be Kathony 2.0 in order to generate the hype for S3 its pretty sad that they don’t even believe in their own ship to let them be their own people.

To end this ask off I do wanna reiterate two very poignant points you made in your ask: 

I'm disinterested in half the bridgerton ships but I don't go around pretending to have a good reason why.  

They're already getting their season a year early, just leave us to our misery and they enjoy the content you get instead of constantly rubbing it in our faces. Every single ship is annoying but *god* their egos have inflated to the size of a bounce house lately. 

I have no idea why That Subfandom is so hellbent on everyone liking them and their ship so damn much. Like just accept that the show version have shitty versions of those characters and that majority of your fandom are racist assholes so the rest of us want nothing to do with you!! Be secure in yourselves and accept that you don’t need anyone else’s validation - yall have shown yourselves that you’re are deluded enough anyway. 

[I always say this but just a reminder: the only valid ones are most of the time Book Polins who hate the show version and are upset their fave chars have been character assassinated - I actually have a Polin who sent me an ask about this! I didn’t forget you - I’m just putting tgt a list of positive rep for you anon so hang in there <3. Also there is ONE rare person I’ve talked to who does critically engage with Show Pen so they’re okay - I just wish they would be more confrontational with their fandom tho.]

Back to you Benophie Anon: Your last line made me LAUGH OUT LOUD and LOUDER FOR THE RACISTS AT THE BACK: 

They're already getting their season a year early,... enjoy the content you get instead of constantly rubbing it in our face. *god* their egos have inflated to the size of a bounce house lately.

Check yourselves @ you-know-whos!! Another season why we don’t like you, no one likes gloater and we get it Production Loves You so just stay in your corner! Leave us the fuck alone and stop being so self-righteous and trying to make your ship Kathony 2.0, they’ll never be Lord and Lady Bridgerton. Only Mr. and Miss for you. 

Anyways last thing: @ both anons who sent in their asks if you’re anti-racist/homophobia/sexist Benophies who don’t send doxxing threats, please hit up my friends Belle aka sophiamariabeckett and Michaela aka minim236 they need more sane Benophie mutuals/friends! We’re tired of finding out some Benophies here and/or Twitters are secret racists or homophobes [this ask got long so I’ll put the red flags in the comments] 

[swampgallows]

I know you probably don't want to hear from me after our last interaction, but I just wanted to make something clear to the cowards hiding behind your anon function. 1. Swamp hates Garrosh just as much as I do from what I've seen. 2. Just because they and I disagree on something DOES NOT GIVE YOU CRETINS THE RIGHT TO SEND ANONYMOUS HATE. 3. Swamp, I hope we can agree to disagree on this. I do enjoy reading your opinions on Warcraft as you seem to think them out more than most.

After more reading on your blog, I would like to apologize for assuming you hate Garrosh. That was wrong of me and I am sorry.

it’s no problem. i didn’t have a chance to reply to your response yet about the ratchet boat; i wasn’t actively playing wow during the events of MoP (which is why the character change hit me so hard) but as far as war crimes is concerned, the book cites only the magnataur incident for his crime of abducting children, which is why i am so critical of it being compared to the abduction of actual living children during ww2. 

i DO hate garrosh for what he did during and post-theramore and i do not apologize for it. but i am also aware that he is a fictional character written by a team of people to turn out maximum profit and perpetuity for their franchise and so he was contorted into what needed to be done to keep the story going. im an adult and i can think critically about storytelling. and part of my criticism is that it’s super tone deaf and embarrassing and dehumanizing for golden to make a boast like that when there were zero grounds for making such a comparison. if warcraft writers had publicly said “oh yeah i had to do research on auschwitz to properly portray the orc internment camps in durnholde” it would be just as inappropriate and shitty, albeit a slightly closer comparison than “our villain is SO evil i had to do nazi research to write him”. like i think people are interpreting my criticism of it through me being partial to garrosh and not to the fact that there are millions of people who suffered during ww2 to which fantasy crimes are not accurately comparable lol

[colour-outside-the-liness]

Oh you're fine really! Don't worry about talking too much, I don't think you'll see anyone here complaining about that haha. Yeah your roommates boyfriend being a virgo definitely means something hahaha they're totally party poopers 😂

Ah I see, astrology tries to explain that too y'know, the shadow side of star signs and how they manifest in people but I feel that's kinda unfair and it puts the blame on something else rather the actual person who hurt you. And it's completely understandable you put your guard up with water signs and you're not the only one.

Omg that's so cool! Are you excited to be a god mother? Tell her to hold on till the 20th of January so the baby will be an aquarius and not a capricorn! 😂

I absolutely love a good saggitarius x gemini bond, damn I wish I wasn't such a mess when I was living in Canada. Canadian roommate and I could've become friends at least. One time I told her she looked pretty when she was about to go out to a party and she was like all cute and said thank you and was blushing haha. And then next time we bumped into each other she tried to ask me out to go watch that Elton John movie with her but I had work that day and had a crazy schedule at the time so we never got to hang out much. And then the cherry on the cake was when she was talking about her new schedule for uni and how it would match mine finally and just casually said "you and I will be waking up together next semester" and I was just like 😦🥵🥴 *gay panic* uuuh okaaay and nervous laughed then just carried on with the conversation. She even had a cheeky grin on her face when she said that but I was like naaah I completly misread that, English's not my 1st language so... I must've interpetred that wrong. HAHAHA idk man I'm really clueless with this stuff.

Ah well I'm glad a lot of that made sense to you. And I'm happy to help. So your rising and venus are in gemini, what's the 3rd planet you have in gemini? I think we’ve already covered your taurus sun and moon. And then you probably have uranus and neptune in capricorn and scorpio in pluto bc that's a generation thing or did I totally miss the mark?

What do people call you here? I'm kinda new but haven't seen people referring to you by name before. Can I call you Colour? It's kinda cool name, what do you think? 😆 I'm Libby btw or astrology anon haha don't really use my account on here just really like your AUs and got here bc you mentioned on your fic notes you did updates and discussions on your Tumblr.

Haha that's okay then as long as no one complains about it I'm fine!! Yeah he's such a party pooper so if that's a virgo trait it fits him perfectly haha Yeah I hate when people try and blame their sign for the shitty things they do when in reality sometimes people just to shitty things and she definitely did a lot of shitty things. Yeah I definitely have my guard up around them now but I am trying to fix that and not focus too much on people's signs I can't wait to be a god mother honestly I am so excited and so happy that they trust me in that way and think I'll be a good option!! The baby would be very late if she held on that long but I will tell her for you haha 😂 Awwh you guys could've been so good together it's a shame it didn't happen but I always so everything happens for a reason whether we figure out what that reason is or not!! Nah I don't think you're clueless I wouldn't have known how to take that anyway and English is my first language but I would've gone into a gay panic too haha I have had experiences like that where I haven't known what to do and I have just been a mess!! I think she was definitely flirting with you though!! Yeah rising and Venus are Gemini... so is Mercury Yes, Uranus and Neptune are in fact Capricorn so good guess there And Scorpio is Pluto and Jupiter so I have a lot of repeats with my chart but I am fine with it haha I really don't know what these things mean though People here call me a lot of things and honestly I am fine with all of them, I get called Colour/ Colours, I get called Smut Queen, I've been called Real Life Dani and Ms Clayton before... but you can really call me anything you like though!! Hello Libby- Astronomy Anon it's nice to meet you!! Thank you for saying you like my AUs that really means a lot to me!! And yeah this Tumblr is for updates of my fics or for people to send me prompts or just about anything they want really I'm fine with anything haha this blog is just full and random stuff at this point and I love it!! Thank you for finding me on Tumblr and for sending me all this stuff about astronomy I think it's really fun and interesting!! ☺️

[fair-fae]

You know, I'm not a drama person, I don't like it, but it came up on my dash so much that I kind of had to read it. All of that nonsense could've been avoided if you didn't even take it to the public. Judging people for THEIR characters that THEY made and can do WHATEVER the hell they want with them? Oh woo ho good job, you're so popular for taking the "barrage" of it. No. all it did was prove that you're a D-bag and I've got a nice, long list of people to block now and avoid contact with.

Okay, anon. I haven’t bothered setting the record straight with most of this shit, because I know folks like you will continue to believe what you want to believe and hear what you want to hear, just like you’re doing now. But I’ll bite. You’d think all of you getting onto your soapbox about how you shouldn’t judge or attack others wouldn’t keep talking shit about a situation you know nothing about and/or are terribly misinformed about. So I’ll enlighten you with what actually happened.

A while back, the person in question got into an argument with some people on the RPC, trying to tell them that their interpretation of the lore was wrong. Rather than leaving it at that, when he effectively got shut down there, he proceeded to take a screenshot of the conversation and post it on his tumblr, complete with a rant about the people who disagreed with him, their opinions are so wrong and awful, how dare they disagree with him, etc. essentially playing the victim when he was the one to try to badger them for their opinions in the first place. He also left their names, icons, signatures, etc. in full view.I responded and told him he probably shouldn’t be trying to harass any other people about the lore considering his own character concept (thus, you would think, making my opinion on his character pretty clear). Why? Because it’s fucking true.I don’t give a shit about the lore or whether anyone follows it. Probably every single one of my own characters at least bends the lore. But at least have the self-awareness and respect for your fellow role-players to say “yeah, my character breaks the lore” or not get your jimmies rustled every time someone says “oh, yeah, his character is lore breaking.” You wanna break the lore? Cool. Own up to it. And if you do break the lore, don’t try to force everyone else into following it–especially when you can’t even admit you break lore and instead stretch the lore to try so hard to justify your entirely lore-breaking character concept. Don’t try to heckle people for presumably doing what you do but won’t admit. Granted, these people weren’t even breaking lore anyway, which makes his insistence that they were even more ridiculous.So after some excuses about how he was trying to start some intellectual discussion or something and not just drag these people despite featuring their identities and primarily just complaining about them throughout the post, he admitted he should have at least edited out their names and apologized. Great! You’d think that should be the end of it. I didn’t have anything against him at that point, but also had no desire/reason to associate with him, so I didn’t. A couple months go by. Some post comes across my dash. A girl in the community is doxxing her online ex-boyfriend in a callout post about him for unexpectedly breaking up with her because she “thinks” he was lying to her about serious issues and “believes” he was cheating on her. Because I’m a loud and opinionated person, and because that’s some heinous thing to do, I spoke out against it (via a post on my own blog without naming names, mind you, because I’m not going to hijack someone else’s post with negativity or call them out by name). The girl found it, assumed it was about herself, flipped out, and then of course I was the bad guy for saying doxxing isn’t okay. And then the person in question joins in. Not even to discuss the topic at hand, but to dredge up the old drama about how I was so mean to him and he did nothing wrong, etc. A pretty crappy 180 turn for a person who apologized and made it seem like there were no hard feelings, but whatever. Someone saw that he obviously didn’t like me, and seized the chance to try to talk shit and spread rumors because they knew he’d give them the platform. They sent him some anon about how I hate women (lmao). And of course, he published it, with no skepticism or disagreement, only more commentary about how I’m mean and awful. I went to respond, only to find myself blocked. So I went on about my life because it’s not that big of a deal, but hey. The moment you talk shit about me, especially in a venue where I can’t respond, especially facilitating some lies and BS rumors, especially after leading me to believe we’d made amends–you aren’t off limits. You don’t get spared niceness and politeness. Is that mean and petty? Probably.¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I’ve never claimed to be a nice person.Now, to the horrible, awful thing I did to make this “public.” Fast forward to yesterday. I’d kept my mouth shut and left him alone. In a section of the RPC that doesn’t get a ton of traffic, largely because you have to make an account on the website and then manually opt in to this specific forum, several of us were discussing an absolutely awful person which is an unrelated story I won’t get into. Someone asked something along the lines of, “Are you guys talking about Underaged Looking Allagan Voidsent Chimera Demon Guy?” I responded with basically “No, we’re not talking about Underaged Looking Allagan Voidsent Chimera Demon Guy.” And that was it. We moved on with the conversation because he wasn’t who we’d been talking about. His name, tumblr, server info, in game race, class, etc. was all never given. No identifiable information beyond a very brief and tongue-in-cheek description of his RP character comprised of words taken directly from his own wiki, tumblr info, talk of his own character and RP posts.Someone saw the conversation, and based on our intentionally shitty description, was able to accurately guess who we were talking about and send him an anon to tell him about it. You’d think that would be pretty telling about his own RP, and this anon’s interpretation of it. He answered the anon in a long rant about me that featured both my in game name and my tumblr handle. In case you need me to spell this out for you, he went public with it first. I’ll also remind you that I was blocked, so I wasn’t/couldn’t be following him, and I was not properly @tagged in this rant, so I never would have seen it unless someone told/linked me, or someone I follow eventually reblogged it. And I honestly can’t imagine the level of narcissism it takes to write a long personal post full of wangst and victim-playing every time you hear a person had something negative to say about you or your RP character (not even by name–and by picking words from his own descriptions of his character), especially a person you have had issues with in the past and who you openly shit-talked yourself prior. Who does that? Lord knows my blog would be overflowing. Not everyone will like you, especially not people you jabbed at first. Especially not with an off the wall RP concept. Especially not with you trying to pass that concept is lore abiding and just “unusual.” Especially not with you trying to tell other people they’re “wrong” about the lore. Especially not with your character being a squicky, walking fetish and immortal jailbait. And that’s not even touching other things people have told me about this person that rubbed them the wrong way. Move on with your life.However, I found out about the post thanks to the OP himself when he unblocked me just to send me the link to the post and then before I could even read/respond to the post, sent me a barrage of IM’s still playing the innocent victim which is grating enough on its own but also included him straight up lying about ever posting/saying anything about me, insisting he’d done nothing to me, had nothing against me, this was so out of the blue and uncalled for, etc. When I pointed out this wasn’t the case, that I had seen and read the posts firsthand because blocking me doesn’t prevent me from seeing his posts, he began to lie instead about the contents of said posts and pulled some gaslighting bullshit about how I had just “misread” them, all the while either willfully or coincidentally not seeming to understand anything I said to him (I mentioned him publishing the anon about how I hate women at least twice and the response was always “I never said you hate women!!” Well no shit). He kept insisting that I had “gone behind his back” and that if I had a problem I should “say it to his face” despite the fact he’d had me blocked and that I’m not a douchey enough person to try to contact him despite that, and despite the fact that he had “gone behind my back” and not “said it to my face” twice now prior, and had done just that with his post about the folks from the RPC as well.He also insisted that the tumblr post was meant just to innocently “bring the issue to my attention to clear things up” despite me having no way to see it on my own unless by coincidence, and despite him proving to be willing and able to send me IM’s instead, which you’d think could render the need for a public post moot. When I pointed this out, he promptly deleted the post, lest anyone else see through his bullshit to what he was really trying to do.After my initial response to his wall of IM’s, he sent another wall this time with more insults and accusations, and promptly blocked me so I couldn’t respond. So yes, I made a vaguepost, I know, how awful, how dare I. A vague post vague enough that only someone who had seen his post, or who heard about it from him otherwise, would know who and what it was referencing. Until he responded to it himself, that is and unblocked me again to send me more angry messages to which I responded by permanently blocking him instead because this game of blocking and unblocking sure was getting old.Cue his charming friends sweeping in to tell me to eat a dick, making false accusations against my RP partner and I, sending me threats on Discord, telling people I flashed my breasts for money, etc. And the other person? The one who brought him up in the first place who I had only been responding to? Whose name he was given, was aired in the same public post on his blog as mine? As far as I know, she hasn’t gotten any hate, probably not a single message. And I’m glad, because she shouldn’t get any, she doesn’t deserve it. But at the same time, sure seems sketchy that the person who did the same exact thing as me–and who did it first–has not provoked anyone’s ire, not even been messaged. The public post in reply to the anon who named her, even, was aimed 100% at me. Now isn’t that funny. It’s almost like this was an excuse for people who already had beef with me to try to take shots at me and pretend it was justified. It’s almost like all you anon keyboard warriors don’t even know how this started or what actually happened.And now I’m going to talk about something else. You cannot do “whatever the hell you want” with your character. RP is a two-way (or more) street. There is a real person behind each and every character. These people are looking for fun just like you, and are every bit as deserving, and your fun shouldn’t impede on theirs. We are all allowed equal parts of fun.So when people play their weird ass lolicon/shotacon/pedobait characters, who is having fun? What if the other person in the RP was sexually abused as a child and you’re dredging up terrible old memories for them and making light of their pain? What if they’re a parent worried for their child, or worse, the parent of a child who’s already been abused? What if they’re an actual pedophile and seeing you RP this is tempting them, making them think they’re desires are normal and okay? Hell, what if they’re a goddamn ordinary person who finds it creepy and uncomfortable?What if the fetishized, futa ERP avatar is interacting with someone who is trans or nonbinary or intersex IRL? What if it’s triggering them (in the genuine, real sense of the word)? What if the walking affront against the lore character talking about being an Voidsent Half-Primal Garlean Spy in the middle of the Quicksand is ruining everyone’s immersion–particularly when they refuse to play along as others respond realistically IC and try to kill them or arrest them or kick them out? What if the OP af infinitely-stronger-than-everyone-else-around-him character is making the RP unfun for every other RPer involved because their characters can’t do anything but get beaten up or bow to his whims unless they stoop to godmodding or suddenly beefing up their own character?People can and will judge your character. Those judgments are usually best left kept themselves or quietly shared between trustworthy friends. But when your character trespasses on the OOC fun of the role-players around you? Sorry, my guy, people have every right to speak up. And all this nonsense? All this nonsense was a small handful of people who were already pretty nasty showing their true colors and getting told to pipe the fuck down. A pretty good outcome, if you ask me. So, please, block me, anon. My life will be better without idiots like you in it, and the same probably goes for anyone else you intend to block. Your nameless, ignorant, anonymous presence will not be missed–or noticed, for that matter.