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Fifteen is one of the most aro-ace songs in the canon, to me at least. I've been sleeping on it.

There's just a distance between herself and Abigail's experience or being in love. She feels like an onlooker who relates to some things, but also is an alien to the life the others are leaving.

The idea "when someone tells you they love you, you're gonna believe them" is so relatable as an aromantic. Love, at 15, is assumed to be real but this indicates that the person believes but doesn't feel (but perhaps wants to because they're "supposed to".) There's just a distance between the narrator and the experience of romance that I can't quite express.

"in your life, you'll do things greater than dating the boy on the football team" is to me one of her most poignant lines, and it spoke volumes to me when I was a 15 year-old listening to this track in the back of my mom's van and crying. It's applicable to anyone, but when viewed through an aroace lens, it takes on new meaning: you don't have to be trapped in high school romantic politics forever and finding romantic love is not the foremost thing in life.

Unfortunately, sometimes we can't escape it however. And no matter what we accomplish in, say, the year 2023, the world still makes dating the manchild on the football team the greatest thing a woman can do with her life.

Overall, this feels like I am watching other people experience love and sex but not able to feel it myself.

Maybe she knew it all at 15.

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Gaylors and acelors-- I recognize that it is tempting to try and tell people your beliefs right now, I really do. but think about it... A major reason Taylor was set up with Joe was to quell gay rumors.

If you continue to shout from the rooftops that she is gay, she will probably end up in another PR relationship to try to combat that. Taylor looks so happy and free right now. Please please please don't ruin that for her.

Not saying you can't talk among yourselves, but don't try to convert people. Please. I want Taylor to be free to date or not date who and when she wants. I don't want her to be set up with an asshole. I imagine you feel the same.

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I suppose I still have to report when I see Taylor wearing the colors of the asexual pride flag, and she was still Bejeweled in purple, black, and silver this weekend after the show.

She's in the bodysuit she's worn for the Midnights portion of the shows, revealed after singing Midnight Rain, a contemplative number about realizing you are on totally different tracks from someone you dream about. Very lithromantic.

Interestingly, the end of Taylor's past two tours also involved her (and often her dancers and singers) wearing the colors of the ace flag:

And, of course, I will never let go of when Taylor opened her tour with the colors of the ace pride flag for a song about being bored of romance, not fitting in, being too busy dancing to fall for someone, and playing her ace:

Eras Tour has features some other ace and aromantic-asexual pride flag looks:

Mind you, she's wearing black boots in all the sparkly outfits.

It's fascinating that Taylor crafted the line, "I don't dress for women. I don't dress for men." in the broader context that she complained in the 1989 TV liner notes that she is angry people talked about her love life with men and speculated about whether or not she was with women. Where does that leave you 🤷‍♀️

But, ultimately, all that matters is that she has found love. True love finally with Kansas City Ken. He may look like your friend's d bag brother who flirts with nerdy girls occasionally just to toy with them for his own amusement, but he's really the tender prince who flew to see her and stood where cameras could see him. He hasn't gotten kicked off the team for failing multiple drug tests since college!! Please. You need to calm down and see baby it's a love story. Just say yes, goddammit.

Peace and love. Praying for Taylor as she tours.

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You know what those pesky aromantics say...

Ice cream is better than love.

(+white ring on middle finger but wrong hand.)

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I love this mermaidcore gown! It reminds me of the teardrops on My Guitar dress, which I adore.

In the midst of all this Tumblr drama, I want to re-state that aromanticism is real and aromantics deserve to be respected and accepted.

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Seeing this reposted recently struck me that the look is more ace than I thought

I know the shoes are technically leopard but they kind of give white and black here.

I'm happy for her that she got to have the graduation she's probably always wished on some level she could've had. I think she expressed back in the day that she sort of wished she could go to college but she couldn't lose momentum on her career. Sad. She loves learning.

This warms my heart. Love the decor and family moment.

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This line really hit me last night:

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Aro out on the town

(all credit to Taylor Swift Style! I felt bad reblogging her and putting my images in her notes)

It kind of looks like she's wearing an ace ring (black ring right middle finger) but hard to tell.

We stand with Sophie!!! Joe was always my least favorite JoBro, ok. Like, we needed three so you and your friend didn't have to marry the same one, but....

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One could argue that the aroace flag aesthetic made an appearance this weekend. Coming up after a year, gasping for air.

The toxic masculinity era continues. So I haven't streamed anything for a year. I worry this will continue to go downhill.

Whoever you are, I hope you are able to stay true to yourself, even if you live in the closet. I know not everyone has the luxury of being able to live in line with their truth, and it kills me how many ace, aro, and gay people still have to live in the closet even in the supposedly LGBTQIA+ supporting entertainment industry.

Acelor out.

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A rare aro flag + ace flag combo made an appearance

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Aro-ace flag aesthetic

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Aroace pride flags x Lavender Haze

So I talked about how the gorgeous hunk in the Lavender Haze video, Laith Ashley, is actually out as ace, but I've been analyzing the video for other things to share:

First are hints of the aroace pride flag:

Since we've seen the aroace flag throughout the Midnights album rollout as well as in the Anti-Hero video, it was interesting to see it back again. We had a lot of ace flag coloring too. Like. A lot.

It's worth noting that while koi are also in Taylor's Tennessee home (which sounds amazing), there is also a microlabel on the ace and aro spectrums called akoisexual and axoiromantic. I've talked a lot about the term lithromantic on here, especially in relation to Red TV, and akoiromantic is another name for lithromantic.

Last thought is...This video gives strong Alice in Wonderland vibes what with her nod to the caterpillar blowing smoke rings. As my sister noted to me...what sticks with her is that the caterpillar says "WHO are YOU?" with great disdain and this video feels like someone trying to escape who they are to adapt to live in a world they don't quite fit in. Interestingly enough there is another microlabel, alicosexual, meaning you don't know where you fit in on the ace spectrum.

I also think there's some things that remind me of the "ace spike" microlabel, but that's for another post!

Thanks for reading and liking! This takes a lot of time so I appreciate it.

Peace and love 💕

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Aro-ace schoolgirl aesthetic

Did I once look into going to Catholic school in part so I could wear tartan skirts? Maybe. It looks like Dr. Swift has the same love of plaid, especially when it's reminiscent of the aromantic-asexual flag:

Above are from Directors on Directors and street style earlier this year (I think? I'm confused about time now.)

The silhouette reminds me of SN/Res Taylor. The navy sweater and preppy feel reminds me of the New England preppy aesthetic of Red era. Loved it. Had a similar thing going on and may have interned at a maritime museum in part to justify all my stripes and anchors clothing.

Lots of love to everyone. Take care of yourselves out there.

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Well, if that don't beat all...

The stud muffin man in Lavender Haze, model Laith Ashley, actually is openly asexual and on the aromantic spectrum as well. Here's a video of him speaking about it:

He talks about having to put on a more sexual/steamy front for his career than he really feels personally.

Thank you, Laith, for being outspoken about our stigmatized identity! It's so exciting to have someone out there talking about it.

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"You take my ring off my middle finger and put it on the one people put wedding rings on. And that's the closest I've come to my heart exploding." - TTPD track

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In honor of National Unicorn Day, I'd like to celebrate all the aces who are considered mythical, nonexistent creatures but in reality are beautiful, mystical humans 💖🦄

Lots of love,

Acelor