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vulture-cuisine · 2 months

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i had a dream last night that hugh dancy was in inside out 2 and that all of the characters were also hugh dancy. also it was not a cartoon it was live action and had nothing to do with inside out 2 it was just called that and everyone was hugh dancy. this was because the main character (played by hugh dancy) kept hallucinating his own face on other people (also played by hugh dancy) and had done it his whole life. then someone floated into the sky and died stranger things style. they were also hugh dancy.

#hugh dancy #hannibal nbc #hannibal #will graham #i finished hannibal last night and really like will graham can you tell #weird dream huh #the other bits of the dream were also strange #i walked through my school and people from my past kept appearing and deadnaming me #and i ate food and it vividly tasted like actual food #and then the creator of hannibal showed up and he was a woman for some reason #congrats on your transition bryan fuller #nbc hannibal

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thestarsofpines · 6 months

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just gonna,, post this here...

the first chapter-kinda/prologue?? I was inspired by multiple prompts, two of which are HERE and HERE .

#dpxdc #dp x dc #dp x dc crossover #dp x dc fanfic #demon twins au #trans danny #honestly i'm so scared to post this but i am also really excited #because this is what i've been working on for weeks #aka the document that has grown to over 170 pages with the outline and some chapters ready to go #i'm just gonna post this and go offline for the night because i am legit anxious #sage speaks #oh also danny's deadname will appear like-one or two other times so if that's upsetting to you please be careful #I thought you were gone (and you still found me)

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beebfreeb · 3 days

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do you got a paypal? :)

I do, but no way to get money out of it rn

#I need like 100 dollar for a minimum initial deposit to a bankaccount which is what my problem with actually saving up money is #also thank you so much to person whonsent me 10 dollars did not expect that right away ♡♡♡#ignore my deadname i fofgot it was there but also I dont really care its kind of funny #WAIT 20 DOLLAR JUST CAME IN I OWE YOU MY LIFE

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applescabs · 3 months

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you know the stress is real when i boot up one of my fave shorts / ovas

#lost my 25 day wordle streak and had to come out as nonbinary to my mom and her bf.#he was... claiming to be accepting but not really because pride flags shouldnt exist because we're all just one race. the human race.#and my mom cant wrap her head around there being more than male and female. she cant even wrap her head around bisexuality.#so that was fun.#appleyaps #and this all because my school mails me stuff with teddie on it instead of luna #also he overheard my friends calling me teddie but this was the final trigger for it #also idc if ppl know my deadname since its not rlly a deadname anyways. i suspect ill have to live with it forever.#so i might as well get used to it.

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caffeinatedopossum · 9 months

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Me: I have standards! I'm not the type of person who just falls in love with anyone whose nice to me

Also me whenever someone uses my name: 😳

#LISTEN LISTEN TO ME its not that i have no standards im just trans ok!!#im trans do you understand!! tell me yoy understand #my name... its... MY name :>#theres something so heartwarming about someone addressing me specifically by name and idk why #its like... damn you... know my nam- OH FUCK I DO HAVE NO STANDARDS #this isnt enough for me to fall in love with you though #but i will platonically blush #just. im a really sucker for being acknowledged and directly addressed and also not being deadnamed or slandered #yeah. really into that #you could say im a little bit freaky #also idk what it is but most people dont use my name?? like no one ever says my name #its very rare #im always called a nickname or just 'hey you' or *intense eye contact*#so it throws me off a little in a good way #unless its excessive and then i feel like im being judged in a court case 0_0 #anyways im vwry normal!! have a vwry normal day if yoh read this far

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somethingsomethingcomic · 9 months

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deadnamed at my father's funeral

#parental death tw #family death tw #not sure how else to tag this one #yeah december was a very rough month for me :)))#i actually drew this on the way to my hometown a couple days after i got the news that my dad had passed away #fully anticipating that one of the grueling parts of the process would be the incessant deadnaming and misgendering #bc my dad himself never once used my right name after i came out to him. not once #i asked and we even got in fights about it! bc he just REFUSED to do it #didnt want to think of me as a man at all. i was his only daughter and his baby girl and he didnt wanna accept that id changed #in that way #but i do know bc his wife told me that despite not really accepting the truth about my identity #he was very glad that i seemed happy about it #so i think thats whatll be important to me about it #he didnt get it and didnt really accept it for himself but he was happy that i was happy #anyway it was indeed annoying at the service but more people were chill about it than i expected #and i also had to deal with fewer people than i thought i would #was talking to one of his old band friends who i vaguely remembered and joked that 'i was a girl last time u saw me'#and he said 'youre still a girl' and i just went 'no i am not. the sideburns beg to differ.'#then at the end of the service when people were leaving he came and asked for my New name and when i told him #he was like 'ok ill try to remember that'#i like to think he realized instantly the faux pas he made and was like Yikes. This Is Her/His Dads Funeral. Maybe I Should Be Cool.#anyway. the whole affair was exhausting but i got some nice things out of it too #like hanging out w my brothers #then we got home and me and my wife both had covid bc life wasnt done kicking me in the dick i guess!#im good now i think tho. its fine its fine its fine

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saintbanglesthegazelle · 1 year

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I promise you if you give people the benefit of the doubt, if you assume ignorance or misunderstanding instead of malice, if you make the effort to give and recieve clarity, if you listen to people's thoughts and explanations, you will see the world as so much less cruel than you had before. So much more loving. It's not easy, but it's so so important to do, for yourself and others

#bangles' post #this is about my dad #who last week had invalidated my chosen name as a not-real name and sought my permission to use my deadname when talking to the older gen #and today sat down with me to talk about my chosen name and what it means to me. he really sought to understand why i chose it #and he then not only apologised for misunderstanding the value of my name and for invalidating it #but also explicitly reassured me that im allowed to tell him if hes wrong #which is huge for him. hes never invited correction on something lile this before - something that he feels is a matter of principle #ie chosing a name with importance and meaning and serious intent #hes not perfect. he still holds dated beliefs that he hasnt truly examined or even allowed himself to question.#hes never been particularly emotional available or even very present in my daily life #but he is trying. and he does want to be better #and if both of us had given eachother the benefit of the doubt we could have had a much better conversation about my name #but still. talking about now its clear that he does genuiningly want whats best for me. he just needs to know that #im taling myself seriously enough that the ways he tries to help will actually be helpful #im rambling. anyway #give people the benefit of the doubt. i promise its worth it

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foxcassius · 1 month

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actually, speaking of names and how we call people, this is a linguistics question i always ask my coworkers and friends and would probably do my thesis on if i ever went to grad school for broader linguistics,

feel free to extrapolate in the tags or tell me if you live with other people/have kids. i almost never call my boyfriend by his name to his face, and in fact we generally use no address at all. and if he walked up and started a sentence by using my name to get my attention, it would be jarring for some reason. in past relationships, as well, i have not used my partner's name when addressing them in private, only petnames.

#jake and i just arent really petname people! idk #this might also be linked to transness or other gender fuckery? jake calls me by the name he met me under #which is sort of my deadname ? my birth name i guess which i had reverted to using while living in asia which is where we met #i havent asked him to use cas - he is aware other people use it and has asked me if i want him to use it and i said nah #but that might be why i would find him calling me that a bit startling. similarly jake is sort of egg-like so that might influence his #feelings on me using his name as well ! who knows ! i love this questions its very interesting #and usually when i ask people irl they have to stop and think bc they never notice #t

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vorobej · 2 months

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thinking with so much fondness about the 13 y/o counselor in training and 15 y/o assistant counselor trans kids i worked with at summer camp and how i think i was probably one of the first adults either of them ever came out to

#.txt #the older of the two came out to me as bi the summer they were 14 by drawing the flag with sidewalk chalk and then the next summer when the #were hired they told me they were nb and then the younger one chose to ask me to tell the rest of the staff....then one of his last days he #was the last kid picked up and since he was a cit i could take him to go clear out our area and he saw his car pick up and had me silence #the walkie talkie so he wouldnt have to hear his deadname thats so much trust to put in me #he also tried to get me to tell him how i identified by offering to make me a friendship bracelet and being really persistent in asking what #colors to make it 🥺🥺🥺#his little sister also wished me a happy pride month 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

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beesorcery · 2 months

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google how do i tell my dad that the reason i keep bringing up elon musk's transphobia isn't that i've got gen z political tunnel vision that makes me blind to his "innovation" in electric cars but because i am desperately crying out for you as the father of a trans child to feel just as outraged and angry as i am that that man has so much power

#edit: warning the tags get pretty personal whoops. however tumblr is like a diary to me so. but if discussions of father issues arent for u #it's not anything he's directly said but like. when we talk about it i can tell he's clinging to this like #image of musk as this inventor working for the good of humanity #because he's admired him for a long time and like i get it it's hard to let go of your heroes when it turns out they're trash #but. he's always been trash. is the thing. and i've been saying this.#and it would be nice to feel some solidarity! or support! or empathy idk!#and not like. lectures why tesla is actually progressive or why spacex is the best thing to happen to science since fucking penicillin #and sometimes ppl who push the world towards progress rub people the wrong way #god like. we were in the car the other day talking about it and i mentioned tesla moving to texas bc of the law protecting trans kids #and he mumbled something like well sure yeah he said that but Really... really it's about the taxes......#okay!! who give a shit! that's not the point! the point is that he's got fucking legions of alt right fanboys who hang off his every word #so when he says something that is good for trans people is actually dangerous and bad and hurts kids #and when he openly publicly deadnames and misgenders and LIES about his TRANS DAUGHTER. it's fucking dangerous! and it makes trans people #(IE ME. YOUR CHILD.)#feel unsafe!#it should get you angry! it should make you rethink how you saw him previously! it should make you want to stop supporting him!#idk. i mean my dad has never been like. against me being trans. and he's worked really hard on the pronouns and not deadnaming me #but it's stuff like this where it feels like he doesn't grasp how he's de-prioritizing my perspective as a trans person and.#his Child.#and how his first reaction to me starting t was 'no.. why would you do that :('#it just feels bad. i love him so much but it's shit like this that makes me feel like i don't matter to him or like i'm disappointing him #and then he gets confused when i tell him that i feel that way #wow! sorry for this. i should get serious about finding a therapist i dont think i knew i felt all this until i typed it out #im gonna add a tag at the beginning of this. as a warning. lolololol. lol. anyway #got 2 pick up my t tomorrow and also email my dr for more wellbutrin haha slay! hit the slay button. dispenses ssris.#god i'm so tired sorry i'm delirious actually. also i saw my brother this weekend which was so nice and he's such a weirdo which also #makes me weirder by proxy

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dismalzelenka · 10 months

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#today i had a pianist during a rehearsal go “wow your voice you just have so much natural talent i mean some people really work for years—”#and i kinda snapped #and i was polite but also i unloaded the entire story of the last thirteen years in the cosmic joke that is my life #this lady got thirteen years of trauma in a twenty minute speed run #she Learned Things today about existential despair and the societal clusterfuck that is the Trans Experience #and how that intersects in the classical singing world in an incredibly challenging and fucked up way #and how i went from scooting under the door into a voice program with seven lessons under me #and then three years later proceeded to fling myself into a testosterone fueled vocal puberty in the midst of a professional singing degree #and lost the respect and support of most of the vocal and choir faculty because everyone thought i was committing professional suicide #if it werent for my own voice teacher (who at some point became the mother figure I'd never had) keeping me afloat i would not be here #i have c-ptsd from the shit i went through in the choir department #i had to drop out of school for a semester because my body just folded under the stress #i started getting migraines severe enough i was hospitalized twice with stroke-like symptoms #two weeks ago i had a former teacher from the early days deadname me in front of our colleagues #she tried to play it off as no big deal and it just reminded me no matter how successful i become in this field #no matter how much work i put in to overcome my past #its always going to come back and find me through people who refuse to learn respect #and somehow! im still here! im making a living in the field i trained for #how many people in my generation in the arts degree sector can say that?? by some metrics i am thriving but jesus goddamn #i clawed and fought and bit and dragged myself to where i am right now and had to find my voice TWICE and the worst part is #she meant well #the pianist i mean #and i was polite when i told my story but it was so important to me that she understood #no amount of talent would have gotten me here without sleepless nights and long hours and blood and sweat and tears and you know what #maybe i am a better person for it but dont compliment me by implying i have some inherent gift from a god i dont even believe in #dont tell me your god put me in this place to teach other people compassion #i didnt brush the door of death as many times as i did for the sake of someone else's enlightenment #its been a long 13 years. hell its been a long 2023. in the last eleven months ive had a fundamental upheaval #of everything i thought i knew and understood about myself #so yea im standing at the gate to hell looking the devil in the eye. try me bitch. ive endured worse.

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cat-tranzer · 2 months

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ugh i kinda wanna get back on tumblr and rot my brain out some more

#i’d probably mostly just still bitch about my family tho #and then dish n overthink on the polycule expansion pack that just dropped #kink club tales abound #didn’t see that one coming #still unemployed #broker than ever #paranoia is consistently present but manageable #social anxiety is getting lesser every day tho!! making friends is awesome and cool and epic #okay time to bitch about the fam #the level of misogyny/transmisogyny is ASTRONOMICAL since my moms bf moved in #like he’ll deadname/mispronoun ems and he didn’t even meet her until #until recently and she’s been transitioned for over two years like buddy you do not get the benefit of the doubt with a little ‘slip up’#here. you are being a malicious piece of shit on purpose!!!!! at least don’t be a pussy about it!!!!!!!#also big kudos to my mom on sharing ems dead name. really fucking classy.#my cats and my girls tie my sanity together with a spider’s spinner #thin and invisible they weave the net around me to keep me safe until i can pluck up the courage to get us the fuck out of here #should be able to pass a drug test soon so that opens up my application options a lot. i feel confident that i’d be able to hold myself #together long enough to get enough cash to put a security deposit down somewhere in the city #extra friends means the chance for roommates too!!!!!<333 #only if i can be chillin in the nude in front of them tho. chances now are looking dece lol #ugh i’ve been manic dramatic for long enough tonight #hopefully it’s only the void i’m screaming at. i’m so damn lucky to have all that i have rn. especially the friends.#stick together with your local faggots and trannies always #ALWAYS<33 #signed dogweed

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angelgendered · 6 months

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It is so telling that my mum refuses tos top watching HP whenever it’s on despite me expressing disgust at her support of JKR and despite me telling her that every viewer number puts money in her pocket for real terms attacks on trans and nonbinary youth and adults, she continues to force it onto every tv in the house, still buys HP merch, still goes to HP attractions and related things…

I feel like it’s not too much to ask her to not support JKR because it makes me hella uncomfortable, is it? Or am I being too self centred in wanting a life free of JKR because she literally wants people like me dead or at least detransitioned or not transitioning at all?

#the whole ‘I don’t understand but I support you’ *continues to exclusively misgender me and deadname me daily with no effort to the contrary #thing is wearing really thin esp now I’m looking into hrt and counselling properly #and top surgery seriously also #though I’ll probs have to lose weight for that and the idea of that makes me feel ill cause I’m a lapsed ednos sufferer #the more time goes on the more I’m convinced she hates the idea of me transitioning #she’s even dug at my chosen name saying it’s a ‘girls name so whybb cm other changing it from your real name’#in her words #I’m just tired yall

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child-ofdust · 4 months

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i keep forgetting i have an ortho appointment on wednesday this is s9 scary ahhhh

#doppio save me #save me doppi9 #i dont actually mind because the people there are really nice and never misgender or deadname me even when my mom does infront of them #(and also my mom isnt going with me this time lol)#but #its still so scary everytime...its fine once they bring me back but waiting rooms are the BANE of my existence

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dudeshusband · 4 months

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no judgement whatsoever, i guess im just curious, but what's the logic behind giving your s/i a deadname and having it up on the carrd??

because it's a pre-movie part of mikedude canon

#anon #typewriter dings #also it's me. i do whatever i want #it's not really *giving my s/i a deadname*#all my s/i's have deadnames but they don't come up as a part of canon because my f/os met them after their social transition

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moe-broey · 4 months

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I <3 blowing up my save files mid-playthrough or after I've beaten the game and feel aimless or I'm three hours in and incredibly indecisive and perfectionistic and have to start over Better this time or I just get really into One Idea and blow up the save for the sole purpose of achieving the One Idea and once I have it's like. Well. What was the point of that actually. And then I blow it up again

#IDK IDK I FEEL LIKE I'M CURSED.........#i swear to god it all started when i realized i'm transgender. experience that changed me forever #OBVIOUSLY. IN POSITIVE WAYS.#but also i just feel like i'm constantly starting over. i used to have master files.#it was actually such an emotionally fucked up experience i used to write my deadname on the back of my 3ds carts #i used to be ambivalent to my deadname until i felt like i had to prove it to myself. and in doingvthat #i did come to appreciate it and it did feel associated w me. or at least what i was meant to embody.#i was always trying to Prove It. to myself. that if i can Prove It i can make this work and get all i've ever wanted #like love. ect ect #in ways i won't elaborate on my name now does honor my deadname. without really being reflective of it at all #which is exactly what i needed esp at that time in my life. it was SUCH a sudden upheaval.#like all of this i've been burying and stomping out for so many years like. once i finally just allowed myself to question.#and be at peace w it. it just all spilled out full force and like. i think i still experience side effects from it LMFAOOOO #like my save files. being unable to revisit certain games. hell even fe becoming one of my main interests #was a direct side effect of me needing a game where i could be myself and not have any prev memories attached #also just. the fucking type of person i am. guy who loves to leave and start over all the fucking time #but also also like. i think it's just the perfectionism sometimes. like eo2 i'm trying to get my party/lore Just Right #so i can fully immerse myself in it and NOT feel bad. for making any amount of changes to my party 😭#I'M SUCH A SENTIMENTAL BITCH. WHO CAN'T HOLD ONTO ANYTHING. WHO REFUSES TO LET GO. WHAT‼️‼️‼️#and w miitopia it's just. i need to update the artwork here it's insane. i gotta fix this. no one is allowed to see this.#anyways. starting over in miitopia and fixing it. i don't even know what my party is gonna be tbh #i usually plan this shit out but again. deep deep DEEPLY rooted Need to just blow everything up forever.

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