i've always had a strange relationship with names. i don't hate the name my parents gave me, but i hate, sometimes, that no-one can say it right, that it means something so far away from me that it's almost somebody else's name.
when i was seven years old, i wanted to be named skye. i thought it was pretty, but it was picked purely for aesthetics and once again, meant nothing to me.
when i was twelve years old, i wanted to be named mari. by then, i had online accounts, and i'd always been told never to put my real name anywhere, so i invented a full name that felt more me. first, middle, last. but something about mari was grating, for me, and no matter what i tried, i couldn't be her.
my name is august, now, because when i needed a new name, the month was august. my name is arjun because once, i was looking at baby names, and at some point got sidetracked from naming my characters and ended up naming myself. and, somehow, these silly names feel more like home. like me.
i guess there's something about names, and all the ridiculous paths you might take to find a home that means something, in the spaces between the letters that make up me.
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Lol glad my ‘dear friend’ decided to join in on the fun! I honestly don’t really know what to say other than welcome to the chaos!
(Also maybe you’d like to rant or infodump about something? :>)
Hope everyone’s having a good day/night/whatever!! \o/
-Curious Anon
Ps. Spoke w/ her and she thinks she likes the name ‘Misty Anon’ so I shall refer to her as such!
P.p.s. Finally decided to start using COLOUR
Ahhhh, colours are appreciated, help with reading & look neat !
I'm glad she jumped in & 'Misty Anon' sounds lovely ! It shall provide.
Another infodump? COWABUNGA! ✨️
I shall begin:
Yesterday I learned about
✨️💜 GLIMMERS 💜✨️
A glimmer is "a satisfying sensory delight that fills someone with fervent ecstasy." (Bec Secombe, 2022)
It is the opposite of a trigger :a stimulus perceived as threatening & unsafe.
A ✨️glimmer✨️ is a source of endless wonder & fascination.
Important: As an autistic, I can only give examples from the autistic perspective. Yours might differ. /g
The term was coined by Deb Dana, an LCSW working with trauma.
She collaborated with Dr. Porges & helped to translate his Polyvagal Theory for practical uses.
Dr. Porges identified a hierarchy of autonomic nervous system (ANS) responses that developed as a result of our own evolution. (He speaks about humans, yet as a muntant, I will adapt this.)
The autonomic ladder is a representation of neural defensive processes that automatically come online in an attempt to protect us.
I hope the graphic speaks for itself:
Credit: seen im graphic (left bottom), I downloaded the imaged from i-asc.org
Triggers & Glimmers are the actual events that move us up & down this autonomic ladder.
Due to practice & mindfulness, we can learn to bring our attention to what is happening inside our bodies, in the environment, & in our relationships that set autonomic state shifts in motion.
TRIGGERS can move us down the ladder through an interaction or because of disappointments, as well as fear & anxiety. In the worst case they can lead into a shutdown or meltdown, as well as burnout.
When we experience a trigger a negative thought or “story” tends to go along with it & triggers are usually the easiest to identify.
GLIMMERS: create the neuroception of safety & the possibility of relaxing into moments of connection.
When we can connect to ourselves, others, and the environment, we are available and open to experiences, interactions, or resources that calm us and help us feel secure.
They are the most challenging to recognize because the autonomic responses felt during a glimmering moment are nuanced & subtle & therefore easy to miss: the negatives are easier to spot than the positives, aren't they?
So, we want to bring attention to how our body responds and note the physical reactions & behaviors that accompany it.
Glimmers can help calm a nervous system that is in survival mode & bring a return of autonomic regulation & therefore us in a state of overall well-being.
And it needs to be added, that bringing attention to our glimmers is NOT negating the suffering we experience with triggers, such as sensory experiences or trauma triggers.
A strengths-based perspective reminds us that well-being is NOT simply the absence of problems, it is also about the presence of strengths.
Also: Glimmers don't have to be something big & they don't have to make sense to anyone else but you.
Some of my ✨️💜Glimmers💜✨️ are:
Watching the night sky 🌌
Watching Jupiter Jim with my family ❤️
Listening to my favourite song 🎶
Seeing any hint of my SPINs randomly somewhere 🔥
I hope you enjoyed! If you want, reblog with your
✨️💜 Glimmers 💜✨️
Have a cookie as a treat for reading all of that: 🍪
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