#and surgery... fuck it's complicated

[piratecaptainscaptainpirates]

save me writing emotionally devastating fic about ed and stede. writing emotionally devastating fic about ed and stede save me

[jazzy-art-time]

my mother is going in for a big surgery tomorrow and im!!!

trying to be normal about it and not freak but i am anyways because that's who i am baby!!!!!!!!!

Im the worlds biggest worry wart!!!

worlds biggest bubble blowin baby out here!!!!!!!

[impzone]

after researching more into phalloplasty, i’ve been kind of blown away by how different the reality of people who have gotten the procedure is from the way people who haven’t had any kind of bottom surgery talk about it. even trans men who got it and had complications, or didn’t end up perfect, are still majorly happy with their results.

i know a lot of trans men with bottom dysphoria are taught to suppress it, and the dysphoric comments about how phalloplasty is awful and could never satisfy anyone don’t seem like they have an impact, but they do. other trans men see that, and it dissuades them from ever looking into a surgery that could greatly increase their quality of life.

take a minute and try to think about how many of the negative comments you see about bottom surgery are from people who have never had it, and who’s only perception is from other people who didn’t have it saying it’s not worth it. how many times have you considered it, and decided to give up because you’ve heard your fellow trans people constantly talking about how it would ruin you and leave you unhappy?

i know it sucks to not have a cis guy dick, but be mindful of what you say because it still shapes perception, and it can be really harmful especially if you’re coming at it from a purely hearsay and biased position.

technology has progressed so much, and phalloplasty does not leave you with an insensate tube of flesh you can do nothing with, i can tell you that much. it looks good, it feels good, and in the book Hung Jury results have been described as indistinguishable from cis genitalia. but ultimately there is more ways to measure the success of phalloplasty than how much it looks like a cis man’s junk. from what personal accounts i’ve read, it can and often is just as gender affirming and freeing as people talk about top surgery being.

[eternal-brainrot]

hospital just phoned me and the surgery i thought id be having MONTHS from now has been scheduled to next week im fucking bricking ittttt

[dreamlogic]

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[lesbiansanemi]

Was doing so good holding it together today but now that I’m laying down and trying to sleep I’m tearing up and I can feel that I’m about to burst into tears any second now

[scorndotexe]

i'm so angry at everyone and myself

[myriad--starlings]

did you know when you're having rolling crises for years on end and there are so many OTHER reasons to struggle with your body you can like....forget / entirely compartmentalize that you have dysphoria. and also you can so thoroughly tell yourself that you're NOT allowed to feel negatively about weight gain because boy did you need it and also your body went through an induced famine, fair enough it gained some weight, that you can like ... not let yourself have any feelings about your body changing. that maybe you do have. because you have dysphoria. hm.

hm.

well

[skyedancer2006]

I am in miiiseryyyyy~ /ref

[binders-and-beanies]

Pondering bottom surgery in the tags I mf guess

[fyodior]

man i cannot catch a fucking break recently skdnskdk

[unnonexistence]

an important writing question to ask yourself is "how much time and effort do i want to put into figuring out what this character's legal documents would look like"

[bloodbonesandmarrow]

I got a hysterectomy today 🤩

[inniave]

after surgery i'm buying myself pentiment goddamnit

[crippl-hacker]

After waiting a year I Got told by a GI clinic that I was too complicated of a patient - then by the time I got an appointment with the University Hospital GI who *would* see me I moved states for a trade program.

It’s taken 4 months to get an establishing care visit with a GP, and it’s probably going to take 6+ months to get in to talk to a GI specialist.

I’ll have been waiting over 2 years to see a GI specialist with increasingly worse symptoms.

The healthcare system in the US is broken.

[rolandkaros]

while we're here let me just say seeing how many cis women have gotten access to top surgery before literal trans people is going to be my villain origin story