#and that's s1 sydcarmy

[iglowlilac]

listen,

let's say you forgot something at work. maybe it's your pen. maybe it's a water bottle or, i don't know, your everyday scarf. maybe it's your little notebook. In either case, you forgot something at work, but it's that One Thing that pretty much makes you, you. a signature, in a way. it's as part of you as all of your bones; it's very you, like your dna, but made trivial. you don't even think about it like that, like it's something that holds that much significance to who you are.

but your boss does. 

your hot boss, the one that now gets on your nerves just in the same intensity you used to adore him. professionally speaking, of course. probably. you think (i mean: with your credentials, you could've been working somewhere waaaay better than... than whatever it is your boss has going on right now). he used to be your inspiration… but It doesn't matter anymore. it shouldn't matter anymore.

your boss... he's great at what he does. he is. no doubt about that. but maybe he's also a little bit too much sometimes. maybe he's a little bitch. a piece of shit, sometimes.

and maybe you're overworked and have been disappointed with him for months now. he's a mess, and at this point in your life, you should've been able to know fucking better. so, naturally, you decide to quit. 

your boss kept asking why: why were you quitting. but you tried to talk to him for too long now. and when you quit, you're angry and exhausted and feeling frustrated with life, really, so you leave that workplace in such a hurry that you end up forgetting your signature stuff in there. let's pretend (assume?) it's a little notebook, the one that's very you. you're always carrying it around with such a devotion, it could be your own heart. 

then again: you don't think about it like that. but your boss does. you don't think about retrieving this ordinary yet sacred little notebook (it's... whatever. you can get another one), but your boss finds it and, knowing very well it belongs to you, he caress its pages - the ones you've written out most of your creative ideas, the ones maybe you've drawn out, in sharpie, silly faces, when you were spacing out a little bit. 

your boss holds your little notebook with such a devotion… he can't take his eyes, his hands, off it. he knows he fucked up with you. he doesn't know how to fix it, tho (he knows he can admit to you he was in the wrong, of course. but how could he have you back? would you even be back? and why would you do that, when now, more than ever, it's pretty clear you deserve more than everything he's been offering to you, which is stress, for the most part).

he's sorry. like, really, really sorry. he's actually pretty sad you left, but because he's feeling shitty all the time, he doesn't even have the language to admit it or articulate this sadness just yet. for now, he's nothing more than a coward. he'll keep your notebook to himself. he'll never say a word about it.

[sydneys-adamu]

I just want it known that sydney adamu is a person. a human. with human feelings which now more than ever will be annoyed. angry. frustrated. regretful. and she has every reason to be. she shouldn’t need to be defended with every argument as to why she is allowed this room for her feelings. what she is, is a human, not the obedient little girl so many people seem to think she should be. where as her white male counterparts can scream and yell and nearly tear the place apart, she can’t even be mad about it without being called “annoying” or “ungrateful”. she may scream for the first time. she may yell. she may decide that she’s fucking over it and she may have to be convinced this is still worth her time. carmy may have to fucking convince her that HE is worth her time. she cares about him, and about every other person in that damn restaurant but that doesn’t mean she has to smile about it 24/7. I don’t want to fucking hear your stupid reasons as to why a young black woman isn’t allowed to be overwhelmed into making decisions you might not personally make. literally shut the fuck up.

[falllpoutboy]

my favorite nondescript sydcarmy tweet

[g3othermal3scapism]

ONLY NINE DAYSSSSSSSS

[yannaryartside]

Michael and Sydney: let yourself be

I just had this thought; I hope I can make sense of it. I want to talk about the show"s themes on what allows people to be themselves, pursue their dreams, and defend their identity, particularly amid toxic and abusive elements (family, industry, surroundings).

Long post under the cut, a yappy, unorganized meta. tw discussions of depression and addiction.

If you had to go on personality alone, what character would you say is the opposite of Michael? Michael was an outgoing guy who would command the attention of a room, making sure to read everyone and dial all situations. You may think Carmy is his opposite (we will talk about him later).

But in reality, the character who is shown to struggle with social situations the most throughout the whole show is Sydney.

Sydney has struggled with her leadership skills (commanding a room) and her ability to dial social situations (hiring new staff, dealing with the berzatto antics) for 3 seasons now.

And I think that is pretty interesting. These characters were constructed in a certain way, and there may be an extra theme in the background here: the audacity to be real to the world and to yourself.

Michael spent most of his life pretending to be a version of himself that could carry out his role in the family. He was the glue that kept the family feeling like family, making gatherings enjoyable, minimizing Donna's faults, and bringing everyone together. Is it possible that Michael never had a chance to show his real feelings growing up, and that is likely the reason he learned to use drugs to manage his emotions and hide his depression (because living a lie 24/7 has a toll on the heart).

He had a genuine talent with people (the same one Richie has), but he slaved himself into the role of "glue of the family," preserving the toxic systems around him and, more importantly, never recognizing how that dynamic had hurt him so much. He never gave himself a chance to dream his own dreams, maybe because he was afraid of being nothing without the role he had been fulfilling for so long. In that family restaurant, the one his father left behind, the same way he left him behind, the restaurant he desperately wanted to keep his siblings out of. He was protecting them, and he was also hiding.

(pause to cry, I love Michael so much)

Sydney is a person who is always herself; she has her heart on her sleeve and shows who she is and what she cares about constantly despite being brought down over and over again. Despite how much it hurts her, she doesn't want do do things in a way that is contrary to her nature and values. When presented with the toxicity of the kitchen (that Michael used to run and that Carmy made even worse), she battles fire with little drops of water (patience and firmness) that build up to create the ambiance of trust within the staff today.

Sydney wanted to make a difference because she believed everyone has a chance to do better. And Michael thought it was his duty to keep things the same, despite how awful it all was even to himself.

He believed in Carmy's potential to the point of excusing his belief that he could never do better than what he had done.

This is also illustrated by the show of how much the staff felt threatened by Sydney in s1, because they believed (kinda like Michael) that they never could be better of what they had, that there is no better, not for people like them. Better is for geniuses and people without baggage.

They believed change would prove them inadequate, and Sydney showed them the chance is to support you, not destroy you.

AND YOU KNOW WHAT THE WORST PART OF THIS IS?

Neither of them had any choice. Yes, we are all creatures of fault with a chance to change, but 75% of our being is preprogrammed. We are the people that we have built ourselves to be to survive in the world around us.

Sydney had a chance to let herself be and Michael didn't.

Sydney had an incentive (a loving parent) to recognize her own feelings and identity growing up. Michael didn't. Despite how flawed she may feel, at least she knows the basics of who she is; Michael could never look at himself and his wounds because that would be admitting he didn't want to play his usual part anymore in the facade that was the happy Berzatto family.

Both the Berzatto and the Adamus are working class (besides mafia links that may have put them in a financial crisis). Yet, Mr Adamu can encourage her daughter to follow her dreams in an industry as unreliable as fine dining. Meanwhile, Michael was told: "you are gonna do the same shit as your father because that is what you are supposed to do"

My last point is back to the dinner and the party afterwards.

It is not an accident the most confident we have ever seen Sydney is at a table surrounded by mentors and peers. She values her experiences and dreams and is eager to share, be nurtured, and nurture others. That is the basis of connection. You cannot connect if you are hiding.

Carmy was in the same party, hiding in his fear of his abuser, and previously, he had desperately tried to fit in the frat party to the point of pretending to be someone else. Carmy pretends to be Michael, but Michael never allowed himself to meet his true self.

[beauspot]

The 8 Elements of All Great Rom-Coms

Two Loveable Leads

No matter the stakes, situation, or scenery, the audience has to root for [these] two characters

A Meet Cute

Essential to the basic plot of every romantic comedy is the moment the characters meet

A Unique, Troublesome Situation

Call it a complication, a troublesome situation, or set of intricate stakes, no matter the nomenclature there has to be something that pushes your characters together and pulls them apart

At Least One Great Sidekick

Every great rom-com requires an incredible sidekick

Relationship In Jeopardy

A key scene in every romantic comedy is the moment the core relationship is put to the test, pushed so far to the limits that everything is in jeopardy of falling apart

The Lightbulb Moment

The moment of realization is crucial to any film in the rom-com genre

A GRAND GESTURE OR EPIC LINE

If you write a rom-com and don’t include the grand gesture or incredible romantic line, did you even write a rom-com?

HAPPY ENDING

A happily ever after is a staple of all romantic comedies…

coming soon 🙃

Inspired by “The 9 Elements of All Great Rom-Coms” - ScreenCraft

[yangsharperavery]

sometimes i think that i truly must be nuts, batshit, UNHINGED, bc moments from s1 still send me into a fevered conniption when i rewatch them. almost like the exact reaction i had when i watched "review" for the first time in summer 2022, and heard the way carmy's voice goes lower, softer, more vulnerable on that second "what are you doing??" into completely frantic and desperate in equal measure when he continues to repeat it as sydney is quitting with everything falling apart around them as the kitchen ticket printer goes off incessantly like GOD DRAMA TENSION ANGST BRILLIANT CINEMATIC MASTERPIECE CHEF'S FUCKING KISS!

[plasticspooned]

s1 sydney defending carmy and highlighting his talents when richie was bitching about him behind his back like okay carmy #1 fan girl

[spywhitney]

Claire: Full on throws herself at Carmy unapologetically and from her perspective, has a perfect relationship with him. / Overhears him say one negative thing about the relationship and has made no attempt to come back into his life.

Sydney: Gives her all to the actual Carmy and the restaurant and has continued to do so, and only walked when he disrespected her a bit more than usual. / Came back after he gifted her a place in a fucked restaurant. / Sydney still deals with the same bs and has a panic attack over leaving Carmy and the restaurant/what she'll choose/the way Carmy has treated her etc etc etc because she cares so much.

[https-hunter]

If I had a nickel for every time there was a m/f duo in a show about a workplace where they were really good friends in season 1 but then in season 2 one of them started dating someone they don’t really have chemistry with, thus turning me into a shipper of the platonic duo, I’d have to nickels. Which isn’t a lot, but it’s weird that it’s happened twice

[gahdamnit]

crazy to think how the s1e3:brigade crate conversation laid the structure and solution for sydcarmys relationship.

And then, you know, you kinda left. Like, you... Y-y-you did. Not even "kinda." You just straight-up left - this is what happened in season 2.

But you just didn't really listen, and... - this is happening in season 3

if this is going to work the way that I think we both want it to work, I-I mean, I think we should probably... try to listen to each other.

carmy has a whole lot of shit he needs to work through and improvement is non-linear. But for sydney and carmy's relationship, from the start she provides the solution to all their problems in this one scene. this conversation has been ever present in their relationship, they're still working through it.

[xothemedia]

The Bear 1x8 | “Braciole”

[mileenaxyz]

Wait, wait, wait...I've watched that S1E1 scene a thousand times. How did I miss that???

[conceived-angel]

flaws and all x sydcarmy

[notyourdaisybuchanan]

1x03 // 1x06

[lazyspeedy]

“sydney is too good for carmy” “sydney shouldn’t have to fix him” listen listen, if sydney wants her sad little white boy, she will have him